One summer my son stayed in China longer than I did. We talked often, and he usually ended our conversation with “I love you mom!”. One day he ended it with 我爱你，妈!” I was so thrilled and screaming “wow …”, he was puzzled “Mom, what happened?” I said, “You just said I love you in Chinese!"“Yes, I love you in Chinese is different? “he asked. “Yes, I feel it is so special!”I replied. “Why?” He was really intrigued. I said “Because Chinese usually don't say I love you, and almost never say I love you to their parents. ““Really? You never say I love you to grandma?” Nobody asked me this question before, I paused, then said “No, I don't think I ever did."“Wow, you should call grandma and tell her you love her.” he was so surprised. Next time when I called my mom, I took a deep breath, then said “我爱你，妈!” I felt weird, and my voice is a little louder than usual, I guess I was nervous and maybe subconsciously trying to make up the loses that so many years that I never say I love you to my mom. I don’t remember what she said but I remember there was a silence. I can imagine that was so foreign to her to hear those words first time from her daughter.
After that first time, I said “我爱你，妈” every time I called her. My son doesn't say “I love you mom.” anymore, and he always says “我爱你，妈.”
One summer my son stayed in China longer than I did. We talked often, and he usually ended our conversation with “I love you mom!”. One day he ended it with 我爱你，妈!” I was so thrilled and screaming “wow …”, he was puzzled “Mom, what happened?” I said, “You just said I love you in Chinese!"“Yes, I love you in Chinese is different? “he asked. “Yes, I feel it is so special!”I replied. “Why?” He was really intrigued. I said “Because Chinese usually don't say I love you, and almost never say I love you to their parents. ““Really? You never say I love you to grandma?” Nobody asked me this question before, I paused, then said “No, I don't think I ever did."“Wow, you should call grandma and tell her you love her.” he was so surprised. Next time when I called my mom, I took a deep breath, then said “我爱你，妈!” I felt weird, and my voice is a little louder than usual, I guess I was nervous and maybe subconsciously trying to make up the loses that so many years that I never say I love you to my mom. I don’t remember what she said but I remember there was a silence. I can imagine that was so foreign to her to hear those words first time from her daughter.
After that first time, I said “我爱你，妈” every time I called her. My son doesn't say “I love you mom.” anymore, and he always says “我爱你，妈.”
我曾写过一首诗，就写父亲从未拥抱过我，但我知道他很爱我
人总体来说，还是喜欢肌肤接触，听人说爱的吧，人的共性，咱们的文化，
压抑了这个，“授受不亲。。。