No. Only 5'3. For me, knee-length makes me look slimmer (but need some heels); like knee-length skirt flirts me better than shorter ones. I think that it's because my upper legs are too strong, called 'elephant legs' by my hubby. :P
I've tried some BR trench years ago--didn't fit me well. The material was too hard. BTW, I always try clothes on--never bought any piece online. Because that I think design details matter a lot on fitting.
I think that 推 and 放 are not just YES and NO. Each has its degree. Some parents go further; some don't. I'd try to present as much opportunity as possible for my kids, and encourage them to explore whatever they likes.
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I am a little bit confusing about "how and when" here.
I don't know about whether it's late or not. I don't give too much focus on it. If I want something, I start now. What happened in the past has past, no help keep looking back.
One example, I didn't want to pursue PhD at all before joining the program; and I thought about quitting during the time. Then I gave myself a deadline and started enjoy the progress. Nowadays I'm really happy that I did it.
Hehe, I don't have much 遗憾 with myself; yes I do have my own weakness and I try to work on them. That has nothing to do with my kids. :) My parents gave me very much freedom as I grew up--maybe that why I don't have any 遗憾. I shaped myself to who I am today. So it's my own choice; nothing to regret. :P
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Hehe, I don't have much 遗憾 with myself; yes I do have my own weakness and I try to work on them. That has nothing to do with my kids. :) My parents gave me very much freedom as I grew up--maybe that why I don't have any 遗憾. I shaped myself to who I am today. So it's my own choice; nothing to regret. :P
Hehe, my Mom loves to play with me all the time. We play cards, majiang, pingpong, badminton, ... whatever available and whatever I was interested. I think that's very important to kids. :)
What's ur point? Sorry I don't get it. My own case, I love my parents, but I'm not very interested in going back all the time; I'm always attracted by the outside world. :)
I don't know about whether it's late or not. I don't give too much focus on it. If I want something, I start now. What happened in the past has past, no help keep looking back.
One example, I didn't want to pursue PhD at all before joining the program; and I thought about quitting during the time. Then I gave myself a deadline and started enjoy the progress. Nowadays I'm really happy that I did it.
What's ur point? Sorry I don't get it. My own case, I love my parents, but I'm not very interested in going back all the time; I'm always attracted by the outside world. :)
My parents have already done their best on me--rather exceeded expectation from their colleagues. Whether or not I would go further in a different family, I don't know. But since every choice was made by myself, no regrets. :)
I don't know about whether it's late or not. I don't give too much focus on it. If I want something, I start now. What happened in the past has past, no help keep looking back.
One example, I didn't want to pursue PhD at all before joining the program; and I thought about quitting during the time. Then I gave myself a deadline and started enjoy the progress. Nowadays I'm really happy that I did it.
As to PH.D, now I am positive that it is sth I want. And it is the area where I can do good.
I gave myself one more semester to try and I made quite some progress during that semester--both my adviser and I were happy with it. So I didn't quit.
Thinking back, I think that before that semester, I was not doing research in a proactive way--thanks to the education I got in China (:P). After making my mind to give the last try, I started working with real independent mind. I worked on what I liked and what I was good at, not just wait and follow my adviser's lead, of course within the scope he suggested. The independence really made doing research fun!
Since I decided not to accompany my daughter to sleep anymore about a month ago, she turns to her daddy for the service. Now they are getting very close and he understands her much better now. :) [此贴子已经被作者于2010/4/22 9:50:30编辑过]
Maybe not exactly the same. Yes I do see similar characteristics. But I remember once enen or someone else said sth like this, do not label the kids--just let them go, as far as they can. :)
I was a sensitive kid and liked to please others as well. But I never try to please my parents--they show me the unconditional love all the time. :) So I don't plan to act on my kids with my own preference.
I gave myself one more semester to try and I made quite some progress during that semester--both my adviser and I were happy with it. So I didn't quit.
Thinking back, I think that before that semester, I was not doing research in a proactive way--thanks to the education I got in China (:P). After making my mind to give the last try, I started working with real independent mind. I worked on what I liked and what I was good at, not just wait and follow my adviser's lead, of course within the scope he suggested. The independence really made doing research fun!
Maybe not exactly the same. Yes I do see similar characteristics. But I remember once enen or someone else said sth like this, do not label the kids--just let them go, as far as they can. :)
hehe. If different kids have different reactions to one same thing, what should we do to let them all go far?
are you talking about hobbies? It seems we are referring to different stuff.
OK. Let me put it this way. Would you push or try to attract kids' interests to Chinese?
I'm talking about anything--languages, math, music, arts...
As for Chinese, I'd just attract her--if she's not interested at all, I won't push. For example, I taught her both Chinese and English at home since she started learning words. And I read her both Chinese books and English books, whichever she likes. And I take her to a French class now. :P
I'm talking about anything--languages, math, music, arts...
As for Chinese, I'd just attract her--if she's not interested at all, I won't push. For example, I taught her both Chinese and English at home since she started learning words. And I read her both Chinese books and English books, whichever she likes. And I take her to a French class now. :P
I won't let her feel any eagerness of me, for anything. In fact, I don't have any emotional attachment with Chinese at all. Even if she doesn't learn it, no big deal to me. I'd rather that she feels it fun and useful for herself to learn it.
I won't let her feel any eagerness of me, for anything. In fact, I don't have any emotional attachment with Chinese at all. Even if she doesn't learn it, no big deal to me. I'd rather that she feels it fun and useful for herself to learn it.
但fun和useful是创造出来的，至少在最初阶段，或者用合适的方法，对合适的孩子，是可以维持很长时间的人造fun和usefulness的。对这种孩子，什么时候let it go 或者help them out？
你在NYC？
Close by. But have been brain-washed by its style. :P
Yes u r right. And I think that London Fog does not have very feminine design...
I'm looking for some slim trench all the time.
你喜欢什么牌子的？
貌似我还真没有风衣，不知道是否适合我。
听说burberry的风衣不错，可是财迷我觉得有些贵。大家还有什么其它牌子推荐的吗？
时尚版流行BR的，198
summer给的overstock上面的更便宜，只要100不到
时尚版流行BR的，198
summer给的overstock上面的更便宜，只要100不到
爱蓝看短信
No. Only 5'3. For me, knee-length makes me look slimmer (but need some heels); like knee-length skirt flirts me better than shorter ones. I think that it's because my upper legs are too strong, called 'elephant legs' by my hubby. :P
正好露出膝盖的比较好
你喜欢什么牌子的？
So far I have not found one. Eyeing Burberry for a while, never tried though.
时尚版流行BR的，198
summer给的overstock上面的更便宜，只要100不到
衣服我还是得试穿了之后再买，所以overstock可能就不行了，只能在local店看看。
我都不敢穿，领子太短，lapel(?)太宽，双排扣显得人宽。。
不是啊
双排扣才显得你没那么宽
Heihei, in NYC, black is IN anytime, anywhere. :P
那黑色和sand的各囤一件？
时尚版流行BR的，198
summer给的overstock上面的更便宜，只要100不到
I've tried some BR trench years ago--didn't fit me well. The material was too hard.
BTW, I always try clothes on--never bought any piece online. Because that I think design details matter a lot on fitting.
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So far I have not found one. Eyeing Burberry for a while, never tried though.
Burberry在UK买是不是便宜？
之前的环境太顺利，或者说我的个性太顺应环境，所以这样的孩子，要明白自己的内心，能真实的面对自己，要靠契机和顿悟了吧。
正好露出膝盖的比较好
Agree
还是说说我的遗憾吧：很晚才明白自己真正想做什么；很晚才明白怎么去做自己想做的事情。
之前的环境太顺利，或者说我的个性太顺应环境，所以这样的孩子，要明白自己的内心，能真实的面对自己，要靠契机和顿悟了吧。
你现在明白绝对不算晚呀，有多少人真正知道自己想要什么，想做什么呢？
I think that 推 and 放 are not just YES and NO. Each has its degree. Some parents go further; some don't.
I'd try to present as much opportunity as possible for my kids, and encourage them to explore whatever they likes.
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I am a little bit confusing about "how and when" here.
Agree. And I always try to persuade my hubby do not disturb her when she's into sth.
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hehe. hubby. they have different styles.
还是说说我的遗憾吧：很晚才明白自己真正想做什么；很晚才明白怎么去做自己想做的事情。
之前的环境太顺利，或者说我的个性太顺应环境，所以这样的孩子，要明白自己的内心，能真实的面对自己，要靠契机和顿悟了吧。
I don't know about whether it's late or not. I don't give too much focus on it. If I want something, I start now. What happened in the past has past, no help keep looking back.
One example, I didn't want to pursue PhD at all before joining the program; and I thought about quitting during the time. Then I gave myself a deadline and started enjoy the progress. Nowadays I'm really happy that I did it.
Burberry在UK买是不是便宜？
Really? Maybe I should try one in store next time. :)
那黑色和sand的各囤一件？
I don't 囤 same style clothes--it's boring to me. ;P
I've tried sand trench before--it makes me look chunky. So I'd rather go with black. :)
Hehe, I don't have much 遗憾 with myself; yes I do have my own weakness and I try to work on them. That has nothing to do with my kids. :)
My parents gave me very much freedom as I grew up--maybe that why I don't have any 遗憾. I shaped myself to who I am today. So it's my own choice; nothing to regret. :P
你好完整
I am a little bit confusing about "how and when" here.
How and when--whenever I have the opportunity and energy and time. :P
Really? Maybe I should try one in store next time. :)
我是疑问句。我听我老公说他在机场看见不少Burberry的，但他不了解价格。
下次我也考虑去店里试，然后把型号写下来，让我老公去UK对比价格。
你现在明白绝对不算晚呀，有多少人真正知道自己想要什么，想做什么呢？
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hehe. hubby. they have different styles.
Since I decided not to accompany my daughter to sleep anymore about a month ago, she turns to her daddy for the service. Now they are getting very close and he understands her much better now. :)
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自己感到自己当年是被放的，或者是被束缚的，多看到的首先还是自己＂失去＂的，这是在任何事情开始前已经已经定位了。带着不满开始新的旅程，心中的声音是我要做的比你们更好。想要用＂超过＂这个事实来证明的不是自己可以做的更好，甚至不是还有其他的方式，而是自己认为自己应该可以获得的而没能获得的，面对的是自己的父母，所以承认自己内心真实的翻滚会更加不容易。
其次，我们以为我们可以多么不一样，甚至相反，事实上我们经历过的是我们唯一真正知道的，所以这里面没有那么多的比较，做我们可以，应该的，对的，和好的。
我看这段，知道是对的，但心里抵触。。
Hehe, I don't have much 遗憾 with myself; yes I do have my own weakness and I try to work on them. That has nothing to do with my kids. :)
My parents gave me very much freedom as I grew up--maybe that why I don't have any 遗憾. I shaped myself to who I am today. So it's my own choice; nothing to regret. :P
我的看法是，对于父母，他们的weakness我有感觉，但时代所限，我不可能要求他们是神人去超越时代。我可以看见的是，他们已经尽了最大的努力，从精神上和物质上，给了我能给的。所以，我觉得他们尽责了。
我的weaknesses，很多也是环境和个性造成的。首先我意识到他们，我正视他们，能够改变的，慢慢改变；暂时不能改变的，就提醒自己，在好的方面让它发挥，在不好的方面要收敛自己的这方面。
你好完整
Hehe, my Mom loves to play with me all the time. We play cards, majiang, pingpong, badminton, ... whatever available and whatever I was interested. I think that's very important to kids. :)
What's ur point? Sorry I don't get it.
My own case, I love my parents, but I'm not very interested in going back all the time; I'm always attracted by the outside world. :)
我相反，不确定我爱他们，但老想回去，哈哈
我决定周末把我的衣服都照张照片，好的留下，不合适的就淘汰
奔~
我是疑问句。我听我老公说他在机场看见不少Burberry的，但他不了解价格。
下次我也考虑去店里试，然后把型号写下来，让我老公去UK对比价格。
OK, let's share the information. :)
我老公就是成人以后再也不想回家的
真是杯具
一个可能是时机问题；
确定是杯具的话，那他也已经变成洗具了，因为你。
I don't know about whether it's late or not. I don't give too much focus on it. If I want something, I start now. What happened in the past has past, no help keep looking back.
One example, I didn't want to pursue PhD at all before joining the program; and I thought about quitting during the time. Then I gave myself a deadline and started enjoy the progress. Nowadays I'm really happy that I did it.
did u quit?
What's ur point? Sorry I don't get it.
My own case, I love my parents, but I'm not very interested in going back all the time; I'm always attracted by the outside world. :)
对不起，我现在写东西，有点太意识流。很多时候都没有point+supporting statements，就是在整理自己的思路。
我买了2盒膏药，1盒应该有2.49ECB, 2盒应该出4.98ECB. 可是居然一张receipt上打出了2张4.98ECB，都是买膏药得的，还是同一个barcode。我去问cashier, 人家告诉我说：“ 给你钱你就用。”
可我还是觉得奇怪。
后面的恢复好多火药味儿挺浓的，看着不舒服
我就是老大那样儿的，又有老二的缺点
看为什么那么回复，再想想自己，我觉得能提醒自己一些东西呢。
did u quit?
应该没有吧，她不都拿到phd了吗？
我这辈子最幸运的事情，就是做我父母的孩子。
My parents have already done their best on me--rather exceeded expectation from their colleagues. Whether or not I would go further in a different family, I don't know. But since every choice was made by myself, no regrets. :)
你闺女现在跟你的个性一样吗？我从我闺女身上，看到很多我的个性呢。
昨天去CVS发生了一件诡异的事情。
我买了2盒膏药，1盒应该有2.49ECB, 2盒应该出4.98ECB. 可是居然一张receipt上打出了2张4.98ECB，都是买膏药得的，还是同一个barcode。我去问cashier, 人家告诉我说：“ 给你钱你就用。”
可我还是觉得奇怪。
一个barcode能用两次吗
我看这段，知道是对的，但心里抵触。。
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你现在明白绝对不算晚呀，有多少人真正知道自己想要什么，想做什么呢？
我现在想，小时候太敏感，太容易捕捉别人的感受，就很容易去取悦别人。对于孩子来说，顺应环境谋得生存，是动物的天性。
但对这种孩子，什么时候是个度，什么时候可以让＂自己＂出来，什么时候出来代价比较小？
我同意你说的，看年龄算晚，看时机，或许不算。
I don't know about whether it's late or not. I don't give too much focus on it. If I want something, I start now. What happened in the past has past, no help keep looking back.
One example, I didn't want to pursue PhD at all before joining the program; and I thought about quitting during the time. Then I gave myself a deadline and started enjoy the progress. Nowadays I'm really happy that I did it.
As to PH.D, now I am positive that it is sth I want. And it is the area where I can do good.
一个barcode能用两次吗
不知道呀，我还没用呢。从来没碰到过这种事，我觉得很诡异，所以特意问cashier是不是可以用，她说可以。
我的看法是，对于父母，他们的weakness我有感觉，但时代所限，我不可能要求他们是神人去超越时代。我可以看见的是，他们已经尽了最大的努力，从精神上和物质上，给了我能给的。所以，我觉得他们尽责了。
我的weaknesses，很多也是环境和个性造成的。首先我意识到他们，我正视他们，能够改变的，慢慢改变；暂时不能改变的，就提醒自己，在好的方面让它发挥，在不好的方面要收敛自己的这方面。
我也是
How and when--whenever I have the opportunity and energy and time. :P
hehe, what about "when and how they need them?"
did u quit?
I gave myself one more semester to try and I made quite some progress during that semester--both my adviser and I were happy with it. So I didn't quit.
Thinking back, I think that before that semester, I was not doing research in a proactive way--thanks to the education I got in China (:P). After making my mind to give the last try, I started working with real independent mind. I worked on what I liked and what I was good at, not just wait and follow my adviser's lead, of course within the scope he suggested. The independence really made doing research fun!
我看这段，知道是对的，但心里抵触。。
why 心里抵触 ?
Since I decided not to accompany my daughter to sleep anymore about a month ago, she turns to her daddy for the service. Now they are getting very close and he understands her much better now. :)
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hehe, they have their "father- daughter" pattern.
我现在想，小时候太敏感，太容易捕捉别人的感受，就很容易去取悦别人。对于孩子来说，顺应环境谋得生存，是动物的天性。
但对这种孩子，什么时候是个度，什么时候可以让＂自己＂出来，什么时候出来代价比较小？
我同意你说的，看年龄算晚，看时机，或许不算。
我想我小时候应该是和你相反，我不太在意别人的感受，长大了慢慢好了一些。
我相反，不确定我爱他们，但老想回去，哈哈
that is the point. why always want to coming back?
你闺女现在跟你的个性一样吗？我从我闺女身上，看到很多我的个性呢。
Maybe not exactly the same. Yes I do see similar characteristics. But I remember once enen or someone else said sth like this, do not label the kids--just let them go, as far as they can. :)
昨天去CVS发生了一件诡异的事情。
我买了2盒膏药，1盒应该有2.49ECB, 2盒应该出4.98ECB. 可是居然一张receipt上打出了2张4.98ECB，都是买膏药得的，还是同一个barcode。我去问cashier, 人家告诉我说：“ 给你钱你就用。”
可我还是觉得奇怪。
cvs 系统的bug。时不时来点，而且一般情况下，别人可复制。
我也是
hand.
hehe, what about "when and how they need them?"
Well, I just present--whether they need it or not is their choice.
我现在想，小时候太敏感，太容易捕捉别人的感受，就很容易去取悦别人。对于孩子来说，顺应环境谋得生存，是动物的天性。
但对这种孩子，什么时候是个度，什么时候可以让＂自己＂出来，什么时候出来代价比较小？
我同意你说的，看年龄算晚，看时机，或许不算。
I was a sensitive kid and liked to please others as well. But I never try to please my parents--they show me the unconditional love all the time. :) So I don't plan to act on my kids with my own preference.
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我想我小时候应该是和你相反，我不太在意别人的感受，长大了慢慢好了一些。
你小时候的环境也很顺利吧。那什么时候或者什么契机，你开始明白自己想要什么？而不再是自己需要什么？
cvs 系统的bug。时不时来点，而且一般情况下，别人可复制。
那到底可以用1张还是２张呢？
I gave myself one more semester to try and I made quite some progress during that semester--both my adviser and I were happy with it. So I didn't quit.
Thinking back, I think that before that semester, I was not doing research in a proactive way--thanks to the education I got in China (:P). After making my mind to give the last try, I started working with real independent mind. I worked on what I liked and what I was good at, not just wait and follow my adviser's lead, of course within the scope he suggested. The independence really made doing research fun!
是呀，做自己喜欢的事最重要。
Maybe not exactly the same. Yes I do see similar characteristics. But I remember once enen or someone else said sth like this, do not label the kids--just let them go, as far as they can. :)
hehe. If different kids have different reactions to one same thing, what should we do to let them all go far?
你小时候的环境也很顺利吧。那什么时候或者什么契机，你开始明白自己想要什么？而不再是自己需要什么？
说实话，我现在也不确定我真明白了我想要（want）什么，或者是我需要(need)什么。只有一条我很明确，家庭第一，快乐第一，其它的我尽力而为。
到了再想
说实话，我现在也不确定我真明白了我想要（want）什么，或者是我需要(need)什么。只有一条我很明确，家庭第一，快乐第一，其它的我尽力而为。
健康第一吧
包括身体和心理
健康第一吧
包括身体和心理
健康也很重要。不过如果有一天我没有了健康，我想我还会尽量让自己快乐下去。
hehe. If different kids have different reactions to one same thing, what should we do to let them all go far?
Whoever likes it go further with it; the one does not like it go with sth else. Isn't it normal different kids have different reactions?
说实话，我现在也不确定我真明白了我想要（want）什么，或者是我需要(need)什么。只有一条我很明确，家庭第一，快乐第一，其它的我尽力而为。
I have the same thoughts--家庭第一，快乐第一，其它的我尽力而为. In fact, I wanted different things at different life stages.
健康也很重要。不过如果有一天我没有了健康，我想我还会尽量让自己快乐下去。
hehe, I have the same order as you.
说实话，我现在也不确定我真明白了我想要（want）什么，或者是我需要(need)什么。只有一条我很明确，家庭第一，快乐第一，其它的我尽力而为。
Now I am pretty sure I have this or I have the ability to get it.
I have no proof. Just I am positive.
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我是胸位低又散orz，就显得胸前一片辽阔大平原，还是找胸衣去了。。
看到这里，喷了一电脑的包子末
Whoever likes it go further with it; the one does not like it go with sth else. Isn't it normal different kids have different reactions?
are you talking about hobbies? It seems we are referring to different stuff.
OK. Let me put it this way. Would you push or try to attract kids' interests to Chinese?
are you talking about hobbies? It seems we are referring to different stuff.
OK. Let me put it this way. Would you push or try to attract kids' interests to Chinese?
I'm talking about anything--languages, math, music, arts...
As for Chinese, I'd just attract her--if she's not interested at all, I won't push.
For example, I taught her both Chinese and English at home since she started learning words. And I read her both Chinese books and English books, whichever she likes. And I take her to a French class now. :P
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post 10800 on page 1080--windysnow
post 10900 on page 1090--concord
post 11000 on page 1100--red
但是，这里也有一个清晰切明确的分界线，如果，如果我们的内心有着一个声音在说，如果不按照这个如何就会如何，所以一定要如何，那么这已经不是unconditional love了，没有人愿意感到自己是不足够的。
I'm talking about anything--languages, math, music, arts...
As for Chinese, I'd just attract her--if she's not interested at all, I won't push.
For example, I taught her both Chinese and English at home since she started learning words. And I read her both Chinese books and English books, whichever she likes. And I take her to a French class now. :P
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我觉得汉语对于我来说，是推不推的一个线。
我究竟让不让她感到我的eagerness。如果我不可控制我对汉语的emotional attachment，她也不明显反对，估计也没关系。但至少在这个阶段，她是在为我而学。她是因为可以生存而学。而这个生存条件很大情况是因为我而出现的。
我觉得汉语对于我来说，是推不推的一个线。
我究竟让不让她感到我的eagerness。如果我不可控制我对汉语的emotional attachment，她也不明显反对，估计也没关系。但至少在这个阶段，她是在为我而学。她是因为可以生存而学。而这个生存条件很大情况是因为我而出现的。
I won't let her feel any eagerness of me, for anything. In fact, I don't have any emotional attachment with Chinese at all. Even if she doesn't learn it, no big deal to me.
I'd rather that she feels it fun and useful for herself to learn it.
我是这样看的，对的，好的就是对的和好的，也许有人会耐心和微笑着push，也许有人会制定严格的制度，并要求一定要完成…。无论选择的方式，也无论原始选择的原因，这里面有一个事实是，是否今天的选择和坚持对于一个人的未来是有帮助和价值的？这里面是没有父母，子女 还有自己的。
但是，这里也有一个清晰切明确的分界线，如果，如果我们的内心有着一个声音在说，如果不按照这个如何就会如何，所以一定要如何，那么这已经不是unconditional love了，没有人愿意感到自己是不足够的。
啊，谢谢你提出来的角度。
是否今天的选择和坚持对于一个人的未来是有帮助和价值的？这里面是没有父母，子女 还有自己的. - 这里我有点糊涂，因为这个角度可以justify任何hobby，或者公认有益的人类活动。英语数学是一层；汉语钢琴又是一类。
如果，如果我们的内心有着一个声音在说，如果不按照这个如何就会如何，所以一定要如何，那么这已经不是unconditional
love了，没有人愿意感到自己是不足够的。- 仔细想了一下，在超越基本生存的东西上，我没有产生过这样的情绪；但是我表现过，你会这个，我（母亲）会很高兴。这样有问题吗？
I won't let her feel any eagerness of me, for anything. In fact, I don't have any emotional attachment with Chinese at all. Even if she doesn't learn it, no big deal to me.
I'd rather that she feels it fun and useful for herself to learn it.
但fun和useful是创造出来的，至少在最初阶段，或者用合适的方法，对合适的孩子，是可以维持很长时间的人造fun和usefulness的。对这种孩子，什么时候let it go 或者help them out？
啊，谢谢你提出来的角度。
是否今天的选择和坚持对于一个人的未来是有帮助和价值的？这里面是没有父母，子女 还有自己的. - 这里我有点糊涂，因为这个角度可以justify任何hobby，或者公认有益的人类活动。英语数学是一层；汉语钢琴又是一类。
如果，如果我们的内心有着一个声音在说，如果不按照这个如何就会如何，所以一定要如何，那么这已经不是unconditional
love了，没有人愿意感到自己是不足够的。- 仔细想了一下，在超越基本生存的东西上，我没有产生过这样的情绪；但是我表现过，你会这个，我（母亲）会很高兴。这样有问题吗？
这是上下呼应的，前进是因为是好的，但是没有什么是好到一定要如何才是对的；所以有那么一个点上，轻松的放开缰绳是好的。
这是上下呼应的，前进是因为是好的，但是没有什么是好到一定要如何才是对的；所以有那么一个点上，轻松的放开缰绳是好的。
这个我要记下来；我还在纠结，所以要提醒自己。
我现在觉得自己在一个圈里，模模糊糊看到一点光，但没有抓住了的感觉。
还差一点。。。。
但fun和useful是创造出来的，至少在最初阶段，或者用合适的方法，对合适的孩子，是可以维持很长时间的人造fun和usefulness的。对这种孩子，什么时候let it go 或者help them out？
我对汉语和汉文化有强大的attachment，最近正琢磨着把自己最喜欢的三个游戏英化了送给一个喜欢游戏有点宅的abc小正太
在对孩子的方式上，我只能能确定我as a child会喜欢的方式。。还是不瞎说了
我对汉语和汉文化有强大的attachment，最近正琢磨着把自己最喜欢的三个游戏英化了送给一个喜欢游戏有点宅的abc小正太
在对孩子的方式上，我只能能确定我as a child会喜欢的方式。。还是不瞎说了
这个也是泡小正太的一种方式
我对汉语和汉文化有强大的attachment，最近正琢磨着把自己最喜欢的三个游戏英化了送给一个喜欢游戏有点宅的abc小正太
在对孩子的方式上，我只能能确定我as a child会喜欢的方式。。还是不瞎说了
hehe, 你好强大。
其实不光是孩子，孩子只是一个契机。
例如我觉得自己在人造的fun和usefulness里面呆了太长的时间；或者曾经更侧重usefulness，而比较忽略fun。
这种情况不是父母造成的，更多的是我自己pick up环境的。
想了半天，觉得还是要靠自己。父母环境都不过是客观的存在；是我自己在pick up的过程中，犯了错误，再改正错误。
看到这里，喷了一电脑的包子末
喷啥...
所谓少妇味，第一要义就是胸下垂呀
垂而散，才给人“大”的幻觉。。。
我对汉语和汉文化有强大的attachment，最近正琢磨着把自己最喜欢的三个游戏英化了送给一个喜欢游戏有点宅的abc小正太
在对孩子的方式上，我只能能确定我as a child会喜欢的方式。。还是不瞎说了
你怎么把游戏英化？
喷啥...
所谓少妇味，第一要义就是胸下垂呀
垂而散，才给人“大”的幻觉。。。
她说包子沫，我就把你这个少妇味看成少妇沫
这个也是泡小正太的一种方式
熟人子，不可泡呀。。可惜，长相和身材都很不错嘞
有的是好玩的胸衣，我见过连肥肉都没有的太平公主都可以搞出沟沟来的
??
hehe, 你好强大。
其实不光是孩子，孩子只是一个契机。
例如我觉得自己在人造的fun和usefulness里面呆了太长的时间；或者曾经更侧重usefulness，而比较忽略fun。
这种情况不是父母造成的，更多的是我自己pick up环境的。
想了半天，觉得还是要靠自己。父母环境都不过是客观的存在；是我自己在pick up的过程中，犯了错误，再改正错误。
本来写了一堆，说我也有同样的困惑。写完后发现我们还有网上网下报纸学校广大人民群众专家学者打酱油的，全都讨论过解决之道了。。又删了。。
你怎么把游戏英化？
技术细节还没抓到人问，翻译我可以做
这是上下呼应的，前进是因为是好的，但是没有什么是好到一定要如何才是对的；所以有那么一个点上，轻松的放开缰绳是好的。
又想明白了一点。I try to do sth because I want it. But I does not need it to prove myself. I am already there no matter what.
我是这样看的，对的，好的就是对的和好的，也许有人会耐心和微笑着push，也许有人会制定严格的制度，并要求一定要完成…。无论选择的方式，也无论原始选择的原因，这里面有一个事实是，是否今天的选择和坚持对于一个人的未来是有帮助和价值的？这里面是没有父母，子女 还有自己的。
但是，这里也有一个清晰切明确的分界线，如果，如果我们的内心有着一个声音在说，如果不按照这个如何就会如何，所以一定要如何，那么这已经不是unconditional love了，没有人愿意感到自己是不足够的。
我always觉得自己不足够。。。基调是不足够，记忆里是不足够，本身心劲不足够。和外界interact或尝试，失败greatly outnumber进步，于是还是不足够。。。最近一段时间大部分就郁闷这个，基本上我所有的纠结都是这。。。
水比较大。要是有遗漏告诉我
本来写了一堆，说我也有同样的困惑。写完后发现我们还有网上网下报纸学校广大人民群众专家学者打酱油的，全都讨论过解决之道了。。又删了。。
不必写出来，或者不考虑这个问题的，是因为这个对他们就不是问题。
我是因为自己纠结，才要想和写。
对了，谢谢前面谁总结的谁占了整数楼，不然我都忘了
你好像又占了前面，我还以为是我，回去一看是你。
熟人子，不可泡呀。。可惜，长相和身材都很不错嘞
你也不开发点新target。
旧的那个就不要再花时间想啦。
http://bbs.hftogo.com/viewthread.php?tid=560152
看见你这个头象就很舒服