我家有一个，每次哭不超过3分钟， 楼主查一下power struggle in parenting，你和孩子进入了这个怪圈，是可以打破的： Power struggles in parenting arise when both parent and child are determined to have their way, creating a battle of wills. While power struggles can be frustrating, understanding their roots and employing effective strategies can help parents navigate these situations and build stronger relationships with their children. Strategies to Minimize and Navigate Power Struggles: Offer Choices: Providing choices within established boundaries can help children feel more empowered and involved, reducing the need to struggle for control. Establish Clear Limits and Boundaries: Clear expectations and consistent enforcement can help prevent misunderstandings and reduce the need for power struggles. Avoid Power Plays: Refrain from engaging in arguments or trying to force compliance, as this can escalate the struggle. Focus on Communication: Encourage open and honest communication, including listening to your child's perspective and emotions. Model Effective Communication: Demonstrate how to navigate disagreements and find solutions in a calm and respectful manner. Set Routines: Establishing routines can reduce the need for constant negotiations and decision-making, minimizing potential power struggles. Problem-Solve Together: When disagreements arise, work together to find mutually agreeable solutions. Acknowledge and Validate Feelings: Acknowledge your child's emotions and validate their feelings, even if you don't agree with their actions. Practice Active Listening: Pay attention to your child's verbal and nonverbal cues, showing them that you are listening and caring. Consider Environmental Factors: Ensure that your child's environment is supportive and allows for a sense of control, according to Moshi Kids. Remember Your Own Triggers: Be aware of your own triggers and work on managing your emotions to avoid escalating power struggles, according to The Therapist Parent. ay attention to your child's verbal and nonverbal cues, showing them that you are listening and caring.
这是正常的生长过程吗？ 要怎么教育？ 这是阶段性的吗？ 他的任何要求都要立刻满足吗？ 家里玩具特别多，他每次要求都要给买吗? 现在是一个星期买一个玩具 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 今天有了进步，在超市他要巧克力，我说不可以。他就拿着巧克力看着我，坚决不放下。我看着他坚定的说了不，重复几次，他眼泪在眼眶中打转，然后就放下了，没有哭。 出了超市表扬了儿子，谢谢他没有在超市哭，跟他说家里有很多巧克力，可以吃家里的。 他也很高兴
这样是很不好。 一是需要别人满足自己无理要求才能到及格线（不伤心）。二是情绪控制困难缺乏自我抑制， 大哭30分钟。 这样很难有正常社交。
让他哭，这点时间哭不坏
只要你坚持住，不出一周最多两周他哭的时间会断崖式下降，如果没有变化，需要带孩子去看看儿医，不开玩笑
huh？哭20分钟太正常了吧
“他的任何要求都要立刻满足吗”
当然不是，你在说什么？
为啥有这么多人每星期都买新玩具，不需要吧，最好不要带小孩去商店，就不会有这种要求买东西的习惯
那后来呢？ 没有emotional desregulation 吗
另外，如果她讲道理而不是哭闹，我倒是会考虑考虑。所以就更加不会用哭闹来达成她的目的。
我有个朋友比较惨，她的娃会哭闹到把自己搞吐了，然后她还要收拾。你娃只是哭，也还好啦。但即使是我朋友的娃，后来也好多了。
小孩这个阶段在学习情绪的控制和调整，大一些应该会好一点。有时候其实不管大人做什么，或者不做任何事，娃都会慢慢好的。有点像小娃睡觉，以及摘尿布，有的小娃很容易自主睡觉，很容易自主上厕所，但有的娃就是很难训睡，很难学会上厕所。但是其实到了一定年龄就好了，就是比较熬家长。有的时候真的就是头脑和感情发育的一个阶段。
后来慢慢好了 反正哭 就不理 可以坐在边上 不说话 陪着 但是不答应任何要求 直到不哭了 再解释原因
现在也才三岁多 已经能很快控制自己情绪了
哭比较长时间都发生在daycare，发生了两次，在家不会哭那么长时间。 在家一般5分钟哭完了就好了，我都是让他哭，告诉他你镇静了停止哭了就可以抱抱。
我家就一个，我也没对比，对别家孩子也不是很了解，导致比较困惑。 我家宝宝性格是比较内向，敏感一点。
现在采用的就是哭了更不给买，一个星期一个玩具，还能遵守约定。
那是不是在daycare有点遇到压力大和不开心的事啊。于是就借题发挥的崩溃了。按理说大部分小孩是在daycare更不闹。
娃和娃不一样。我以前有几个月每天中午去daycare去胸喂我家娃。其它婴儿都在睡觉，但有一个娃永远在哭，有一个娃永远在抱着奶瓶喝奶，毫不夸张。我还问过老师，这个老在哭的娃没事儿吗？老师说，他就这样，其实吃也吃的，睡也睡的，哭就哭呗，并不影响健康。
有一些很好的教这个年龄段小孩学习情绪控制的书，可以买来一起读，他们能看懂，也能明白，但是哭起来还是难控制，你就想象成你自己来例假前心情差容易发怒就可以理解了，全是荷尔蒙的错，等年龄大一点了，不用你做什么，也能学会控制情绪
如果是七八岁还这么哭，那是惯的
楼主查一下power struggle in parenting，你和孩子进入了这个怪圈，是可以打破的： Power struggles in parenting arise when both parent and child are determined to have their way, creating a battle of wills. While power struggles can be frustrating, understanding their roots and employing effective strategies can help parents navigate these situations and build stronger relationships with their children.
Strategies to Minimize and Navigate Power Struggles: Offer Choices: Providing choices within established boundaries can help children feel more empowered and involved, reducing the need to struggle for control. Establish Clear Limits and Boundaries: Clear expectations and consistent enforcement can help prevent misunderstandings and reduce the need for power struggles. Avoid Power Plays: Refrain from engaging in arguments or trying to force compliance, as this can escalate the struggle. Focus on Communication: Encourage open and honest communication, including listening to your child's perspective and emotions. Model Effective Communication: Demonstrate how to navigate disagreements and find solutions in a calm and respectful manner. Set Routines: Establishing routines can reduce the need for constant negotiations and decision-making, minimizing potential power struggles. Problem-Solve Together: When disagreements arise, work together to find mutually agreeable solutions. Acknowledge and Validate Feelings: Acknowledge your child's emotions and validate their feelings, even if you don't agree with their actions. Practice Active Listening: Pay attention to your child's verbal and nonverbal cues, showing them that you are listening and caring. Consider Environmental Factors: Ensure that your child's environment is supportive and allows for a sense of control, according to Moshi Kids. Remember Your Own Triggers: Be aware of your own triggers and work on managing your emotions to avoid escalating power struggles, according to The Therapist Parent. ay attention to your child's verbal and nonverbal cues, showing them that you are listening and caring.
四岁，也许太累太崩溃的时候会偶尔哭闹。但不应该还因为没得到自己想要的东西而哭闹啦。
娃两岁之前之前娃给老人带的，动不动就哭鼻子，不是那种倾诉性的哭，是“你不给我个态度我就给你个态度”那种歇斯底里的嚎
我纠正娃的方法也很简单。从嚎第一声起就逼斗ta的脸蛋。嚎一声逼斗一下。直到不嚎了开始抽泣了，再摸摸头安抚。
1周时间，彻底改掉坏习惯。小孩子就是要立刻给他负反馈。
这是不正常的你知道吧
哭20分钟又哭不坏，我家小时候经常一哭哭一个小时，长大以后也正常了。
哭了20分钟你就妥协，以后有的好受。
问过儿医 医生说非常正常 两岁到三岁 就是有孩子这样 不是只有不哭闹才是唯一正常 不过我们家娃 肯定也是比较执着的 人的性格 真的已经从很小就看出来了 他为了学习怎么potty 可以熬夜到12点
道理他都懂但他就是把你恨上了怎么办？他也不是小孩子了，有攻击性有破坏力。