请教过来人，我这娃是不是需要在家更加严厉一些要求按照规矩来？或者这些行为是这个年纪常见的吗？ 顺便贴上来上周老师给我的反馈：（我怕我娃在学校太害羞所以我主动和老师沟通询问的情况，现在就是每周给我反馈，这是最新的） This week he needed more reminders and I had to take away privileges with the I-pad again due to logging into apps that he was not asked to do. I have rearranged the groups in the classroom a bit due to chattiness increasing with some friends. I did move him to a different table because he was becoming very argumentative with other students at his last group. I do know he appreciates being recognized when making good choices and likes praise for his work efforts. I do my best to acknowledge him with praise. He doesn''''t seem interested in treasure box prizes as incentives, he is very quick to say "he''''s ok if he doesn''''t get a prize, he doesn''''t like them" when someone else does. I would love to have him be a helper/buddy with other students who may need a helper, but with the choices he has made this week it concerns me that he may be more of a distraction instead. I am hoping to see a change in his behavior next week, and maybe you can share this idea with him as an incentive, so that I can pair him up with a buddy. Thought this might be a better incentive since I know he likes to be helpful. Thoughts?
奖惩制度是有的，但是他并不感兴趣好像，老师的邮件这么写的： This week he needed more reminders and I had to take away privileges with the I-pad again due to logging into apps that he was not asked to do. I have rearranged the groups in the classroom a bit due to chattiness increasing with some friends. I did move him to a different table because he was becoming very argumentative with other students at his last group. I do know he appreciates being recognized when making good choices and likes praise for his work efforts. I do my best to acknowledge him with praise. He doesn't seem interested in treasure box prizes as incentives, he is very quick to say "he's ok if he doesn't get a prize, he doesn't like them" when someone else does. I would love to have him be a helper/buddy with other students who may need a helper, but with the choices he has made this week it concerns me that he may be more of a distraction instead. I am hoping to see a change in his behavior next week, and maybe you can share this idea with him as an incentive, so that I can pair him up with a buddy. Thought this might be a better incentive since I know he likes to be helpful. Thoughts?
我家话多被老师从K念叨到现在grade 5. 但是带过他超过一年的老师都会说有进步。我觉得老师的期望值不断提高，我们虽然也有进步，但是肯定不是最让老师满意的那一类孩子。 五年级现在的老师说：我们自己都不能保持高度专心for a long period of time, 我们虽然期待学生高度专心，但是他们达不到我也理解。 所以我觉得给楼主的分享是：知道自己孩子需要进步的地方，给孩子时间慢慢调整。同时同时同时，说三遍，一定很老师沟通，你们在家做了什么努力，你观察到什么进步。还有什么问题。这样一来老师可以理解你们的努力也会对孩子更宽容。更理解。
我家话多被老师从K念叨到现在grade 5. 但是带过他超过一年的老师都会说有进步。我觉得老师的期望值不断提高，我们虽然也有进步，但是肯定不是最让老师满意的那一类孩子。 五年级现在的老师说：我们自己都不能保持高度专心for a long period of time, 我们虽然期待学生高度专心，但是他们达不到我也理解。 所以我觉得给楼主的分享是：知道自己孩子需要进步的地方，给孩子时间慢慢调整。同时同时同时，说三遍，一定很老师沟通，你们在家做了什么努力，你观察到什么进步。还有什么问题。这样一来老师可以理解你们的努力也会对孩子更宽容。更理解。 semiotics 发表于 2021-10-15 15:42
请教过来人，我这娃是不是需要在家更加严厉一些要求按照规矩来？或者这些行为是这个年纪常见的吗？ 顺便贴上来上周老师给我的反馈：（我怕我娃在学校太害羞所以我主动和老师沟通询问的情况，现在就是每周给我反馈，这是最新的） This week he needed more reminders and I had to take away privileges with the I-pad again due to logging into apps that he was not asked to do. I have rearranged the groups in the classroom a bit due to chattiness increasing with some friends. I did move him to a different table because he was becoming very argumentative with other students at his last group. I do know he appreciates being recognized when making good choices and likes praise for his work efforts. I do my best to acknowledge him with praise. He doesn''''t seem interested in treasure box prizes as incentives, he is very quick to say "he''''s ok if he doesn''''t get a prize, he doesn''''t like them" when someone else does. I would love to have him be a helper/buddy with other students who may need a helper, but with the choices he has made this week it concerns me that he may be more of a distraction instead. I am hoping to see a change in his behavior next week, and maybe you can share this idea with him as an incentive, so that I can pair him up with a buddy. Thought this might be a better incentive since I know he likes to be helpful. Thoughts? RenCH 发表于 2021-10-15 14:26
老师是女老师吗？孩子是男孩子吗？你说的情况很容易在女老师面对男孩的时候发生。男孩子小的时候比女孩子需要更多户外活动，或者肢体活动，无法安静的坐在一个地方（以概率来说，不代表所有）。而女老师，尤其是年轻没有经验的女老师很喜欢让孩子固定在一个地方做事。对男孩子是极大的挑战。 5岁孩子给ipad，我个人认为是很stupid的idea。孩子需要实物，而不是虚拟的ipad。也许有许多孩子可以玩ipad，但是对孩子的脑部发育没好处。孩子需要身体接触，气味等实质的物质来刺激脑神经，让脑部细胞增长。 我的建议，改变不了老师的上课方式，孩子在家的时候父母多陪陪孩子玩。消耗体力，帮助孩子calm down（肢体接触，玩耍可以让男孩子calm down）。 也可以找点书看看。比如 how to raise a boy之类的。
要求学生使用指定的2个app在IPAD上练习，他会去玩其他的，比如打开摄像头，有几次反复提醒不管用，老师把ipad收走给他了一本书； 话多，会影响其他同学或者和其他同学聊的太欢，学习的内容就不专心了； 有时候老师提某个要求，他会故意忽略老师； 老师设定的课堂内容和顺序，他会想按照自己的顺序来。
目前就是话太多和IPAD 这2项比较突出，尤其话多，不专心，老师需要时时刻刻提醒他，IPAD前2周有所好转，上周又被老师收走了。
请教过来人，我这娃是不是需要在家更加严厉一些要求按照规矩来？或者这些行为是这个年纪常见的吗？
顺便贴上来上周老师给我的反馈：（我怕我娃在学校太害羞所以我主动和老师沟通询问的情况，现在就是每周给我反馈，这是最新的） This week he needed more reminders and I had to take away privileges with the I-pad again due to logging into apps that he was not asked to do. I have rearranged the groups in the classroom a bit due to chattiness increasing with some friends. I did move him to a different table because he was becoming very argumentative with other students at his last group. I do know he appreciates being recognized when making good choices and likes praise for his work efforts. I do my best to acknowledge him with praise. He doesn''''t seem interested in treasure box prizes as incentives, he is very quick to say "he''''s ok if he doesn''''t get a prize, he doesn''''t like them" when someone else does. I would love to have him be a helper/buddy with other students who may need a helper, but with the choices he has made this week it concerns me that he may be more of a distraction instead. I am hoping to see a change in his behavior next week, and maybe you can share this idea with him as an incentive, so that I can pair him up with a buddy. Thought this might be a better incentive since I know he likes to be helpful. Thoughts?
精明 哈哈哈
私立学校吗？老师不错
不是，是charter
那就是说，我娃是太捣蛋了，我怕的就是这个，前天和after school老师聊天，她白天也在k的教室帮忙，她说现在我娃大概是需要一直提醒他要专心，老师的目标是每天课堂上提醒他2-3次这样。
难道是ADHD ?
我家都7岁了，上课还是永远在放空状态，倒是坐着不影响别人。。。他说他脑子里一直在打仗，战斗可激烈了。。。😂
哈哈哈哈哈哈哈
你去评估一下，要么是adhd， 要么就是follow the rule 训练的不够。这个年龄的孩子普遍都有轻微的adhd，因为脑子没发育到那个程度。但一般都在一定程度上会被训练得会自己克制的，这就是为什么在家里都要比学校闹腾。
自从上了K，他在家更闹腾了， 但是学校好像也没好多少。。
按说从7个月开始就dc了，preschool啥的一直都没停，我还以为他上学不会有问题呢。 看来preschool和小学还是有差距
老师不是长时间的让娃用iPad，每天每个桌子的娃轮流也就十分钟的时间。
笑死了。
哟，那要看看有没有ADHD哦，我认识的ADHD的小朋友就是说她脑子里总是很激烈，还经常看见小人打架。有个ADHD的大人也说，一直不知道自己有ADHD，直到吃了药后，才恍然大悟原来正常人的脑子是这么安静。
奖惩制度是有的，但是他并不感兴趣好像，老师的邮件这么写的： This week he needed more reminders and I had to take away privileges with the I-pad again due to logging into apps that he was not asked to do. I have rearranged the groups in the classroom a bit due to chattiness increasing with some friends. I did move him to a different table because he was becoming very argumentative with other students at his last group. I do know he appreciates being recognized when making good choices and likes praise for his work efforts. I do my best to acknowledge him with praise. He doesn't seem interested in treasure box prizes as incentives, he is very quick to say "he's ok if he doesn't get a prize, he doesn't like them" when someone else does. I would love to have him be a helper/buddy with other students who may need a helper, but with the choices he has made this week it concerns me that he may be more of a distraction instead. I am hoping to see a change in his behavior next week, and maybe you can share this idea with him as an incentive, so that I can pair him up with a buddy. Thought this might be a better incentive since I know he likes to be helpful. Thoughts?
好像每个班都有1-2个这样的男娃，所以你娃这种情况还是常见的。
但是呢，大多数的娃又不是这样，所以。。。。。。同情你一下，被老师这样反映肯定糟心啊。
说的就是啊 我小时候很内向很敏感，巴不得消失在老师眼前那种，老师提问我恨不得钻进地缝的感觉现在还记得，他倒很乐意回答问题一点也不拘谨，我安慰自己这也算是个优点？但同时也怕过分了
所以我觉得给楼主的分享是：知道自己孩子需要进步的地方，给孩子时间慢慢调整。同时同时同时，说三遍，一定很老师沟通，你们在家做了什么努力，你观察到什么进步。还有什么问题。这样一来老师可以理解你们的努力也会对孩子更宽容。更理解。
多谢 我差点忽略了和老师沟通在家我们做了什么 只顾着问老师他在学校什么表现
真的是各有各的愁，我家女孩子在学校里就是话少，上课也不积极举手发言，每次REPORT CARD拿回来都是说希望她课堂更多发表她的观点。。。。。。
也是愁人。
确实是这样，太难了
应该不是最小的 他是5月的生日 开学以后还收到几个goodie bag 新同学过生日啥的
可是人家过的很有可能是6岁生日啊
你这男孩子，属于正常，刚过5岁生日上k，肯定是班上小的，你儿子的问题是，他属于晚熟，本来应该晚一年上学更好，可是华人家庭大多爱让孩子早上，这个无解。我孩子班上就有这样的男孩子，七月份的生日，基本上班上最小的。班上表现好的男生，都是头一年出生的，至少比他大半岁以上，这个年龄，半岁一岁，对男孩的发育而言，还是很重要的。你最好让他K多读一年，还有就是上私校，班上人少，老师盯得紧，慢慢就养成follow instructions 的习惯了。
确实是晚熟，老师为了帮助他适应一开始还允许他带一个很小的stuff animal 去学校
同意， 小朋友的大脑还在不断发育中， 用大人的思路一刀切才是造成如今ADHD过度诊断的源头
完全同意， 老师里面这样的都不少
5岁孩子给ipad，我个人认为是很stupid的idea。孩子需要实物，而不是虚拟的ipad。也许有许多孩子可以玩ipad，但是对孩子的脑部发育没好处。孩子需要身体接触，气味等实质的物质来刺激脑神经，让脑部细胞增长。
我的建议，改变不了老师的上课方式，孩子在家的时候父母多陪陪孩子玩。消耗体力，帮助孩子calm down（肢体接触，玩耍可以让男孩子calm down）。
也可以找点书看看。比如 how to raise a boy之类的。