It is regrettable that we have to live in different country
20 years ago, my husband and I worked in Singapore, we are Singapore permanent resident, My husband worked as a mechanical engineer in a Japanese company. I worked in a private tuition center and teach Chinese. in 2003, SARS broke out, the companies closed. a lot of companies performance were impacted by SARS and closed in 2003. Due to the tuition center closed, some parents continue employing me to teach their children Chinese. My husband was unable to find a suitable job as economic crisis, so he went back to China and started a business. All beginnings are hard, I need to work hard to support my husband and also take care of my daughter. As a private Chinese tutor, as long as I work hard, I can earn more and can support all family. So I have been working in Singapore, and I also love Singapore. my husband has his own business in China, we both can’t give up our own business, therefor, we have to work and live in two countries. It is fortunate that we can see each other in China or in Singapore, only 2020 and 2021 we can’t meet as Covid 19 coronavirus.
Nobody is willing to lead this lifestyle if they have choice. Now the pandemic is over, we can see each other easily. And my husband made a decision, every year once he finishes his production task, he will come back to Singapore for family reunion. Every year two school holiday, I can go back to China to see my husband. After several years, my husband retired, he will live in Singapore with me, we will not separate anymore.
2023年7月25日 酷热
我没有金饰或黄金晒，就说个发生在我身上的金饰的故事。它是关于爱的故事。
那是发生在23年前的旧事，今天第一次说出来，心里还在隐隐作痛。那年我刚在新加坡买了房子，但是手续还没办完，我们全家就回国了。回国的时候，我把我认为贵重的物品都放在一个手提箱里。像我们的黑白结婚照、我的衣服、对我来说也算比较贵的，1500人民币一套，最主要的是我特别喜欢。还有我刚买的护肤品，不记得什么牌子，但是买护肤品的时候发生的事情至今记忆犹新。那个推销护肤品的年轻女子，反复游说，最后我决定买下。我告诉她我去提款机取钱，她怕我不买，就跟着我去取款机，最后看着我交了钱。后来想起这件事，我怎么有种被逼着买东西的感觉。
除此之外，箱子里还有我送给我丈夫的新的剃须刀，我丈夫和我女儿的衣服等，装了满满一箱。其中最贵重的东西是一套纯金首饰，有金项链、金戒指和金耳环。这套金饰意义不同，它是我丈夫第一次出国去瑞士培训时，每天省吃俭用，把公司发给他的补贴省下来，给我买了那套首饰。可是粗心的我下出租车后竟忘了拿手提箱，就这样那个装满了所有贵重物品的箱子还有那套珍贵而又有纪念意义的金饰，从此只能永远留在我的记忆中了。最遗憾的是我从来没有戴上它们拍一张照片。
那件事发生后，我丈夫一句责备我的话都没说，这让我更难受。戒指和耳环我从没有戴过一次，连同发票分别装在两个精致的小布袋里。那条金项链像钥匙链一样粗，我也很少戴，怕太显眼了。
一晃二十岁年过去了，从那以后我再也没有买过金饰。尽管以今天的收入，买这些东西不算什么，但是意义不同。因为我再也找不回当年我丈夫送给我这套金饰时那种感觉了。
我丈夫不是个浪漫的人，也从没说过像“我爱你”这样的甜言蜜语。记忆中他对我说过的最浪漫的话是“你是我身上的一个部件”，有时开玩笑，他对我说：“我这辈子只做了一件正确的事，就是娶了个好媳妇。”记得在我们的婚礼上，我丈夫当时把《我侬词》中的几句送给我“把一块泥，捏一个你，塑一个我， 将咱两个一起打破，用水调和， 再捏一个你，塑一个我，我泥中有你，你泥中有我。”
如今，年过六十的我们携手走过了37年，其中二十年我们分居在两个国家，个中的滋味真的是五味杂陈。尽管一路走来，历尽风风雨雨，然而我们依然陪伴着彼此，坚定地前行。谢谢他的爱，也感谢他的陪伴。人生路上与他同行，多了许多乐趣。
这是我们的结婚照，人工上的色，我更喜欢黑白的，更自然一些。
这张是这次我回国拍的，特别纪念我们60岁，开始人生的新阶段。
嘴上说啥不值钱，看的是行动。您俩都找对了人，幸福一生，祝贺，恭喜
他对自己除了买书很舍得花钱，（家里书柜里满满一柜子都是叔本华、康德的哲学书，他本科、研究生学的都是机械设计与制造。我跟他开玩笑说“你要当哲学家呀！”）别的方面都很节省。但是我的女婿女儿去年底买公寓，他一下就给了十万新币。
我丈夫不仅对家人兄弟们很大方，村子里谁家有红白喜事他一定会给人家随礼。村里有人遇到困难或生了重病，他也会给上几百块人民币，让他们买点吃的东西。去年村里有个人患了肺癌，他从微信上给转了三百块人民币，还常打电话询问病情，提些建议。为了帮他省点路费，我丈夫开车回村里看望他母亲，返回西安时会捎上他，并送他去医院。
我丈夫对他父母特别孝顺、细心。隔三差五打电话问候，每两星期回农村老家看望他们一次。几年前他父亲病逝了，现在只剩下他母亲，夏天热的时候，冬天冷的时候，他都会接他母亲来西安生活。
我一直让他买车，他不要。我被他的孝心感动了，三年前，我从新加坡汇给他一笔钱给他买了一辆车，方便他回家看望他的母亲或过节去看我的母亲，村民或我们双方亲戚有红白喜事，他需要回去。他除了有事或看望他母亲才开车，或者我回国带我出去玩，平时上、下班从不开车。这辆车一直放在车库里，我说了很多次，但他坚持上下班坐地铁巴士。
愿好人一生健康、平安！
我要是告诉他流坛有个集美貌与智慧于一身的大美女给他这么高的评价，我估计他今晚会激动得难以入眠，哈哈：））再次感谢您，也祝福您和家人健康、幸福、平安！
我丈夫出生在农村，父母都是地地道道的农民，但是他们却把三个儿子教育得很好，我挺羡慕他们的。尤其是我的丈夫很勤奋、爱读书，心地善良，孝顺父母，重情义，真是个好人。
祝福您和家人幸福长久，顺遂平安！
婚姻需要两个人一起努力经营，结婚37年来，我们俩都付出了很多常人无法忍受的事情。现在老了，希望以后的日子能顺顺利利的。祝福您婚姻美满幸福！
幸运的是结婚37年过去了，尽管生活给予了我们很大的考验，然而历尽磨难我们依然紧紧地牵着彼此的手。祝福您生活幸福！
人生的路上总会遇到各种各样的困难和挫折，但是有一个人能与我们一起面对，心里就不会有恐惧。我觉得自己很幸运有我丈夫这样一个好人，陪着我走过这么多年。
祝您婚姻美满、幸福甜蜜！
Very touched. But why not move together? what's more important than spending time together with your spouse?
祝福您生活幸福，婚姻美满。
我自己还是更喜欢照相馆拍的那张黑白照片，更自然一些。
祝您婚姻美满，幸福快乐！
20 years ago, my husband and I worked in Singapore, we are Singapore permanent resident, My husband worked as a mechanical engineer in a Japanese company. I worked in a private tuition center and teach Chinese. in 2003, SARS broke out, the companies closed. a lot of companies performance were impacted by SARS and closed in 2003. Due to the tuition center closed, some parents continue employing me to teach their children Chinese. My husband was unable to find a suitable job as economic crisis, so he went back to China and started a business. All beginnings are hard, I need to work hard to support my husband and also take care of my daughter. As a private Chinese tutor, as long as I work hard, I can earn more and can support all family. So I have been working in Singapore, and I also love Singapore. my husband has his own business in China, we both can’t give up our own business, therefor, we have to work and live in two countries. It is fortunate that we can see each other in China or in Singapore, only 2020 and 2021 we can’t meet as Covid 19 coronavirus.
Nobody is willing to lead this lifestyle if they have choice. Now the pandemic is over, we can see each other easily. And my husband made a decision, every year once he finishes his production task, he will come back to Singapore for family reunion. Every year two school holiday, I can go back to China to see my husband. After several years, my husband retired, he will live in Singapore with me, we will not separate anymore.
I look forward to seeing the day.
Thanks and Best wishes to you and your family
have a pleasant day!
祝福你们永远幸福恩爱！
我们过去错过了太多在一起的时光，今后要向你们学习，多安排二人行。
我们俩能走到今天非常不容易，双方都付出了很多心血。希望今后的日子顺顺利利的。
祝你们夫妇婚姻幸福美满，恩爱如初。