APAD: A fence between keeps friendship green.

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stillthere
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The phrase “A hedge between keeps friendship green” is a proverb that emphasizes the importance of maintaining boundaries in friendships. It suggests that giving each other space and respecting privacy can help sustain a healthy and lasting relationship.

In essence, just like a hedge or fence can mark boundaries between properties, having clear boundaries in a friendship can prevent misunderstandings and conflicts. This space allows friends to appreciate each other more and avoid overstepping personal limits.

For example, if a friend is becoming too involved in your personal matters, you might gently remind them, “A hedge between keeps friendship green,” to highlight the need for some distance and privacy.

妖妖灵
Welcome 2APAD! Nice!君子之交淡如水。对吗?
妖妖灵
查了一下,一般是用hedge,不用fence,是一个意思吗?
最西边的岛上
thx 4 coming. My take:

"Good fences make good neighbors";

Green "salad days" friendship may or may not last;

Privacy and space are must in any healthy relationship, be it short or long;

True and lasting friendship is more than just "birds of a feather flock together".  It needs no fence/hedge/game, but mutual trust, understanding, and respect based on honesty and directness.

 

暖冬cool夏
Good fences make good neighbors:) 一碗汤的距离:)
暖冬cool夏
Great mind thinks alike:) It reminds me of this too:)
最西边的岛上
haha, 一碗热汤,送到了不凉。Yes! same with adult children ;-)))
最西边的岛上
aJoke: AggravatedSurfer says2theOcean: Don’t bSalty, bSilly
最西边的岛上
great minds also need 2 rest. Nite 暖冬美眉!
移花接木
Very true, familiarity breeds contempt, good fence makes...

good neighbors 

最西边的岛上
TheOcean answers, puts theSurfer under Silly&Salty water ;-)
最西边的岛上
sorry for 歪楼,只是笑话太好玩儿了哈 ;-))
最西边的岛上
haha, here comes "the familiarity principle" ;-))

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mere-exposure_effect

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7grizzly
That was my first thought too.
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7grizzly
君子之交也可以甘若醴 Sometimes both 君子&小人need personal space:-))
天边一片白云
That is so true. We are so glad we replaced the bush hedge
天边一片白云
with wood fence between us our neighbor. Otherwise
天边一片白云
there will be lots of problem. now we are good neighbors.