丈夫安葬在美国国家公墓

佩尼燕京人penny
楼主 (文学城)

今年三月三十号,突然接到丈夫大儿子BOB的电话,告诉我他正在国家公墓,准备安葬我丈夫。让我和负责人谈一下。我明白需要让我同意他安葬在这里。我明确表态,一切由 BOB负责。

在丈夫去世后我曾问BOB是否将来把他按生前的愿望安葬在其父母哥哥旁边?这是1930年左右其父去世时买的墓地,1975年他哥哥去世安葬在此,1993年其母去世也安葬在此。

一天丈夫对我说他去世后要和家人在一起,并说要带我去看墓地。后来他两眼完全失明,又住到BOB家,就没有去看他的墓地。这九年我不知他的愿望。

Bob说。他家附近有国家公墓,安放在那里便于照看。我问允许吗?他说这就是为美国士兵的安葬处,只要申请,就会安排。我同意。

回想我丈夫告诉我他高三时1943年被征兵,1944年第二批在法国罗曼地登陆、踩着第一批登陆时惨遭希特勒歼灭的美军战士的遗体上了战场。由于只一只眼睛,负责被伤员,踩上地面上的雷受重伤,在伦敦医院抢救半年,后回国复员。

他是一个普通的战士,只在战场上一个多月就受伤了。我本以为没有资格安葬在国家公墓里,没有想到,美国对曾保卫国家做出贡献的,不论职务高低都可安葬在这里。我很感动。

这里把他儿子的悼词登在这里,请懂英文的读者了解。

MILITARY MEMORIAL, National Cemetery Canton GA 3-30-21

 

Today we honor Carl Scarpetti, a World War II purple heart veteran, and while his ashes find their final resting place here in this beautiful earthly place, provided by a military like no other the world has ever known, his soul is with Jesus, our Lord and his Lord and Savior.

Pop served in WWII as a private in the army medical corp. He landed at Normandy precisely one month after the invasion. He was in the tent area and came across a grenade; he grabbed it and threw it out, and it exploded, seriously injuring him. He spend six months in a coma, but American lives were saved that day.

13 Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. JN 15:13

Pop was an American who loved his country. He was willing, at a young age, to serve this country to secure the freedom that our founding fathers crafted for our liberty to this very day.

He was also very pleased with President Trump – Pop was proud to call him Pres DJT because he felt in his heart that DJT loved America as much as he did.

If Pop were here with us today, he would feel a closeness to the military men and women present. He always appreciated their visits to his assisted living facility.

Pop was a war hero, but that is not how he wished to be remembered.

Rather, he wanted you to know that it was his faithfulness as a believer in the One True God.

13 For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. ROM 10:13

How do we know?

Matthew 7:15-20 NKJV

You Will Know Them by Their Fruits

15 “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves. 16 You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles? 17 Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. 18 A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. 19 Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20 Therefore by their fruits you will know them.

Allow me to share some of Pop’s fruits.

While Pop suffered from infirmities his whole life, he tried hard not to let them get in his way.

He was a successful Independent businessman with a publishing company. He swam miles in the ocean at Jones Beach. He flew a Cessna 150 for years all over the northeast.

But when he finally lost his vision about ten years ago, he told me he just wanted to work. He really loved my radio ministry, so I put him to work.

I would feed him about ten to twenty radio station phone numbers a day, and he called over 2000 radio stations using his talking computer. He recruited a man who became his best friend while at Cameron Hall to assist him.

Had no technological abilities, yet despite this and his many afflictions, including blindness, he persevered to get the message of the Gospel out.

He looked forward each week to his son teaching the Bible every Tuesday morning for five years.

During lunch time, when the opportunity presented itself to him, he would pray the Lord’s prayer to his fellow residents in Cameron Hall. It was his favorite prayer, and he prayed it multiple times a day.

There is mercy in the Lord’s Prayer, and that is something we wish Christians need to focus on.

For it was His mercy on us, that we should have mercy on each other.

Allow me to share Pop’s last hour with you, as another testimony of his faith.

On the afternoon of February 15th, Pops vitals has dropped, and Manor Lake had called me to let me know. Terry came from work and met me there. He could hear us, but was slipping away. We were accompanied by a staff member, and I offered prayers , then the Lord’s Prayer. His vitals had popped up to normal, until the last words, “For Yours is the Kingdom, and the power and the glory, forever and ever, Amen.” Then his vitals dropped again, and shortly thereafter, his breathing stopped, then his heart, and he transferred from this life to the arms of Jesus.

The staff at Manor Lake was emotionally moved at Pop’s transition to heaven. He ministered to them in his illness, and they to him in their love and service. All of which, demonstrated the virtues of Christ.

In retrospect, it was the Lord that brought us together, and he blessed our family and actually ministered to those who took care of him.

 

Let’s have a prayer:

Gracious Heavenly Father, You are Almighty God, the creator of the universe and all that is in it. You amazingly crafted each and every one of us, in Your image, and designed us to love as You are love.

We thank you for Carl’s life and the impact he had on others for You.

And now we shall pray together the prayer that our Lord Jesus taught His disciples, and us, to pray: Our Father…

Thank you all for participating this afternoon, and our great military.

 



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julie116
这些人去卖命。他们的后代在他们死后被他们拯救过的人的果子

当成了罪人

浅路明
一码归一码。欧洲人直到现在对美国2战军人都是十分敬重感激的。如果现在的欧洲人不喜欢现在的美国人了,

那和二战时发生过什么无关。二战时美国人做了好事能证明美国人二战前没干过坏事或二战之后没干过坏事吗?一个国家曾经某个decade做过好事能说明它就不会再做坏事,让人讨厌吗?

你好像老是神叨叨的,老搞些似是而非的东西。

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julie116
你才神道呢。都和你口径一样就好了?“白色特权”按说早就存在,干嘛等二战士兵死光了才大行其道呢
桃花好运
你为什么没去丈夫的葬礼?
雨女
疫情吧。老两口最后的九年没生活在一起。生活真的很残酷。

如果身体不方便。这样的时候,年轻人应该帮忙吧。

螺丝螺帽
典型的,二婚,三婚的,年老生病,各孩管自己父/母

但愿楼主知道遗属福利。

 

楼主可以拿去世丈夫的100% SS, 放弃自己一份(假如自己的少)

 

还有,401k, 法定是配偶的

Pension, 也别拉下搞清楚。

 

其他的,也许给自己孩子了,就别烦心了

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hhtt
夫妻本是同林鸟。。。
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GoGym
希望楼主能看到你的贴。她写的丈夫的儿子从来不理她,希望她能争取到自己的福利
浅路明
神叨的人就是什么都要用阴谋论来解释。二战老兵在过去1,20年根本没有政治影响力了。今天的BML跟

还有多少二战老兵在世没有一毛钱的关系。There is a time for everything - “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.”

就是天时到了,没什么阴谋。

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julie116
”阴谋论”推翻一切才是恐怖。加一顶帽子就可以回避正面问题和数据。有多少“阴谋”后来

浮现出水面…… 某地华人夫妇研究员被抓早早就有人爆料,某些部门就是不承认。现在才又报道。但是并不公开进展

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Sequoia_CA
读了一下作者关于她的丈夫与儿子的故事

作者的丈夫生前,他本人希望与儿子一起生活的願望强烈,估计作者为了成全丈夫的心愿,另一方面也需要唯护自己的健康,才不得不夫妇分居两地。费解的是,作者当时为什么没有为自己未来的生活做出周全、适当的处理。

作者的博文,一并贴上 https://blog.wenxuecity.com/myblog/73867/202104/5124.html

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julie116
从美加联手抓梦,到抓病毒研究员,香港暴乱,黄马甲,全球气候游行,到今天的多方位排华,你觉得都是独立事件?
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julie116
一个老人照顾不了另一个老人。有的要进养老院。有子女照顾的算幸运
糯米粥
希望楼主看到螺丝这个贴
糯米粥
国内也是这样。 我妈有一起早上锻炼的朋友们,听她说也是年纪大了后各跟各的子女过。
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julie116
不得不接受的现实
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lurenjia2014
你丈夫应该有遗嘱吧?

你丈夫应该有遗嘱吧?

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julie116
追读了您的自述。总体感觉是没白来一世。见证了如此多的社会变迁。记忆力也惊人

祝您晚年健康快乐老有所依……

浅路明
我这么说过吗?排华是因为美国把中国当对手,加上病毒起自中国,孟被抓也是美国把中国当对手的体现。

你好像没学过逻辑,老是要走极端。说有些事件之间没有联系,不意味任何事件间都没有联系。说有几件事之间有联系,也不意味任何事件之间都能扯上关系。

我们争论的起点是二战老兵渐渐没有多少在世的了和今天的政治思潮有关系没有。撤得上孟晚舟,病毒,香港吗?没有逻辑,不能认识到事情之间真正的关联,所以才爱用阴谋论。

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julie116
你的逻辑也够惊人。大的历史事件多是能和资本权力交割和市场转换交割挂钩的

你不信二战老兵的镇宅价值就等着看女王过世后的景象

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julie116
楼主阿姨写的回忆录,作为共产国际的先驱,楼主父亲在解放后为学院筹资可以找洛克菲勒基金,

你觉得意外吗?

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julie116
美国二战老兵多是欧裔男性,去打击另一大陆的欧裔,他们健在时笼络地说白人特权他们会沉默吗?
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julie116
不知道你什么样的经历,动不动给人扣帽子。

即使一线从政的也可能出现前后不一致,最初的初衷和事后发展背离而不得不放弃或改路。世界上的逻辑要像你这样一分为二就没有各种扑朔迷离了。还是那句话,谁有钱谁掌握了媒体谁是老大。我们看到的有可能只是大象的一条腿

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g18
他享受的伤残军人补贴楼主也可以享受一半的吧?
佩尼燕京人penny
人老了照顾不了。他儿子愿照顾。省钱,我身体也好些。