又是人生下半场走下坡路，又是裁员阴影加噩梦，又是毕业找不到工作。 别没事儿给自己整那么焦虑，推荐大家读一读obstacle is the way这本书。最近几年估计全球经济都得下行，对一直有passion努力动脑子思考动手干活儿又善于反思不足提高自己的人来说，反倒是stand out的机会。换种角度想后，挑战就可以被解读成机会，人也能活得更有劲儿一些。
“The obstacle in the path becomes the path. Never forget, within every obstacle is an opportunity to improve our condition.” “We forget: In life, it doesn’t matter what happens to you or where you came from. It matters what you do with what happens and what you’ve been given.” “Focus on the moment, not the monsters that may or may not be up ahead.” “Remember that this moment is not your life, it’s just a moment in your life. Focus on what is in front of you, right now. Ignore what it “represents” or it “means” or “why it happened to you.” “Andrew Carnegie famously put it. There’s nothing shameful about sweeping. It’s just another opportunity to excel—and to learn. But you, you’re so busy thinking about the future, you don’t take any pride in the tasks you’re given right now. You just phone it all in, cash your paycheck, and dream of some higher station in life. Or you think, This is just a job, it isn’t who I am, it doesn’t matter. Foolishness. Everything we do matters—whether it’s making smoothies while you save up money or studying for the bar—even after you already achieved the success you sought.”
又是人生下半场走下坡路，又是裁员阴影加噩梦，又是毕业找不到工作。 别没事儿给自己整那么焦虑，推荐大家读一读obstacle is the way这本书。最近几年估计全球经济都得下行，对一直有passion努力动脑子思考动手干活儿又善于反思不足提高自己的人来说，反倒是stand out的机会。换种角度想后，挑战就可以被解读成机会，人也能活得更有劲儿一些。 MajiaLove 发表于 2024-10-04 00:02
贴个作者对自己书的总结
系统提示：若遇到视频无法播放请点击下方链接 https://www.youtube.com/embed/Snmh_IJL8M0 The Obstacle Is The Way | Summarized by the Author (Ryan Holiday) 8:30 “Things are never going to be perfect. They are never going to be ideal. They''re never going to be truly fair. You have to work with what you can. Do what you can with what you''ve got and then turn it into what you want to have.”
MajiaLove 发表于 2024-10-04 00:02 又是人生下半场走下坡路，又是裁员阴影加噩梦，又是毕业找不到工作。 别没事儿给自己整那么焦虑，推荐大家读一读obstacle is the way这本书。最近几年估计全球经济都得下行，对一直有passion努力动脑子思考动手干活儿又善于反思不足提高自己的人来说，反倒是stand out的机会。换种角度想后，挑战就可以被解读成机会，人也能活得更有劲儿一些。
别没事儿给自己整那么焦虑，推荐大家读一读obstacle is the way这本书。最近几年估计全球经济都得下行，对一直有passion努力动脑子思考动手干活儿又善于反思不足提高自己的人来说，反倒是stand out的机会。换种角度想后，挑战就可以被解读成机会，人也能活得更有劲儿一些。
你这是生怕别人不焦虑啊
– Marcus Aurelius – Seneca – Marcus Aurelius
“The obstacle in the path becomes the path. Never forget, within every obstacle is an opportunity to improve our condition.”
“We forget: In life, it doesn’t matter what happens to you or where you came from. It matters what you do with what happens and what you’ve been given.”
“Focus on the moment, not the monsters that may or may not be up ahead.”
“Remember that this moment is not your life, it’s just a moment in your life. Focus on what is in front of you, right now. Ignore what it “represents” or it “means” or “why it happened to you.”
“Andrew Carnegie famously put it. There’s nothing shameful about sweeping. It’s just another opportunity to excel—and to learn. But you, you’re so busy thinking about the future, you don’t take any pride in the tasks you’re given right now. You just phone it all in, cash your paycheck, and dream of some higher station in life. Or you think, This is just a job, it isn’t who I am, it doesn’t matter. Foolishness. Everything we do matters—whether it’s making smoothies while you save up money or studying for the bar—even after you already achieved the success you sought.”
这就是人类心理好玩儿的地方。不同于对客观世界的理性认知，是一个负反馈而不断修正逼近的过程，对自身感受的解读和应对态度到实践中的行为及成果再到下一轮的自我评价，是一个正反馈的过程。所以你要么选择开始焦虑然后不断自我强化下去，要么选择其他路然后不断自我强化下去。所有的心理道路都很大程度上是self fulfilling的。有人愿意选走上噩梦之旅，谁也拦不住啊。
哈哈
反正别人说啥都是pua，只有跟着一起抱怨，才是正道。
差不多意思，当然心理之路的正反馈方向维度很多，不是只有正能量和负能量这一个维度两个方向的
贴个作者对自己书的总结
系统提示：若遇到视频无法播放请点击下方链接
https://www.youtube.com/embed/Snmh_IJL8M0 The Obstacle Is The Way | Summarized by the Author (Ryan Holiday)
8:30 “Things are never going to be perfect. They are never going to be ideal. They''re never going to be truly fair. You have to work with what you can. Do what you can with what you''ve got and then turn it into what you want to have.”
正常啊， 智者多虑， 傻子才天天打着鸡血喊口号
我现在的 motivation 就是努力找退休地点, 40 岁之前实现 F.I.R.E.
智者多虑才是一个囫囵论述非常容易被错误引申的毒鸡汤啊。
首先，多虑的目的是啥？是得生成当下的actionable plan。最差情况也得是分析出来所虑的情况不在自己控制范围内，也无法生成任何当下能做的行动，那么现在能做的决定就是以后短期内不再浪费能量和时间思虑这个情况了。没有这个principle，多虑就被滥用成了焦虑的出发点。
第二，多虑所考虑的情况离现下的时间距离有多远。依照混沌理论，时间越远的，情况的种类就越多成指数级增长，不确定性也指数级增长，每种情况做多虑投入的ROI也趋近于零，也就是完全开始在浪费自己当下的精力和时间。所以长期的事情，其实是需要交给人类历史长河里大量数据总结出来的经验来给出灯塔式的指引的。基本上只需要做符合历史上人类社会总结出来的virtue的，加强自己virtue的事情，就绝对没大错了。
第三，如果智者仅仅了解客观世界的一些规律，而对人的主观世界没有一些认知（无论是对自己面对需要打交道的身边人，还是自己本身），那就无法理解这些多虑想要优化的是一个多么复杂的多目标函数，而且其各个priority之间的排序关系也是在不断变化的。没留神就会被一个看似优先级高，但其实在一个时期里并不那么重要的priority所劫持，进入钻牛角尖模式。所以很多所谓的“智者”并没有那么高的智慧，但自满还阻碍了他们看清自己不足急需学习智慧的脚步。
如果再想透一点儿，没必要也不应该制定固定的远期目标。选择自己当下要走的方向更重要。等假如真达到了某些milestone，后面还是得继续朝个能自我实现的方向努力不是？
认知降维打击了 👍