I think that it's cruel not letting a son enjoy some living-together time with his parents...
For your problem, simple:
1. It's all about negotiation. What you can let them act on the children, what you cannot. For example, it should be fine if they want to bring cheap books/things for the child than expensive ones, or complaining something is too expensive. Don't take those words as a sword, it's simply how they survived their life. 'Honor the culture'. :P You still do what you like, and handle everything calmly.
2. If your husband's technique works on his parents, why cannot you use it? If you expect them to be flexible, you'd better be a bit felexible yourself first. :)
3. Love is the remedy. You need to understand them and give them the love they want. Take care of them the way they enjoyed.
I think that it's cruel not letting a son enjoy some living-together time with his parents...
That is why I am doing the favor. But for me to enjoy this kind of family time needs efforts from all three parties. It is also cruel to be commanded on how to raise your own kids.
For your problem, simple:
1. It's all about negotiation. What you can let them act on the children, what you cannot. For example, it should be fine if they want to bring cheap books/things for the child than expensive ones, or complaining something is too expensive. Don't take those words as a sword, it's simply how they survived their life. 'Honor the culture'. :P You still do what you like, and handle everything calmly.
I can negotiate and honor others' culture. But such kind of job is really not a favor to appreciate.
2. If your husband's technique works on his parents, why cannot you use it? If you expect them to be flexible, you'd better be a bit felexible yourself first. :)
The ocean + phone played tricks. That is why the old way worked. Now I will lost the ocean. To be commanded to feed honey to a newborn? Sorry, here is where my firm boundary lies. If my lg still nods, I definitely would stand out to say "NO!"
3. Love is the remedy. You need to understand them and give them the love they want. Take care of them the way they enjoyed.
I don't think I will treat them with no respect.
4. Concord is very good on all these issues! In my case, all parties are good-will and warmhearted. As you said, I really have no base to teach my parents-in-law how to behave.
And concord showed her love to her parents-in-law, very amazing! Well, precisely, I'd say she extended her love to her husband to his parents, very smartly!
"It is also cruel to be commanded on how to raise your own kids."
--Is it? I think that it is very natural. Whenever I have some experience, I cannot help myself broadcasting it...
"But such kind of job is really not a favor to appreciate. "
--Ah, to be a Mom, of course we learn all the techniques to deal with any kinds of people, in-laws, teachers, kid's friends/enmities/lovers... Sure you know that kids need love from their grandparents, too.
"here is where my firm boundary lies. If my lg still nods, I definitely would stand out to say "NO!"
--Just do it. Do it as a matter of fact, don't get emotional at all.
"I don't think I will treat them with no respect. "
--I don't see your love to them in your posts... Love is the willing to take care of others, to please them, to help them be happy.
"all parties are good-will and warmhearted"
--Happy to know. Don't get too nervous. Loose yourself a bit. What kids need most is the love, no matter how they are raised.
"It is also cruel to be commanded on how to raise your own kids."
--Is it? I think that it is very natural. Whenever I have some experience, I cannot help myself broadcasting it...
"But such kind of job is really not a favor to appreciate. "
--Ah, to be a Mom, of course we learn all the techniques to deal with any kinds of people, in-laws, teachers, kid's friends/enmities/lovers... Sure you know that kids need love from their grandparents, too.
"here is where my firm boundary lies. If my lg still nods, I definitely would stand out to say "NO!"
--Just do it. Do it as a matter of fact, don't get emotional at all.
"I don't think I will treat them with no respect. "
--I don't see your love to them in your posts... Love is the willing to take care of others, to please them, to help them be happy.
"all parties are good-will and warmhearted"
--Happy to know. Don't get too nervous. Loose yourself a bit. What kids need most is the love, no matter how they are raised.
以下是引用冬日阳光灿烂在11/12/2009 1:40:00 PM的发言：
I understand you are trying to help. But I still feel being judged unfairly.
I am really sorry to say that. But all I am asking is whether I should ship Chinese books by myself or ask a favor from my parents-in-law instead.
I really don't need advices on "how to be a good daughter-in-law" or "how to love your parents-in-law"
我觉得让女人和男人一样工作，跟女人都不工作只男人工作比，是进步。起码女人可以走出家门了。当然女人不得不工作，和女人有权利选择是否工作，还是有差距的。
农民工不是没有三，不少农民工是有三的，因为自己的另一半在家里，或者在不同的地方打工，于是就和在同一个地方打工的异性合着住，合着吃，这样可以多省下钱，还有个人照应。然后他们各自给家里寄钱，过年的时候各回各家，其实也挺心酸的。你说他们这样是否算背叛，应该算了。那家里的人是否在乎这种背叛，是希望他们留在家里一心一意，还是希望他们继续出去打工挣钱？中国的社会结构是有问题，可是改变起来很难的，咱们只能尽自己的绵薄之力了。
穷人也有包二奶的
那是因为二奶如果自己做那种最便宜的妓女，一次也只能收十几块钱，而切还没保障一直有的做，不如找个穷男人至少有地方住有饭吃...
concord自称沾了玉米面的肉糜
不光表皮有玉米面了，里面都渗透了好多，象我们二食堂的狮子头，里面都是“馒头”
穷人也有包二奶的
那是因为二奶如果自己做那种最便宜的妓女，一次也只能收十几块钱，而切还没保障一直有的做，不如找个穷男人至少有地方住有饭吃...
当心luoluo看见说你吐口水
I think that it's cruel not letting a son enjoy some living-together time with his parents...
For your problem, simple:
1. It's all about negotiation. What you can let them act on the children, what you cannot. For example, it should be fine if they want to bring cheap books/things for the child than expensive ones, or complaining something is too expensive. Don't take those words as a sword, it's simply how they survived their life. 'Honor the culture'. :P You still do what you like, and handle everything calmly.
2. If your husband's technique works on his parents, why cannot you use it? If you expect them to be flexible, you'd better be a bit felexible yourself first. :)
3. Love is the remedy. You need to understand them and give them the love they want. Take care of them the way they enjoyed.
4. Concord is very good on all these issues!
我觉得这一点最难，不过最有用
当心luoluo看见说你吐口水
哪有这样垂头丧气吐口水的
对了concord要是没时间回我就去回信把问题问了，实在是 bother死我了
这么bother你，那你就去回信问吧。
另外，记得有时差，所以晚上之前估计不会有人给你回信的，在晚上之前别老check email bother自己。
不光表皮有玉米面了，里面都渗透了好多，象我们二食堂的狮子头，里面都是“馒头”
你们二食堂的狮子头太糊弄人了。
我不是什么时候都肉糜，但是也会经常蹦出肉糜的话来，自我感觉自己离肉糜越来越远，虽然和xyin肉糜还是很有共同语言。
哪有这样垂头丧气吐口水的
haha she thinks so.... xiao red carefully analyzed physical features to convince her this is "air" not "saliva"
haha she thinks so.... xiao red carefully analyzed physical features to convince her this is "air" not "saliva"
我也觉得是叹气，怎么会是口水呢？完全不像的。
haha she thinks so.... xiao red carefully analyzed physical features to convince her this is "air" not "saliva"
小red真的这么干啦？哈哈笑死我啦！
haha she thinks so.... xiao red carefully analyzed physical features to convince her this is "air" not "saliva"
娃哈哈哈~我很有科学精神滴~
娃哈哈哈~我很有科学精神滴~
你那句太经典了，恨不得找出来再读一次
你那句太经典了，恨不得找出来再读一次
话说当时大家都替xyin冤死了
你那句太经典了，恨不得找出来再读一次
分析的那句？那我要发扬光大~
分析的那句？那我要发扬光大~
能找出来么？
I think that it's cruel not letting a son enjoy some living-together time with his parents...
That is why I am doing the favor. But for me to enjoy this kind of family time needs efforts from all three parties. It is also cruel to be commanded on how to raise your own kids.
For your problem, simple:
1. It's all about negotiation. What you can let them act on the children, what you cannot. For example, it should be fine if they want to bring cheap books/things for the child than expensive ones, or complaining something is too expensive. Don't take those words as a sword, it's simply how they survived their life. 'Honor the culture'. :P You still do what you like, and handle everything calmly.
I can negotiate and honor others' culture. But such kind of job is really not a favor to appreciate.
2. If your husband's technique works on his parents, why cannot you use it? If you expect them to be flexible, you'd better be a bit felexible yourself first. :)
The ocean + phone played tricks. That is why the old way worked. Now I will lost the ocean. To be commanded to feed honey to a newborn? Sorry, here is where my firm boundary lies. If my lg still nods, I definitely would stand out to say "NO!"
3. Love is the remedy. You need to understand them and give them the love they want. Take care of them the way they enjoyed.
I don't think I will treat them with no respect.
4. Concord is very good on all these issues!
In my case, all parties are good-will and warmhearted. As you said, I really have no base to teach my parents-in-law how to behave.
老公单位的一中国女同事快生娃了，另一男同事的家属要给她办“baby shower” 。邀请了一群男同事（因为单位的女同事已经给她办过了）还有其他我和老公都不认识不知道哪来的人。
当事人自己列了一个list，让大家认买。其中很多几刀十几刀的小衣服什么的，还有几个大件（我没见过实物，不知道具体多大）。
我想着买大件呢，我们还要扛到主办人家，当事人再自己扛回家，大家麻烦。买小件可能要多买几件凑多点钱，老公又说一堆东西也不好弄。那我们去买50刀的GC给他们行不？这个不在list上，不知道好不好。另外人家会不会觉得GC都是打折买来的呢？
还有，我看了他们的邀请名单，除了老公还有另一个他们的男同事，我都不认识，有点不太想去。老公又说我不去不好。我是非得要去吗？我说在家陪我妈不去好不好？
问个问题哈
老公单位的一中国女同事快生娃了，另一男同事的家属要给她办“baby shower” 。邀请了一群男同事（因为单位的女同事已经给她办过了）还有其他我和老公都不认识不知道哪来的人。
当事人自己列了一个list，让大家认买。其中很多几刀十几刀的小衣服什么的，还有几个大件（我没见过实物，不知道具体多大）。
我想着买大件呢，我们还要扛到主办人家，当事人再自己扛回家，大家麻烦。买小件可能要多买几件凑多点钱，老公又说一堆东西也不好弄。那我们去买50刀的GC给他们行不？这个不在list上，不知道好不好。另外人家会不会觉得GC都是打折买来的呢？
还有，我看了他们的邀请名单，除了老公还有另一个他们的男同事，我都不认识，有点不太想去。老公又说我不去不好。我是非得要去吗？我说在家陪我妈不去好不好？
打折咋了。。。。。。理解不愿意跟一堆生人"party"的感觉 :P 如果是我可能给50刀gc 稍微露面然后走了。更可能让lg自己去，我在家装病
问个问题哈
老公单位的一中国女同事快生娃了，另一男同事的家属要给她办“baby shower” 。邀请了一群男同事（因为单位的女同事已经给她办过了）还有其他我和老公都不认识不知道哪来的人。
当事人自己列了一个list，让大家认买。其中很多几刀十几刀的小衣服什么的，还有几个大件（我没见过实物，不知道具体多大）。
我想着买大件呢，我们还要扛到主办人家，当事人再自己扛回家，大家麻烦。买小件可能要多买几件凑多点钱，老公又说一堆东西也不好弄。那我们去买50刀的GC给他们行不？这个不在list上，不知道好不好。另外人家会不会觉得GC都是打折买来的呢？
还有，我看了他们的邀请名单，除了老公还有另一个他们的男同事，我都不认识，有点不太想去。老公又说我不去不好。我是非得要去吗？我说在家陪我妈不去好不好？
送个giftcard好了，大家都喜欢的。
美国人没有男的掺乎baby shower的。。。这组织者是中国人还是美国人。。。
我觉得这一点最难，不过最有用
Exactly!
And concord showed her love to her parents-in-law, very amazing! Well, precisely, I'd say she extended her love to her husband to his parents, very smartly!
[此贴子已经被作者于2009/11/12 13:49:01编辑过]
送个giftcard好了，大家都喜欢的。
美国人没有男的掺乎baby shower的。。。这组织者是中国人还是美国人。。。
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问个问题哈
老公单位的一中国女同事快生娃了，另一男同事的家属要给她办“baby shower” 。邀请了一群男同事（因为单位的女同事已经给她办过了）还有其他我和老公都不认识不知道哪来的人。
当事人自己列了一个list，让大家认买。其中很多几刀十几刀的小衣服什么的，还有几个大件（我没见过实物，不知道具体多大）。
我想着买大件呢，我们还要扛到主办人家，当事人再自己扛回家，大家麻烦。买小件可能要多买几件凑多点钱，老公又说一堆东西也不好弄。那我们去买50刀的GC给他们行不？这个不在list上，不知道好不好。另外人家会不会觉得GC都是打折买来的呢？
还有，我看了他们的邀请名单，除了老公还有另一个他们的男同事，我都不认识，有点不太想去。老公又说我不去不好。我是非得要去吗？我说在家陪我妈不去好不好？
别人不会在意你的gc是打折买来的，还是原价买的，只要对方能用就行了。
你不一定要去，因为不是你的同事，你跟人家估计也没那么亲近。如果你老公特别希望你陪他是一回事，如果你老公只是为了怕别人不开心而要你去，就是另一个概念了。
送个giftcard好了，大家都喜欢的。
美国人没有男的掺乎baby shower的。。。这组织者是中国人还是美国人。。。
中国人，但是在美国有年头了，不可能不知道这个。
这活动搞得不伦不类的，也是我不想去的一个原因
我很小人的猜测 “他们这不伦不类的是想多要点礼物吧？因为到时候娃生出来孩子爷爷奶奶也都来了，肯定还要办满月酒，再给钱的”，被我老公狠狠骂了。。。
中国人，但是在美国有年头了，不可能不知道这个。
这活动搞得不伦不类的，也是我不想去的一个原因
我很小人的猜测 “他们这不伦不类的是想多要点礼物吧？因为到时候娃生出来孩子爷爷奶奶也都来了，肯定还要办满月酒，再给钱的”，被我老公狠狠骂了。。。
我也郁闷，别人结婚和生娃我们送了无数，一次也都100-150的，又收不回来，亏~~~~
别人不会在意你的gc是打折买来的，还是原价买的，只要对方能用就行了。
你不一定要去，因为不是你的同事，你跟人家估计也没那么亲近。如果你老公特别希望你陪他是一回事，如果你老公只是为了怕别人不开心而要你去，就是另一个概念了。
要生娃那家和我们住一个小区，还算熟悉。不过主办人和其他客人我都不认识
要生娃那家和我们住一个小区，还算熟悉。不过主办人和其他客人我都不认识
露一小脸就撤~~~~
中国人，但是在美国有年头了，不可能不知道这个。
这活动搞得不伦不类的，也是我不想去的一个原因
我很小人的猜测 “他们这不伦不类的是想多要点礼物吧？因为到时候娃生出来孩子爷爷奶奶也都来了，肯定还要办满月酒，再给钱的”，被我老公狠狠骂了。。。
确实不伦不类，男的跟大肚婆有什么好说的～送点东西算了，要是我就面都不露，说自己有事。
另外，她列的那个list上最贵的东西是60，是不是说我们就给50-60刀就行了，还是要多给？
每次要随人情礼都不知道给多少合适
50gc is very decent
每次要随人情礼都不知道给多少合适
我也郁闷，别人结婚和生娃我们送了无数，一次也都100-150的，又收不回来，亏~~~~
你真大方呀，每次都送100-150，我比较财迷。
确实不伦不类，男的跟大肚婆有什么好说的～送点东西算了，要是我就面都不露，说自己有事。
是不是应该生过娃的女的给半？
你真大方呀，每次都送100-150，我比较财迷。
那应该给多少
是不是应该生过娃的女的给半？
根据我看过的美剧好像不是这样。。。
那应该给多少
给多少是你自己决定的，没有什么应该不应该的。
我只是在陈述一个事实，你比较大方，我比你财迷。
根据我看过的美剧好像不是这样。。。
我自己生孩子前送出的礼物都不太实用，其实新的爸爸妈妈也不太懂，感觉还是过来人比较有经验。
根据我看过的美剧好像不是这样。。。
那到底谁办呢
50gc is very decent
我是被你那个100-150 吓着了，不知道该给多少是正常。。。。。
我是被你那个100-150 吓着了，不知道该给多少是正常。。。。。
那我决心从此包50的GC
顺便也问个，以前这里一个女同事快生孩子在另外一女同事家搞过shower我也没去。这次另外一个跟我比较熟的女同事要生娃了，看起来似乎我应该组织这个shower但是完全不知道怎么搞。另外跟其他人也就一般熟悉，感觉家里请一堆老外实在不知道怎么搞。还远！是不是不搞了，单独送GC给这个同事就拉倒？
你没有义务搞吧～好麻烦的说。
我自己生孩子前送出的礼物都不太实用，其实新的爸爸妈妈也不太懂，感觉还是过来人比较有经验。
那我们还是给GC算了
就是我老公坚持要去，还要我陪着去，我比较郁闷。。。
那到底谁办呢
好朋友？
还是喜欢中国式的大吃大喝
"It is also cruel to be commanded on how to raise your own kids."
--Is it? I think that it is very natural. Whenever I have some experience, I cannot help myself broadcasting it...
"But such kind of job is really not a favor to appreciate. "
--Ah, to be a Mom, of course we learn all the techniques to deal with any kinds of people, in-laws, teachers, kid's friends/enmities/lovers... Sure you know that kids need love from their grandparents, too.
"here is where my firm boundary lies. If my lg still nods, I definitely would stand out to say "NO!"
--Just do it. Do it as a matter of fact, don't get emotional at all.
"I don't think I will treat them with no respect. "
--I don't see your love to them in your posts... Love is the willing to take care of others, to please them, to help them be happy.
"all parties are good-will and warmhearted"
--Happy to know. Don't get too nervous. Loose yourself a bit. What kids need most is the love, no matter how they are raised.
好朋友？
那我又哭了。。。。。。。。。。俺一丁克，搞这个实在是为难
那我决心从此包50的GC
生小孩50太够了
中国人搞美国式的party指什么呢
都是中国人，却只有可乐薯片cookie吃
不喜欢美国式的party，没好东西吃，更不喜欢中国人搞美国式的party，又少参加一次中式的
还是喜欢中国式的大吃大喝
中国人搞美国式的party指什么呢
那我又哭了。。。。。。。。。。俺一丁克，搞这个实在是为难
不想搞就不高
真是好朋友不会怪你不给她搞吧
那我们还是给GC算了
就是我老公坚持要去，还要我陪着去，我比较郁闷。。。
别郁闷，跟他好好谈谈你为什么不想去，看看他能不能理解。如果最后决定去，就高高兴兴地去。
都是中国人，却只有可乐薯片cookie吃
what?! 那太过分了，哈哈哈哈。。。。。摸摸摸摸，可怜的
不喜欢美国式的party，没好东西吃，更不喜欢中国人搞美国式的party，又少参加一次中式的
还是喜欢中国式的大吃大喝
我们现在住这个地方非常奇怪，上回中国人结婚在小区办烧烤还让大家自己带材料过去
从前在DC华人结婚都是在饭店办几桌子的
我们现在住这个地方非常奇怪，上回中国人结婚在小区办烧烤还让大家自己带材料过去
从前在DC华人结婚都是在饭店办几桌子的
这不会是他们唯一的wedding reception吧？那也太雷了～～
那我又哭了。。。。。。。。。。俺一丁克，搞这个实在是为难
为难的事就不要搞呀。刚夸你离包子远了呢。
别郁闷，跟他好好谈谈你为什么不想去，看看他能不能理解。如果最后决定去，就高高兴兴地去。
最后八成要去的，虽然一多半人他也不认识，而且我们可能很快就搬家离开这个州了，他还是不好意思不去，毕竟生娃那家我们比较熟
我们俩简直一对包子……
我们现在住这个地方非常奇怪，上回中国人结婚在小区办烧烤还让大家自己带材料过去
从前在DC华人结婚都是在饭店办几桌子的
!? 不得不感叹自己幸运，我这里这批朋友都是有点包子属性的，在外面不知道吃亏不吃亏，但是内部大家不太分彼此，都很照顾的，感觉太好了。偶尔混进一个态度不端正的没几次就被filter掉了。。。。。。。。。哈哈
我们现在住这个地方非常奇怪，上回中国人结婚在小区办烧烤还让大家自己带材料过去
从前在DC华人结婚都是在饭店办几桌子的
这个够奇怪的
美国人结婚有把烧烤当reception的吗？
"It is also cruel to be commanded on how to raise your own kids."
--Is it? I think that it is very natural. Whenever I have some experience, I cannot help myself broadcasting it...
"But such kind of job is really not a favor to appreciate. "
--Ah, to be a Mom, of course we learn all the techniques to deal with any kinds of people, in-laws, teachers, kid's friends/enmities/lovers... Sure you know that kids need love from their grandparents, too.
"here is where my firm boundary lies. If my lg still nods, I definitely would stand out to say "NO!"
--Just do it. Do it as a matter of fact, don't get emotional at all.
"I don't think I will treat them with no respect. "
--I don't see your love to them in your posts... Love is the willing to take care of others, to please them, to help them be happy.
"all parties are good-will and warmhearted"
--Happy to know. Don't get too nervous. Loose yourself a bit. What kids need most is the love, no matter how they are raised.
以下是引用冬日阳光灿烂在11/12/2009 1:40:00 PM的发言：
I understand you are trying to help. But I still feel being judged unfairly.
I am really sorry to say that. But all I am asking is whether I should
ship Chinese books by myself or ask a favor from my parents-in-law
instead.
I really don't need advices on "how to be a good daughter-in-law" or
"how to love your parents-in-law"
这不会是他们唯一的wedding reception吧？那也太雷了～～
回国办没办不知道，在美国就这么一项
以下是引用冬日阳光灿烂在11/12/2009 1:40:00 PM的发言：
I understand you are trying to help. But I still feel being judged unfairly.
I am really sorry to say that. But all I am asking is whether I should
ship Chinese books by myself or ask a favor from my parents-in-law
instead.
I really don't need advices on "how to be a good daughter-in-law" or
"how to love your parents-in-law"
pat pat 不懂，但是摸摸摸摸~~~~~~~~~~~
最后八成要去的，虽然一多半人他也不认识，而且我们可能很快就搬家离开这个州了，他还是不好意思不去，毕竟生娃那家我们比较熟
我们俩简直一对包子……
如果你们要很快搬家，那就当跟大家告别吧。
还是那句话，如果决定去，就高高兴兴地去，别到了那里还想着要是呆家里就好了。
这个够奇怪的
美国人结婚有把烧烤当reception的吗？
不办点啥没法收礼品，去饭店办桌呢这片也没有好的中餐馆
以下是引用冬日阳光灿烂在11/12/2009 1:40:00 PM的发言：
I understand you are trying to help. But I still feel being judged unfairly.
I am really sorry to say that. But all I am asking is whether I should
ship Chinese books by myself or ask a favor from my parents-in-law
instead.
I really don't need advices on "how to be a good daughter-in-law" or
"how to love your parents-in-law"
冬日气场好强～
没关系，你parents in law肯定也是reasonable的人，不用担心不用担心。到时候有问题大家再对症下药。
So u've set ur boundary and made up ur mind. Problem solved! Don't worry, just be firm and don't take it personal
包子美女们，肉糜美女们好
我想死你们了，我要被烦死了
以下是引用冬日阳光灿烂在11/12/2009 1:40:00 PM的发言：
I understand you are trying to help. But I still feel being judged unfairly.
I am really sorry to say that. But all I am asking is whether I should
ship Chinese books by myself or ask a favor from my parents-in-law
instead.
I really don't need advices on "how to be a good daughter-in-law" or
"how to love your parents-in-law"
放松一点
没啥大不了的
不办点啥没法收礼品，去饭店办桌呢这片也没有好的中餐馆
想收礼物也好好请人吃一顿啊，不管是饭店还是自己做
真是过分哦
美女们好
包子美女们，肉糜美女们好
我想死你们了，我要被烦死了
抱抱抱抱~~~~~~~~~~~~
美女们好
包子美女们，肉糜美女们好
我想死你们了，我要被烦死了
兔子深得这个楼的要领～
想起我们以前的一个朋友，已婚男性，说他老婆日后生娃，丈母娘能来帮忙照顾最好，要是过不来就只能夫妻自己带，不能让他自己娘来。万一产生矛盾可不是好玩的
所以说生闺女省事多了
生儿子那就是嫁出去的儿子泼出去的水了
以下是引用冬日阳光灿烂在11/12/2009 1:40:00 PM的发言：
I understand you are trying to help. But I still feel being judged unfairly.
I am really sorry to say that. But all I am asking is whether I should ship Chinese books by myself or ask a favor from my parents-in-law instead.
I really don't need advices on "how to be a good daughter-in-law" or "how to love your parents-in-law"
我们都不了解你公婆的性格，不好给建议呀。
要不你自己列出来他们带的优缺点，和你自己寄的优缺点？
其实这个主要得看你公婆是什么样的性格，要是他们年纪大了出门不方便，买东西要花好长时间去找，带东西也不方便，那就自己买了寄过来。如果像我爸妈那样天天希望我们给他们创造啃老的机会，知道第三代有什么需要就兴奋得要命，那就让他们买。总之就是希望家里人都开心。
美女们好
包子美女们，肉糜美女们好
我想死你们了，我要被烦死了
山寨美女好。
所以说生闺女省事多了
生儿子那就是嫁出去的儿子泼出去的水了
美国嫁女儿是不是要女方家长出婚礼费用啊？
美国嫁女儿是不是要女方家长出婚礼费用啊？
当然啦，花钱如流水呀。
都是中国人，却只有可乐薯片cookie吃
其实数片cookie我也很爱吃
ps.推荐一个特别好看的动画片，风之谷
女主角极其勇敢极有大爱，pure heart pure soul
悬念也不错
美国嫁女儿是不是要女方家长出婚礼费用啊？
好像要
不过这个我倒不担心，到时候要是自己手头宽裕给女儿办，要是不宽裕就让他们自己看着办了，相信孩子们能理解哈
其实数片cookie我也很爱吃
ps.推荐一个特别好看的动画片，风之谷
女主角极其勇敢极有大爱，pure heart pure soul
悬念也不错
这都N年前的片子了吧
当然啦，花钱如流水呀。
那还是生儿子好
反正在美国长大的娃，也不指望将来给我们养老
好像要
不过这个我倒不担心，到时候要是自己手头宽裕给女儿办，要是不宽裕就让他们自己看着办了，相信孩子们能理解哈
我参加过一个婚礼，设计得非常别致。举个小例子，新郎新娘从教堂出来之后，我们每个客人手里发个小盒子，里面是蝴蝶，然后大家一起把盒子打开，教堂外一片彩蝶飞舞，新郎新娘坐上马车去reception的地方，真是美呀。
那还是生儿子好
反正在美国长大的娃，也不指望将来给我们养老
我老觉得女儿和父母沟通比儿子好
儿子也要出钱的，如果女方家出钱办了个风光婚礼，男方怎么肯能一毛不拔
[此贴子已经被作者于2009/11/12 14:24:58编辑过]
你们已经知道什么月圆之夜在枕头下放一把勺子之类的秘方来控制生男生女了？
什么方法，你快说说，我很感兴趣
我参加过一个婚礼，设计得非常别致。举个小例子，新郎新娘从教堂出来之后，我们每个客人手里发个小盒子，里面是蝴蝶，然后大家一起把盒子打开，教堂外一片彩蝶飞舞，新郎新娘坐上马车去reception的地方，真是美呀。
童话一样啊
这都N年前的片子了吧
我才刚看
感动死了
[此贴子已经被作者于2009/11/12 14:30:48编辑过]
我老觉得女儿和父母沟通比儿子好
儿子也要出钱的，如果女方家出钱办了个风光婚礼，男方怎么肯能一毛不拔
[此贴子已经被作者于2009/11/12 14:24:58编辑过]
这个还真不知道，男方家出钱什么用途？总不会像国内那样给买房子吧？
你们已经知道什么月圆之夜在枕头下放一把勺子之类的秘方来控制生男生女了？
没有呀，每个人的月经周期不是不一样的吗？月圆之夜放勺子管用吗？
我倒是知道x精子寿命长爆发力差，y精子寿命短爆发力好。所以想生女孩最好在排卵前，这样y精子死得差不多了，剩下的多数是x精子了。要想生男孩最好在排卵后，这样y精子可以第一个冲到终点。
还有就是x精子喜欢酸性环境，y精子喜欢碱性环境。
我参加过一个婚礼，设计得非常别致。举个小例子，新郎新娘从教堂出来之后，我们每个客人手里发个小盒子，里面是蝴蝶，然后大家一起把盒子打开，教堂外一片彩蝶飞舞，新郎新娘坐上马车去reception的地方，真是美呀。
我这辈子是没啥别致的婚礼了，万一将来生个女儿，也不知道有没有经济实力给办个别致的
我参加过一个婚礼，设计得非常别致。举个小例子，新郎新娘从教堂出来之后，我们每个客人手里发个小盒子，里面是蝴蝶，然后大家一起把盒子打开，教堂外一片彩蝶飞舞，新郎新娘坐上马车去reception的地方，真是美呀。
妈呀！太浪漫太美了！
什么方法，你快说说，我很感兴趣
。。。。。。。i was kidding...........
没有呀，每个人的月经周期不是不一样的吗？月圆之夜放勺子管用吗？
我倒是知道x精子寿命长爆发力差，y精子寿命短爆发力好。所以想生女孩最好在排卵前，这样y精子死得差不多了，剩下的多数是x精子了。要想生男孩最好在排卵后，这样y精子可以第一个冲到终点。
还有就是x精子喜欢酸性环境，y精子喜欢碱性环境。
heng heng 我公司曾经有一大叔经常在午饭场合讲这些酸碱什么的， 恶心人。。。。。。kao
我这辈子是没啥别致的婚礼了，万一将来生个女儿，也不知道有没有经济实力给办个别致的
同没婚礼的飘过
heng heng 我公司曾经有一大叔经常在午饭场合讲这些酸碱什么的， 恶心人。。。。。。kao
这个太雷了。
heng heng 我公司曾经有一大叔经常在午饭场合讲这些酸碱什么的， 恶心人。。。。。。kao
性骚扰啊
同没婚礼的飘过
我也没办婚礼，不过我没遗憾，因为觉得办婚礼太累了，不适合我这样的懒人。
没有呀，每个人的月经周期不是不一样的吗？月圆之夜放勺子管用吗？
我倒是知道x精子寿命长爆发力差，y精子寿命短爆发力好。所以想生女孩最好在排卵前，这样y精子死得差不多了，剩下的多数是x精子了。要想生男孩最好在排卵后，这样y精子可以第一个冲到终点。
还有就是x精子喜欢酸性环境，y精子喜欢碱性环境。
这个，一个月就赌那么一两天得多少个月才能成功啊
不是要排卵前后那几天都嘿咻才行吗？
那个酸性碱性据说是和女性GC有关系？
heng heng 我公司曾经有一大叔经常在午饭场合讲这些酸碱什么的， 恶心人。。。。。。kao
这个话题，不合适大庭广众吃饭的时候谈吧。尤其不适合经常谈。
这个，一个月就赌那么一两天得多少个月才能成功啊
不是要排卵前后那几天都嘿咻才行吗？
那个酸性碱性据说是和女性GC有关系？
怀孕本来就是赌每个月的那几天的呀，要不人口泛滥了。
排卵前后那几天都嘿咻是为了增加中奖几率，不考虑奖项。
酸性碱性和女性GC有关系。 GC:碱性。非GC：酸性。
当然啦，这都是增加概率，不能保证最后的结果的。