The Golden Rule says "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you." While on the surface that could mean to do for them what you would like to have done for you. I think the more essential meaning is to understand them deeply as individuals, the way you would want to be understood, and then to treat them in terms of that understanding. As one successful parent said about raising children, "Treat them all the same by treating them differently."
why add that on purpose a ? are you afraid i am going to ruin red's relationship? hehe .... anyhow, i think a lot of things i do probably do not apply to other people... normally, if I am interested, i will let him know, and also i will let him know i wont wait... yes, or no. that's it..... i actually dont use this a lot, hehe , as mostly the other party already made the move....
why add that on purpose a ? are you afraid i am going to ruin red's relationship? hehe .... anyhow, i think a lot of things i do probably do not apply to other people... normally, if I am interested, i will let him know, and also i will let him know i wont wait... yes, or no. that's it..... i actually dont use this a lot, hehe , as mostly the other party already made the move....
i did a quick lunch shopping, the guy at the checkout, as he swiped my card, told me in plain Chinese, he lived in Zuzhou, and my total was 40 kuai , XX mao.... and complained his girl friend would not take his name ..(the preferred customer card shows my zt's last name, so he thought i took his name)........
why add that on purpose a ? are you afraid i am going to ruin red's relationship? hehe .... anyhow, i think a lot of things i do probably do not apply to other people... normally, if I am interested, i will let him know, and also i will let him know i wont wait... yes, or no. that's it..... i actually dont use this a lot, hehe , as mostly the other party already made the move.... nono, i want to say something about it but i am sure that you already understand. so what i said was actually just for red's benefit. highlight的话有技术含量，会不会吓到人？
hehe , that's what i do. life is short, i am not going to waste it.... normally they will cong le.... if they don't, i will find a way to force them cong le ......
以下是引用emptyempty在9/13/2010 12:43:00 PM的发言： i did a quick lunch shopping, the guy at the checkout, as he swiped my card, told me in plain Chinese, he lived in Zuzhou, and my total was 40 kuai , XX mao.... and complained his girl friend would not take his name ..(the preferred customer card shows my zt's last name, so he thought i took his name)........ 老白？or ABC?
nono, i want to say something about it but i am sure that you already understand. so what i said was actually just for red's benefit. highlight的话有技术含量，会不会吓到人？
if a guy is easily intimated by that, then he is not the one i want... hehhe... do not underestimate man, you ask for more, they normally can give more....
hehe , that's what i do. life is short, i am not going to waste it.... normally they will cong le.... if they don't, i will find a way to force them cong le ......
if a guy is easily intimated by that, then he is not the one i want... hehhe... do not underestimate man, you ask for more, they normally can give more.... 说得好！
why add that on purpose a ? are you afraid i am going to ruin red's relationship? hehe .... anyhow, i think a lot of things i do probably do not apply to other people... normally, if I am interested, i will let him know, and also i will let him know i wont wait... yes, or no. that's it..... i actually dont use this a lot, hehe , as mostly the other party already made the move.... hehe, 你就直说，'俺稀饭你，你从不从？俺可没时间等。' ？？？
hehe , that's what i do. life is short, i am not going to waste it.... normally they will cong le.... if they don't, i will find a way to force them cong le ......
i actually prefer ur way, partially because i don't know a squad about indirect ways. and i don't like to waste time for reasons other than myself just, how to force them to cong ah?
可能咱们对操纵的定义不同。 我觉得号召力强，能inspire别人，是很好的能力。但是我不喜欢用手段操纵别人。一般来说，被操纵的人过后都会觉得不对劲的。而被激励的人却是发自内心的，是自愿的。
我觉得这个年龄的孩子，还是更多地受本能的驱使，还没有意识到inspire的效果。但是会很快的。比如一个孩子想让别的孩子和她一起玩某个游戏，如何实现呢？恐吓威胁就是低级手段，有效的inspire就是高级手段。
http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?boardid=331&topicid=798120&page=1&star=230
惊！
哪里来的理论？
我琢么着是三国，准备也跟我女儿讲讲看看效果。说起来，咱们传统文化这些套路那不都是现成的么。看看老毛使用地多熟练！
我觉得这个年龄的孩子，还是更多地受本能的驱使，还没有意识到inspire的效果。但是会很快的。比如一个孩子想让别的孩子和她一起玩某个游戏，如何实现呢？恐吓威胁就是低级手段，有效的inspire就是高级手段。
厉害阿
我琢么着是三国，准备也跟我女儿讲讲看看效果。说起来，咱们传统文化这些套路那不都是现成的么。看看老毛使用地多熟练！
三国我也听了，都没总结出什么理论。汗一个。
wei hu shi jie hu ping~
嘿嘿，你说黑话。
三国我也听了，都没总结出什么理论。汗一个。
赫赫，刘备如何搞到荆州的？老毛如何占上井冈山的？
envy~
是啊，这个特别让我感慨，觉得学校里那些BULLY别人的孩子都是没有受到好的引导。
order kindle 3g小白了
你也加入ereader一族了
我觉得能不能给小朋友讲每个事情为什么要做？会有用么？
比如“你怕不怕poopoo好久都不出来pp疼？多吃点蔬菜poopoo就一眨眼就好了”
小孩能把事情前因后果联系起来吗？
赫赫，刘备如何搞到荆州的？老毛如何占上井冈山的？
不知道。
不关心。
是啊，这个特别让我感慨，觉得学校里那些BULLY别人的孩子都是没有受到好的引导。
Desparate housewives 讲Eddie 杀女孩子那一集说的就是, Monsters are created by another monster.
小孩能把事情前因后果联系起来吗？
当然啦。小朋友很聪明的。
顺便汇报上次对付小霸王的结果：小霸王的socisl技巧提高得忒快了！
刚到，三个小朋友就等着她一起开饭，小霸王高兴地叫女儿做她旁边。女儿刚睡醒，没食欲，说不吃。小霸王利马恐吓说，那就没有你的饭吃了。女儿当即哭了。我心想，明明是我们先说不吃，结果变成好象是她不让吃，这个手段太牛了。更牛的是，小霸王立刻用了新策略，和颜悦色跟女儿说有女儿最爱吃的XX，女儿利马跑去吃了！这个操纵手段真是不一般呀！
第二次，女儿想玩小霸王正玩的玩具，小霸王不给，女儿又哭了。我正安慰着，小霸王跑来和颜悦色地跟女儿解释她在玩的，女儿又破涕为笑跟她一起玩了。我又被震惊了。
回头跟LD总结，小霸王就是有理论，勇于实践，所以提高这么快。
这小孩霸王的有水平...
what 玩法?
比如一帮孩子玩一个带个小滑梯的小房子，你能想出多少种玩法？大部分就是停留在滑梯阶段，稍微有点创造力的会去爬房顶，小姑娘们拿了碗盘假装吃饭。小霸王的爸爸拿了张餐巾纸，搁盘子里顺口胡吹着这是三明治，这是牛排，花样翻新，连一个7，8岁的男孩也跟着玩了半天。看，创造的力量。：）
比如一帮孩子玩一个带个小滑梯的小房子，你能想出多少种玩法？大部分就是停留在滑梯阶段，稍微有点创造力的会去爬房顶，小姑娘们拿了碗盘假装吃饭。小霸王的爸爸拿了张餐巾纸，搁盘子里顺口胡吹着这是三明治，这是牛排，花样翻新，连一个7，8岁的男孩也跟着玩了半天。看，创造的力量。：）
高啊！
Desparate housewives 讲Eddie 杀女孩子那一集说的就是, Monsters are created by another monster.
这个影视节目里很常见的。
小孩能把事情前因后果联系起来吗？
每个阶段能够联系的范围不同。
[replyview]看JOJO就已经能联系CLEAN UP和play block了。这个是智力的飞跃呢。 [/replyview]
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我飞continental的milleage，为了省事都攒到united airline star alliance去了。
结果今天要买美国本土的机票，发现在continental网站上只要20万点，而UA要25万点。哎。
比如一帮孩子玩一个带个小滑梯的小房子，你能想出多少种玩法？大部分就是停留在滑梯阶段，稍微有点创造力的会去爬房顶，小姑娘们拿了碗盘假装吃饭。小霸王的爸爸拿了张餐巾纸，搁盘子里顺口胡吹着这是三明治，这是牛排，花样翻新，连一个7，8岁的男孩也跟着玩了半天。看，创造的力量。：）
我小时候有点这个样子
参加一个什么比赛，老师让小朋友画个人头，一般小孩就画人头了，我画了头发衣服手脚...然后就胜出了...orz我自己
我小时候有点这个样子
参加一个什么比赛，老师让小朋友画个人头，一般小孩就画人头了，我画了头发衣服手脚...然后就胜出了...orz我自己
ORZ :)
我就是只花人头的。。。
7 habits p95
The Golden Rule says "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you." While on the surface that could mean to do for them what you would like to have done for you. I think the more essential meaning is to understand them deeply as individuals, the way you would want to be understood, and then to treat them in terms of that understanding. As one successful parent said about raising children, "Treat them all the same by treating them differently."
很同意这句话呢。不是说自己喜欢吃鱼头，就一定要把鱼头给自己爱的人吃，也许人家爱吃鱼尾巴呢。可以推荐给人家尝试，但是不要打着为人家好的旗号逼人家吃鱼头，人家不喜欢鱼头，就自己吃好了。除非对方是个包子，你推荐了对方虽然不喜欢也怕你不开心所以一辈子不得不吃鱼头，那推荐起来就得谨慎些。
that's zhuangzi's sixiang a ...
if not flirting, what to do when u r interested in someon?
i will let him know i am interested.
我小时候有点这个样子
参加一个什么比赛，老师让小朋友画个人头，一般小孩就画人头了，我画了头发衣服手脚...然后就胜出了...orz我自己
orz
有没有发展一下？
i will let him know i am interested.
to red， 其实只要用点儿心，多套套近乎，别人就能察觉吧。都不用直接说什么的。
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说个milleage的事：
我飞continental的milleage，为了省事都攒到united airline star alliance去了。
结果今天要买美国本土的机票，发现在continental网站上只要20万点，而UA要25万点。哎。
不同公司的里程要求确实有不同。所以得根据自己的需要确定攒哪个公司的里程。
其实我一直觉得red和kp很有创造力。刚刚联想，也许恰恰是她们打破了对自己这个ultimate权威的顺从，不断地探究，反而胜出。
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有道理
不同公司的里程要求确实有不同。所以得根据自己的需要确定攒哪个公司的里程。
而且还会变！
to red， 其实只要用点儿心，多套套近乎，别人就能察觉吧。都不用直接说什么的。
why add that on purpose a ? are you afraid i am going to ruin red's relationship? hehe .... anyhow, i think a lot of things i do probably do not apply to other people... normally, if I am interested, i will let him know, and also i will let him know i wont wait... yes, or no. that's it..... i actually dont use this a lot, hehe , as mostly the other party already made the move....
其实我一直觉得red和kp很有创造力。刚刚联想，也许恰恰是她们打破了对自己这个ultimate权威的顺从，不断地探究，反而胜出。
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咩？
而且还会变！
只能与时俱进了。
不过co和ua也快合并了，所以攒哪家的都无所谓了。
why add that on purpose a ? are you afraid i am going to ruin red's relationship? hehe .... anyhow, i think a lot of things i do probably do not apply to other people... normally, if I am interested, i will let him know, and also i will let him know i wont wait... yes, or no. that's it..... i actually dont use this a lot, hehe , as mostly the other party already made the move....
hehe, 你就直说，'俺稀饭你，你从不从？俺可没时间等。' ？？？
hehe, 你就直说，'俺稀饭你，你从不从？俺可没时间等。' ？？？
这个风格我喜欢。
why add that on purpose a ? are you afraid i am going to ruin red's relationship? hehe .... anyhow, i think a lot of things i do probably do not apply to other people... normally, if I am interested, i will let him know, and also i will let him know i wont wait... yes, or no. that's it..... i actually dont use this a lot, hehe , as mostly the other party already made the move....
nono, i want to say something about it but i am sure that you already understand. so what i said was actually just for red's benefit.
highlight的话有技术含量，会不会吓到人？
hehe, 你就直说，'俺稀饭你，你从不从？俺可没时间等。' ？？？
hehe , that's what i do. life is short, i am not going to waste it.... normally they will cong le.... if they don't, i will find a way to force them cong le ......
i did a quick lunch shopping, the guy at the checkout, as he swiped my card, told me in plain Chinese, he lived in Zuzhou, and my total was 40 kuai , XX mao.... and complained his girl friend would not take his name ..(the preferred customer card shows my zt's last name, so he thought i took his name)........
老白？or ABC?
咩？
就是夸你，不断否定自己和别人的既定认识，不断推出新认识。我一看你发言就激动，因为我跟我女儿一样，热爱新鲜。
就是夸你，不断否定自己和别人的既定认识，不断推出新认识。我一看你发言就激动，因为我跟我女儿一样，热爱新鲜。
我承认我断章取义。
nono, i want to say something about it but i am sure that you already understand. so what i said was actually just for red's benefit.
highlight的话有技术含量，会不会吓到人？
if a guy is easily intimated by that, then he is not the one i want... hehhe... do not underestimate man, you ask for more, they normally can give more....
老白？or ABC?
gringo a ....... 25 ish.... that XX mao, totally got me.... have not heard that for ages....
hehe , that's what i do. life is short, i am not going to waste it.... normally they will cong le.... if they don't, i will find a way to force them cong le ......
技巧请教，见面第几次这么问？
我承认我断章取义。
这叫承接上下文。好歹也给前文打个广告不是。
gringo a ....... 25 ish.... that XX mao, totally got me.... have not heard that for ages....
牛！
if a guy is easily intimated by that, then he is not the one i want... hehhe... do not underestimate man, you ask for more, they normally can give more....
说得好！
就是夸你，不断否定自己和别人的既定认识，不断推出新认识。我一看你发言就激动，因为我跟我女儿一样，热爱新鲜。
o o o
o o o
看不懂, 白激动了.
男人知道自己被女人喜欢，高兴还来不及，怕啥啊？哪个人不喜欢自己受欢迎。red大胆的上
艾，想当年，就是不直接，错过了一个，亏啊。那会就认识你们就好了。
艾，想当年，就是不直接，错过了一个，亏啊。那会就认识你们就好了。
天下好的男人那么多，总是错过的多，抓住的少
天下好的男人那么多，总是错过的多，抓住的少
那俺来BSO俺没有错过。
那俺来BSO俺没有错过。
你错过了郭靖No.2, No3, No.4, ...
你错过了郭靖No.2, No3, No.4, ...
那不叫错过，因为是我自己选择settle down，没有“错”的遗憾的成分在里头。
艾，想当年，就是不直接，错过了一个，亏啊。那会就认识你们就好了。
人同此心， 心同此理啊。。。 换了个机器， 真爽啊。。。。 我每次看劝别人啊，哎呀女孩子千万不能主动啊， 宁愿错过啊。。。啥的我就着急。。。。 人生就那么几年， 好男人虽然多， 但你能碰到的就那么 几个， 哪有那个时间浪费啊
以后每月要制定一个翻页小助手
逢10的贴主顺手翻页就可以了。
人同此心， 心同此理啊。。。 换了个机器， 真爽啊。。。。 我每次看劝别人啊，哎呀女孩子千万不能主动啊， 宁愿错过啊。。。啥的我就着急。。。。 人生就那么几年， 好男人虽然多， 但你能碰到的就那么 几个， 哪有那个时间浪费啊
强re
强re
外面规矩可多了。女人不能主动。到时间必须结婚，必须生娃，必须生2个。必须一男一女。必须自己带。必须买好区的房子。后来还必须上私校。必须上中文学校。必须培养兴趣爱好，乐器，体育，等等。
外面规矩可多了。女人不能主动。到时间必须结婚，必须生娃，必须生2个。必须一男一女。必须自己带。必须买好区的房子。后来还必须上私校。必须上中文学校。必须培养兴趣爱好，乐器，体育，等等。
我们这里是桃花源，哈哈
我们这里是桃花源，哈哈
哈哈哈，真可爱～～
外面规矩可多了。女人不能主动。到时间必须结婚，必须生娃，必须生2个。必须一男一女。必须自己带。必须买好区的房子。后来还必须上私校。必须上中文学校。必须培养兴趣爱好，乐器，体育，等等。
你能做个蛋糕给四少不?
就写四少爱踢歪~~~卡咔
这孩子中毒不浅。。
你能做个蛋糕给四少不?
who ya?几天不来全是新vocabulary
外面规矩可多了。女人不能主动。到时间必须结婚，必须生娃，必须生2个。必须一男一女。必须自己带。必须买好区的房子。后来还必须上私校。必须上中文学校。必须培养兴趣爱好，乐器，体育，等等。
外面有那么夸张吗？
who ya?几天不来全是新vocabulary
看她头像上那个帅哥
求一个最烂的应用统计journal。。。。老板一定要投作的一个东西，我觉得没啥肉肉啊。。。。。但愿有烂的peer reviewed journal能接受啊。。。。
这个大概就concord知道了
你要是不急，我可以帮你问问我家猪头
算了，我自己做好了。 嘿嘿
四少看起来很贼眉鼠眼嘛...
这个大概就concord知道了
你要是不急，我可以帮你问问我家猪头
谢谢哈~~
外面规矩可多了。女人不能主动。到时间必须结婚，必须生娃，必须生2个。必须一男一女。必须自己带。必须买好区的房子。后来还必须上私校。必须上中文学校。必须培养兴趣爱好，乐器，体育，等等。
哈哈，这个词用得好！
都是要过别人日子的。
四少看起来很贼眉鼠眼嘛...
你的显示器比例有问题。
四少看起来很贼眉鼠眼嘛...
就是南方人的样子。东南亚
啊，地域坑！
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你的显示器比例有问题。
就是南方人的样子。东南亚
啊，地域坑！
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被你这么一说还真是
南方人和北方人长相上最大的不同是啥
被你这么一说还真是
南方人和北方人长相上最大的不同是啥
好像是北方脸大，五官也就分得开一些。南方脸小，紧凑些。东南亚的黑些。
好像是北方脸大，五官也就分得开一些。南方脸小，紧凑些。东南亚的黑些。
为毛我又黑脸又大
总结：
concord， 3409
可能咱们对操纵的定义不同。 我觉得号召力强，能inspire别人，是很好的能力。但是我不喜欢用手段操纵别人。一般来说，被操纵的人过后都会觉得不对劲的。而被激励的人却是发自内心的，是自愿的。
Cyprus， 2414
我觉得这个年龄的孩子，还是更多地受本能的驱使，还没有意识到inspire的效果。但是会很快的。比如一个孩子想让别的孩子和她一起玩某个游戏，如何实现呢？恐吓威胁就是低级手段，有效的inspire就是高级手段。
Cyprus， 2448
以下是引用emptyempty在9/13/2010 12:40:00 PM的发言：
why add that on purpose a ? are you afraid i am going to ruin red's relationship? hehe .... anyhow, i think a lot of things i do probably do not apply to other people... normally, if I am interested, i will let him know, and also i will let him know i wont wait... yes, or no. that's it..... i actually dont use this a lot, hehe , as mostly the other party already made the move....
hehe, 你就直说，'俺稀饭你，你从不从？俺可没时间等。' ？？？
为毛我又黑脸又大
黑，可以显得脸小嘛！
我是脸大五官还紧凑，小摺个大的包子模样
没有这个印象。嫑随便说这么谦虚的话。
没有这个印象。嫑随便说这么谦虚的话。
上次用头发掩盖了包子上没摺的大部分面积。
上次用头发掩盖了包子上没摺的大部分面积。
收到！美女！
hehe , that's what i do. life is short, i am not going to waste it.... normally they will cong le.... if they don't, i will find a way to force them cong le ......
i actually prefer ur way, partially because i don't know a squad about indirect ways. and i don't like to waste time for reasons other than myself
just, how to force them to cong ah?
技巧请教，见面第几次这么问？
i guess empty will say: when feels like to
am i right?
算了，还是问问空空，有时候我第一面就对人家有好感，有时候对没出青春期的小正太有好感，想说不敢说~
[此贴子已经被作者于2010/9/13 18:46:42编辑过]
艾，想当年，就是不直接，错过了一个，亏啊。那会就认识你们就好了。
我有个亲戚，他老婆就是当年追的他。当时我那个亲戚又帅学习又好有考上了大学，算他们那里top 2了，他lp也就是五官长得好看、能说敢做，其他的没啥。他lp不停地追，直到我亲戚得了肝炎，在那时候算很严重很危险的了，他lp还是一门心思要在一起，亲戚和亲戚的父母才同意了
我常想，如果我看上的人得了肝炎阿糖尿病啊癌症啊，我估计不会这么坚持
男人知道自己被女人喜欢，高兴还来不及，怕啥啊？哪个人不喜欢自己受欢迎。red大胆的上
目前没有目标了
我小时候有点这个样子
参加一个什么比赛，老师让小朋友画个人头，一般小孩就画人头了，我画了头发衣服手脚...然后就胜出了...orz我自己
牛
有个日本少女漫画家就是因为类似的事情得到了一跃成名的大机会
其实我一直觉得red和kp很有创造力。刚刚联想，也许恰恰是她们打破了对自己这个ultimate权威的顺从，不断地探究，反而胜出。[此贴子已经被作者于2010/9/13 12:34:21编辑过]