你可以问问你的娃，为什么用食指指人或者物是不礼貌的，而用手掌指人或者物是可以被接受的，看看你家娃能不能想出‘老师这么教的’之外的合乎逻辑的理由。 ------------------------------------------------------------------- 如果说‘用手指指人’属于未经同意就把别人拉入evaluation，那用手掌指人会有同样的问题。 一个能区分用手指指人/手掌指人的点在于，英语里pointing fingers to someone是blame，甩锅之类的负面意思。中文里没有这个用法。（实际上，在中文环境下，如果是一个手指指人会让人感觉被冒犯的情景，用手掌指人基本上同样在冒犯） 如果是这个原因，pointing finger to something是不受这个影响的。当然，可以继续争辩说pointing finger at something的时候有时可能误指到背景里的人，让人感觉被冒犯。这么说的话，那只要在需要指树指马路之类的这种情况，小心谨慎避免误会就好了。你指货架上的货，指菜场里的肉不受影响。指物品也完全不是不礼貌的行为，归根结底还是不能指人。
我有时候公共场合哼歌，比如Costco，我家孩子就会让我不要哼了。不是大声唱，就是有人从你旁边擦身过会听到的程度。我告诉她要脸皮厚一点，不要太在意别人的眼光，不要过分约束自己。只要不是大声喧哗影响到别人，就没关系。你们砸我吧。但是我真心觉得，爱咋咋地，管他的呢。什么乱七八糟的世俗规矩，上次华人学的 etiquette is ornament of hypocrisy
is it ok to point using finger to an object to show to others? ChatGPT
Pointing at an object using your finger to show it to others is generally considered acceptable and commonly used for communication purposes. Pointing can be an effective way to direct someone''''''''''''''''s attention or indicate a specific object or location. However, it''''''''''''''''s important to be mindful of cultural norms and individual preferences. While pointing is generally acceptable in many cultures, there are exceptions. In some cultures, pointing with the index finger may be considered impolite or offensive. It''''''''''''''''s always a good idea to be aware of and respect the cultural norms of the people you are interacting with. Additionally, it''''''''''''''''s important to use discretion and consideration when pointing at objects, especially in sensitive or formal settings. For instance, pointing directly at someone''''''''''''''''s personal belongings or in a confrontational manner could be perceived as rude or intrusive. In summary, while pointing at objects using your finger is generally acceptable, it''''''''''''''''s important to be aware of cultural norms, individual preferences, and the context in which you are pointing. in what culture pointing object is consider rude? ChatGPT
In certain cultures, pointing at objects or people with the index finger can be considered impolite or rude. Here are a few examples: Middle Eastern cultures: In some Middle Eastern cultures, pointing with the index finger is considered impolite and may be perceived as aggressive. It is preferred to use an open hand or gesture with the whole hand to indicate or direct attention. East Asian cultures: In some East Asian cultures, such as Japan and Korea, pointing directly at someone or something with the index finger can be seen as impolite or disrespectful. Instead, it is more common to use an open hand or a subtle nod to indicate direction or draw attention. Indian culture: In Indian culture, pointing at someone or something with the index finger is generally discouraged, as it can be considered disrespectful or accusatory. It is more polite to use an open hand or gesture with the chin or head to indicate or direct attention. It''''''''''''''''s important to note that these cultural norms can vary within different regions and individuals within the same culture may have varying views on pointing. When interacting with individuals from different cultural backgrounds, it''''''''''''''''s always advisable to be sensitive and observe their gestures and non-verbal cues to ensure respectful communication.
is it ok to point using finger to an object to show to others? ChatGPT
Pointing at an object using your finger to show it to others is generally considered acceptable and commonly used for communication purposes. Pointing can be an effective way to direct someone''''''''''''''''s attention or indicate a specific object or location. However, it''''''''''''''''s important to be mindful of cultural norms and individual preferences. While pointing is generally acceptable in many cultures, there are exceptions. In some cultures, pointing with the index finger may be considered impolite or offensive. It''''''''''''''''s always a good idea to be aware of and respect the cultural norms of the people you are interacting with. Additionally, it''''''''''''''''s important to use discretion and consideration when pointing at objects, especially in sensitive or formal settings. For instance, pointing directly at someone''''''''''''''''s personal belongings or in a confrontational manner could be perceived as rude or intrusive. In summary, while pointing at objects using your finger is generally acceptable, it''''''''''''''''s important to be aware of cultural norms, individual preferences, and the context in which you are pointing. in what culture pointing object is consider rude? ChatGPT
In certain cultures, pointing at objects or people with the index finger can be considered impolite or rude. Here are a few examples: Middle Eastern cultures: In some Middle Eastern cultures, pointing with the index finger is considered impolite and may be perceived as aggressive. It is preferred to use an open hand or gesture with the whole hand to indicate or direct attention. East Asian cultures: In some East Asian cultures, such as Japan and Korea, pointing directly at someone or something with the index finger can be seen as impolite or disrespectful. Instead, it is more common to use an open hand or a subtle nod to indicate direction or draw attention. Indian culture: In Indian culture, pointing at someone or something with the index finger is generally discouraged, as it can be considered disrespectful or accusatory. It is more polite to use an open hand or gesture with the chin or head to indicate or direct attention. It''''''''''''''''s important to note that these cultural norms can vary within different regions and individuals within the same culture may have varying views on pointing. When interacting with individuals from different cultural backgrounds, it''''''''''''''''s always advisable to be sensitive and observe their gestures and non-verbal cues to ensure respectful communication. seanxyz2 发表于 2023-07-09 11:15
你可以问问你的娃，为什么用食指指人或者物是不礼貌的，而用手掌指人或者物是可以被接受的，看看你家娃能不能想出‘老师这么教的’之外的合乎逻辑的理由。 ------------------------------------------------------------------- 如果说‘用手指指人’属于未经同意就把别人拉入evaluation，那用手掌指人会有同样的问题。 一个能区分用手指指人/手掌指人的点在于，英语里pointing fingers to someone是blame，甩锅之类的负面意思。中文里没有这个用法。（实际上，在中文环境下，如果是一个手指指人会让人感觉被冒犯的情景，用手掌指人基本上同样在冒犯） 如果是这个原因，pointing finger to something是不受这个影响的。当然，可以继续争辩说pointing finger at something的时候有时可能误指到背景里的人，让人感觉被冒犯。这么说的话，那只要在需要指树指马路之类的这种情况，小心谨慎避免误会就好了。你指货架上的货，指菜场里的肉不受影响。指物品也完全不是不礼貌的行为，归根结底还是不能指人。
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您这装的有点过头了吧，我身边都是白人圈，犹太人圈，投行的，私募的，随便问一个人都没听说过手指头不能指物。年薪百万，美国出生的不如你一个第一语言是中文的懂美国的“基本礼仪manner”？
一个能区分用手指指人/手掌指人的点在于，英语里pointing fingers to someone是blame，甩锅之类的负面意思。中文里没有这个用法。（实际上，在中文环境下，如果是一个手指指人会让人感觉被冒犯的情景，用手掌指人基本上同样在冒犯）
如果是这个原因，pointing finger to something是不受这个影响的。当然，可以继续争辩说pointing finger at something的时候有时可能误指到背景里的人，让人感觉被冒犯。这么说的话，那只要在需要指树指马路之类的这种情况，小心谨慎避免误会就好了。你指货架上的货，指菜场里的肉不受影响。指物品也完全不是不礼貌的行为，归根结底还是不能指人。
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底线是不能指人， 指别的，没问题。
筷子指菜，哈哈，老人爱干的事儿
用筷子指着劝菜算好的了，最烦的是边劝菜边用筷子把菜拨拉一番，或者啜一下筷子然后给你夹一块。
指人绝对是不礼貌。
指东西没听过不可以的。
index finger
当你指远处的东西时，大概率背景里也有人，所以最好干脆就不指了，免得还要先观察一番
这个太正常不过了。
像你这种这么不待见妈妈的孩子是怎么养出来的
哈哈哈哈难怪我看很多小红书视频指什么都是整只手
哎呀嘛 描述太形象了，饭桌上这种人还不少。
用嘴示意：“呶” 用眼神示意：>>.
我也是第一次听说不礼貌。
一整只手是怎么样啊？像哆啦A梦那样的拳头吗？还是礼仪小姐那样手心朝上？都有点造作啊。
我想起了新白娘子传奇，金山寺夫妻被迫分离，俩人互相伸着手的动作了。
整只手怎么指东西？ 行纳粹礼？
我不用食指，用中指可以吧？
exactly，我也比划了一下，不是礼仪小姐就是纳粹，好尴尬啊。
当然是45楼的那种...不是指文件上的一行字，而是比如在户外指路标，Costco指哪个aisle这种人多的地方
前面说选蛋糕的，我选蛋糕都是语言描述，先念蛋糕名字再描述颜色/第几排/前后哪块（选肉同理：哪个品类，第几排，前后哪一块）。隔着柜台店员得弯腰才能看到你的手，而且你看到的手指角度和店员看到你手指的角度都不一样，人家怎么知道你说的是哪块？
买肉和蛋糕不一样。得一边说一边指哪一块。真没那么矫情，有的老师还指着字给孩子读书呢。
笑死我啦哈哈哈
我觉得这个画风
index finger
笑死我了，太形象了。
感觉这不是伸手要钱的动作吗？
做
你跟别人介绍贵宾某某某的时候，一般就是这个动作，显得很礼貌
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脑子一下子转不过来，整只手是五个手指都指过去还是用拳头？
这个动作不是很像要东西……食指不指东西感觉好搞笑
你把文化习惯，基本礼仪，和入乡随俗搞混了。
比如不插队，不随地吐痰，不把脚放在椅背上是基本礼仪。
而怎么指人是文化习惯。在一个国家文化里如果没有贬义，那就不是基本礼仪。
在美国的中国人跟着本地居民做是入乡随俗。为啥要拉着全中国人学？
还有一个研究生同学，南美人，他在画廊打工，告诉我给客人介绍讲解的时候要用整只手，并拢，手心向外。
头几天公司在公园BBQ,然后做游戏扔鸡蛋，一组鸡蛋碎了，一个刚刚从国内来不到一年的同事就觉得很好笑然后一直用手指。我想告诉她，但真的是刚认识几分钟，怕说了她不高兴不理解或者尴尬，就忍住了。
我也被我女儿说过
同意，指人肯定不礼貌，但是指物只是有些文化认为不礼貌， 问了 chapgpt， 居然是主要东方文化不礼貌 （日本韩国印度），我个人好像也不习惯指东西，但是如果我身边的人很明显指东西时只是为了说清楚，我不会judge别人不礼貌，因为不是所有的文化都不能用手指指物， 人家也不是故意的，像楼上几位动不动就judge的，就是因为有你们这些敏感喜欢judge的，搞得现在一点点细枝末节的小事就觉得被冒犯或者害怕冒犯别人，心大点把
is it ok to point using finger to an object to show to others?
ChatGPT
Pointing at an object using your finger to show it to others is generally considered acceptable and commonly used for communication purposes. Pointing can be an effective way to direct someone''''''''''''''''s attention or indicate a specific object or location. However, it''''''''''''''''s important to be mindful of cultural norms and individual preferences. While pointing is generally acceptable in many cultures, there are exceptions. In some cultures, pointing with the index finger may be considered impolite or offensive. It''''''''''''''''s always a good idea to be aware of and respect the cultural norms of the people you are interacting with. Additionally, it''''''''''''''''s important to use discretion and consideration when pointing at objects, especially in sensitive or formal settings. For instance, pointing directly at someone''''''''''''''''s personal belongings or in a confrontational manner could be perceived as rude or intrusive. In summary, while pointing at objects using your finger is generally acceptable, it''''''''''''''''s important to be aware of cultural norms, individual preferences, and the context in which you are pointing.
in what culture pointing object is consider rude?
ChatGPT
In certain cultures, pointing at objects or people with the index finger can be considered impolite or rude. Here are a few examples: Middle Eastern cultures: In some Middle Eastern cultures, pointing with the index finger is considered impolite and may be perceived as aggressive. It is preferred to use an open hand or gesture with the whole hand to indicate or direct attention. East Asian cultures: In some East Asian cultures, such as Japan and Korea, pointing directly at someone or something with the index finger can be seen as impolite or disrespectful. Instead, it is more common to use an open hand or a subtle nod to indicate direction or draw attention. Indian culture: In Indian culture, pointing at someone or something with the index finger is generally discouraged, as it can be considered disrespectful or accusatory. It is more polite to use an open hand or gesture with the chin or head to indicate or direct attention. It''''''''''''''''s important to note that these cultural norms can vary within different regions and individuals within the same culture may have varying views on pointing. When interacting with individuals from different cultural backgrounds, it''''''''''''''''s always advisable to be sensitive and observe their gestures and non-verbal cues to ensure respectful communication.
和你一样，只要不是故意指人，看到别人指物不会觉得不礼貌，但是楼上几位大妈马上就要让所有的人都觉得指物也是粗鄙的表现了
有些中国人来到美国就自带一种莫名其妙的优越感，不judge同族人，不跟白人一样习惯和作风就觉得自己这种优越感得不到体现，尤其自我感觉处处良好的人，习惯就好了。我来论坛就是看这些极品，不做这些极品的事和说这些极品的话，也算是学习。
老婆：老公你看，挂在模特身上那件衣服好漂亮。 老公：指就指，敬什么纳粹军礼
而且其他国人做的不一样他们会莫名其妙感到尴尬和不快，就像前几天那个毕业典礼着装贴一样，生怕reflect poorly on themselves.
她们如果自个儿心里尴尬不快，也就算了。现在的问题是她们常常喜欢跟其他国人（比如，来这儿）面前，占个制高点，表达一下别人的行为多么落后，多么不礼貌，而她们是早就学到了高大上的习惯的了。。。
一个能区分用手指指人/手掌指人的点在于，英语里pointing fingers to someone是blame，甩锅之类的负面意思。中文里没有这个用法。（实际上，在中文环境下，如果是一个手指指人会让人感觉被冒犯的情景，用手掌指人基本上同样在冒犯）
如果是这个原因，pointing finger to something是不受这个影响的。当然，可以继续争辩说pointing finger at something的时候有时可能误指到背景里的人，让人感觉被冒犯。这么说的话，那只要在需要指树指马路之类的这种情况，小心谨慎避免误会就好了。你指货架上的货，指菜场里的肉不受影响。指物品也完全不是不礼貌的行为，归根结底还是不能指人。
您这装的有点过头了吧，我身边都是白人圈，犹太人圈，投行的，私募的，随便问一个人都没听说过手指头不能指物。年薪百万，美国出生的不如你一个第一语言是中文的懂美国的“基本礼仪manner”？