let me ask you this : how much money you want from the guy you want to date? 500k? 700k ? cash? property? stock? or only work in IT ? hahahaha focus on other people's money sounds good, but it really not works that way, especially, girls are talking about those dating apps. how can you girls figure how much money other person have when you just start to date him? you request him show you the bank receipts??? hahahahaha he can lie to you, or he maybe think you are crazy,
let me ask you this : how much money you want from the guy you want to date? 500k? 700k ? cash? property? stock? or only work in IT ? hahahaha focus on other people's money sounds good, but it really not works that way, especially, girls are talking about those dating apps. how can you girls figure how much money other person have when you just start to date him? you request him show you the bank receipts??? hahahahaha he can lie to you, or he maybe think you are crazy,
hahaha, really? you stated this to a date at first meet? and did he tell you how much he make?? and then you guys started from there? QINGQING001 发表于 2023-01-17 22:31
of course, normally, husband and wife share all secrets and can talk about everything, but at first just start to date, i would not tell anyone how much i make, hahaha, i would worry about they only want my money, hahaha
of course, normally, husband and wife share all secrets and can talk about everything, but at first just start to date, i would not tell anyone how much i make, hahaha, i would worry about they only want my money, hahaha QINGQING001 发表于 2023-01-17 22:50
要out of box thinking 1）我个子160，找一个175+的，要求高吗？不高 2）我年薪30万，要求对方年薪50万，过分吗？不过分 3）我硕士，要求硕士或者以上，可以吧？可以 4）我30岁，要求对方33岁以下，合理吗？合理 5）我有车有房，要求对方有车有房，没问题吧？没问题 6）我父母有退休金，希望对方父母也有退休金，很难吗？不难 out of box thinking， 一个33岁以下，175以上，50万年薪，有房有车，父母有退休金，硕士学历的男孩，会找30岁女生吗？
please don't take personal, it's just general to say. no offense. my points are it all depends on who you meet, people are different. i met my husband in person, not online. we took more than 3 months to start dating--(or should say to announce we're dating). my main focus was not looking for relationship at that time. but even though i know his job and the salary range from his job, but i don't know his business till later on. well, maybe i was not that smart, hahaha
please don't take personal, it's just general to say. no offense. my points are it all depends on who you meet, people are different. i met my husband in person, not online. we took more than 3 months to start dating--(or should say to announce we're dating). my main focus was not looking for relationship at that time. but even though i know his job and the salary range from his job, but i don't know his business till later on. well, maybe i was not that smart, hahaha QINGQING001 发表于 2023-01-17 23:20
Friends come and go。好朋友终其一生最多也就两三个。老公是自己最好的朋友，这种状态很好。如果非要选，比有好朋友但是跟老公关系 so so 这种要强多了。伴侣就应该是自己的 best buddy, best partner, you have each other's back Slou9900 发表于 2023-01-17 23:05
true, but if i could be a better person i may have more friends, like another post here about Social-cow ; i am a social phobia typo. i am not that smart and have enough EQ i guess. well hope i can meet new people and make new friends in future.
这个妹妹总结的太好了。没有人的生活和选择是完美的，只有真的两情相悦才能彼此付出彼此成就，也只有学习经营才能长长久久。我喜欢我老公略带小崇拜所以我这种OCD才能不计较他的粗线条，但他也很努力的迁就我的bossy和小控制欲。他这种大男人能这样非常不容易。路还长只有一边学习一边慢慢走…
反正陪你到最后的就是你自己和最亲近的人（伴侣或者亲戚或者朋友）
其实你说的真的是我的痛点。我觉得身边没有什么好朋友，只有自己老公是最好的朋友。不知为什么反正就没什么朋友。也许我社恐性格也许他们觉得我爱show off？ 也或者我脾气太直火气比较大？
我猜你是问我的。 我当年跟我老公网络相亲认识的。闲聊的时候我就说我对结婚对象有经济要求，他问多少，我说如果工作时间好能分担一半养育孩子的任务20万年薪以上，如果工作时间长不能分担养育孩子的任务40万年薪以上，我老公觉得挺合理的。 我觉得相亲啊，认识啊，不用太关注钱，毕竟又不是要结婚，正经考虑结婚对象再想钱吧。我之前几个男朋友都比我穷多了。当然我从来没有考虑过他们作为结婚对象。 至于怎么verify.很多工作的雇主title 最底线挺明白的。
婚姻这件事，求仁得仁
婚前想好自己对婚姻的期望是什么，照着找；别结完婚生完孩子了再既要又要还要，愿赌服输，买断离手
傻姑娘就是，不了解自己，稀里糊涂就结婚了，婚后越过越不对劲
找对象这件事，真的是各人需求不同
不差钱的女生，她就想找个soul mate；差钱的女生，啥精神不精神，先找个经济条件好的提高生活质量再说
hahaha, really? you stated this to a date at first meet? and did he tell you how much he make?? and then you guys started from there?
第一次见面没聊到。认识三个月之内聊到的吧。我老公当时说“太好了，我达标了”。不过这个我早知道了。看他住的房子就知道了。 我说了啊。认真考虑的时候再考虑钱啊。我是认识了大半年才认真考虑作为结婚对象。然后有观察了几个月觉得不错。然后就开始叫我老公跟我结婚了。
you guys funny, but well, hahahaha, why not? so frank and honest.
that is very true.
我觉得如果可以结婚的人，除非是攻击对方的话，是没什么不能聊的。聊天都各种小心的我一般很快就分手了。我觉得不能什么都聊的couple才比较奇怪。
of course, normally, husband and wife share all secrets and can talk about everything, but at first just start to date, i would not tell anyone how much i make, hahaha, i would worry about they only want my money, hahaha
如果三个月你都没搞清楚，看人的眼光真的不行。 如果三个月你还没搞清楚相亲对象大约挣多少钱，处世的能力真的不行啊。
well, it is only easy for you to find out the person if he only has w-2, just saying hahaha
我老公没有w2。
好多傻姑娘，婚前照钱找，婚后要感情，典型的即要又要还要，贪心；人男人也是有所求的，找个求钱的就是为了省事儿的
Friends come and go。好朋友终其一生最多也就两三个。老公是自己最好的朋友，这种状态很好。如果非要选，比有好朋友但是跟老公关系 so so 这种要强多了。伴侣就应该是自己的 best buddy, best partner, you have each other's back
1）我个子160，找一个175+的，要求高吗？不高
2）我年薪30万，要求对方年薪50万，过分吗？不过分
3）我硕士，要求硕士或者以上，可以吧？可以
4）我30岁，要求对方33岁以下，合理吗？合理
5）我有车有房，要求对方有车有房，没问题吧？没问题
6）我父母有退休金，希望对方父母也有退休金，很难吗？不难
out of box thinking，
一个33岁以下，175以上，50万年薪，有房有车，父母有退休金，硕士学历的男孩，会找30岁女生吗？
please don't take personal, it's just general to say. no offense. my points are it all depends on who you meet, people are different. i met my husband in person, not online. we took more than 3 months to start dating--(or should say to announce we're dating). my main focus was not looking for relationship at that time. but even though i know his job and the salary range from his job, but i don't know his business till later on. well, maybe i was not that smart, hahaha
你们夫妻一心啊。你老公也是三个月没搞清楚你是不是贪他的钱。
nope, hahaha, he even didn't figure out the range of my salary, hahaha
当然你可以说女的眼瘸，女的没有好好经营婚姻，女的没有一起成长，等等等等。原因嘛，总是能找到的。
极端例子比如九天渣的亡妻。你也可以说九天渣这种人，必定有什么不对，聪明女人都看得出来。
true, but if i could be a better person i may have more friends, like another post here about Social-cow ; i am a social phobia typo. i am not that smart and have enough EQ i guess. well hope i can meet new people and make new friends in future.
what happened about that wife? where have that story ?