walk away from him ...(of course you have to be home)... let him cry, have a temper. Eventually he will calm down and learn screaming is not going to get him anywhere. Then he will stop. It might take a couple try before he realizes it. Normally it takes 10 -15 minutes, he will cry VERY hard, but then he will start to calm down. If you do decide to do it, don't give in to go back to him after walking away from him.. if you did, he would think crying hard or making louder noise made you to go back to him. He is at the age he is testing his limit and testing you... Don't forget to offer plenty of kisses and hugs after it is over.... [此贴子已经被amychen106于2007-3-21 23:05:37编辑过]
以下是引用小小鸟在2007-3-6 12:50:00的发言： walk away from him ...(of course you have to be home)... let him cry, have a temper. Eventually he will calm down and learn screaming is not going to get him anywhere. Then he will stop. It might take a couple try before he realizes it. Normally it takes 10 -15 minutes, he will cry VERY hard, but then he will start to calm down. If you do decide to do it, don't give in to go back to him after walking away from him.. if you did, he would think crying hard or making louder noise made you to go back to him. He is at the age he is testing his limit and testing you... Don't forget to offer plenty of kisses and hugs after it is over.... 谢谢你的建议。对他无理取闹时，我一定贯彻实施。 我还有一点疑惑，比如在家里如果他想要某种东西，拿不着会看着我或是叫。如果东西没有什么危险，我会给他，他也很高兴. 可是在超市或是饭店，他要拿人家的东西，我自然不能给他，所以他会叫得更大，很不高兴。我觉得他也很confuse, 为什么我有时给他有时又不给，可他现在也不懂什么是家里什么是外面啊？难道我在家里也对他的要求置之不理吗？
They are have a tantrum due to many reasons. Sometimes it happens because you don't understand what he wants and he can't explain it well, then you need to be patient to figure out what it is and build that communication channel with him, whether it is baby sigh or not. Baby sign does help in this case, because it is a lot easier for the child to communicate with you than using the actual word. There are time they have a tantrum simply because their ability to maintain self-control breaks down, resulting in a tantrum. Then, you need to walk away from it, and let him to figure out a way to control the anger. Don't ever give in to demands because your response will only encourage him to repeat the tratrum the next time, even in public places. If it happens, i will remove him from the public areas, go back to your car so people don't get bothered by his tantrum. There will be time you can distract him... You have to try different things to figure out which way fits your child the best. There are times you need to try them all.... [此贴子已经被作者于2007-3-6 13:37:24编辑过]
以下是引用小小鸟在2007-3-6 13:06:00的发言： They are have a tantrum due to many reasons. Sometimes it happens because you don't understand what he wants and he can't explain it well, then you need to be patient to figure out what it is and build that communication channel with him, whether it is baby sigh or not. Baby sign does help in this case, because it is a lot easier for the child to communicate with you than using the actual word. There are time they have a tantrum simply because they can't ability to maintain self-control breaks down, resulting in a tantrum. Then, you need to walk away from it, and let him to figure out a way to control the anger. Don't ever give in to demands because your response will only encourage him to repeast the tratrum the next time, even in public places. If it happens, i will remove him from the public areas, go back to your car so people don't get bothered by his tantrum. There will be time you can distract him... You have to try different things to figure out which way fits your child the best. There are times you need to try them all.... 再次感谢，我好像明白些了。
看了小小鸟的建议，和我的大同小异。只是我表达的太不清楚。 其实我在twweey的帖子里和相亲相爱中都提到过这种现象，孩子某个特定阶段的问题来来去去就那几种，好的处理方式也就那几种，无论是看书、论坛提问，你只能得到建议，最适合你宝宝的方法，还是要自己摸索。 没有一定的、所谓的最好方法，无非是不同情况下，慢慢的找出最佳的对策。冷处理、带孩子离开公共场合、耐心沟通等方法区别运用，rules with love，坚持下来会有解决方法的。 想是想不明白的，都是实践中摸索出来的。 good luck
以下是引用小小鸟在2007-3-6 12:50:00的发言： walk away from him ...(of course you have to be home)... let him cry, have a temper. Eventually he will calm down and learn screaming is not going to get him anywhere. Then he will stop. It might take a couple try before he realizes it. Normally it takes 10 -15 minutes, he will cry VERY hard, but then he will start to calm down. If you do decide to do it, don't give in to go back to him after walking away from him.. if you did, he would think crying hard or making louder noise made you to go back to him. He is at the age he is testing his limit and testing you... Don't forget to offer plenty of kisses and hugs after it is over.... My daughter took 40 minutes.
A friend suggested us to send my son to a daycare instead family care simply because the place is too small.... but on the other hand it will be tougher for him to go to daycare. I said the same thing yesterday to my husband that we will have a hard terrible two. boys are harder to discipline.
以下是引用flyingtosk在2007-3-6 14:23:00的发言： A friend suggested us to send my son to a daycare instead family care simply because the place is too small.... but on the other hand it will be tougher for him to go to daycare. I said the same thing yesterday to my husband that we will have a hard terrible two. boys are harder to discipline. 乐乐妈，family care 和 daycare各有利弊。family care生病少些，day care生活更有规律些。我的朋友们们说用family care过渡到day care, 小孩子容易适应些。我看中的daycare要九月才能进了。 男孩子精力旺盛，小时候麻烦多多啊。不过听说到了teen反而比女儿好对付些。。
try to make him laugh. my son had a smililiar time after we took him to the doc, he was one and half and got high fever. i tried the let it be method but i do not think that it worked well. i then tried to make him happy whenever i saw a sign of screaming.made clawn face, made werid noise, i even jumped and barked like a dog. he felt interesting and changed his focus, then i asked him if he wants this or if he wants that, or i tell him if we can do this instead of doing that (he wanted but may not be allowed). sometimes he said no but little by little he got nicer and agreed with me. the difference was that my son spoke good chinese, so for you, you may need to speak more to get his attention. once he starts to try to listen what you say or answer what you ask, he will be quiet , but first, let him know that there is some fun .
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thanks amy sharing again
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walk away from him ...(of course you have to be home)... let him cry, have a temper. Eventually he will calm down and learn screaming is not going to get him anywhere. Then he will stop. It might take a couple try before he realizes it. Normally it takes 10 -15 minutes, he will cry VERY hard, but then he will start to calm down. If you do decide to do it, don't give in to go back to him after walking away from him.. if you did, he would think crying hard or making louder noise made you to go back to him. He is at the age he is testing his limit and testing you... Don't forget to offer plenty of kisses and hugs after it is over.... 谢谢你的建议。对他无理取闹时，我一定贯彻实施。 我还有一点疑惑，比如在家里如果他想要某种东西，拿不着会看着我或是叫。如果东西没有什么危险，我会给他，他也很高兴. 可是在超市或是饭店，他要拿人家的东西，我自然不能给他，所以他会叫得更大，很不高兴。我觉得他也很confuse, 为什么我有时给他有时又不给，可他现在也不懂什么是家里什么是外面啊？难道我在家里也对他的要求置之不理吗？
[此贴子已经被作者于2007-3-6 13:37:24编辑过]
They are have a tantrum due to many reasons. Sometimes it happens because you don't understand what he wants and he can't explain it well, then you need to be patient to figure out what it is and build that communication channel with him, whether it is baby sigh or not. Baby sign does help in this case, because it is a lot easier for the child to communicate with you than using the actual word. There are time they have a tantrum simply because they can't ability to maintain self-control breaks down, resulting in a tantrum. Then, you need to walk away from it, and let him to figure out a way to control the anger. Don't ever give in to demands because your response will only encourage him to repeast the tratrum the next time, even in public places. If it happens, i will remove him from the public areas, go back to your car so people don't get bothered by his tantrum. There will be time you can distract him... You have to try different things to figure out which way fits your child the best. There are times you need to try them all.... 再次感谢，我好像明白些了。
walk away from him ...(of course you have to be home)... let him cry, have a temper. Eventually he will calm down and learn screaming is not going to get him anywhere. Then he will stop. It might take a couple try before he realizes it. Normally it takes 10 -15 minutes, he will cry VERY hard, but then he will start to calm down. If you do decide to do it, don't give in to go back to him after walking away from him.. if you did, he would think crying hard or making louder noise made you to go back to him. He is at the age he is testing his limit and testing you... Don't forget to offer plenty of kisses and hugs after it is over.... My daughter took 40 minutes.
[此贴子已经被作者于2007-3-6 13:58:29编辑过]
A friend suggested us to send my son to a daycare instead family care simply because the place is too small.... but on the other hand it will be tougher for him to go to daycare. I said the same thing yesterday to my husband that we will have a hard terrible two.
小小现在也经常叫大大和爸爸， 怎么教他妈妈也不喊。
小小现在也经常叫大大和爸爸， 怎么教他妈妈也不喊。
还有自由组合：爸妈，吗爸，嘎爸。。。。
谢谢楼上mm给的回复，确实目前最有效的方法就是distract him. 他现在好一些了，除了偶尔会叫叫，平时还是sweat的。我所做的是首先尽量避免让他烦躁的事情，比如掌握好出门时间，不是难度很大的玩具。我现在每天陪他游戏的时间也比以前多了，跟你说的一样，我也是经常play silly mommy的，他真是很开心。现在出门又像小baby时一样冲着陌生人傻笑了，让我很欣慰。 九月，我觉得你现在的方法就很好。大家给个很多他whining怎么处理的建议，我觉得也要注意预防他whining，这个要靠我们平时观察，尤其是他的脾气性格喜好作息等，每个人对事务环境的忍耐度不一样。因为他还小，“现在tired, borned, frustruated, or want something的时候都会whining”。这个时候说明他那时emotion在red zone，如果他exhausted了，肯定不会高兴。如果尽量能够预防，让他的emotion 在green zone，比如你说的掌握好出门时间等，这样他happy，你也happy。
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