回复 1楼一切都是最好的安排的帖子 致孩子 --纪伯伦 你们的孩子都不是你们的孩子， 那是生命为自己所渴望的儿女。 他们是借你们而来， 却不是从你们而来； 他们虽与你们同在， 却不属于你们。 你们可以给他们以爱， 却不可以给他们以思想， 因为他们有自己的思想。 你们可以荫蔽， 却不可以荫蔽他们的灵魂。 因为他们的灵魂， 是住在明日的宅中， 那是你们在梦中也不能相见的。 你们可以努力去模仿他们， 却不能使他们来像你们。 因为生命是不倒行的， 也不与昨日一同停留。 你们是弓， 你们的孩子 是弦上发出的生命的箭矢。 那射者在无穷之间看定了目标， 也用神力将你们引满， 使他的箭矢迅速而遥远地射了出去 让你们 在射者手中的弯曲成为喜乐吧 因为他爱那飞出去的箭， 也爱那静止的弓。 https://m.thepaper.cn/baijiahao_9499599 ****** On Children Kahlil Gibran1883 –1931 And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, Speak to us of Children. And he said: Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far. Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness; For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable. https://poets.org/poem/children-1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PBNgUT3bubk 李玫瑾教授解答孩子犯错该不该打
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uiieO6QrGCM 李玫瑾：你和孩子說話的語氣，決定了他對你的態度，父母必看
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vJjF7FEkygQ 孩子青春期叛逆家长正确的处理方法
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=roi4Nk2r5lQ 李玫瑾教授谈“什么是成熟的爱”：父母如果情感自私，教出来的孩子会有什么表现
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lg7If70Tn_4 毛不易温情演唱歌曲《你好，陌生人》传递温暖，一起欣赏
大人不懂沟通、parenting，暴力育儿实在太可怕了，都是哪里来的野蛮人、精神病人
写给儿子的信 --胡适？（真实与否出处何在我不确定，只是在网上读到的）
我养育你，并非恩情 只是血缘使然的生物本能 所以，我既然无恩于你 你便无需报答我 反而，我要感谢你 因为有你的参与 我的生命才更完整 ✨ 我只是碰巧成为了你的父亲 你只是碰巧成为了我的女儿和儿子 我并不是你的前传 你也不是我的续篇 ✨ 你是独立的个体 是与我不同的灵魂 你并不因我而来 你是因对生命的渴望而来 你是自由的 我是爱你的 但我绝不会“以爱之名” 去掌控你的人生
https://mbd.baidu.com/newspage/data/dtlandingsuper?nid=dt_4509451250429657448
致孩子 --纪伯伦
你们的孩子都不是你们的孩子， 那是生命为自己所渴望的儿女。 他们是借你们而来， 却不是从你们而来； 他们虽与你们同在， 却不属于你们。
你们可以给他们以爱， 却不可以给他们以思想， 因为他们有自己的思想。 你们可以荫蔽， 却不可以荫蔽他们的灵魂。 因为他们的灵魂， 是住在明日的宅中， 那是你们在梦中也不能相见的。 你们可以努力去模仿他们， 却不能使他们来像你们。 因为生命是不倒行的， 也不与昨日一同停留。
你们是弓， 你们的孩子 是弦上发出的生命的箭矢。 那射者在无穷之间看定了目标， 也用神力将你们引满， 使他的箭矢迅速而遥远地射了出去 让你们 在射者手中的弯曲成为喜乐吧 因为他爱那飞出去的箭， 也爱那静止的弓。
https://m.thepaper.cn/baijiahao_9499599 ****** On Children
Kahlil Gibran1883 –1931
And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, Speak to us of Children. And he said: Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far. Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness; For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
https://poets.org/poem/children-1
这个文化确实有严重问题。不培养独立人格，人和人之间界限不清，像藤一样缠在一起。
爸妈是人不是神，为什么对爸妈要有敬畏之心？有毛病吧。彼此平等尊重不好么？