找个真正喜欢的 find a job you love, then you do not need to work any day in your life. 或者找个比你能力极限低20%的职位，就比较游刃有余。因为擅长所以喜欢。太难的职位，等自己能力强大到120%的水平，再去做。 美酒醇香 发表于 2022-03-17 12:23
It’s definitely only one side of the story, and what we’re seeing here is highly slanted. From what I have been told by someone who read about both sides, the other side is that the guy has two kids to take care of still, and the deceased wife’s parents were demanding large amounts of the insurance money, and kept finding excuses to ask for more. Note that this money would go to them instead of to his kids (i.e. their own grandchildren). They originally asked him for a yearly payment to them in perpetuity — presumably money they would have been demanding from their daughter were she to have lived. He refused that, and they went back and forth on a lump sum amount, ending up somewhere around $150k IIRC. The eviction part came a while after the parents refused to leave and go back home to China — partly over a dispute over their demands for business-class plane tickets at $10k each, whereas he offered to only pay $3k per ticket for economy class (yes these COVID-era ticket prices to China are nuts). A complication is the fact that the guy re-married within a few months after his wife passed — and in fact the new wife was there in the house when the deceased wife’s parents arrived. So that surely didn’t help calm things. His story on that front was that he started online dating right after his wife passed, found the right person for him, and proposed marriage very quickly. So even if you take his story at face value, he does come off as rather callous towards his deceased wife. The apparently low-effort way he disposed of her ashes also points towards that. Anyways, that’s some vital info there. The guy may still be a POS, but he’s got kids to take care of, and the deceased wife’s parents also sound like they aren’t exactly selfless individuals either. It’s really not worth this level of attention from the public at large; stories like what OP is quoting seem very much like some kind of public shaming campaign that the parents are instigating.
很想休息一两年，或者辞掉全职工作找一个兼职的，但是经济不允许。想知道有没有经历过这种阶段的jm？怎么调整自己的心态？
bless 楼主
搬过去的三对夫妇，搬去的时候都是男的工作，女的不工作。结果半年之后，男的都辞了工作，女的都找了工作（大岛找工作很容易，缺人，虽然钱少）。女的比男的更受不了无所事事和没有社交。
对。
不要上资本家和消费主义的当。 他们最希望你做的， 就是辛苦工作一天， 然后把它马上消费掉， 换来30 分钟的快乐。然后第二天还是不得不给他们卖命。
正确的做法是， 控制开支， 工作一天， 够消费三天， 年轻时干15年， 中年就退休。
你说这个能力的问题有道理。我确实每个新工作都需要学新的东西，可能这让我更没有动力。
别把自己逼太狠了，孩子四岁六岁还连续跳槽，只能说你是牛人。千万别考虑我的鸡汤片儿汤话了。我俩孩子都不在身边，平时都不做饭的。 你就是太累了。
换个自己喜欢的工作吧，哪怕收入少一点，早上起床都更有动力。
有道理… 早点弄完退休lol。不过人都这样，能做事情的时候还是想做事，永远没个头儿
一份工作给钱还可以，工作时间也还可以，所谓事少钱多压力小的话，我觉得一般不会特别抵触。毕竟在生活中只是一点比重。
如果加班很多，超负荷的工作，相信很多人burn out。
其实最近一次跳槽以后比以前更轻松一些，做的东西更有趣，钱也稍微多了些。所以总的来说就是一切都更好些。刚开始几个月也确实是干劲十足，当时还庆幸自己终于找到了一个喜欢的工作。但是过了“蜜月期”就又回到了之前死气沉沉的状态，做东西拖着做，学新的东西也不觉得有趣（或者之前觉得自己会觉得有趣的东西感觉也就那样）。我自己也很着急，但是无法改变这种状态，经常还暗暗希望自己被裁了，现在觉得需要在那一步到来之前自己先做些什么改变。
现在钱和时间都还行，就是感觉压力巨大。压力有很多来源，比如自己想把每件事都做好，学习新东西，和很多人打交道，还有内心感觉非常tired。
楼主可以早早规划，如果年轻就换专业，如果不具备换专业的能力和条件，就早早做财务规划和投资，争取早日退休。
我一个朋友对工作就非常抵触，总是说自己特别不想工作。 但是我发现她其实对生活中的大多数方面都充满抱怨，不满，不信任和控制欲，不止是工作。 她后来说自己确诊焦虑，需要精神类药物控制状态。
我觉得每个人对于工作，日常生活，社交，学习在某个点，某个时刻遇到压力会有抵触。但是肯定不会是持续性地，一直的不满厌恶。你这样的状态需要看一下自己其他方面是否都满意，开心，愉悦吗？真的只有工作？大概率你对多方面都不满，是自己情绪上出问题了。