孩子这几年变声了以后，性格发生了很大的变，其中一点就是不能坦然接受赞扬. It goes like this: "你们今天的演出很棒，你的表现也很好" "You think its good only because you guys are parents. No one else would want to watch it even if you pay them, You guys even pay for the tickets. Sad" “我看到你的成绩单了，You are on the honor roll，恭喜！” “Do you know how hard it is not to be on the honor roll? You actually have to fail school" "你 got straight A, 不是每个人可以做到的，想要点啥奖励？” “This only because they don't care, everyone cares can get straight A, not like it is hard" 他有一个口头禅 only because. 本来说一句 thank you 就完了的事，几乎变成一场争论。 前几天，AP出了成绩 “哇，好几个5分，恭喜” "That's only because those people are stupid，they take the tests even if they are not ready，you don t have to be good，you only need to be better than them to get a 5" 当然也不能批评他，批评他也 talk back, 比表扬的时候少说一点点，我极少直接批评他。 这是什么心态？ 缺乏自信吗？需要帮助他吗？怎么帮助？
dcbby 发表于 2024-07-13 19:14 孩子这几年变声了以后，性格发生了很大的变，其中一点就是不能坦然接受赞扬. It goes like this: "你们今天的演出很棒，你的表现也很好" "You think its good only because you guys are parents. No one else would want to watch it even if you pay them, You guys even pay for the tickets. Sad" “我看到你的成绩单了，You are on the honor roll，恭喜！” “Do you know how hard it is not to be on the honor roll? You actually have to fail school" "你 got straight A, 不是每个人可以做到的，想要点啥奖励？” “This only because they don't care, everyone cares can get straight A, not like it is hard" 他有一个口头禅 only because. 本来说一句 thank you 就完了的事，几乎变成一场争论。 前几天，AP出了成绩 “哇，好几个5分，恭喜” "That's only because those people are stupid，they take the tests even if they are not ready，you don t have to be good，you only need to be better than them to get a 5" 当然也不能批评他，批评他也 talk back, 比表扬的时候少说一点点，我极少直接批评他。 这是什么心态？ 缺乏自信吗？需要帮助他吗？怎么帮助？
dcbby 发表于 2024-07-13 19:14 孩子这几年变声了以后，性格发生了很大的变，其中一点就是不能坦然接受赞扬. It goes like this: "你们今天的演出很棒，你的表现也很好" "You think its good only because you guys are parents. No one else would want to watch it even if you pay them, You guys even pay for the tickets. Sad" “我看到你的成绩单了，You are on the honor roll，恭喜！” “Do you know how hard it is not to be on the honor roll? You actually have to fail school" "你 got straight A, 不是每个人可以做到的，想要点啥奖励？” “This only because they don't care, everyone cares can get straight A, not like it is hard" 他有一个口头禅 only because. 本来说一句 thank you 就完了的事，几乎变成一场争论。 前几天，AP出了成绩 “哇，好几个5分，恭喜” "That's only because those people are stupid，they take the tests even if they are not ready，you don t have to be good，you only need to be better than them to get a 5" 当然也不能批评他，批评他也 talk back, 比表扬的时候少说一点点，我极少直接批评他。 这是什么心态？ 缺乏自信吗？需要帮助他吗？怎么帮助？
觉得chatGPT还挺懂的。很多种可能都提到了。lz觉得哪个像 Your child's reactions suggest a few possibilities. This might be a sign of low self-esteem or an attempt to manage expectations and avoid disappointment. It could also be a way to downplay achievements to avoid standing out among peers, or it may be influenced by a desire for authenticity and a critical view of praise. Here are some steps you can take to help your child: 1. **Validate Feelings**: Acknowledge their feelings and perspectives without immediately countering them. This can help them feel heard and understood. 2. **Encourage Self-Reflection**: Gently encourage your child to reflect on their achievements and the effort they put in. This can help them see their own value. 3. **Model Positive Self-Talk**: Demonstrate how to accept compliments graciously. For example, you can say, “Thank you, I worked hard on this,” when someone praises you. 4. **Create a Supportive Environment**: Foster an environment where effort and progress are celebrated, not just outcomes. This can reduce the pressure they feel to achieve perfection. 5. **Seek Professional Help**: If the behavior persists and seems to impact their well-being, consider consulting a therapist who specializes in adolescent development. They can provide tailored strategies to help your child build self-confidence. Understanding the underlying reasons for your child's behavior is crucial. Open, non-judgmental communication and support can make a significant difference.
dcbby 发表于 2024-07-13 19:14 孩子这几年变声了以后，性格发生了很大的变，其中一点就是不能坦然接受赞扬. It goes like this: "你们今天的演出很棒，你的表现也很好" "You think its good only because you guys are parents. No one else would want to watch it even if you pay them, You guys even pay for the tickets. Sad" “我看到你的成绩单了，You are on the honor roll，恭喜！” “Do you know how hard it is not to be on the honor roll? You actually have to fail school" "你 got straight A, 不是每个人可以做到的，想要点啥奖励？” “This only because they don't care, everyone cares can get straight A, not like it is hard" 他有一个口头禅 only because. 本来说一句 thank you 就完了的事，几乎变成一场争论。 前几天，AP出了成绩 “哇，好几个5分，恭喜” "That's only because those people are stupid，they take the tests even if they are not ready，you don t have to be good，you only need to be better than them to get a 5" 当然也不能批评他，批评他也 talk back, 比表扬的时候少说一点点，我极少直接批评他。 这是什么心态？ 缺乏自信吗？需要帮助他吗？怎么帮助？
It goes like this:
"你们今天的演出很棒，你的表现也很好" "You think its good only because you guys are parents. No one else would want to watch it even if you pay them, You guys even pay for the tickets. Sad"
“我看到你的成绩单了，You are on the honor roll，恭喜！” “Do you know how hard it is not to be on the honor roll? You actually have to fail school"
"你 got straight A, 不是每个人可以做到的，想要点啥奖励？” “This only because they don't care, everyone cares can get straight A, not like it is hard"
他有一个口头禅 only because. 本来说一句 thank you 就完了的事，几乎变成一场争论。
前几天，AP出了成绩
“哇，好几个5分，恭喜” "That's only because those people are stupid，they take the tests even if they are not ready，you don t have to be good，you only need to be better than them to get a 5"
当然也不能批评他，批评他也 talk back, 比表扬的时候少说一点点，我极少直接批评他。
这是什么心态？ 缺乏自信吗？需要帮助他吗？怎么帮助？
其实是聪明娃 能认清楚 虽然话糙
说的句句也是实话。
我一般看见娃为什么努力的练，最后结果出来好，我才表扬她。 不是跟别人比，是跟自己的一贯水平比。
什么演出 家长还要买票？
各种跳舞体操，音乐表演都是卖票给家长的啊。
好想知道是几年级的孩子，这么人间清醒的啊
"I worked my ass off to barely make it, sad, isn't it"
我都不知道怎么接话
他会说 “Great, I am such a try hard"
Your child's reactions suggest a few possibilities. This might be a sign of low self-esteem or an attempt to manage expectations and avoid disappointment. It could also be a way to downplay achievements to avoid standing out among peers, or it may be influenced by a desire for authenticity and a critical view of praise.
Here are some steps you can take to help your child:
1. **Validate Feelings**: Acknowledge their feelings and perspectives without immediately countering them. This can help them feel heard and understood. 2. **Encourage Self-Reflection**: Gently encourage your child to reflect on their achievements and the effort they put in. This can help them see their own value. 3. **Model Positive Self-Talk**: Demonstrate how to accept compliments graciously. For example, you can say, “Thank you, I worked hard on this,” when someone praises you. 4. **Create a Supportive Environment**: Foster an environment where effort and progress are celebrated, not just outcomes. This can reduce the pressure they feel to achieve perfection. 5. **Seek Professional Help**: If the behavior persists and seems to impact their well-being, consider consulting a therapist who specializes in adolescent development. They can provide tailored strategies to help your child build self-confidence.
Understanding the underlying reasons for your child's behavior is crucial. Open, non-judgmental communication and support can make a significant difference.
其实娃说的都对
要提高情商，别人善意的表扬，即使自己不认可，也要表面上过得去，说声谢谢。
要认识自己的成绩，对自己有肯定，多向印度人学习
年龄小，不一定灵魂年轻。
你跟他说， 他这么努力，你更为他骄傲， 因为是最重要的品质， 比天赋重要多了。 你家儿子只是谦虚， 你夸他肯定他， 他应该是开心的， 你就接受他的过度谦虚好了。