Gaslighting is psychological manipulation that makes the recipient question their feelings, instincts, and even their sanity. It is one of the worst forms of dirty fighting, and it is used by both men and women. Gaslighting includes a variety of techniques, such as:
Pretending not to understand when you do. Labeling your partner’s thoughts as crazy or imagined. Questioning the other person’s memory of events when they remember correctly. Pretending to forget what actually occurred when you actually remember. Denying promises that you know you made. Trivializing the other person’s feelings as being too sensitive when their reaction is somewhat normal. Effects of Gaslighting
While these actions may seem relatively harmless, over time, this pattern causes the targeted person to feel confused, anxious, isolated, and depressed. In other words, it hurts them. Harming another’s sense of wellbeing, like happens with gaslighting, is emotional abuse.
李学霸用了一个词煤气灯效应，当时不知啥意思，原来是gaslighting, 是从一个英格丽褒曼的老电影Gaslight 来的。电影讲继承大笔遗产的少女宝拉（英格丽褒曼 饰）引来心术不正的青年安东追求，婚后逐渐受到古怪现象困扰，她总会听到奇怪的响声，东西经常莫名其妙消失又出现，煤气灯也开始忽明忽暗，安东暗示一切都是宝拉自己的幻觉，是宝拉的精神出现了问题。就在宝拉慢慢心理崩溃，濒临发疯的边缘，一个年轻的侦探伯林出现了，他发现宝拉正在被孤立，背后的主谋正是她的完美丈夫。
What is Gaslighting?Gaslighting is psychological manipulation that makes the recipient question their feelings, instincts, and even their sanity. It is one of the worst forms of dirty fighting, and it is used by both men and women. Gaslighting includes a variety of techniques, such as:
Pretending not to understand when you do. Labeling your partner’s thoughts as crazy or imagined. Questioning the other person’s memory of events when they remember correctly. Pretending to forget what actually occurred when you actually remember. Denying promises that you know you made. Trivializing the other person’s feelings as being too sensitive when their reaction is somewhat normal. Effects of GaslightingWhile these actions may seem relatively harmless, over time, this pattern causes the targeted person to feel confused, anxious, isolated, and depressed. In other words, it hurts them. Harming another’s sense of wellbeing, like happens with gaslighting, is emotional abuse.
我记得年轻时有date 过一个人，各方面都不错，就是对我的一举一动都是否定，我自认虽不特别优秀，也没差到哪去，和他刚了几次，他稍有收敛，可是还是一直阴阳怪气，和他在一起非常不舒服，就把他踹了，不知道这是不是gaslighting.
好奇谁有过类似gaslighting的经历吗？
人设，我的理解就是社交媒体上对自己的人物设计，很可能和实际上有很大差别
两人关系，实在太复杂了
而且人设都会对应于自己内在的道德期望。公众人物正面的人设就会和主流价值观契合，标准会高于一般人设，也不一定是圣人。
如果真有律师团队，那这个团队也太差劲了。不说前期的估计不足，后来李爆料了居然让老父亲出面，应对的主调完全不符合主流意识。太不专业了。
要么只是老婆和自己老公抱怨抱怨，这老公何必和外人说，
要么真是gaslighting, 实在受不了了，要vent
可是和同事尤其是异性同事vent夫妻之间的事，还是不appropriate
我是讨论方法，不是针对人的对错评价。
她非常优秀，但是他老公一直喜欢打击她，从容貌体型，到职业智商，一直非常negative，让她怀疑自己不自信，还美其名曰“帮助她进步”。
估计如果家里人朋友啥的也有gaslighting的，估计我会没那么自信，被他牵着鼻子走
这个男的本身家庭，教育，职业也很优秀的，长得也很帅。但是我第一次见到他，就觉得他们之间的关系不太对头。 她怕他
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by way of your reaction. At the same time, his inadequacy in your mind, if any, gets diluted by his acknowledgement (via his wife.)
If gaslighting, in its broader sense, is to alter your perception without your realizing it, this one can be counted as such.