"每次都觉得自己做的不够好", Why and according to whom? If you are willing to be responsible for yourself, you say to yourself: this is as good as it gets, and convey that belief to others. Use yourself as the reference point, not some illusive external entity.
When you show doubt in yourself, you are placing a burden onto the shoulders of others. You're saying to them, carry this (i.e., confidence in you) for me because I'm too weak to do so. No one wants to share that burden of yours.
People have more confidence in you if you, not only carry that burden yourself, can and are willing to share their burdens, by showing your confidence in them.
现在越来越焦虑工作中遇到的问题，每次都觉得自己做的不够好，会说错话， 有种心力交瘁的感觉。
1. 管理上的：“Worst-case scenario“
比如：自己做的不够好，会说错话。
最坏的结果是什么：项目失败。
项目失败的最坏结果是什么：被开除。
被开除的最坏结果是什么：没钱花。
如何解决：
自己做的不够好，会说错话：问问管理自己做的怎么样，如何改进。公司会为此开除自己吗？ 大概不会。而且管理大半儿会觉得自己做得挺好的，要做的不好管理早说了。
如果被开除了怎么办：有失业保险，银行里有存款。找工作。（刚来美国时，有位前辈的忠告是：银行里存足6个月的房租水电和吃饭的开销。以后遇到什么困境心里都有底儿。）
工作找不到怎么办：找不到合适的，找不合适的。（有位中国同事的理论是：找到这份工作前我在 Dunking Donuts 打工，大不了我再去打工。）最不济，吃社会福利，老天爷饿不死瞎眼鸡。
这么一想，“自己做的不够好，会说错话” 就没有那么严重了。
2. 不知你是否因疫情在家办工，一开始挺好，时间长了真有点不习惯。如果可能，休段时间的假。即使只是在家里，做些自己想做的事儿会对情绪有所帮助。
3. 取决于各人对心理咨询的接受程度。最多快好省的办法是心理咨询，找个人聊聊。现在一般的医疗保险都包括心理咨询。
心理上我觉得除了自己给自己宽心，没太好办法，道理我们都懂。这半年跟你一样，而且比你还惨，小心翼翼地却四处被冷落受排挤还有几次被看不起挨损的。后来就抱着破罐子破摔的勇气，错就错吧，反而在几个不同的错误里进步飞快。现在6个月的probation过了，也支起避风小帐篷。
但压力还没过去，责任越多，能吃的老本越来越少，不会的东西越来越多，除了不断学习，只能给自己打气：不怕犯错误，就怕连犯错的机会别人都不给你。
另外，我还是觉得，守住自己做人的底线，犯错就有翻身的机会。
"每次都觉得自己做的不够好", Why and according to whom? If you are willing to be responsible for yourself, you say to yourself: this is as good as it gets, and convey that belief to others. Use yourself as the reference point, not some illusive external entity.
When you show doubt in yourself, you are placing a burden onto the shoulders of others. You're saying to them, carry this (i.e., confidence in you) for me because I'm too weak to do so. No one wants to share that burden of yours.
People have more confidence in you if you, not only carry that burden yourself, can and are willing to share their burdens, by showing your confidence in them.
有的单位福利里有 stress leave 支持职工休息一段时间。 如果福利里没有这个，自家经济条件允许的话，自己负担。休息足够长的时间就好了。也可以考虑换一个环境，找个自己轻松能做好的工作。