昨晚7点他非要今天一大早开会,我做好了和他又吵一架的准备。 结果我今早去到,他就故作无恙的问项目动态。他还敢提周五晚给我发那个莫名其妙报告的事情!还在那里说,我周五晚上都惦记着你问我要的东西。我说,大哥,那个项目早就完结了,我没问你要那个项目报告。他说不是我记得你说你要的。我说我不要。他气的不出声 然后他问起我另一个项目,我说我上周不是问你了吗?你说拿不到资料。我还在等你动态呢?他说你的意思就是你做不了啰? 我问他,那没有资料我该怎么办,凭空捏造?请您批示。他又气呼呼不说话。 然后他生气了说那他没有其他事情了。我问他,你真没有?他缩了一缩,一个劲摇头说没有。 我问他,自从我度假回来后,你觉得我们之间沟通有改善吗? 他扯了些啥说他已经接受我们现有的沟通模式,没有什么好说的。 我说,哦那我有,我想聊上周三的事情。 他又开始在那里装死,说我不记得周三发生什么事情了。 我说周三我问你一个问题,我不知道你是那天太忙还是有些什么别的原因,你反应那么大干嘛。 他说他不觉得自己反应大。 我说我问你项目动态如何,你的回答是我有在邮件上。如果你问我一件事,我也这么回你,你怎么想? 他这个时候委屈拉,赶紧说我五分钟前就是这么和他讲话的。 我很无语说,行了那我们都改变这种沟通模式行了吧? 他又说他已经接受了我和他对于沟通的philosophy就是不一样,他改变不了我,也不要求我改变。反正他说我们总是会有摩擦,就这样吧,反正吵完就算了,以后还得吵。 我当时震惊了! 第一次听到领导那么说话。。 我说那上周三只是个别事件? 他说是,他说你不要我讲一句话,你就觉得我在攻击你,上周三的事情那天过后,我根本想都没有想。。如果你不爽,我道歉行了吧。 我说我也没有说你故意攻击我。上周三我也觉得大概和我没啥关系,但你不想别人打扰你的时候,那就直说啊。不然总不能每一次我问你问题,都不知道你是那种反应。。而且很多时候我问你不是因为我需要你hand holding 而是我不想你觉得我自己就做了决定不说一声,是make you feel comfortable 他说行了,你以后要不确定的话,我鼓励你问问题行了吧。 然后我觉得算了给他点面子忍几个月,然后我就走了。 我觉得我们沟通最大的问题就是他一和我说话就杠精附体,估计他自己也知道他改不了了. 英文版 Last night at 7pm, he decides we need a morning meeting. Sure. I mentally prepare for another round of awkward tension and passive-aggressive jazz. I show up today ready to spar — and he… acts like nothing happened. Smiles. Casual tone. Starts asking for project updates like we didn’t just barely survive last week’s communication meltdown. Okay then. Then, out of nowhere, he brings up that random report he emailed me on Friday night. He goes, “You asked for this report, and I sent it to you Friday night.” I said, “That project’s been closed. I didn’t ask for that.” He insists, “No, you did.” I go, “I really didn’t.” Silence. He’s clearly annoyed but trying not to show it. Great start. Next, he asks about another project. I reminded him, “Didn’t I ask you about this last week? You said you couldn’t get the data. I’m still waiting on you.” He replies, “So you’re saying you can’t do it?” I said, “Well, without data, yeah — what would you like me to use, imagination?” He goes quiet again. Then: “Fine. I have nothing else.” I ask, “Really? Nothing?” He freezes for a second, then just shakes his head. “No.” So I ask, “Since I’ve been back from vacation, do you think our communication has improved?” He shrugs and says he’s accepted the way we communicate now — apparently this weird, circular confusion is just the new norm. I told him I still wanted to talk about what happened last Wednesday. He pretends he doesn’t remember. I reminded him: “I asked you a question about a project, and your response was ‘you’re copied on the email.’” I asked, “If I said that to you, how would you take it?” He goes, “Well, you basically just said that to me five minutes ago.” Cool. Mutual pettiness. Love that for us. So I said, “Okay, then let’s both work on it.” He says, “I just think we have different communication philosophy. There’s always going to be fictions. It happens, and then it’s fine.” Apparently we’re in a self-renewing argument subscription. I asked, “So you think Wednesday was just a one-off thing?” He said yeah, and told me I always take things too personally. Then adds, “I didn’t even think about it after. If you’re upset, I’ll apologize, okay?” I said, “I’m not accusing you of anything. Just saying — if you don’t want to be bothered, let me know. Most of the time I ask stuff just to keep you in the loop and make sure you are comfortable.” He said, “Fine. If you’re unsure in the future, I encourage you to ask.” Thanks. Very enlightening. At that point, I just gave him a nod, told myself to power through the next few months, and moved on. Honestly, the main issue? Every time we talk, it feels like we’re having a mild courtroom trial. And I think we’ve both just… accepted that.
结果我今早去到,他就故作无恙的问项目动态。他还敢提周五晚给我发那个莫名其妙报告的事情!还在那里说,我周五晚上都惦记着你问我要的东西。我说,大哥,那个项目早就完结了,我没问你要那个项目报告。他说不是我记得你说你要的。我说我不要。他气的不出声
然后他问起我另一个项目,我说我上周不是问你了吗?你说拿不到资料。我还在等你动态呢?他说你的意思就是你做不了啰? 我问他,那没有资料我该怎么办,凭空捏造?请您批示。他又气呼呼不说话。
然后他生气了说那他没有其他事情了。我问他,你真没有?他缩了一缩,一个劲摇头说没有。
我问他,自从我度假回来后,你觉得我们之间沟通有改善吗?
他扯了些啥说他已经接受我们现有的沟通模式,没有什么好说的。
我说,哦那我有,我想聊上周三的事情。
他又开始在那里装死,说我不记得周三发生什么事情了。
我说周三我问你一个问题,我不知道你是那天太忙还是有些什么别的原因,你反应那么大干嘛。
他说他不觉得自己反应大。
我说我问你项目动态如何,你的回答是我有在邮件上。如果你问我一件事,我也这么回你,你怎么想?
他这个时候委屈拉,赶紧说我五分钟前就是这么和他讲话的。
我很无语说,行了那我们都改变这种沟通模式行了吧?
他又说他已经接受了我和他对于沟通的philosophy就是不一样,他改变不了我,也不要求我改变。反正他说我们总是会有摩擦,就这样吧,反正吵完就算了,以后还得吵。
我当时震惊了! 第一次听到领导那么说话。。
我说那上周三只是个别事件?
他说是,他说你不要我讲一句话,你就觉得我在攻击你,上周三的事情那天过后,我根本想都没有想。。如果你不爽,我道歉行了吧。
我说我也没有说你故意攻击我。上周三我也觉得大概和我没啥关系,但你不想别人打扰你的时候,那就直说啊。不然总不能每一次我问你问题,都不知道你是那种反应。。而且很多时候我问你不是因为我需要你hand holding 而是我不想你觉得我自己就做了决定不说一声,是make you feel comfortable
他说行了,你以后要不确定的话,我鼓励你问问题行了吧。
然后我觉得算了给他点面子忍几个月,然后我就走了。
我觉得我们沟通最大的问题就是他一和我说话就杠精附体,估计他自己也知道他改不了了.
英文版
Last night at 7pm, he decides we need a morning meeting. Sure. I mentally prepare for another round of awkward tension and passive-aggressive jazz.
I show up today ready to spar — and he… acts like nothing happened. Smiles. Casual tone. Starts asking for project updates like we didn’t just barely survive last week’s communication meltdown. Okay then.
Then, out of nowhere, he brings up that random report he emailed me on Friday night. He goes, “You asked for this report, and I sent it to you Friday night.” I said, “That project’s been closed. I didn’t ask for that.” He insists, “No, you did.” I go, “I really didn’t.” Silence. He’s clearly annoyed but trying not to show it. Great start.
Next, he asks about another project. I reminded him, “Didn’t I ask you about this last week? You said you couldn’t get the data. I’m still waiting on you.” He replies, “So you’re saying you can’t do it?” I said, “Well, without data, yeah — what would you like me to use, imagination?” He goes quiet again. Then: “Fine. I have nothing else.”
I ask, “Really? Nothing?” He freezes for a second, then just shakes his head. “No.”
So I ask, “Since I’ve been back from vacation, do you think our communication has improved?” He shrugs and says he’s accepted the way we communicate now — apparently this weird, circular confusion is just the new norm.
I told him I still wanted to talk about what happened last Wednesday. He pretends he doesn’t remember. I reminded him: “I asked you a question about a project, and your response was ‘you’re copied on the email.’” I asked, “If I said that to you, how would you take it?” He goes, “Well, you basically just said that to me five minutes ago.”
Cool. Mutual pettiness. Love that for us.
So I said, “Okay, then let’s both work on it.” He says, “I just think we have different communication philosophy. There’s always going to be fictions. It happens, and then it’s fine.” Apparently we’re in a self-renewing argument subscription.
I asked, “So you think Wednesday was just a one-off thing?” He said yeah, and told me I always take things too personally. Then adds, “I didn’t even think about it after. If you’re upset, I’ll apologize, okay?”
I said, “I’m not accusing you of anything. Just saying — if you don’t want to be bothered, let me know. Most of the time I ask stuff just to keep you in the loop and make sure you are comfortable.”
He said, “Fine. If you’re unsure in the future, I encourage you to ask.” Thanks. Very enlightening.
At that point, I just gave him a nod, told myself to power through the next few months, and moved on.
Honestly, the main issue? Every time we talk, it feels like we’re having a mild courtroom trial. And I think we’ve both just… accepted that.
关我屁事😂
老板啊? 就是沟通困难
是因为没有body language吗?
他瞪我,叹气 etc
我怎么作了
???
披着职场的外衣打情骂俏
你又来了
这是职场撕逼