APAD: We suffer more often in imagination than in reality

最西边的岛上
楼主 (文学城)
We suffer more often in imagination than in reality  -  Seneca (4 BC—AD 65)

Meaning we spend so much time worried about how bad things are going to be, that we actually torture ourselves more than the thing we’re worried about ever could (that is, if it happens at all).

Seneca (4 BC—AD 65) was a prominent stoic philosopher in Rome, as had a unique position as the advisor to newly appointment Emperor Nero in 54. His book called Letters from a Stoic is a favorite book on stoicism, and is full of wisdom and lessons about morality.

More explanation as below:
The anxiety that results from our premeditation of negative events is something that Seneca tried to demystify, and perhaps reconcile with the nature of our mind.

The Stoics had long recognised that our imagination had ramifications throughout our psyche. It could impact our wellbeing, our actions, and our perception of the world and of ourselves. It could skew it in such a way that it would lead us to self-deception. They saw no benefit to complaining about things outside of our control and in fact warned against the potential dangers of allowing our imagination to run wild. 
https://aureliusfoundation.com/blog/we-suffer-more-in-imagination-than-in-reality-explained-2022-04-01/
---------------------------

Well said.  So let's focus on our inner world, be stoic and happy, and "don’t borrow suffering". 

Wish you all a peaceful and stoic Sunday.      
7
7grizzly
The mind is the last frontier and the ultimate challenge.
最西边的岛上
APAD: Life is 10% what happens to U and 90% how U react - 西岛

my APAD, but not my words 

 

"As we navigate through life, we encounter countless challenges, setbacks, and unexpected events. While we may not be able to control what happens to us, we can control how we respond to it.  As the saying goes, "Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it" - Charles R. Swindoll.
 

移花接木
Desire lies the root of suffer, evolved to understand
移花接木
death could be the initial suffer.
最西边的岛上
Yes, wise words from Siddhartha Gautama The Buddha
最西边的岛上
1st thought was Ah? then remembered the soul afterDeath.sigh
移花接木
足够聪明的物种才懂得suffer,那些从一出生就被追杀的草食动物不得心理疾病,原因是不够聪明,逃命不是害怕是本能驱使
天边一片白云
Well said. I think I worried too much.
天边一片白云
I don't like long distance travel much
天边一片白云
because I worry the plane might fall down.
天边一片白云
never know word "stoic“ before. good leaning.