最新决定：I don’t think I’ll send my kids to Ivy League schools. It’s not because they’re unqualified—if anything, they might be overqualified. I just want to take a completely different path from what most people are doing. But if those schools send us invitations, well—that might be a different story. I will reconsider, but still, I cannot guarantee we will choose any of them. 不就几个破烂藤校嘛，根本不值得我们花时间卷。谁想卷谁卷。请都不一定想去。 什么？还要找人修改essay，还要college counselor？别搞笑了，削足适履的事情我们从来不干，申请表格都不一定愿意填。如果真对我们娃感兴趣，招生官直接来问我情况好了。我写封推荐信解释一下孩子具体情况应该没问题。还有，我家娃比我还挑剔，我给她准备个shortlist，估计她也就挑个一两个。 Anyway，目标：只申请一所，最多两所，节省申请费，节省时间，大不了回家蹲着，homeschool for college。省下来的时间上上数学课，做会儿数学题，考考AMC 10，不好么。回头LinkedIn上直接写：I only applied to one school. 简直酷毙了。 == 有个家长说：I have many thoughts about why Chinese American communities are among those with intense sense of competition and achievement orientation. I do not fault ourselves or the cultural and historical reasons for this orientation. But it is true and I am also not surprised that there are few Chinese American communities that are oriented to well-being and mutual support. If you find any, please let me know. I will move there in a heartbeat. It’s not to say that this reality is true only for Chinese American communities. I think places like the Bay Area are anxious, achievement-oriented places in general. 我们说: There is no need to move. It is in your home. Inner peace is more important than the outer environment. I know what you mean. I think the real reason behind what you described, is the insecurity these people felt, perhaps, as immigrants. I feel sympathy for this situation. When people feel insecure, they are anxious, work hard, and compete. For those who have been here for generations, they treat this land as their home, so they are more relaxed. == 还有，我想把我的ID改成 “酷妈”。
都在这儿了。原文available upon email request。 == Hello Mr. *** and ***, I recently had a student’s sister who rejected Yale, Emory, ***, and accepted a full-ride offer from a public school for her study in Pre-Med. She had 5 offers from LACs. She wants to become a medical doctor, not because she wants to make money, but she is intrinsically interested in helping people become healthier. It was a struggle for her family. Her father is a ***. Her mother is a ***. Both daughters go to a private school in ** area. I believe it is called the ***. The parents set a budget 50-60k per year they are willing to provide, and asked her to get a loan if she wants to go to her dream school, Yale. She was not sure about the loan, so she declined the offer. Honestly, it shocked me. I know they hired people for college counseling and to polish her essays. I told them the story of a girl, my friends' daughter, who went to Yale for pre-med and then JHU for medical school. The mom replied, *** is OK with her decision. This made me think about college applications for my 8th grader, ***. I have been thinking about applying for just one or two schools instead of many, to save money, save time, reduce administrative work. Being torn by multiple choices does not sound fun. We can save the energy and focus on learning and growth instead. Please let me know if there is any red flags in my thinking. Thanks. ***‘s Mom
adda 发表于 2025-04-29 08:07 都在这儿了。原文available upon email request。 == Hello Mr. *** and ***, I recently had a student’s sister who rejected Yale, Emory, ***, and accepted a full-ride offer from a public school for her study in Pre-Med. She had 5 offers from LACs. She wants to become a medical doctor, not because she wants to make money, but she is intrinsically interested in helping people become healthier. It was a struggle for her family. Her father is a ***. Her mother is a ***. Both daughters go to a private school in ** area. I believe it is called the ***. The parents set a budget 50-60k per year they are willing to provide, and asked her to get a loan if she wants to go to her dream school, Yale. She was not sure about the loan, so she declined the offer. Honestly, it shocked me. I know they hired people for college counseling and to polish her essays. I told them the story of a girl, my friends' daughter, who went to Yale for pre-med and then JHU for medical school. The mom replied, *** is OK with her decision. This made me think about college applications for my 8th grader, ***. I have been thinking about applying for just one or two schools instead of many, to save money, save time, reduce administrative work. Being torn by multiple choices does not sound fun. We can save the energy and focus on learning and growth instead. Please let me know if there is any red flags in my thinking. Thanks. ***‘s Mom
都在这儿了。原文available upon email request。 == Hello Mr. *** and ***, I recently had a student’s sister who rejected Yale, Emory, ***, and accepted a full-ride offer from a public school for her study in Pre-Med. She had 5 offers from LACs. She wants to become a medical doctor, not because she wants to make money, but she is intrinsically interested in helping people become healthier. It was a struggle for her family. Her father is a ***. Her mother is a ***. Both daughters go to a private school in ** area. I believe it is called the ***. The parents set a budget 50-60k per year they are willing to provide, and asked her to get a loan if she wants to go to her dream school, Yale. She was not sure about the loan, so she declined the offer. Honestly, it shocked me. I know they hired people for college counseling and to polish her essays. I told them the story of a girl, my friends' daughter, who went to Yale for pre-med and then JHU for medical school. The mom replied, *** is OK with her decision. This made me think about college applications for my 8th grader, ***. I have been thinking about applying for just one or two schools instead of many, to save money, save time, reduce administrative work. Being torn by multiple choices does not sound fun. We can save the energy and focus on learning and growth instead. Please let me know if there is any red flags in my thinking. Thanks. ***‘s Mom adda 发表于 2025-04-29 08:07
True opportunity often comes to those who show up, not those who wait to be discovered. Filling out an application, refining an essay — these aren't humiliations. They're acts of agency, of shaping your own future. Being selective is wise. Preemptively closing off possibilities out of pride is not. Ultimately, the strongest confidence is quiet — it keeps all options open, and lets the world reveal what fits best. :)
hiromice 发表于 2025-04-29 08:39 True opportunity often comes to those who show up, not those who wait to be discovered. Filling out an application, refining an essay — these aren't humiliations. They're acts of agency, of shaping your own future. Being selective is wise. Preemptively closing off possibilities out of pride is not. Ultimately, the strongest confidence is quiet — it keeps all options open, and lets the world reveal what fits best. :)
"只申请一所，最多两所，节省申请费，节省时间，大不了回家蹲着，homeschool。省下来的时间上上数学课，做会儿数学题，考考AMC 10，不好么。回头LinkedIn上直接写：I only applied to one school. 简直酷毙了。" 没太理解这个时间线。。。 其实真看不上藤校的人，都不会在这个话题上浪费时间。
JessieBlueMM 发表于 2025-04-29 08:56 "只申请一所，最多两所，节省申请费，节省时间，大不了回家蹲着，homeschool。省下来的时间上上数学课，做会儿数学题，考考AMC 10，不好么。回头LinkedIn上直接写：I only applied to one school. 简直酷毙了。" 没太理解这个时间线。。。 其实真看不上藤校的人，都不会在这个话题上浪费时间。
adda 发表于 2025-04-29 04:28 最新决定：I don’t think I’ll send my kids to Ivy League schools. It’s not because they’re unqualified—if anything, they might be overqualified. I just want to take a completely different path from what most people are doing. But if those schools send us invitations, well—that might be a different story. I will reconsider, but still, I cannot guarantee we will choose any of them. 不就几个破烂藤校嘛，根本不值得我们花时间卷。谁想卷谁卷。请都不一定想去。 什么？还要找人修改essay，还要college counselor？别搞笑了，削足适履的事情我们从来不干，申请表格都不一定愿意填。如果真对我们娃感兴趣，招生官直接来问我情况好了。我写封推荐信解释一下孩子具体情况应该没问题。还有，我家娃比我还挑剔，我给她准备个shortlist，估计她也就挑个一两个。 Anyway，目标：只申请一所，最多两所，节省申请费，节省时间，大不了回家蹲着，homeschool。省下来的时间上上数学课，做会儿数学题，考考AMC 10，不好么。回头LinkedIn上直接写：I only applied to one school. 简直酷毙了。 == 有个家长说：I have many thoughts about why Chinese American communities are among those with intense sense of competition and achievement orientation. I do not fault ourselves or the cultural and historical reasons for this orientation. But it is true and I am also not surprised that there are few Chinese American communities that are oriented to well-being and mutual support. If you find any, please let me know. I will move there in a heartbeat. It’s not to say that this reality is true only for Chinese American communities. I think places like the Bay Area are anxious, achievement-oriented places in general. 我们说: There is no need to move. It is in your home. Inner peace is more important than the outer environment. I know what you mean. I think the real reason behind what you described, is the insecurity these people felt, perhaps, as immigrants. I feel sympathy for this situation. When people feel insecure, they are anxious, work hard, and compete. For those who have been here for generations, they treat this land as their home, so they are more relaxed. == 还有，我想把我的ID改成 “酷妈”。
既然抖搂，就一并抖搂了吧 Hello Dr. ***, I must share this with you. *** has been in the AoPS Precalculus course. She submitted two homework assignments. In my opinion, they are excellent, beyond the norm. However, AoPS’ grader was terrible. The first time, they gave her a failing grade, 50%, for style. Then I wrote an email to them and asked why. To me, it is a punitive style, instead of encouraging, friendly style. Then they changed the style. For the second homework, *** did most part right, except a flaw. It is a very difficult problem with 3 parts, asking students to transform x to 1/x, x to sqrt(x+1), and 1 to 3/sqrt 5, using a sequence of trig and inverse trig functions, nothing else. Honestly, I don’t know if this kind of problem is necessary at all, for a beginner in Precalculus. Anyway, she spent 2 hours, figured out a way, and turned in her writing, in LaTeX. And probably due to my previous inquiry, they gave her a perfect score this time. But as I said, her answer had a flaw, she did not consider the domain and range of these functions. She felt she did not deserve a perfect score. She felt she got a perfect score because we begged for good grades rather than her work deserves a good grade. Anyway, she hated the experience. And she got sick, maybe due to stress, or maybe something germs around ***. She has not completed her week 3 homework yet, which is due tomorrow Wed. AoPS was not happy with her pickiness either. They unenrolled her without telling us. I was not sure about the decision, so I asked if she can stay for longer, and we don’t mind the risk of wasting $700. Honestly, so far, it has been a waste of time for us. She has to spend 3-4 hours to complete something she can finish in 1 hour with me. I don’t think the class in *** community college will be anything better. We don’t have anyone to transport her to *** everyday for 5 weeks in summer either. I would like to know what are our options. She is done with half of the AoPS Precalculus book. She can probably start with some basics on AP Calculus in summer with me. I have already showed her the concepts of limits, and derivatives in the past. In case the AoPS course does not work out, will *** still be able to test her and check if she can enroll in AP Calculus in the fall? If not, I guess it is OK to retake Precalculus at school. She can just tutor her classmates. That is not a big deal. She told me that in Honors Algebra 2, for exponential and logarithmic function module, she was one of the two students who got a full score. I think, most likely, if we continue with AoPS, she will complain every week about other things. I have many students who dropped AoPS classes and switched to my classes, and some take courses in both places simutaneously. There have been tons of complaints about their courses. But AoPS has accreditation, and colleges think highly of their courses, although most students also study somewhere else simultaneously. They are also good at maintaining their “image” online. ******* Anyway, this is the situation. Another interesting thing: I was a LinkedIn friend with AoPS founder and former CEO, Richard Rusczyk. ******* I shared the story with Richard, saying that I am disappointed how money-drive AoPS is now. He did not reply, but after a few weeks, he declared retirement from the CEO position, at the age of 53. I don’t think there is any correlation between the two events, but one of my students' parents said that, who knows, maybe my words made him think what he has been doing. Please let me know what you think and how we should proceed. Thanks.
That is fair. Anyway, 我今天还有很多工作要做。就不陪大家聊天了，大家随便说啥，都无所谓。我完全信任版主，我的帖子随便删，账号也随便封，我都不介意。另外，版主辛苦了，华人网为大家服务这么多年，又有这么多发帖无数的ID，你们一直这么有耐心，有爱心，让我很感动。我想大家是因为心里有不开心的事，所以才会出来牢骚，没有任何人会无缘无故的发一堆抱怨，所以都互相多体谅。华人网如果有捐款渠道的话，麻烦通知我一声，我有兴趣。 最后说个笑话：我女儿有一天跑过来，跟我说，You just want to make videos every day, nothing else? What a nerd! 我立马笑了: thank you. i think that is a big compliment. I not only want to be a nerd, sometimes, I try to be a grumpy nerd, to save time. sit down here, let's learn some math. 我对学生家长有时确实grumpy，我常常说，没事比来找我，我很忙。他们貌似都不介意。暑假想选课，有个孩子妈妈发给我一个长长的表格，每个星期每一天孩子都有什么camp什么的，看看什么时候有空可以安排数学课。i feel honored, 不过我是能省事就省事的人，一般也就回复几行字，意思点到为止。
adda 发表于 2025-04-29 10:53 That is fair. Anyway, 我今天还有很多工作要做。就不陪大家聊天了，大家随便说啥，都无所谓。我完全信任版主，我的帖子随便删，账号也随便封，我都不介意。另外，版主辛苦了，华人网为大家服务这么多年，又有这么多发帖无数的ID，你们一直这么有耐心，有爱心，让我很感动。我想大家是因为心里有不开心的事，所以才会出来牢骚，没有任何人会无缘无故的发一堆抱怨，所以都互相多体谅。华人网如果有捐款渠道的话，麻烦通知我一声，我有兴趣。 最后说个笑话：我女儿有一天跑过来，跟我说，You just want to make videos every day, nothing else? What a nerd! 我立马笑了: thank you. i think that is a big compliment. I not only want to be a nerd, sometimes, I try to be a grumpy nerd, to save time. sit down here, let's learn some math. 我对学生家长有时确实grumpy，我常常说，没事比来找我，我很忙。他们貌似都不介意。暑假想选课，有个孩子妈妈发给我一个长长的表格，每个星期每一天孩子都有什么camp什么的，看看什么时候有空可以安排数学课。i feel honored, 不过我是能省事就省事的人，一般也就回复几行字，意思点到为止。
adda 发表于 2025-04-29 08:07 都在这儿了。原文available upon email request。 == Hello Mr. *** and ***, I recently had a student’s sister who rejected Yale, Emory, ***, and accepted a full-ride offer from a public school for her study in Pre-Med. She had 5 offers from LACs. She wants to become a medical doctor, not because she wants to make money, but she is intrinsically interested in helping people become healthier. It was a struggle for her family. Her father is a ***. Her mother is a ***. Both daughters go to a private school in ** area. I believe it is called the ***. The parents set a budget 50-60k per year they are willing to provide, and asked her to get a loan if she wants to go to her dream school, Yale. She was not sure about the loan, so she declined the offer. Honestly, it shocked me. I know they hired people for college counseling and to polish her essays. I told them the story of a girl, my friends' daughter, who went to Yale for pre-med and then JHU for medical school. The mom replied, *** is OK with her decision. This made me think about college applications for my 8th grader, ***. I have been thinking about applying for just one or two schools instead of many, to save money, save time, reduce administrative work. Being torn by multiple choices does not sound fun. We can save the energy and focus on learning and growth instead. Please let me know if there is any red flags in my thinking. Thanks. ***‘s Mom
For someone with a goal, "she is intrinsically interested in helping people become healthier", she will be very disappointed in the US health system. Lol
刚剪辑完两个视频，发现又有很多跟帖。不想说什么，只想说，I appreciate all your comments, suggestions, criticisms. I heard everything. Thank you for your time. 马上还要写slides，录像，然后编辑，寄给学生。他们的爹妈跟催命鬼似的。我觉得自己每天就像个奴隶。。。不过我就是这么nerdy，不介意当一把奴隶。
不就几个破烂藤校嘛，根本不值得我们花时间卷。谁想卷谁卷。请都不一定想去。
什么？还要找人修改essay，还要college counselor？别搞笑了，削足适履的事情我们从来不干，申请表格都不一定愿意填。如果真对我们娃感兴趣，招生官直接来问我情况好了。我写封推荐信解释一下孩子具体情况应该没问题。还有，我家娃比我还挑剔，我给她准备个shortlist，估计她也就挑个一两个。
Anyway，目标：只申请一所，最多两所，节省申请费，节省时间，大不了回家蹲着，homeschool for college。省下来的时间上上数学课，做会儿数学题，考考AMC 10，不好么。回头LinkedIn上直接写：I only applied to one school. 简直酷毙了。
== 有个家长说：I have many thoughts about why Chinese American communities are among those with intense sense of competition and achievement orientation. I do not fault ourselves or the cultural and historical reasons for this orientation. But it is true and I am also not surprised that there are few Chinese American communities that are oriented to well-being and mutual support. If you find any, please let me know. I will move there in a heartbeat. It’s not to say that this reality is true only for Chinese American communities. I think places like the Bay Area are anxious, achievement-oriented places in general.
我们说: There is no need to move. It is in your home. Inner peace is more important than the outer environment. I know what you mean. I think the real reason behind what you described, is the insecurity these people felt, perhaps, as immigrants. I feel sympathy for this situation. When people feel insecure, they are anxious, work hard, and compete. For those who have been here for generations, they treat this land as their home, so they are more relaxed. ==
还有，我想把我的ID改成 “酷妈”。
好，四年以后我再来汇报一下
不是坑，是真的这么打算的。跟学校的college counselor也是这么讲的。我可以把email贴出来。
我看到同胞被藤儿折磨的死去活来的，打抱不平一把。所以先把它们都拒了。
== Hello Mr. *** and ***,
I recently had a student’s sister who rejected Yale, Emory, ***, and accepted a full-ride offer from a public school for her study in Pre-Med. She had 5 offers from LACs. She wants to become a medical doctor, not because she wants to make money, but she is intrinsically interested in helping people become healthier. It was a struggle for her family. Her father is a ***. Her mother is a ***. Both daughters go to a private school in ** area. I believe it is called the ***. The parents set a budget 50-60k per year they are willing to provide, and asked her to get a loan if she wants to go to her dream school, Yale. She was not sure about the loan, so she declined the offer. Honestly, it shocked me. I know they hired people for college counseling and to polish her essays. I told them the story of a girl, my friends' daughter, who went to Yale for pre-med and then JHU for medical school. The mom replied, *** is OK with her decision.
This made me think about college applications for my 8th grader, ***. I have been thinking about applying for just one or two schools instead of many, to save money, save time, reduce administrative work. Being torn by multiple choices does not sound fun. We can save the energy and focus on learning and growth instead.
Please let me know if there is any red flags in my thinking. Thanks.
***‘s Mom
这信是谁写的啊？简直是语无伦次莫名其妙
别人是拿到公校full ride，把藤校据了。你娃刚上高中，你精神上把藤校据一次，先过过瘾？
回头LinkedIn上直接写：I only applied to one school. 简直酷毙了。
是真这么计划的。
EA有那么早出结果的吗？ 普娃确实也可以不那么闹心 功课做好 target好了 ED一个Reach EA一个州大保底 也可以早早搞定安心
你这叫意淫。 大部分上藤校的，其实都不怎么卷，都是水到渠成的事情。你说在中国上清华北大的卷吗？人家不得不去陪你们学渣高考而已。
真的是，尊重娃要走的道路就可以了，大部分藤娃是自推娃，靠父母逼的很费力的，是少数
我错了，我是学渣。
这个楼主是推销自己网课的，耶鲁高楼有人已经指出他和楼主KateW同一个人
谢谢建议。过两年我会重新读一遍您的帖子，再考虑一下。目前计划不变。
我说对 AOPS 的贴 那么愤怒
孩子不听话，没办法像您家孩子那样对AoPS爱得死去活来，回国了还搬个小板凳上课。
人生能有几回搏？ 人家风风火火拼了几个月，难道不是更成熟了？以后遇上创业之类需要打拼的事，也是一回生二回熟 更不要说这个娃万一州大落空，还得复读吗？ 我肯定支持娃多申，申请费跟机会成本相比，不值一提 小作文用AI和模板生成一下就好了，也不费什么功夫 本来申请就是玄学，多买彩票才能中啊
10月就有保底的了， 为什么不再随便申请些好学校？
看不上藤校 为什么高中就要 homeschool ?
不是EA，是Auto Enrollment。在高中排名够就行。 那孩子很聪明，人家意向也很纯粹，本科毕业就读本校牙医，希望他心想事成。
你说的有道理，可惜风风火火拼了几个月结果跟没拼一样，得到的只有失败的教训，对于咋成功还是两眼一摸黑，😮💨
adda： ”Anyway，目标：只申请一所，最多两所，节省申请费，节省时间，大不了回家蹲着，homeschool。省下来的时间上上数学课，做会儿数学题，考考AMC 10，不好么。“
楼主 adda 是开班收费，教数学课的老师，上周私信我，推荐她的数学学校和课程，教的是和AOPS类似的课程，用的也是AOPS的教材。
我欢迎她开班带学生，但是指出来她不能在版面上一直发表对 AOPS 的负面帖子，然后私信家长推销自己的数学课，因为这样有 conflict of interest （COI）。
此后，adda 把我拉黑，紧接着网友 KateW 跟帖批评我 judgmental and hostile。
大家可以搜我最近的发言。
有本事你把所有的聊天记录都公布出来啊？为啥要有选择的公布？
这可能是仅存的一个帖子。 https://huaren.us/showtopic.html?topicid=3103919&fid=398
你把我拉黑啦，不知道你怎么操作的，所有和你的聊天记录都消失了！
我给你 permission 发我所有的和你的私信，如果你那里还可以看到我们的聊天记录的话~~
申请完大学，还需要考amc10?
实在看不懂
谢谢你给我 permission， 公布聊天记录。
版主大人，我们就事论事，所有言论就涉及 我 和 adda 两人，adda要我把所有聊天记录公布出来的，我也同意，所以是所有当事人都同意的，请不要删帖
版主大人，我已经按照 adda 要求马赛克所有和她孩子相关信息，如有遗漏请指正，我可以编辑修改发帖。
网友们家长们，如果你们之前看完点了赞，需要回来重新点一下，因为我在第五页又发现了一行和她孩子年龄相关的文字，所以编辑了下帖子。
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只要里边没有我孩子的信息，我没意见。
不好意思，好像你为了回复我一个 “BT” 又unblock 了我，所以我又可以看到聊天记录了
我十几年 ID， 没有小号，基本不删帖，好的坏的，走过的迷茫困惑喜悦，honest feelings，都留在了这个网上。
录取了才能拒，你都不敢申请拒个毛线。Y Y无极限......
Hello Dr. ***,
I must share this with you. *** has been in the AoPS Precalculus course. She submitted two homework assignments. In my opinion, they are excellent, beyond the norm. However, AoPS’ grader was terrible. The first time, they gave her a failing grade, 50%, for style. Then I wrote an email to them and asked why. To me, it is a punitive style, instead of encouraging, friendly style. Then they changed the style. For the second homework, *** did most part right, except a flaw. It is a very difficult problem with 3 parts, asking students to transform x to 1/x, x to sqrt(x+1), and 1 to 3/sqrt 5, using a sequence of trig and inverse trig functions, nothing else. Honestly, I don’t know if this kind of problem is necessary at all, for a beginner in Precalculus. Anyway, she spent 2 hours, figured out a way, and turned in her writing, in LaTeX. And probably due to my previous inquiry, they gave her a perfect score this time. But as I said, her answer had a flaw, she did not consider the domain and range of these functions. She felt she did not deserve a perfect score. She felt she got a perfect score because we begged for good grades rather than her work deserves a good grade. Anyway, she hated the experience. And she got sick, maybe due to stress, or maybe something germs around ***. She has not completed her week 3 homework yet, which is due tomorrow Wed. AoPS was not happy with her pickiness either. They unenrolled her without telling us. I was not sure about the decision, so I asked if she can stay for longer, and we don’t mind the risk of wasting $700. Honestly, so far, it has been a waste of time for us. She has to spend 3-4 hours to complete something she can finish in 1 hour with me.
I don’t think the class in *** community college will be anything better. We don’t have anyone to transport her to *** everyday for 5 weeks in summer either.
I would like to know what are our options. She is done with half of the AoPS Precalculus book. She can probably start with some basics on AP Calculus in summer with me. I have already showed her the concepts of limits, and derivatives in the past. In case the AoPS course does not work out, will *** still be able to test her and check if she can enroll in AP Calculus in the fall? If not, I guess it is OK to retake Precalculus at school. She can just tutor her classmates. That is not a big deal. She told me that in Honors Algebra 2, for exponential and logarithmic function module, she was one of the two students who got a full score.
I think, most likely, if we continue with AoPS, she will complain every week about other things. I have many students who dropped AoPS classes and switched to my classes, and some take courses in both places simutaneously. There have been tons of complaints about their courses. But AoPS has accreditation, and colleges think highly of their courses, although most students also study somewhere else simultaneously. They are also good at maintaining their “image” online. ******* Anyway, this is the situation.
Another interesting thing: I was a LinkedIn friend with AoPS founder and former CEO, Richard Rusczyk. ******* I shared the story with Richard, saying that I am disappointed how money-drive AoPS is now. He did not reply, but after a few weeks, he declared retirement from the CEO position, at the age of 53. I don’t think there is any correlation between the two events, but one of my students' parents said that, who knows, maybe my words made him think what he has been doing.
Please let me know what you think and how we should proceed. Thanks.
把省下的时间做数学题最搞笑。不爬藤的孩子也不会参加额外的数学班。多睡觉，多运动，多爬梯，哪个都比多做数学题有意思好不好。
妹妹厉害
谢谢。其实很多事情，good intention是最重要的。具体细节每个人做事方式不一样，没必要褒贬，just be kind
我觉得我中你的计了，你是故意激将法对吧？？高人，把我逗乐了。
最搞笑的不是做数学题，是做AMC10。申请完大学回去做AMC10? 这对数学的热情和数学水平的反差，还指望哪个ivy主动来邀请他？这个楼主属于完全搞不清状况的，说不定娃刚上小学。
我已经按照你的要求，马赛克所有和你孩子相关信息，如有遗漏请指正。
Back in the day in China, 我真就申请了一所学校，mostly because I was young and arrogant。
麻烦 mm 编辑下帖子，重新引用。
最初的发帖包含了她孩子的年龄和数学学习进度的信息
哈哈，我没有任何计谋。
昨天版主说你这么发帖然后私信，违反了版规，让我举报。
我回去想查看聊天记录发给版主，结果没有了！找不见任何聊天记录了。
刚刚你说 “有本事你把所有的聊天记录都公布出来啊？” 我是准备联系版主，看看怎么在你拉黑我的情况下单方面恢复聊天记录的，结果发现你又给我发了 “变态BT” 所以聊天记录又出现了。
我不是一个完美的人，但我绝不是骗人的人，你说 “有本事你把所有的聊天记录都公布出来啊？为啥要有选择的公布？” 说的好像我是选择性公布的骗子，那是我最讨厌的，也是我和你一直在这里死磕的原因。
请你在版上发表 AOPS 负面言论的时候，注明自己是开班授课的数学老师。我的诉求仅此而已。
That is fair.
Anyway, 我今天还有很多工作要做。就不陪大家聊天了，大家随便说啥，都无所谓。我完全信任版主，我的帖子随便删，账号也随便封，我都不介意。另外，版主辛苦了，华人网为大家服务这么多年，又有这么多发帖无数的ID，你们一直这么有耐心，有爱心，让我很感动。我想大家是因为心里有不开心的事，所以才会出来牢骚，没有任何人会无缘无故的发一堆抱怨，所以都互相多体谅。华人网如果有捐款渠道的话，麻烦通知我一声，我有兴趣。
最后说个笑话：我女儿有一天跑过来，跟我说，You just want to make videos every day, nothing else? What a nerd! 我立马笑了: thank you. i think that is a big compliment. I not only want to be a nerd, sometimes, I try to be a grumpy nerd, to save time. sit down here, let's learn some math.
我对学生家长有时确实grumpy，我常常说，没事比来找我，我很忙。他们貌似都不介意。暑假想选课，有个孩子妈妈发给我一个长长的表格，每个星期每一天孩子都有什么camp什么的，看看什么时候有空可以安排数学课。i feel honored, 不过我是能省事就省事的人，一般也就回复几行字，意思点到为止。
好好干活，把你的课开好，服务华人，是很好的事情。
我们聊天的时候，我也主动 offer 了帮你打广告。我不能接受的仅仅是一边说AOPS坏话，一边私下推销课程。
我真没有推销的意思。我们学校大部分的课，如果不是全部，都是有学生申请才开的。小老师教课，都是为了给他们锻炼的机会。我在里边砸那么多时间，还设计了所有人都win的program，只是想帮助这些高中生，人生第一份工作有个好的体验。我付他们工资，他们都不要，说太麻烦了。 anyway, 这些program，更多意义上是给大家的机会。不然，我不会“拒人无数”。每拒一个客户，至少是几千块钱的loss。有些孩子，被拒了又回来，重新申请，我们并不介意。他们也很成功。
一开始我想把公司开成nonprofit，然后请教了aops founder richard，他说，以他的经验，for profit做事情会更顺手，更自由。我犹豫了一下，最后采取了他的建议，注册了llc。这一点，我很感谢他。省时间，对我来说，比什么都重要。但是他不是一个公司的全部。
至于你不满意的地方，我也没办法，有时候最好的策略就是敌进我退，而不是死磕。
真是难以置信，真的没有推销的意思？
随便搜搜你发的帖子，这样招人的帖子数不胜数，私信就更多了。
私信就更多了。 在你批评 AOPS 的帖子里，我参与了回帖，你就立马给我私信，你给我的私信前面也贴了。
你换个 ID 吧~~~
For someone with a goal, "she is intrinsically interested in helping people become healthier", she will be very disappointed in the US health system. Lol
啊 耶鲁GTfull ride高楼是假的啊？我还放感情进去了 发言呢
adda，我给你个建议，好好教课，然后大大方方说我是来开班的，我是来招学生的，我有这个课我有那个课，这个课适合啥样的学生，那个课适合啥样的学生。。。这样子。
虽然来来回回和你聊了那么多不愉快的，只要你大大方方说，我和你说过很多次，我是支持你开班的，服务华人的同时发家致富，挺好！！
就是讨厌遮遮掩掩，暗搓搓的诋毁。
人心叵测呀
耶鲁GTfull ride高楼发帖的人是 KateW，回帖里有很多批评 KateW 的帖子，但是KateW 等高楼起来之后，大家开始讨伐 KateW 之后，她删帖然后首页里，一个网友也不提，只在首页里 refer 了 adda 的数学课 ：）
版主说 KateW 疑似是 adda 小号，他们正在重点关注。
耶鲁GTfull ride高楼，回帖里也有很多人提到，这两是一个人：
https://huaren.us/showtopic.html?topicid=3104350&fid=398
啊啊啊 课这么难卖啊 搞这么一大圈 😂