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Appearance is a big thing in teens and young adults. When my son had a haircut which was only very slightly shorter than "perfect" on one tiny spot, he refused to take a formal picture which will show on school's yearbook. We had to cancel appointment(heavy fine) at a photo studio and wait for another 3 weeks.
Agree with Adazheng, if his disrespecfulness toward you or both parents is a pattern, then you need to check seriously your relationship with him, and set bottom lines and stick with them.
With one teen in my household, i would like to share that teens don't always mean or understand what they say or do. Most of times, thay are driven by surging hormone and emotions, often regret late. Seeing a counselor can help a lot. They can release nagative feelings safely, learn skills to manage nagative feelings, and keep mentally and emotionally healthy.
My hu*****and often uses this phrase if he feels awkward or traffic is bad, it doesn't mean he's mad at me or being rude. I know.
To those who are native English speakers in U.S, SOB really doesn't count as cursing or swearing. It's just an expression of emotions. So take it easy.
I wouldn't be mad even if my child occasionally uses F word, if it doesn't point directly to anyone. Who doesn't use it anyway?
真是太气太失望了。
晚上我给十七岁的儿子剪头。因为光线不好，我说：明天白天个别地方可能要修一修。他好不高兴，说我还要浪费他的时间（今晚是他要求剪的）。于是让他稍低点头也不听，让他侧向灯光也报怨。我火了:你到底剪不剪，不剪就算了! 他大声骂道："给我剪！sun of a *****." 我气的冲了出去。。。
真想断了他上大学的费用，养这样的孩子就是失败。
你娃是过线了，曾经也看到听到很多， 成人懂事后就会理解。
就事论事，以后也不用剪头，在外面剪， 好坏他自己负责。
又不是7岁。
真的，老中有时候真的是太省了。这么大的男孩，他说要剪头发，带他去理发店，挑个他觉得时髦的发型，省时省力，也不会剪出来被同学偷偷笑话。
那句骂人的话，也是平时家长没威信，时常给他没大没小，所以他才骂了试探的。好失败啊。
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这次CURSING是孤立事件吗？还是他一向这样UNRESPECTFUL。
如果是孤立事件，可以告诉他下不为例。这个年龄段孩子偶尔爆燥一下不是罕见的。
如果不是，应该检讨一下你们的关系。。。
我一女同事，当年她和她青春期的儿子发生口角，孩子拳头捏紧了，差点向妈妈打去，当时她劳工把孩子控制住才没有发生。。现在母子关系很正常，儿子是GEOLOGIST。
看来刚叛逆开始，没什么可受不了的。我们家的刚12岁就不要我剪了。
养了儿子就应该锻炼自己的承受力。
同时也培养了孩子的calm的性格，急躁冲动，对将来都没有帮助。
when you are emotional.
when you are emotional.
Appearance is a big thing in teens and young adults. When my son had a haircut which was only very slightly shorter than "perfect" on one tiny spot, he refused to take a formal picture which will show on school's yearbook. We had to cancel appointment(heavy fine) at a photo studio and wait for another 3 weeks.
Agree with Adazheng, if his disrespecfulness toward you or both parents is a pattern, then you need to check seriously your relationship with him, and set bottom lines and stick with them.
With one teen in my household, i would like to share that teens don't always mean or understand what they say or do. Most of times, thay are driven by surging hormone and emotions, often regret late. Seeing a counselor can help a lot. They can release nagative feelings safely, learn skills to manage nagative feelings, and keep mentally and emotionally healthy.
blackmatter过去发过的热帖：我想你平时也惯孩子！
如果平时与儿子交流温文理性，应该不至于让他养成这样的习惯
记住，要让孩子不冲动，首先要给孩子做出榜样，如何在遇到不满，生气时理性地处理问题,有效地说服他人。
与孩子约个时间好好谈谈，告诉他，他这样讲话，父母很生气也很震惊。父母希望你今后无论对谁都不要一点小事就出口不逊，这样太伤人，伤感情，会阻挡你进步。
再要帮助他分析一下，这种话是从谁那里学来的，是什么因数导致。帮他好好反思，改正。
老公的更是在理发店理，也很满意。花不了多少钱，大家都开心！17岁正是需要外界肯定的时候，包括主意外表。不过如果楼主手艺比理发店好或者儿子就是喜欢老妈的手艺除外。。。
My hu*****and often uses this phrase if he feels awkward or traffic is bad, it doesn't mean he's mad at me or being rude. I know.
To those who are native English speakers in U.S, SOB really doesn't count as cursing or swearing. It's just an expression of emotions. So take it easy.
I wouldn't be mad even if my child occasionally uses F word, if it doesn't point directly to anyone. Who doesn't use it anyway?
偶尔剪的不太好看人家也无所谓。有多少公司高管就剃个小平头的，跟时髦半毛钱的关系也没有，也没见被谁笑话，照样自信。
这孩子真要好好教育，太没家教没涵养，这么点小事就急了，别说跟父母，就算跟平辈的人也不能骂人啊。
就是孩子
好没教养！！！
他是指著你的鼻子說嗎? 如果不是, 可能只是發洩一下情緒, 並不是真的罵你. 不過在父母面前說粗話也是很不恰當的.
十七岁的儿子, 受到美国教育, 家中有如此典型的中国妈妈, 他不性格分裂就不错了...他能让你给他理发, 要多大的耐心啊! 他在同学面前不自卑吗? 多么好的, 伟大的儿子... 俺家的早都要去super Clip or Sports Clip. 而且最好是MVP service.
快点让孩子溶如他周围的生活方式吧...
爱不是单向的付出，做父母的一定要让孩子从懂事起就学会感激，有意向孩子要求爱的回报。
俺上学时宿舍同学没钱，给大家剃头练了技术，现在给孩子们理发自己给自己理发，帮LP烫头都干了。孩子态度好，可以伺候，不好，拿自己零花钱剃头吧。
你儿子很正常. 这个年纪,你不能要求他象四五十岁的过来人.
我年青是跟大多数男孩一样年少气盛.不时惹母亲生气. 等到自己有了小孩, 经历过人生的坎坷,到后来自然能体会到父母恩重如山.
儿子年青的时候不懂事. 做父母的何必跟自己的骨肉计较.
我儿子两岁开始就在外面理发店剪了。你这么抠，连剪头发的钱都舍不得给他花，而且肯定给他剪得很难看，小孩子不生闷气才奇怪呢！也是逼急了，冒出一句粗话来而已，值得大惊小怪吗？最讨厌动不动就掩面奔出的女人。如果是正而八经想骂你，应该是骂你BITCH才对，现在骂SOB，可见是随口一句粗话。另外你为了这么一句话，还说想停了他大学学费，可见是多么抠和注重钱的人，小孩是你的，给他付钱上大学，照顾他是你一生的责任，如果你真正爱着自己的小孩，根本不会去计较这种事！