Markus Kolic · Follow Harvard College class of 200914y
Well, I married one of my classmates just over a year after graduation, so I can say with some authority that at least a few of us do. But we're definitely the outliers: among my social group in the class of 2009, I can only think of perhaps one or two couples who are on anything resembling a marriage track, and they're dwarfed by the number of people whose seemingly rock-solid relationships have crumbled since graduation. The culture among Harvard students, by and large -- excluding the religious or conservative, neither of which we are -- prioritizes career/educational ambition over relationships and marriage. (This goes for both genders.) My wife and I were greeted with near-universal incredulity when we talked about our intent to marry; even the fact that we were structuring our job searches around one another puzzled our Harvard classmates. Everyone was supportive, to be sure, but it was clear nobody else envisioned themselves in our shoes. For the record, the Harvard Crimson publishes a special every year on the engaged or married couples in the graduating class; there are usually about four such couples, most of whom are clearly devout Christians/Mormons. This might be a useful avenue of research for you, though I had no luck finding any of the marriage articles in their archives -- http://www.thecrimson.com/ . (My wife and I didn't get engaged until the summer after graduation, in no small part because we didn't want to appear in said Crimson special.) Now, I can't speak much to the phenomenon of classmates marrying one another in relationships that begin post-college. I imagine it's somewhat likely, considering how insular the work and social environments of Harvard students tend to be -- consulting/finance firms, law school, medical school, and Teach for America tend to just about cover it -- but you're still likely looking at just a handful of people, considering the comparative odds of their marrying someone from a different graduating year, a different Ivy League school, or some other bastion of insufferable privilege. So to give you a guesswork percentage: from a graduating class of ~1600, presuming a whopping ten couples marry within the class over the course of their lifetime, 20/1600 = 1.25%.
陈医生是极其个例。
Well, I married one of my classmates just over a year after graduation, so I can say with some authority that at least a few of us do. But we're definitely the outliers: among my social group in the class of 2009, I can only think of perhaps one or two couples who are on anything resembling a marriage track, and they're dwarfed by the number of people whose seemingly rock-solid relationships have crumbled since graduation. The culture among Harvard students, by and large -- excluding the religious or conservative, neither of which we are -- prioritizes career/educational ambition over relationships and marriage. (This goes for both genders.) My wife and I were greeted with near-universal incredulity when we talked about our intent to marry; even the fact that we were structuring our job searches around one another puzzled our Harvard classmates. Everyone was supportive, to be sure, but it was clear nobody else envisioned themselves in our shoes. For the record, the Harvard Crimson publishes a special every year on the engaged or married couples in the graduating class; there are usually about four such couples, most of whom are clearly devout Christians/Mormons. This might be a useful avenue of research for you, though I had no luck finding any of the marriage articles in their archives -- http://www.thecrimson.com/ . (My wife and I didn't get engaged until the summer after graduation, in no small part because we didn't want to appear in said Crimson special.) Now, I can't speak much to the phenomenon of classmates marrying one another in relationships that begin post-college. I imagine it's somewhat likely, considering how insular the work and social environments of Harvard students tend to be -- consulting/finance firms, law school, medical school, and Teach for America tend to just about cover it -- but you're still likely looking at just a handful of people, considering the comparative odds of their marrying someone from a different graduating year, a different Ivy League school, or some other bastion of insufferable privilege. So to give you a guesswork percentage: from a graduating class of ~1600, presuming a whopping ten couples marry within the class over the course of their lifetime, 20/1600 = 1.25%.
开玩笑。婚恋第一要素是工作，长相，家庭背景。 藤校毕业拯救世界的，各位愿意嫁女儿吗？
万斯不算吗
大学里的恋爱要么就是打打炮解解闷儿，醒了就忘了彼此的，要么就是认真的谈个恋爱，毕业就各奔东西的。
还婚恋市场呢，你以为这里是30年前的中国大学里啊！
万斯大学是OSU毕业的
婚恋第一要素是工作，长相，家庭背景。这个同意
第二句想多了吧，藤校毕业要拯救世界？能拯救自己就不错了
很多呀
现在北京小孩出来留学的比例都少了,就是觉得不划算,为了那个藤校的虚荣,搭上真金白银的拆迁房. 就是我们在美国的,藤校文科专业和州立理工专业我们都得想想,更何况AI冲击,今后几十年大学发展成什么样很难说,藤校会不会贬值也不好说. 与其这样还不如选择有资产的子弟, 至少到手的东西是实实在在的.
我身边好多家长一对对几乎都是双藤校，未必是同学，但是assortative mating是没错了。
研究生藤校不行？
那前提是你要信教的。很多这种都是信某具体教的居多。
很多这种大学里根本都不认识的，我身边也有。
前面数据都给你们了。
万斯在耶鲁法学院，属于白女根本都不鸟他，都不稀罕搭理他的。他大学也没找到女朋友。osu的女生都看不上她， 别说耶鲁法学院的白妞儿了。
那又怎么样呢，如果没有名校的经历也许也跟现在的配偶根本走不到一起。上学的时候认不认识又能怎样，重点不是最终择偶对象的质量吗。我们大学本科同学一百来号人也就只成了一对。但你看最后结果，同学的配偶，尤其是女生，绝大多数都是一个tier的。不是同一届的，或者隔壁学校的，或者毕业后校友圈子认识的。
亚裔找亚裔不行？
要验证孩子身份后才能入群。
很多的。我家亲戚家孩子就是H毕业的，找的老公也是H的。俩人在大学时候只是认识，没有谈。大学毕业几年后又走到一起的。
之前很有名的那个“哈佛女孩”，老公也是哈佛的。
现实中，还真不少，不像陈医生那样飞升，也算是强强结合。
还不如我小学同学里面没有考上好大学的， 早早专注找对象， 都找到 top 2毕业生了
对于女生来说，学校里是找对象的最好时机，许多优质股潜力股还名草无主，随便抓一个都是强强结合， 出了校园，在社会上要找相同程度的好男生，匹配难度就大了，都被稀释了
美貌就是本钱，风骚也是才能，藤校鸡不出来🤣
如果你说的是蜥蜴人的老婆的话，她在大学里一点不比他差，何来飞升
不论国家，名校都只看第一学历
桑姐南加大的
本科才算校友，中国文化输出很多年了！
确实，北大清华的硕博根本不算北大清华毕业的。当年就有这说法。