"The Good Father Effect "

The researchers found that closeness with fathers was associated with fewer weight concerns, higher self-esteem and fewer depression symptoms for both boys and girls. Close relationships with mothers provided positive benefits but for a narrower range of ages than fathers. “In the context of two-parent families, the protective effects of father-youth intimacy may be more apparent than those of mother-youth intimacy,” the researchers wrote. Since mothers tend to be engaged in such conversations more than fathers, emotional closeness with fathers may be more salient and have more impact, says lead researcher Dr. Anna Hochgraf at the University of Minnesota. 
A literature review just published in January in the journal Infant and Child Development looked at nearly four dozen studies on father-child relationships and highlighted the role that dads play in building a child’s skills in regulating emotions. Fathers who were involved in caregiving and play, and who reacted with warmth and greater sensitivity to a child who expressed emotions, were significantly more likely to have children with better emotional balance from infancy to adolescence. Those skills in children are linked, in turn, with higher levels of social competence, peer relationships, academic achievement and resilience, while poor emotional regulation skills are linked with anxiety, depression and behavioral problems.
来自华尔街日报2月5号

如果说involved in caregiving and play真的很重要，那是否按照孩子妈的喜好来做事儿不是重要的，做妈妈的要放手与放心，鼓励爸爸们以爸爸的方式带孩子。