娃： I got an appointment (是和psychiatrist的) 妈： Great!! Do you mind I also join and listen? 娃： Can you? xxth, Xpm 妈： I think I can join as long as you forward me the meeting link, time is fine. 娃： Do you have questions? 妈： 不知你的状况是什么程度，需不需要休学一年调整一下？或减少一些课程减轻压力？ 娃： I might end up dropping a course and going down to 13 credits this semester 娃： I don't want to go on a leave of absence though 妈： 就是说，你的状况跟压力有关吗？还是别的跟压力不相关的原因？ 娃： I guess it is 妈： Dropping a class is good if you can, just go ahead and request it. 娃： It's slightly related to stress, but i think it's more related to weather 妈： you can drop more if you like, make sure start with the amount that you can handle 娃： If i drop more i won't be considered a full time student 妈： Ok 娃： There's just one class that I haven't been going to in a while and it's making me really anxious 妈： 已经开始一个月了，可以drop吧？ 尽快跟学校联系 娃： I think so, I don't think the drop deadline is passed 妈： Great!! 娃： It's not really necessary so I wouldn't mind dropping it 妈： Is that for the minor? Do you want to just focus on one major, instead of double+minor? 娃： I'm already halfway through and I have a lot of time 娃： I'm also pretty ahead in terms of coursework, I count as a junior because I've taken so many credits 妈： Ok, just make sure you don't have too much pressure. You decide. Let us know if anything we can help. 娃： Ok 妈： By the way, there's another website for you to look for therapist, psychologytoday.com,上面不少你那个城市的 娃： Ok
这是刚刚的聊天记录：
娃： I got an appointment (是和psychiatrist的)
妈： Great!! Do you mind I also join and listen?
娃： Can you? xxth, Xpm
妈： I think I can join as long as you forward me the meeting link, time is fine.
娃： Do you have questions?
妈： 不知你的状况是什么程度，需不需要休学一年调整一下？或减少一些课程减轻压力？
娃： I might end up dropping a course and going down to 13 credits this semester
娃： I don't want to go on a leave of absence though
妈： 就是说，你的状况跟压力有关吗？还是别的跟压力不相关的原因？
娃： I guess it is
妈： Dropping a class is good if you can, just go ahead and request it.
娃： It's slightly related to stress, but i think it's more related to weather
妈： you can drop more if you like, make sure start with the amount that you can handle
娃： If i drop more i won't be considered a full time student
妈： Ok
娃： There's just one class that I haven't been going to in a while and it's making me really anxious
妈： 已经开始一个月了，可以drop吧？ 尽快跟学校联系
娃： I think so, I don't think the drop deadline is passed
妈： Great!!
娃： It's not really necessary so I wouldn't mind dropping it
妈： Is that for the minor? Do you want to just focus on one major, instead of double+minor?
娃： I'm already halfway through and I have a lot of time
娃： I'm also pretty ahead in terms of coursework, I count as a junior because I've taken so many credits
妈： Ok, just make sure you don't have too much pressure. You decide. Let us know if anything we can help.
娃： Ok
妈： By the way, there's another website for you to look for therapist, psychologytoday.com,上面不少你那个城市的
娃： Ok
非常感谢大家的讨论，还有在悄悄话里留言的朋友。让我开阔了思路，镇定了许多。这条路很长，我愿意尽我所能帮助娃度过人生路上的沟沟坎坎，等待她成熟的那一天。
祝大家龙年好运！！！
因为熊娃平时就是个欢喜团子，天塌下来有高个子顶的那种性格，大学期间每个winter quarter她都会有down time，前阵子也跟我说抑郁了，压力太大这些。
让娃查一下体内矿质元素是否有缺
心情就会好很多。
以前我跟我妈吵也归吵，但是后来发现还只有妈妈可以倾诉。虽然她的话有时候刺耳，但是事后我都发现她说的蛮对的。
祝福！
有的孩子就是自己太焦虑，一紧张就无法合理安排时间考试没考好就更紧张，有的就会不去上学自欺欺人混一天算一天。你得多跟孩子交流，让她知道不用怕。当妈的不容易，希望一切都越来越好