Update,没想到这么多人回帖,没法一一回复所以来总结一下。大部分都是祝福,看得内心暖暖的,谢谢大家。也有少数不怀好意的揣测,就不用你们操心了。善良确实是难得的闪光点,以后会有意识跟他讲讲社会的险恶,蜜罐里泡大的孩子,往往善良单纯,被人利用。还有人说父亲角色缺失,并没有,孩子爸爸一直有参与孩子的各项活动。我觉得他就是天生的,家里还有个弟弟就是截然相反的性格。至于说胆小学不了医,孩子有可能将来会变得坚强,也有可能改主意不学医,这些都不重要,重要的是他有愿意救死扶伤的想法。 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 以下是原贴: 15岁了,从小就很sweet,性格乐观脾气好,喜欢搞笑,朋友多。特别善良,不忍心伤害任何一个生命,家里有蚂蚁,蜘蛛,都不让打。前几天跟我说想将来学医,觉得能help others,save people''''s life is so cool. 善良是好事,但我担心他变成讨好型人格。他不愿意麻烦别人,对别人的请求从来不忍心说no。另外就是很胆小,不敢看恐怖片,最新火遍全球的鱿鱼游戏,他看了两集就看不下去了,说太暴力血腥。有意思的是虽然厌恶暴力,但他特别注重健身,在YouTube上关注了很多健身博主。感情细腻,和我关系特别好,现在青春期了,完全没有叛逆迹象,喜欢和我聊天,什么事都跟我说。 有同款孩子吗?不知道男孩子这种性格好不好,有点胆小和讨好型人格,加上又很善良,担心他将来被别人利用,被欺负。
15岁了,从小就很sweet,性格乐观脾气好,喜欢搞笑,朋友多。特别善良,不忍心伤害任何一个生命,家里有蚂蚁,蜘蛛,都不让打。前几天跟我说想将来学医,觉得能help others,save people's life is so cool. 善良是好事,但我担心他变成讨好型人格。他不愿意麻烦别人,对别人的请求从来不忍心说no。另外就是很胆小,不敢看恐怖片,最新火遍全球的鱿鱼游戏,他看了两集就看不下去了,说太暴力血腥。有意思的是虽然厌恶暴力,但他特别注重健身,在YouTube上关注了很多健身博主。感情细腻,和我关系特别好,现在青春期了,完全没有叛逆迹象,喜欢和我聊天,什么事都跟我说。 有同款孩子吗?不知道男孩子这种性格好不好,有点胆小和讨好型人格,加上又很善良,担心他将来被别人利用,被欺负。
有一类人被称作highly sensitive person,楼主可以搜一下,看看和孩子像不像 HSPs may have an enhanced sense of smell Avoiding violent movies or TV shows HSPs can’t watch or read about certain topics. Feeling a need for downtime HSPs notice the subtleties others miss. Having deep thoughts and strong feelings that go with it. HSPs might be highly touched by beauty or emotionality. They may cry while watching particularly heartwarming videos and can really empathize with the feelings of others, both negative and positive. HSPs seek answers to the big questions in life. They ask why things are the way they are and what their role in all of it is.
You love certain foods and have a strong aversion to others. Maybe raspberries are too tart, seafood is nauseating, and dark chocolate is divine. Other people may judge your food preferences: “Stop being so picky!” When people are physically uncomfortable, you know exactly why. Because HSPs are so in tune with their environment, they know when the lights are too bright, the layout is claustrophobic, and the chair backs are too hard. No, they’re not being “picky” — they really can’t help but notice! You often turn down social invitations, even if you’re an extrovert. Dr. Aron estimates that about 70% of HSPs are introverts, so it makes sense that they’d love their alone time You’re extremely observant of other people. Research has found that HSPs have genes that make them natural counselors, healers, and human lie detectors. It’s not an exaggeration to say that HSPs often understand other people better than those people understand themselves.
有一类人被称作highly sensitive person,楼主可以搜一下,看看和孩子像不像 HSPs may have an enhanced sense of smell Avoiding violent movies or TV shows HSPs can’t watch or read about certain topics. Feeling a need for downtime HSPs notice the subtleties others miss. Having deep thoughts and strong feelings that go with it. HSPs might be highly touched by beauty or emotionality. They may cry while watching particularly heartwarming videos and can really empathize with the feelings of others, both negative and positive. HSPs seek answers to the big questions in life. They ask why things are the way they are and what their role in all of it is.
You love certain foods and have a strong aversion to others. Maybe raspberries are too tart, seafood is nauseating, and dark chocolate is divine. Other people may judge your food preferences: “Stop being so picky!” When people are physically uncomfortable, you know exactly why. Because HSPs are so in tune with their environment, they know when the lights are too bright, the layout is claustrophobic, and the chair backs are too hard. No, they’re not being “picky” — they really can’t help but notice! You often turn down social invitations, even if you’re an extrovert. Dr. Aron estimates that about 70% of HSPs are introverts, so it makes sense that they’d love their alone time You’re extremely observant of other people. Research has found that HSPs have genes that make them natural counselors, healers, and human lie detectors. It’s not an exaggeration to say that HSPs often understand other people better than those people understand themselves. hanjiang 发表于 2021-10-24 11:05
15岁了,从小就很sweet,性格乐观脾气好,喜欢搞笑,朋友多。特别善良,不忍心伤害任何一个生命,家里有蚂蚁,蜘蛛,都不让打。前几天跟我说想将来学医,觉得能help others,save people''''s life is so cool. 善良是好事,但我担心他变成讨好型人格。他不愿意麻烦别人,对别人的请求从来不忍心说no。另外就是很胆小,不敢看恐怖片,最新火遍全球的鱿鱼游戏,他看了两集就看不下去了,说太暴力血腥。有意思的是虽然厌恶暴力,但他特别注重健身,在YouTube上关注了很多健身博主。感情细腻,和我关系特别好,现在青春期了,完全没有叛逆迹象,喜欢和我聊天,什么事都跟我说。
有同款孩子吗?不知道男孩子这种性格好不好,有点胆小和讨好型人格,加上又很善良,担心他将来被别人利用,被欺负。
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这个ID你几岁?三岁?
我不觉得人的本性是善良的。前两年有一起恶性案件,记得是英国,两个teenager把一个两岁小男孩虐待致死。我自己小学一年级,亲眼目睹两个同学欺负班上有点弱智的同学,扇她耳光,抢走她的东西,才六岁的孩子。现在回忆起来让我感到背后发凉
🛋️ 沙发板凳
虽然是那么分级的,但他同学都看了,都在讨论,他也想参与讨论就看了两集
re, 善良是好事。别傻就行。善良并且聪明不是很好吗?
谢谢你的建议。他自己也说想考虑参加学校的debate club. 他平时和朋友交往,都是能让就让,吃点亏也无所谓。我觉得还是要分事情,涉及原则的事不能一味忍让
太同意了。就是觉得他有时候有点软弱,不自信。
想到社会的阴暗艰辛,真担心他将来的人生。说实在的我不太相信傻人有傻福,丛林法则下老实人往往都在底层
话虽如此,但男孩子将来要有担当,有能力保护自己的家庭,还是希望他该强硬就强硬一点
我儿子也是。我总觉得是糖水里泡大的原因。一路顺风顺水。大了以后好一些,但总体还是这样。
需要受社会磨练一下就好了,可我不舍得。
神经病!
1. 怕血腥当不了医生
2.性格天生的,这个社会,每个性格的人都有自己的活法, 操心无用
谢谢,确实很sweet,总是替别人着想,对弱小能帮就帮,绝不伤害。
男孩子有血性同意,但不同意和母亲亲近不好,和母亲亲近不等于妈宝
他自己也说想当医生,但又不想见血腥,问我有什么不用那么血腥的科室,我觉得可以去放射科。其实只是初步想法而已,也许以后又变了。
伪善的可能性很大
华男做医生。。。
不清楚大家对华男医生印象如何
我感觉很差
当妈的别焦虑,这样的男孩子长大就是好男人,有好家庭。网上的那些渣男事,是不会发生在一个善良的男人身边的。
谢谢,希望他将来也能这样。
他爸爸也很关心孩子,有时候和他一起去骑车,滑雪,打球,健身,不过男的总归很粗枝大叶,很少和孩子谈心,加上工作忙,生活起居这些小事还是我照顾的多。所以孩子一直和我亲
那做个儿医应该也不错,这么有爱心,肯定受孩子们喜欢。
HSPs may have an enhanced sense of smell Avoiding violent movies or TV shows HSPs can’t watch or read about certain topics. Feeling a need for downtime HSPs notice the subtleties others miss. Having deep thoughts and strong feelings that go with it. HSPs might be highly touched by beauty or emotionality. They may cry while watching particularly heartwarming videos and can really empathize with the feelings of others, both negative and positive. HSPs seek answers to the big questions in life. They ask why things are the way they are and what their role in all of it is.
You love certain foods and have a strong aversion to others. Maybe raspberries are too tart, seafood is nauseating, and dark chocolate is divine. Other people may judge your food preferences: “Stop being so picky!” When people are physically uncomfortable, you know exactly why. Because HSPs are so in tune with their environment, they know when the lights are too bright, the layout is claustrophobic, and the chair backs are too hard. No, they’re not being “picky” — they really can’t help but notice! You often turn down social invitations, even if you’re an extrovert. Dr. Aron estimates that about 70% of HSPs are introverts, so it makes sense that they’d love their alone time You’re extremely observant of other people. Research has found that HSPs have genes that make them natural counselors, healers, and human lie detectors. It’s not an exaggeration to say that HSPs often understand other people better than those people understand themselves.
学习体育方面愿意吃苦吗?这种话都是我外婆奶奶在我小时候常说的话。你有多老啊?
我和他爸爸都是性格温和的人,也许遗传吧。家里气氛一直融洽平和,没有大吵大闹,家庭条件也还算凑合,所以他从小没吃过苦,没见过人间险恶
我感觉他没有什么竞争意识,绝不是争强好胜的性格。但每次考试,体育比赛,也都会全力以赴,如果失败了难过一会儿就好了。
highly sensitive children,大多不但不sweet,还每天都是龟毛whiny,不要问我是怎么知道的。
我家儿子跟你的同款。尤其不喜欢看暴力电影这一项!特别关心身边同学朋友,有求必应,从来不计较得失。
我家娃也是类似的 每天都说他要帮助全世界的人 我跟他爸也是脾气比较温和
这样的孩子感觉将来运气不会差,你不用太操心了。
等娃再大一点可以多了解一下医生职业,血腥什么的都是能慢慢适应的。
皮肤科吧!皮肤科就是有时候恶心,血腥好像还好。
这样的人虽然总是奉献,但自己体会到的幸福感会比较高。
你懂啥?张嘴就来!
这个建议很好!
哦,还有就是非常sensitive,经常看电视看的哗哗的流眼泪。没有想当医生,但是立志当movie director,要拍American heroes系列电影。
这孩子肯定命好
lz妈妈做的挺好。不过对于男孩子,最好能勇敢坚毅,也许lz的老公可以多花点时间跟小孩子一起,做点sports之类的?
我认识的成年男性,跟楼主孩子相似的善良人,都是事业顺利家庭幸福,这样的人从长远看最受女性欢迎。楼主不需要担心。
我觉得这真的是天生的,他还有个弟弟,就相反性格,不如哥哥厚道,不会轻易牺牲自己利益,该说no的时候就说,但是也不会占别人便宜,比哥哥aggressive一点,弟弟我就一点都不担心在外面受欺负。两个孩子我们都一样对待,截然相反的性格
挺好的。
我就是这样长大的。曾经也想当医生,虽然后来没有当。
不知道父母有没有担心过,但是小时候是有老师说我这样的到社会上容易吃亏。
几十年过去了,也没觉得吃多少亏。好朋友一堆堆的。
我觉得关键是孩子学会识人吧。
要说缺点,确实有点讨好型人格,有时候会活得比较累。这个可以提醒下你儿子。如果有人早点告诉我,我会活得更自在些。男孩就更是如此了。这个是可以后天改的。我经历了一些事情之后,就没那么在乎别人的评价了。
还是要凶猛一点才好啊,要不然进社会会很惨。
总体很好的性格,正常发展以后不会吃亏
这位为啥这么激动?
同意。善良是好的,但不能把软弱当作善良。软弱是缺乏勇气,也是对这个世界的恶的纵容。
我以前听一个妈妈夸过他们家小的比较凶猛,连大的都敢打。所以不会吃亏。我只能心里默默的想,这样没家教的孩子还是到社会上让人管教吧。社会不是黑社会,比谁狠。扪心自问,大家都愿意交善良的朋友,还是凶猛的。
我有abc男同事性格像楼主的儿子,被公司压榨、欺负过。不过他觉得吃亏是福,忍了六年,忍到欺负他的人走了,现在也挺开心。
"将来学医" "另外就是很胆小,不敢看恐怖片,最新火遍全球的鱿鱼游戏,他看了两集就看不下去了,说太暴力血腥"
这两个矛盾呀,医学院的看不得血不行的吧
可以做病理,看片子。
学医是不是需要解剖动物?难道是别人杀死了再给他解剖?
虽说善良sweet听起来不错,但作为一个男生,lz儿子听上去缺乏一些胆魄的感觉,需要多锻炼培养竞争力和魄力。
两个孩子分别什么星座的呀?