They may not interested in getting into the most selective schools. It's not everyone's best choice of life. As a parent I don't want to micromanage my children's life paths. They could just be kids when they're kids, go out socializing with other teens. They can start dating and finding a job in the store or restaurant. If they want to study hard, it's fine too. But I'm not going to force them to apply to those exclusive colleges and manipulate it like in a science lab. Parents are going overboard sometimes, like molding kids to be the continuation of their own dreamed lives. Dads want to make their sons into football stars, daughters into tennis champions, etc... It can't be healthy for the kids. They might be successful on the surface, but feel different inside. Because they are not in control of their own lives and not have the real motivation to do all that parents ask them to do. One day or another it'll be a problem. If kids really feel it's what they want to do, they're the success of the experiment. But most time the pressure put on the teens' brains backfire in later life. They don't feel they have the ownership of the success they are awarded. It feels thrust on them by others, their parents and teachers. Then there might be depression, burnout. One day or another, people need to find the true meaning of life by themselves, not given by others. Whatever that meaning is, it doesn't need to be money or fame, or popularity. It's definitely not gonna be going to ivy league schools.
看到好些孩子被自己的梦校录取，还有的孩子横扫几所藤校。真心地祝贺这些孩子和他们的父母。同时也感觉到后生可畏，前途无量。
其实，爬藤的意义，并不在于藤本身的这件事，藤对于事业的前10年有帮助，到10年以后，这个文凭福利就基本殆尽，而是真的要看人格魅力，工作能力还有为人处世能力了。
爬藤的最大的意义就是在于爬藤的过程。孩子要把自己的学业完成得很好，还有有各种 或者体育竞赛，或者艺术竞赛，义工， 领导船的但凡可以加分的地方，都要兢兢业业的弄好。末了，还要把自己的各个方面的成绩，费劲脑汁的按照各大学校喜好编排好，虽然有COUNCILOR的帮助，可期间肯定有很多来回和修改。这在我看来是一个庞大的工程，耗时持久，努力的时间可能要超过十年。可是，这些优秀的孩子做到了，并且成功了。对孩子的人生，是多么宝贵的一个经历。 在这个阶段，让藤校录取自己，就是现阶段的目标。孩子做到了，这就是胜利，就是大大的胜利。
从录取的结果来看，还是努力的孩子有好的结果。一个在12年级还每天只学习一两个小时，每天还有时间打游击的孩子如果真能横扫TOP5的话，那对其他的努力的孩子多么地不公。我14岁的孩子为了可以保证学习成绩同时又保证球队每周6次的训练，把周末网上和朋友打游戏的时间自己主动地砍了。 现在每天就是学习，训练，练MUSCLE，在爸爸送训练的途中车上打个盹。我希望这么懂事孩子在三年后可以随心所愿，上他喜欢的学校和专业。
和愚公移山是一样的， 不能用性价比来计算
https://www.hio.harvard.edu/statistics
AO knows that
而是培养了多少总统议员。
How many varsity letters have your D got so far?
娃自己也想去T5。最后结果NYU
They may not interested in getting into the most selective schools. It's not everyone's best choice of life. As a parent I don't want to micromanage my children's life paths. They could just be kids when they're kids, go out socializing with other teens. They can start dating and finding a job in the store or restaurant. If they want to study hard, it's fine too. But I'm not going to force them to apply to those exclusive colleges and manipulate it like in a science lab. Parents are going overboard sometimes, like molding kids to be the continuation of their own dreamed lives. Dads want to make their sons into football stars, daughters into tennis champions, etc... It can't be healthy for the kids. They might be successful on the surface, but feel different inside. Because they are not in control of their own lives and not have the real motivation to do all that parents ask them to do. One day or another it'll be a problem. If kids really feel it's what they want to do, they're the success of the experiment. But most time the pressure put on the teens' brains backfire in later life. They don't feel they have the ownership of the success they are awarded. It feels thrust on them by others, their parents and teachers. Then there might be depression, burnout. One day or another, people need to find the true meaning of life by themselves, not given by others. Whatever that meaning is, it doesn't need to be money or fame, or popularity. It's definitely not gonna be going to ivy league schools.