我的信是这么写的: Dear Dr. XXX, My father has passed away this morning at 5am peacefully. Thank you for taking care of him for the last one year and X months. He has received great care from you and your team at UCSF. His hospice care from Sutter was also great. We were very fortunate to have all the support around us. It was a long journey since his diagnosis in Dec 2019, but it was still short looking back. Thank you and take care, Me 我觉得回个简短的“I am so sorry for your loss. Please take care at this difficult moment" 就足够了,但是到今天为止完全没有任何消息。我有点懵圈了。
我的信是这么写的: Dear Dr. XXX, My father has passed away this morning at 5am peacefully. Thank you for taking care of him for the last one year and X months. He has received great care from you and your team at UCSF. His hospice care from Sutter was also great. We were very fortunate to have all the support around us. It was a long journey since his diagnosis in Dec 2019, but it was still short looking back. Thank you and take care, Me 我觉得回个简短的“I am so sorry for your loss. Please take care at this difficult moment" 就足够了,但是到今天为止完全没有任何消息。我有点懵圈了。
我的信是这么写的: Dear Dr. XXX, My father has passed away this morning at 5am peacefully. Thank you for taking care of him for the last one year and X months. He has received great care from you and your team at UCSF. His hospice care from Sutter was also great. We were very fortunate to have all the support around us. It was a long journey since his diagnosis in Dec 2019, but it was still short looking back. Thank you and take care, Me 我觉得回个简短的“I am so sorry for your loss. Please take care at this difficult moment" 就足够了,但是到今天为止完全没有任何消息。我有点懵圈了。 maroonfan 发表于 2021-10-20 14:54
她们并没有回信,下面这个是我自己想象的,我觉得她们回一个简短的就够了,她们并没有回。10秒钟的事情而已都没有。忙应该不是借口。 “I am so sorry for your loss. Please take care at this difficult moment" maroonfan 发表于 2021-10-20 15:19
她们并没有回信,下面这个是我自己想象的,我觉得她们回一个简短的就够了,她们并没有回。10秒钟的事情而已都没有。忙应该不是借口。 “I am so sorry for your loss. Please take care at this difficult moment" maroonfan 发表于 2021-10-20 15:19
“他病危的时候,这个医生她也一直给我打电话,给她发邮件,她或者她的护士都回得非常迅速,她还经常在下班后给我打电话聊爸爸的治疗” 现在一个不满意,楼主就一顶“冷血” 的帽子戴上去了。 You don't think it is too harsh? The world does not orbit around you.
我的信是这么写的: Dear Dr. XXX, My father has passed away this morning at 5am peacefully. Thank you for taking care of him for the last one year and X months. He has received great care from you and your team at UCSF. His hospice care from Sutter was also great. We were very fortunate to have all the support around us. It was a long journey since his diagnosis in Dec 2019, but it was still short looking back. Thank you and take care, Me 我觉得回个简短的“I am so sorry for your loss. Please take care at this difficult moment" 就足够了,但是到今天为止完全没有任何消息。我有点懵圈了。 maroonfan 发表于 2021-10-20 14:54
我的信是这么写的: Dear Dr. XXX, My father has passed away this morning at 5am peacefully. Thank you for taking care of him for the last one year and X months. He has received great care from you and your team at UCSF. His hospice care from Sutter was also great. We were very fortunate to have all the support around us. It was a long journey since his diagnosis in Dec 2019, but it was still short looking back. Thank you and take care, Me 我觉得回个简短的“I am so sorry for your loss. Please take care at this difficult moment" 就足够了,但是到今天为止完全没有任何消息。我有点懵圈了。 maroonfan 发表于 2021-10-20 15:07
她们并没有回信,下面这个是我自己想象的,我觉得她们回一个简短的就够了,她们并没有回。10秒钟的事情而已都没有。忙应该不是借口。 “I am so sorry for your loss. Please take care at this difficult moment" maroonfan 发表于 2021-10-20 15:19
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想拌嘴冲我来,呵呵,我比较有空
医生本来就应该回复,拖了这么久其实没有做到位,但是考虑到医生可能很忙,既然打电话过来,无论如何也算表示了心意,这事可以结束。楼主很感恩,所以第一时间在这个贴通知大家。想恶言恶语伤人的,可以消停了
不过就事论事,凡事抬不过一个理字。谁有道理,我就帮谁说话
笑死,两个恶人相互取暖
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Dear Dr. XXX, My father has passed away this morning at 5am peacefully. Thank you for taking care of him for the last one year and X months. He has received great care from you and your team at UCSF. His hospice care from Sutter was also great. We were very fortunate to have all the support around us. It was a long journey since his diagnosis in Dec 2019, but it was still short looking back. Thank you and take care, Me
我觉得回个简短的“I am so sorry for your loss. Please take care at this difficult moment" 就足够了,但是到今天为止完全没有任何消息。我有点懵圈了。
你爸去了 第一时间是给医生写感谢信?! ……….
觉得这也是我能想到的最好的回复
节哀顺变!
确实是这样的
你这个落差直接落到冷血……感觉医生护士前面的尽心尽责都白搭了。
我的信是这么写的:
Dear Dr. XXX, My father has passed away this morning at 5am peacefully. Thank you for taking care of him for the last one year and X months. He has received great care from you and your team at UCSF. His hospice care from Sutter was also great. We were very fortunate to have all the support around us. It was a long journey since his diagnosis in Dec 2019, but it was still short looking back. Thank you and take care, Me
我觉得回个简短的“I am so sorry for your loss. Please take care at this difficult moment" 就足够了,但是到今天为止完全没有任何消息。我有点懵圈了。
楼主你先照看好自己的情绪吧。。。。节哀
医生的事情吧。。。也不能说冷血,可能别人认为你发的感谢信就是最后的closure了,医生说实话也没什么好回的,可能也想给你点空间
升米恩斗米仇
老人移民 沒為美國貢獻過 就給你健保 需要感恩
我爸爸对医生来说那可是太熟悉了,她真的经常打电话给我,尤其最后阶段,每次我给她发update, 她都会回信说我做的很好,难道是我的信里面写的让她们觉得不舒服?应该不是吧。
以前是因为是他们的病人,人家认真负责并且热心。
病的时候回复你可以帮助病人,去世后回复你对病人没有任何意义了,有这个时间关注病人更有意义
对,就是这种感觉!以为是一条船上的战友,结果仅仅是利益关系。哎。。。
LZ别想太多了,节哀顺变。现在你需要考虑的事情太多了,医生护士那边,不用多想。
我也交了大量的税了。 但是我父亲临终确实受到了很好的照顾。
虽然一想到没了爸爸,就很难过很难过。
你还计较这些吗?你的父亲刚刚去世了。 人家也有可能过会儿再给你回信呢。
节哀顺变,你的感激他们收到了,这就够了,摸摸
楼主节哀。但你从这一点说出美国人冷血,真不妥当,那是你的亲人,但对于医生护士,那个只是他们的客人,人家没有必要加入私人情感,你也要也理解,这是很正常。 医生护士在你家人在生时做的很不错,已经难得了
你不觉得既然你父亲已经不幸走了,医生应该把自己的精力专注于下一个病人吗?治病救人不是他的职责吗?
她们并没有回信,下面这个是我自己想象的,我觉得她们回一个简短的就够了,她们并没有回。10秒钟的事情而已都没有。忙应该不是借口。
“I am so sorry for your loss. Please take care at this difficult moment"
谢谢。
凡事感恩
樓主你現在不要往負面思考 事實上你也沒有時間思考 因為你母親還在 趕快安頓好家人 該處理的事還很多
祝你順利 做事開車都要專心 不要去想那些無解的事
我刚才看错了,我已经修改了,楼主你就别难过了,在生死面前,计较这些事情了。就像你说的,你父亲活着的时候他们不是挺decent的,这就够了。
“10秒钟的事情而已都没有。忙应该不是借口。” 看到这个恍惚了,以为楼主在抱怨男朋友微信已读不回呢
I see. 也许。但是如果是我看到这封信,我应该是会简短回一个的,也许真的是医院的policy还是怎样。 因为这一两年,我真的和护士还有医生都很熟悉的。
谢谢你,这两天要学会坚强。控制自己不哭。虽然很难。
反正我的意思是,他们就是在工作的时候尽量让客户更加满意,工作结束了想怎么都行,这叫professional吧,没有什么太多的个人情绪。毕竟他们都是来赚钱的,不是来交朋友的不是?咱们工作也是啊
现在一个不满意,楼主就一顶“冷血” 的帽子戴上去了。 You don't think it is too harsh? The world does not orbit around you.
楼主妹妹: A。 节哀顺变。 B。 医生护士都是很忙的,他们能够在你父亲生前给予好的治疗和照顾,已经是很好的work ethic了。 C。 你好年轻,觉得自己已经写信感谢了,理应得到回应。嗯,事实上,医院不是这样运作的,每个医护人员都要跟病人以及家属那样感同身受,所谓empathy. sympathy, 他们也干不下去了。 D。你也不suppsed 从这个事件里得出美国人冷血的结论,说真的,如果他们知道了你这样说,嗯,不知道他们又是如何的反应。
也许他们今天在处理一件或者多件比回你的邮件更重要的事 这很难理解???更何况这两年来人家都尽心尽意 就晚一点回信你就如此其他接受??我的天
这种伤心只有过来人才懂,别人不经历过很难懂。过来人一起来抱团取个暖吧。
你写的挺好的
但是我个人感觉,这种信回不回都行的那种。你期待回一个简单的安慰也是没有问题的。 他们没做也不算是冷血啦
Pat pat.
楼主看开一点。医生花时间救助下一个病人不是更好。
医生工作很忙吧。凡事都有个priority,如果是自己的病人,肯定得尽快回信,因为说不定性命攸关。但你的感谢信没必要那么急回信,这点应该很好理解吧。
lz节哀 如果还没有人告诉你这件事情 我想告诉你 you are not the center of the world…
我父亲昨天凌晨走了,我昨天早上6点发的信,现在超过24小时了,没一点消息。
楼主可能是悲伤过度,情绪敏感了。
这是我昨天发的信,已经过了几十个小时了。
是的,之前的信都是秒回。现在一天一夜没消息,我都不知道要不要打电话给她们再说一遍。
人家认为你那是final closure, 不用回的
谢谢你的回复。
哈哈,你这么说,也被上升到 冷血。不过我觉得也是,没必要上升到别人冷血。 人家医生/护士每个星期看到这种事,甚至每星期几次。多个人收到LZ的信,也不知道谁该回答你。
一条船上的战友?医生和你之间只有职业关系,任何超出这个关系都是unprofessional 的
即便他回了,也许就是格式化的回复。
因为你不知道治疗的这两年中病人和医生还有护士的关系是非常紧密的。真的联系非常频繁。她们都认识我的。我也认识她们每一个人。和一般的去医院看病时不一样的,其实就是一种bonding.
我其实觉得一句简单的安慰就可以了,就像节哀顺变,只要说出来,家属就能得到安慰了。
医护每天看多少病人,这么说的话一辈子要bond多少个人啊
我觉得你是有点钻牛角尖了…正常人发了就发了,估计都想不起来去看有回复没有…你为什么这么在意他们的回复呢?如果是你的至亲好友我还可以理解,她们严格意义上连熟人都算不上啊。
话说你父亲去世这两天不是正忙碌操办后事吗?为什么这么闲计较这些鸡毛蒜皮的小事啊
肿瘤科一天还真看不了多少病人。我爸爸每次去都会聊一个小时。一天下来也就是几个病人而已。
我的医生的机构规定邮件即使不急的必须48小时内回复(周末不算),正常都是24小时内,他们一般是早上接诊第一个病人之前,午休以及晚上完成全天看诊之后回复。我曾经有写过一次email 特别感谢她快速回答我的问题,结果她又回复回来,他们的自动系统监测病人邮件是否得到及时回复,所以不用回的也得回。。。后来我就不单独写感谢了。
医生和护士能给你们这种bonding的感觉,这就是非常尽职尽责了。然后一封邮件没及时回,就被打上了冷血的标签,楼主有点敏感了呀。可能邮件护士转给医生了,然后医生休假去了;也可能他们规定不回复和病情无关的邮件,能回复什么样的邮件,都有规定了。
但是这个“我来不及悲伤,凌晨六点第一时间给她发信”有点多余,先计划好后事,有课发信说一下就可以了,楼主父亲在世的时候,貌似这个医生和团队也尽职尽责了,这给人家的工作,不能要求他们和你有一样的悲伤