As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is AUTHENTICITY.
As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody as I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it RESPECT.
As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it MATURITY.
As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment, so I could be calm. Today I call it SELF-CONFIDENCE.
As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it SIMPLICITY.
As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is LOVE OF ONESELF.
As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worry about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it FULFILLMENT.
As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But As I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection WISDOM OF THE HEART.
We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know THAT IS LIFE!
这个排名后面提到Intelligence Capital Index, 美国排名第一，甩第二名英国一大截，这个排名是怎么算的？
Countries with the Highest Intelligence Capital Index - 2017: United States - 74.88 (A+) United Kingdom - 64.19 (A) Germany - 64.18 (A) Australia - 63.96 (A) Singapore - 63.60 (A) Sweden - 61.58 (A) Switzerland - 61.57 (A) Canada - 61.15 (A) Finland - 60.45 (A) Denmark - 60.25 (A)
https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/average-iq-by-country
日本，台湾，南韩，是前几名，犹太的以色列竟然不到100，这是被住在里面的阿拉伯拖了后腿吗？
南韩北韩同一个人种，为什么政治制度不同，竟然智商差别也会这么大。
洗脑会洗成傻瓜？
而其它国家（如加拿大）是全国随机抽样
回望里海国----台湾、香港、海外华人。。。。还不够明显么？
倒是很一致
创造力需要的最基本的是一个良好好的体系he有效的分工合作关系，是多维系统。智商，是个体拿张纸做题得出的平面结果。
而台湾人是中国人血统。硬件一样，但是比中国高两个百分点，可见文化对智商有一定影响。
怪不得日本的文学，电影，漫画，都那么好看。而且非常有回味。
《当我真正开始爱自己》
As I Began to Love Myself
当我真正开始爱自己
As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is AUTHENTICITY.
当我真正开始爱自己，我才意识到，所有的痛苦和情感的折磨，仅仅是在提醒，我的生活背离了真实的自己。今日，我明白，这叫做「真实」。
As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody as I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it RESPECT.
当我真正开始爱自己，我才懂得，当我将自己的意愿强加于人时，是多么的冒犯无礼，即使那时我知晓时机尚未成熟，那个人也并未做好准备，即便那个人就是我自己。今日我明白这叫做「尊重」。
As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it MATURITY.
当我开始真正爱自己，我不再苛求不一样的人生，我明白任何发生在我身边的事，都是对我成长的邀约。而今，我称之为「成熟」。
As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment, so I could be calm. Today I call it SELF-CONFIDENCE.
当我开始真正爱自己，我才明白在任何情况下，我其实一直处于恰好的时机、恰好的地方，而每件事的发生也都恰如其分。由此，我得以平静。今日，我称其为「自信」。
As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it SIMPLICITY.
当我开始真正爱自己，我不再挥霍自己生命和时间，不再去擘画波澜壮阔的未来。今天的我，只做能为我带来喜悦和幸福的事，做那些我所热爱，且能鼓舞我心的事情，用我特有的方式，按照我自己的节奏。今日我知晓这叫做「简单」。
As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is LOVE OF ONESELF.
当我开始真正爱自己，我开始远离所有不健康的东西，不论是饮食、人物、事情亦或环境，远离拖累我、让我背离了真实自我的一切。从前的我称呼这为“有益健康的利己主义”。今天我知道，这其实是「自爱」。
As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is MODESTY.
当我开始真正爱自己，我不再总想做到永远正确，从那时起，我犯错的时候反而更少了。现在我发现那就是「谦逊」。
As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worry about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it FULFILLMENT.
当我开始真正爱自己，我不再继续沉溺于过去，也不再为明天而忧虑。如今，我只活在这一切正在发生的当下。今天，我活在此时此地，如此日复一日，而我称这为「圆满」。
As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But As I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection WISDOM OF THE HEART.
当我真正开始爱自己，我明白，我的思虑扰乱了自我，使我变得了无生趣。但当我与本心相连，心灵的力量就成为了我坚实的后盾。今日我称这种连结为「心灵的智慧」。
We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know THAT IS LIFE!
我们无需再害怕生命中的争论、冲突，或是任何出现在与我们自己或与其他人之间的问题。因为即使是星星也会有碰撞在一起的时候，而从它们的撞击中，新的世界将会诞生。今天我知道，这，就是「生命」！
开LGBTQ研讨会，请来几个也说不上啥性别的，布拉布拉一通，我刚好坐第一排，完了互动环节，刚到问到我的看法，我说理解也接受，人怒了，说我态度不端正，应该为他们欢呼雀跃（celebrate），我没接茬儿，心里想，滚你个蛋吧。
宇宙中，认认真真观察人类、观察各个群体；当然，除了认真，还有顶真，理解成恶毒也不妨……
另外我研究的不是一个人的心理，最主要的是研究一个文化群体的行为特征，平庸之恶无处不在，斯德哥尔摩综合征同样存在于虚拟网络之中，这点非常有意思，即便大家都在呼喊“鸡蛋”“灵魂”……
好了，1月7日我留言说过会离开回家的，现在差不多了，回家写自己的了，只写一个“个案”……
（放心，我会随时回来飞小刀的……）
你和小丸子不错，能够经得住各路人马过来的挑战，一定要沉得住气，温和对待，或者装糊涂……（其实我也做不好）
天时，地利，人和，都在成就上有巨大作用。
同样在美国，生活在1800和生活在2022，同样的智商成就必然不同，这是天时。
我记得有人说过，同样的智商，他如果生活在尼泊尔，同生活在美国，成就必然不同，因为成就是必须建立在别人的成果之上。
这是地利
人和，这就不用说了。人离乡贱，物离乡贵。单打独斗的再高的智商也斗不过阿斗。
黑人啊，可是他的学生没有一个黑人，Ben Carson 在那样的文化里没被做为榜样，智商是没法提高的。
记得你刚开始叫我版主试探我，我让你叫小丸子，我追着发暗恋明恋帖子，你说没兴致，我说没关系，那就灌水，潜水看热闹就行了。
经过这段时间，我想你应该能证实了，我是不是做到没把自己当根葱，是不是能己所不欲，勿施于人。
我确实乐于做小丸子，对于我个人的挑战，我基本是忽视的，但对于论坛群体的福祉和权益，我有时候不得不做“主”。
现在还是一样，你想来玩耍随时恭候，想躲自己小屋歇息一下，也尊重。
狂！
Countries with the Highest Intelligence Capital Index - 2017: United States - 74.88 (A+) United Kingdom - 64.19 (A) Germany - 64.18 (A) Australia - 63.96 (A) Singapore - 63.60 (A) Sweden - 61.58 (A) Switzerland - 61.57 (A) Canada - 61.15 (A) Finland - 60.45 (A) Denmark - 60.25 (A)