Itemize your duties (technical and administrative.) Draw up a list. Show the list to her. Point out the administrative ones to see if she agrees with (or minimize them to her liking.)
Set a standard for yourself and strive for that standard, rather than seeking her approval on every small thing. She is not going to give you that approval because getting the work done is not her priority, but securing her power is. If it takes her to belittle you and favor others in order to create that toxic environment to distract attention from her less-than-stallar capability, she will not hesitate.
Many bosses have narcissistic personality traits. Look up the term "NPD" and study this topic may prove beneficial for your ability to deal with it.
Stop feeling dependent on anything. Otherwise, you are a easy victim of manipulation.
Whenever she gives you a hard time, think "business", do not feel anything.
Feeling is energy stuck inside you because you offered resistance to the things she throws at you. Her stuff acquires power from the resistance; no resistance, no power.
The resistance comes from fear inside you.
Value yourself. Your worth is not measured by what others think of you, but by your courage and willingness to shoulder yourself.
Talk open but politely. Let her know as direct report, you are there to help her and make her life easier (that is part of your job duty). You should also ask for her help, part of her duty is growth of her direct reports. Ask her if she can help identify clearer on your performance goals and responsibilities. Do not take it personally, work is work. Your denial reflects on your way of thinking, talking, words that you pick can be unconfortables and offensive even without self knowning. It is ok not being the one speaks for the group or getting credit. Know a fact, bosses are tie-ed to any credit that his/her direct report earned, as well as faults. So, she is not stealing. Back her up more and gain the trust. At the same time, find ways to learn and grow on other area. If you cant change the fact of being her direct report, accept and work on it.
Sorry, first timer on this site, and cant type Chinese on my computer at this point.
我做技术工作，但是有一部分是行政工作，这个和我本身的工作分不开。前老板五年前离开的时候给了我很多权限，有些是多的，但大多数是因为没有人干活，所以给我的。现在的老板来了后几年都是我做很多， 她来的时候没经验，我一边教她一边和她保持正常的上下级关系。她提过我把工作看的太紧，我已经让出去所以抛头露面的工作，只在她背后做好，让她去出面， 但是现在发现她好像是伺机在找我的茬，要是有一点出错，她马上不依不饶的。我也很矛盾，我这部分只有我一个人，如果有纰漏，找不到别人，所以我比较谨慎。我心里想的是不要出什么岔子，什么都上心，也很累。但是好像适得其反，老板有事没事打压我一下，我自己觉得很委屈。看看同事三天两头出岔子她反而护着。同事也看风头，爱踩不踩的。我没想出风头，只是因为老公还有两年才毕业-异地/没准他找不到工作，家里又没有积蓄，必须好好上班， 不敢动。 想请问大家，任何跟老板说明我的感受？ 我不指望着干一辈子，但是两三年还是要的。
公司里老板怕得是只有你一个懂，你一撂挑子就麻烦。
老中常常采取的措施是技术保密来保守自己的职位。
这应该是矛盾的要点。
我碰到的老美教人都很热心。应该教人，更应该和老美打成一片来稳固职位，而不是靠技术保密。技术上教人，应该不能让人看出你不肯教。怎么教，教到什么程度，就是艺术问题。说实在的，离开谁，公司都能转。
is lower than yours.
Itemize your duties (technical and administrative.) Draw up a list. Show the list to her. Point out the administrative ones to see if she agrees with (or minimize them to her liking.)
Set a standard for yourself and strive for that standard, rather than seeking her approval on every small thing. She is not going to give you that approval because getting the work done is not her priority, but securing her power is. If it takes her to belittle you and favor others in order to create that toxic environment to distract attention from her less-than-stallar capability, she will not hesitate.
Many bosses have narcissistic personality traits. Look up the term "NPD" and study this topic may prove beneficial for your ability to deal with it.
Stop feeling dependent on anything. Otherwise, you are a easy victim of manipulation.
In her mind, she thinks that you think that you know more than she does. She does not savor such thought and wants to do something about it.
The second question is harder to answer. What's her goal?
Whenever she gives you a hard time, think "business", do not feel anything.
Feeling is energy stuck inside you because you offered resistance to the things she throws at you. Her stuff acquires power from the resistance; no resistance, no power.
The resistance comes from fear inside you.
Value yourself. Your worth is not measured by what others think of you, but by your courage and willingness to shoulder yourself.
她的能力和资历都不如你，却在做你的领导，这是她不安全感的源头。她这么对你有两种可能：1。给你下马威，让你别太得瑟，踩到她头上；2。她不喜欢你，想把你挤兑走。无论哪种情况，她都不对头，你都会过得很痛苦，在这个单位也没有发展前途。如果可以，你还是赶紧找下家吧，同时跟她维持不撕破脸的关系，毕竟你需要她的推荐信，必要的时候，甚至发展一个同事替她做你的联系人。
说空话有用，要论坛干嘛？
如果并没有什么实质的建议，只是否定别人，只让人觉得标新立异，不合时宜
你的思维方式和以前我雇的一个国人手下很像，我花了两年才让他意识到自己的一些问题。我离开的时候他才说的。
不过我以后不敢雇国人了，真吓人。
Talk open but politely. Let her know as direct report, you are there to help her and make her life easier (that is part of your job duty). You should also ask for her help, part of her duty is growth of her direct reports. Ask her if she can help identify clearer on your performance goals and responsibilities. Do not take it personally, work is work. Your denial reflects on your way of thinking, talking, words that you pick can be unconfortables and offensive even without self knowning. It is ok not being the one speaks for the group or getting credit. Know a fact, bosses are tie-ed to any credit that his/her direct report earned, as well as faults. So, she is not stealing. Back her up more and gain the trust. At the same time, find ways to learn and grow on other area. If you cant change the fact of being her direct report, accept and work on it.
Sorry, first timer on this site, and cant type Chinese on my computer at this point.
你可以试试低头 开会和老板谈谈
你自己应该清楚你的处境
当老板给你小鞋子的时候 你基本就玩完了
这十个经理中（加上我认识的经理），35-40%是蠢，智商低或恶，30%智商比较高，人品好。
我工作过的地方一线经理权利不大。年终总结我的经理给了我三项不及格（总共五项）。但奖金照发（三线经理没理会我的经理给我的总评）。
所以，数字说明，结论是：跳。这是从个人角度。
从孩子角度，孩子是非常耗时间精力的，对一个负责任的家长来说，会耗尽她/他80%的精力。所以一份让你少伤神的工作可以提高你对孩子的帮助。也建议你老公畢業后，不要分居异地，俩人要劲使一块，给孩子最大限度的支持。
祝好运。