I fully support you getting rid of that toxic family. There are some elder asshole in this world that just have to mess up with other people's life and would like to control multiple generations before they can close their eyes. The worst part of all is that there are people who do not even care about marriage and only consider their only feeling, even when they grow up, they are still a kid and would like everyone center around themself and their parents. There are just this type of people that never learn to be independent and grow up, you just happen to stick with a group of toxic people and you have to cut lose.
It is just very unfortunate for you to get stuck around toxic people, the sooner to get rid of them without hurting your kids much, the better.. Just move one and money is not that important, you only got to live your life once and when you touch toxic people, you will lose no matter what. Getting rid of them is the highest priority.
Based on your description, you never ever have any marriage. They are just using you as the replacement and replica of his mother and father. You need to end something that never even exist in the first place. There is nothing to feel sad or bad about, you kids will understand too.
There is nothing to be sad about. It is like you have bone cancel, you need to amputate both arms, it is a good thing, since it is better than losing your life. It is a positive move. Life is short, when time comes, make the decision even it might be painful in the short term.
Some marriage is good or tolerable. Some is just a joke and completely toxic. But in this country, marriage is treated with too much restriction and some toxic thing takes a lot of pain to get rid of.
于心不忍?excuse me?这种公婆换我不天天扎小人,咒她们暴毙身亡都是我人品端方了。
通常就是带着这种心理才会被欺负,一直不报警。换我的话,绝对把对方毁到极致。
+1
祝愿以后越来越好!
和公婆一起住的,我没听说过家里幸福的!
请当公婆的以后要自觉,不要打扰儿子,儿媳妇生活~
圣经里的话:“儿子要离开父母和妻子连合”!
楼主是为了孩子忍了九年,如果我没看错,还不至于二十年,她是结婚二十年。结婚早很多年没要孩子
能讲讲为什么男人提出离婚你会劝吗?
她孩子还小呢。矛盾应该都是公婆常驻以后激化的。要是孩子快二十了,这种憋屈日子早散伙了
即使你不忍心这样做,你也应该让他们知道你可以这样做!
特别同意,我的公婆都是特别特别通情达理的那种,可是只要在一起住稍微久一点就根本不行,一离开就又好的不行。
恭喜楼主mm有重新开始的机会
我这指的不是可以再找一个人
而是离了那个让你痛苦的人 你以后的生活都会是全新的
mm,你一定注意好保护自己的人身安全。渣男有暴力倾向,你再怎么小心都不为过。
妇人之心!孩子们要知道什么是对,什么是错。听律师的,让他们该怎么办就怎么办。
其实真的是趁孩子小的时候离最好 唉
最近遇到两个朋友 在婚姻泥沼里的中年人 孩子半大不小的 10岁左右 很难办 不知道他们各自会忍到什么时候
The worst part of all is that there are people who do not even care about marriage and only consider their only feeling, even when they grow up, they are still a kid and would like everyone center around themself and their parents. There are just this type of people that never learn to be independent and grow up, you just happen to stick with a group of toxic people and you have to cut lose.
It is just very unfortunate for you to get stuck around toxic people, the sooner to get rid of them without hurting your kids much, the better..
Just move one and money is not that important, you only got to live your life once and when you touch toxic people, you will lose no matter what. Getting rid of them is the highest priority.
Based on your description, you never ever have any marriage. They are just using you as the replacement and replica of his mother and father. You need to end something that never even exist in the first place. There is nothing to feel sad or bad about, you kids will understand too.
想到隔壁楼dis离婚男和他儿子的另一位楼主了
我当初也是担心离婚会不会给孩子幼小的心灵造成不好的影响, 刚开始的一年,她是有点儿不适应,但是事实证明,只要你给她一个比原来更温暖和充满正能量的生活环境,孩子反而比以前变得更好了。现在一切都是良性的循环,因为离婚,我的心情变好了 --》 家里的气氛就好了 --》 孩子也更好了
加油!
I am so relieved. Good luck!
家暴的确不应该。人生有很多无奈。无论怎样,祝福前方的路顺利
他动手打人,居然还问你他做错了什么?你没回答他么?
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千万不能心软。 急得我再次叮嘱你一句。 心软到头来真的还是你自己受伤, 看看小说双面胶。 命都没了。
和对方对打绝对不是一个聪明的办法,你应该合理地运用法律保护你和女儿的权益,这是你该用的武器。
虽然说了这么多,不知道楼主能不能真听进去,或者还是会不忍心。无论如何,祝福你和你的女儿吧
太危险了
对方第一次动手就该离婚了
对家暴坚决零容忍
狂re!
孩子还小的时候那是肯定的。爱孩子的人,年幼的孩子肯定排在半路夫妻的前面,或者至少是同等重要的位置。尤其是隔壁那种双方条件都一般,不可能爱得死去活来的。孩子大了有自理能力了,在父母心中的重要性才会降低。
他们只会觉得楼主在bluffing,不会相信她真的敢赶人。
还有万一下次楼主就被打死了怎么办呢,你负责吗?还有打人是他爹妈拿他手打的?全怪他爹妈?
恭喜楼主重获新生,有本事有资产何必再受委屈受折磨。你给我们树立了榜样,对家暴零容忍。
还是祝福楼主, 离开家暴男海阔天空
前面路再难 总好过和一个家暴lg、俩个太上皇过憋屈日子
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楼主当年看出苗头就不应该让公婆过来带孩子
不过这也时过境迁了!
祝楼主和女儿未来的生活安定美满!
非常正确。 不用担心女儿跟爹的关系的
Some marriage is good or tolerable. Some is just a joke and completely toxic. But in this country, marriage is treated with too much restriction and some toxic thing takes a lot of pain to get rid of.
孩子想要的是好爸爸吧,打人的爸爸算什么,远离是福。
对啊 说的好像监狱里的都没娃一样
每次被家暴都是往死亡线走一回。更别说对自己和孩子心灵永远的创伤
除了报警 如果是我 肯定会抡菜刀的 tmd 狗娘养的
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我觉得他父母会恨楼主的。日子会更难过的。