儿子今年加入了一个新球队。球队水平还可以。就是有些球员特别喜欢指责别人。眼睛里不揉半点沙子。训练中一点小事就大声指责其他队员。例如，you never can be a starter；you are cheating; you did so bad 等等。 儿子连续训练两次，都被气的够呛. 也影响了竞赛中的表现。
at this age, the coach may only manage the situation
to a certain degree--s/he can't monitor every moment in the process. Either the team is not a good fit to your son or your son's game performance has been below average (and he is new to the team!). Sorry for my assumption. It's very hard to join a competitive team by being an under-average player. Improve his skills while in the meantime getting prepared to switch to another team.
比如训练的时候，对方说，你这样永远不能首发，娃可以说好像你是教练一样。如果说，you are so bad，这句话最hurt的时候恰恰是娃比如说哪个球失误了。娃可以说 I am not bad, I just made a bad play, 你有时也会的。等等，和娃一起想想。。。这个过程中言传身教娃正面正面正面。
If only one goalkeeper in the team, he should be the king; if two goal keepers and he is NOT the better one, it's hard. So hard! The goal keeper tends to get lots of complaints by other players when the team of this age loses.
儿子今年加入了一个新球队。球队水平还可以。就是有些球员特别喜欢指责别人。眼睛里不揉半点沙子。训练中一点小事就大声指责其他队员。例如，you never can be a starter；you are cheating; you did so bad 等等。 儿子连续训练两次，都被气的够呛. 也影响了竞赛中的表现。
咱不能老这样被人欺负！更不能给亚洲人丢脸。请问大家我和他爸应当找教练谈谈还是让儿子fight back? 第一次遇到这种情况，没有经验。
谢谢大家！
到了高中就可以吃老本，专注学业。
打体育就是为了让孩子TOUGH一点
举的例子当中第一句mean需要教育，第二句什么语境，第三句讲什么的？
首先告诉娃支持，第二遇到这种事情不要气，冷静，想办法处理？要找教练，预先要征得娃同意。
让娃想一下预案，这种事情往往会重复发生，想好下次怎么回。首先和最佳的方案肯定是现场回回去。
to a certain degree--s/he can't monitor every moment in the process. Either the team is not a good fit to your son or your son's game performance has been below average (and he is new to the team!). Sorry for my assumption. It's very hard to join a competitive team by being an under-average player. Improve his skills while in the meantime getting prepared to switch to another team.
但是小孩说话tough是体育队的一部分，如果对方一直针对孩子这个人，有事没事都讲娃，那么是bully。要讲。如果是针对某个play，那更多是说话不当。更多要让娃学习处理这样的局面。
比如训练的时候，对方说，你这样永远不能首发，娃可以说好像你是教练一样。如果说，you are so bad，这句话最hurt的时候恰恰是娃比如说哪个球失误了。娃可以说 I am not bad, I just made a bad play, 你有时也会的。等等，和娃一起想想。。。这个过程中言传身教娃正面正面正面。
If only one goalkeeper in the team, he should be the king; if two goal keepers and he is NOT the better one, it's hard. So hard! The goal keeper tends to get lots of complaints by other players when the team of this age loses.
这个真是天生的，后天学习就是要多讨论多想，下一次遇上就会了。
时间久了，人长大了，懂了些套路，掌握了基本思路，为人处事的能力就培养出来了。
古代这个做的非常好，大道理大家都懂，就是要这样具体的内容细节句子，孩子在回的时候更可以加上自己的情绪，让表达更包满更有力。
“you never can be a starter“。我儿子九岁时就遇到过，我当时就问他，比赛时谁决定哪一个队员首发？
可以让他自己想办法解决，但告诉他你无条件支持他。总得有让孩子自己独立面对社会的那天，父母的任务是趁他们还在身边，看着他们慢慢学会怎么处理。