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why not? 提议设立个gofundme呗

你是干啥的，HR吗？还是另一个秘书？为什么系主任向你咨询？

it's a fantastic idea

随便贴一个最近我收到的供参考吧： Recently, at Bellevue Animal Hospital, one of our veterinarians, Dr. Min, lost a very swift and difficult battle with cancer. Her loss was sudden and tragic to so many who knew and loved her. Several clients, Susan's friends, former colleagues, and professional acquaintances have asked if they can donate money in Susan's memory or how best to help her family. After much contemplation and based on our conversations with Susan in her final days, we agreed that the best way to direct any funds raised would be to provide financial support for her daughter as she prepares for her secondary schooling and for college. Tiffany's well-being and education were Susan's main concern as she struggled through her final days. When the campaign is over on February 1, 2022, we will present a check to the family to start a 529 account. Tiffany's father will be the steward of this money. We are using Fundly.com as a forum for transparency for all who wish to donate. If you have any questions, please call Bellevue Animal Hospital at 425.454.1246 and ask to speak with Melanie or Don Gerard. 话说回来，给人捐款我能理解。动不动就给狗捐款我是看不懂。家里saving还有吗，又出去打零工攒钱吗？如果狗这么重要，是不是考虑卖点首饰/包/车子去救狗？ 小额贷款考虑了吗？找人捐款应该是last line of defense 吧。现在Nextdoor上动不动就为宠物捐款，看着很魔幻。

现在随便什么事都能叫人捐款，习惯了，或者说麻木了。

你是干啥的，HR吗？还是另一个秘书？为什么系主任向你咨询？
pop 发表于 2022-02-10 19:36

不是

随便贴一个最近我收到的供参考吧： Recently, at Bellevue Animal Hospital, one of our veterinarians, Dr. Min, lost a very swift and difficult battle with cancer. Her loss was sudden and tragic to so many who knew and loved her. Several clients, Susan''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''s friends, former colleagues, and professional acquaintances have asked if they can donate money in Susan''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''s memory or how best to help her family. After much contemplation and based on our conversations with Susan in her final days, we agreed that the best way to direct any funds raised would be to provide financial support for her daughter as she prepares for her secondary schooling and for college. Tiffany''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''s well-being and education were Susan''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''s main concern as she struggled through her final days. When the campaign is over on February 1, 2022, we will present a check to the family to start a 529 account. Tiffany''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''s father will be the steward of this money. We are using Fundly.com as a forum for transparency for all who wish to donate. If you have any questions, please call Bellevue Animal Hospital at 425.454.1246 and ask to speak with Melanie or Don Gerard. 话说回来，给人捐款我能理解。动不动就给狗捐款我是看不懂。家里saving还有吗，又出去打零工攒钱吗？如果狗这么重要，是不是考虑卖点首饰/包/车子去救狗？ 小额贷款考虑了吗？找人捐款应该是last line of defense 吧。现在Nextdoor上动不动就为宠物捐款，看着很魔幻。
julie2020 发表于 2022-02-10 19:40

谢谢！给人捐款应该是norm。 给狗狗捐款，我有点担心系里老师会抱怨。毕竟刚圣诞捐过一次。另外系里还有其他收入低的，像打扫卫生的。

你可以建议系主任给小蜜涨工资，从下月开始每月多500或1000， 什么都解决了

如果是我, 大概这样：i am sorry to hear about the incident. I cant speak for other faculty or staff members, and as you mentioned we dont want them to feel that they have to contribute. For me persoanally, if such a donation account is set up, i would certainly be happy to contribute. 我觉得由你来召集donation不合适，系主任要是觉得有需要，他自己来拉donation. 像你说的，是狗狗去医院，当然有可能这狗对她来说像家人，但收入不到五万的系里成员不止她一个，如果这些员工碰到有宠物去医院的时候都召集donate, 难免有些人心里并不喜欢。主意是系主任出的，这也不是系里的常规工作，我觉得没理由要你发起。 圣诞给小蜜送五百? 你们系经常搞这个吗，每年送小蜜? 我觉得这不合理啊，如果觉得小蜜的工资不够高，系主任应该去为她争取，转嫁到其他人头上让其他人给小蜜发"年终奖"? 如果是小蜜结婚生娃，一生一两次这种事，可以给，我们一般也就集资100-200，对所有人一视同仁。 哎，反正，我会觉得，他要弄自己弄，又不是你的主意，你自己不要揽这个事.

我们系有一次秘书的妈妈去世了组织捐了一次。但过年过节是不捐款的，有人送小礼物都是个人的事。

同意楼上说的“主意是系主任出的，这也不是系里的常规工作，我觉得没理由要你发起”。 所以你就说你personally觉得这是个好主意，你也会捐款。但是这个主意是系主任的，理应由系主任拿credit来发起，你可以在幕后帮忙setup。就是把责任推给对方，再把对方捧高了。

我是系里比较senior的老师
xxmjdd 发表于 2022-02-10 19:43

还是不明白为什么找你，不都是找那些喜欢搞这些的人吗

系主任想让你起头呗。怕自己起头有逼迫别人的嫌疑。看你跟系主任关系怎么样了。如果你得靠着他，那就给大家发个信，设个箱子啥的，有多少收多少。

我觉得给大家发个信，设个匿名捐款箱就行了，谁愿意捐谁捐。数目够多的话直接给小蜜，不够多的话你和系主任给凑个整给小蜜就成了。

匿名捐就好了，

给狗捐款我是觉得有点不以为然。5W工资说多不多，说少也不少。而且你们能捐多少？治疗费不多的话她自己可以负担，治疗费多靠大家捐款pay bill也是绝无可能的事情。但系主任已经找了你， 你推脱的话， 他也不会觉不出，你尴尬不尴尬不知道，他肯定会不自在。反正这事你张罗一下对小蜜来说也是个大人情。不如就回主任说你觉得挺好， 不如设一个捐款箱放在例如会议室之类的地方，然后给大家发个email说说这件事， 告诉大家有个捐款箱， 可以根据自己的意愿往里面投钱，设定一个截止时间。这样既起到了捐款的作用，大家也不会觉得被强迫了。---这样你也算出了注意， 既不得罪大家，也不得罪系主任，还算是热情张罗了这件事。最后能捐多少钱，就不是你能控制的了，是不是？

楼主，要是我一定会写信通知大家，号召捐款。 系主任说了，这个捐款做了，就不做期末捐款了。所以大家不会有什么金钱损失，无非早捐晚捐； 系里的staff, 请原谅我不喜欢使用小秘这样的称呼，其实是系里很重要的组成部分。从大处说，staff的好坏对一个系的团结和气氛qidao很重要的作用。所以，有教职的各位老师应该多尊重多支持staff. 我们系有些老师，对staff颐指气使，看着真是难受。 从很practical的角度来说，现在捐钱，人家记得一辈子，而普通的annual 的捐款大家都不会印象太深。雪中送炭最难的啊。 你要不要牵头：当然要。都是捐款，你牵了头，人家对你印象最深。 捐多少：你可以跟大家说，就是个心意，丰俭由人。我以前问过我们系主任，junior捐多少，他说20-25就行了。我一直坚持25（给系里所有的staff 每个人才分到5块）。现在不junior了也就50。当然我自己另送礼物，每个人都有，那是因为我真心感谢同事们。

工资低养不起狗就别养，狗的账单要众人捐款算怎么回事？表明你们学校关心员工（包括员工家里的猫猫狗狗）？

捐款就是表达一下心意啊，普通美国人一下子拿出几千块困难太正常了，雪中送炭不管多少人家会记得。系主任是委婉试探一下楼主愿不愿意出面组织这件事，没什么过节的话应该答应，和他商量一下怎么把捐款代替期末礼物的意思传递下去。

英文信是系主任写的吧，没看出他叫你召集捐款，只是问问你的想法。你就回同意他的想法。说不定他给每个老师都发email了呢。

谢谢大家帮我出主意！我回复啦。
称呼她小秘没有贬低的意思，只是为了简洁快速传达她的职责，因为我们有不同的staff。大家对她很尊重的。