“There is significant work required to maintain a well functioning household, some of it is explicit (e.g., housekeeping chores), but most of it invisible or articulation work. While the differences between home and office are pronounced, many of the underlying collaborative mechanisms that support work in each domain are similar. Production in the home is of a significantly smaller scale, but of increased complexity from the office. With stronger individual interests, less defined organizational structure, and a web of intermeshed, often conflicting goals, collective action in the home is a continual compromise resulting from a dynamic, negotiated order. While home life necessitates its own activities, it is also the confluence of many external forces, such as work, school, community, and avocation.”
【 在 attractive (attractive) 的大作中提到: 】 : 有很多人对外人和对家人是截然不同的态度。认为家人不需要尊重。有的父母对孩子想 : 打就打，想骂就骂。有的男人对老婆也是这样。在过去那些女人在经济和社会地位上都 : 完全依赖男人，子女依靠父母遗产和帮助的时代，这些行的通。可是现在时代变了，处 : 理家庭关系的方式也要变。 : “There is significant work required to maintain a well functioning : household, some of it is explicit (e.g., housekeeping chores), but most of : it invisible or articulation work. While the differences between home and : office are pronounced, many of the underlying collaborative mechanisms that : support work in each domain are similar. Production in the home is of a : significantly smaller scale, but of increased complexity from the office. : ...................
有很多人对外人和对家人是截然不同的态度。认为家人不需要尊重。有的父母对孩子想打就打，想骂就骂。有的男人对老婆也是这样。在过去那些女人在经济和社会地位上都完全依赖男人，子女依靠父母遗产和帮助的时代，这些行的通。可是现在时代变了，处理家庭关系的方式也要变。
“There is significant work required to maintain a well functioning
household, some of it is explicit (e.g., housekeeping chores), but most of
it invisible or articulation work. While the differences between home and
office are pronounced, many of the underlying collaborative mechanisms that support work in each domain are similar. Production in the home is of a
significantly smaller scale, but of increased complexity from the office.
With stronger individual interests, less defined organizational structure,
and a web of intermeshed, often conflicting goals, collective action in the home is a continual compromise resulting from a dynamic, negotiated order.
While home life necessitates its own activities, it is also the confluence
of many external forces, such as work, school, community, and avocation.”
家人是最需要尊重的，给与家人的尊重要多于常人。
有的你看起来不够尊重，只不过大家都太熟了。比如夫妻，不太拘泥于形式而已。
【 在 attractive (attractive) 的大作中提到: 】
: 有很多人对外人和对家人是截然不同的态度。认为家人不需要尊重。有的父母对孩子想
: 打就打，想骂就骂。有的男人对老婆也是这样。在过去那些女人在经济和社会地位上都
: 完全依赖男人，子女依靠父母遗产和帮助的时代，这些行的通。可是现在时代变了，处
: 理家庭关系的方式也要变。
: “There is significant work required to maintain a well functioning
: household, some of it is explicit (e.g., housekeeping chores), but most of
: it invisible or articulation work. While the differences between home and : office are pronounced, many of the underlying collaborative mechanisms
that
: support work in each domain are similar. Production in the home is of a
: significantly smaller scale, but of increased complexity from the office. : ...................
【 在 wangmaggie12 (小麦琪) 的大作中提到: 】
: 家人是最需要尊重的，给与家人的尊重要多于常人。
: 有的你看起来不够尊重，只不过大家都太熟了。比如夫妻，不太拘泥于形式而已。
: that
我也常常想，为什么一个人在家庭之外运用的各种skills，面对工作和友人的时候能够运用的各种skills,到了家庭内部就会垮塌？人们都说，那是因为到了家庭内部就需要
放松啊，对自己家人还那么拿着捏着端着，多累啊。可是对家庭内部的人，我们的期望值比对老板和朋友可要高得多得多了。我们希望家人友善、包容、具有同情心、理解力、听话、奉献。还要始终如一。
于是，我们大家一起用整体下降的social skills，去完成一个整体上升的
expectations。确实是一个非常有趣的理想。LOL.
家庭和社会有太多不一样的地方。在家庭适用的SKILL，在社会上不适用。在社会上适
用的，在家里或者不需要。
家庭更多的是靠血缘和共同利益ＢＯＮＤＥＤ
特别是夫妻之间，那种技巧，在社会当中万万不可用。不过，表示尊重，却是共同的。有时，比如孩子小的时候问的很多问题，很能体现两者之间的不同。
【 在 tele9999 (小乐即安) 的大作中提到: 】
: 我也常常想，为什么一个人在家庭之外运用的各种skills，面对工作和友人的时候能够
: 运用的各种skills,到了家庭内部就会垮塌？人们都说，那是因为到了家庭内部就需要
: 放松啊，对自己家人还那么拿着捏着端着，多累啊。可是对家庭内部的人，我们的期望
: 值比对老板和朋友可要高得多得多了。我们希望家人友善、包容、具有同情心、理解力
: 、听话、奉献。还要始终如一。
: 于是，我们大家一起用整体下降的social skills，去完成一个整体上升的
: expectations。确实是一个非常有趣的理想。LOL.