APAD: Backward in coming forward

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7grizzly
楼主 (文学城)

Meaning:

   Shy or reluctant to do something. Here `backward' means shy or unwilling;

   `come forward' means present oneself into view.

 

Background:

  `Backward in coming forward' first began to appear in print early 19th century

  England. The `come forward' part of the expression had long been used with the

  meaning `announce oneself'. An early example of that usage in print is found

  in the English poet William Neville's mystical poem Castell of Pleasure, 1518:

 

     Come forward and be not afrayd your selfe to auaunce.

 

   The first example of `backward in coming forward' in print that I know of is

   in Cobbett's Annual Register, Volume 4, July-December 1803:

 

     "Is it matter of surprise that men proud of their birth, of their

     hereditary honours, of their ancient families, should be backward to come

     forward..."

 

   The expression is less used now than it was in the first half of the 20th

   century, although it is still quite commonplace where I live in the north of

   England. As is well-known in the UK, Yorkshire folk are not renowned for

   being backward in coming forward.

 

- www.phrases.org.uk [edited]

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For me, lacking confidence in English has been the root of many problems since I

came to the west. By that time, for example, I had spent 25 years learning not

to stand out in a herd and been punished for each transgression. All of a

sudden, I plunged headlong into a new crowd where nearly everyone specialized in

tooting their own horn. Self-concious in social settings, a class or seminar,

for example, I often tried to hide my insecurity and went backward in coming

foward, hoping no one would notice.

 

A gun wouldn't help. Nor would running. Not for me. But building physical

strength seemed worthwhile. A friend and Chinese scholar said he sometimes

forget his stutter once he could do 10 Turkish getups with a 32kg kettlebell.

最西边的岛上
10Turkish getups with32kg kettlebell? Wow! He can conquerThe
最西边的岛上
World! I'm shy in public 2. Learned & Thx!
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7grizzly
It helped his stutter and gave him a swagger :-)
最西边的岛上
tried2 imitate stutter whenYoung & found its consequence ;-)
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7grizzly
You too were wronged trying to pay sb. the highest flattery?
最西边的岛上
no1 wasFlattered but it to..to..took double the time 4 me 2
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2..2..2 re .. re .. co..cover from becomingStutter myself;-)
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(just a shy&lonely kid trying2have fun, not imitating any1)
硅谷居士
Thanks for sharing! I was also very shy growing up.
硅谷居士
I had to be more vocal after becoming a manager.
最西边的岛上
Good 4 U (that's 1 of the reasons I could never b one ;-) !
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7grizzly
At least some of us have boldness thrust upon them :-)
硅谷居士
Yeah, people can adapt when being pressed.
妖妖灵
I'm just opposite. I always speak up with my Chinglish:)
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7grizzly
Hope you're thankful. You've no idea what we've gone thru:-)
暖冬cool夏
Good to know that getups &kettleball can cure one‘s stuttes:
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7grizzly
"Be whatever you want to be. But be strong first." - Pavel
最西边的岛上
"I'd rather b aLittle Nobody, than 2 b a evil sb."-A.Lincoln
妖妖灵
I got public training at the age of 8 to host 六一大会~
妖妖灵
I guess I have been benefitting from it~
移花接木
1s, I was backward without coming forward but everyone else
移花接木
stepped back I was left forward
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7grizzly
You mean they blew your cover:-)