一週前的事情,據說是跳桥自杀,MIT剛開學沒多久的大一新生,唉 Dear MIT Parent Community: We mourn the passing of Mason Weinstock, Class of 2025. Support is available at: DoingWell.mit.edu ———————————————————————— To the members of the MIT community, With great sadness, I write to let you know that Mason Weinstock, a first-year undergraduate, died suddenly this weekend. He was not on campus at the time. As Mason’s family and friends absorb this extremely painful news, I hope we can offer them the loving support of our community. Following the rhythms of his father’s military career, Mason spent his early years in Japan, Hawaii and California before his family settled in McLean, Virginia, just outside Washington, DC. In high school, he was an outstanding swimmer who excelled at the breaststroke. His family tells us he also had a huge heart. “Coach Mason” spent his summers joyfully teaching little kids to swim, and throughout the pandemic, he took extra time to help his younger brother manage the challenges of attending school remotely. When Mason wasn’t in the pool, he loved collecting baseball statistics, playing soccer and passionately following the premier league. Quietly brilliant, curious, analytical and introspective, he was eager to explore mechanical engineering at MIT. Mason lived in MacGregor. Chancellor Melissa Nobles and Vice Chancellor and Dean for Student Life Suzy Nelson and their teams are reaching out directly to support anyone on campus who knew him. If you are hurting in any way and could use guidance or a consoling conversation, please know that you are not alone, and you do not have to struggle alone. All of us need help from time to time – and there is no shame in asking. Our new doingwell.mit.edu website makes it easy for undergraduates and graduate students to find the right support. As always, staff, postdocs and faculty can seek support through MyLife Services, and we also offer special resources to help faculty and staff help their students. Coming at the start of a new school year, and after so many months of pandemic uncertainty and separation, this news is unsettling and difficult for us all. Sometimes the greatest comfort we can find is in comforting each other: May we honor Mason’s huge heart by taking special care to check in with and listen to those around us, old friends and new. With deepest sympathy, L. Rafael Reif
每个学校一般9月都会有新生的welcome video 然后现在很多学生会在社交平台晒自己的ad/offer 你可以让你孩子看看之前录取人的兴趣和情况,让他选择看看 很多孩子不是主动放弃社交的,而是没有让他能comfortable社交的环境(周围人都不喜欢和他共同的爱好),所以事前考察一下让他对之后的学习生活有个心理准备也很好。
一週前的事情,據說是跳桥自杀,MIT剛開學沒多久的大一新生,唉 Dear MIT Parent Community: We mourn the passing of Mason Weinstock, Class of 2025. Support is available at: DoingWell.mit.edu ———————————————————————— To the members of the MIT community, With great sadness, I write to let you know that Mason Weinstock, a first-year undergraduate, died suddenly this weekend. He was not on campus at the time. As Mason’s family and friends absorb this extremely painful news, I hope we can offer them the loving support of our community. Following the rhythms of his father’s military career, Mason spent his early years in Japan, Hawaii and California before his family settled in McLean, Virginia, just outside Washington, DC. In high school, he was an outstanding swimmer who excelled at the breaststroke. His family tells us he also had a huge heart. “Coach Mason” spent his summers joyfully teaching little kids to swim, and throughout the pandemic, he took extra time to help his younger brother manage the challenges of attending school remotely. When Mason wasn’t in the pool, he loved collecting baseball statistics, playing soccer and passionately following the premier league. Quietly brilliant, curious, analytical and introspective, he was eager to explore mechanical engineering at MIT. Mason lived in MacGregor. Chancellor Melissa Nobles and Vice Chancellor and Dean for Student Life Suzy Nelson and their teams are reaching out directly to support anyone on campus who knew him. If you are hurting in any way and could use guidance or a consoling conversation, please know that you are not alone, and you do not have to struggle alone. All of us need help from time to time – and there is no shame in asking. Our new doingwell.mit.edu website makes it easy for undergraduates and graduate students to find the right support. As always, staff, postdocs and faculty can seek support through MyLife Services, and we also offer special resources to help faculty and staff help their students. Coming at the start of a new school year, and after so many months of pandemic uncertainty and separation, this news is unsettling and difficult for us all. Sometimes the greatest comfort we can find is in comforting each other: May we honor Mason’s huge heart by taking special care to check in with and listen to those around us, old friends and new. With deepest sympathy, L. Rafael Reif xq1001 发表于 2021-09-20 11:56
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申请大学不是简单填个表交个费就完了的。排名靠前的大学往往有比较刁钻的多篇小作文要写,另外还要有老师的推荐信,以及课外活动的成绩,impact等等。
普通大学有个common app,排名靠前的大学往往是自己单独搞一套。另外还有Early decision (ED), Early Action, Restricted Early Action/Single Choice Early Action, 后来还有ED1, ED2。除此之外名校往往还有校友面试之类的环节。
打个比方,你去热门的米其林三星餐馆吃饭,要提前很久定位,有的地方还有着装要求,这个跟去麦当劳吃饭能一样吗。当然实际上米其林三星也不见得有多好吃,如果只看卡路里,麦当劳也完全可以果腹。
真好
cs group project一点不少。
这种人不会因为不推数学或其他比赛而变得开朗的,性格在那了,如果再没有个特长,人生更加失败。我一个邻居小孩就是啥啥不推的,高中就休学,在家天天打游戏。 这种孩子其实从小应该上私校,心智教育更加全面一些。
🛋️ 沙发板凳
我在版上看下来,大藤 好像学习成绩只是必需品? 楼主你是不是还有孩子 别的闪光点 没放上来?
估计有大奖. 孩子想去哪里就去哪里,要不回头后悔,大藤感觉应该包容性满强的
而且校园安全又漂亮,全年天气都很好,出路非常的广,真的要考虑下stanford哦,有的没的都申请看看呀。
RE 藤校录取都在成绩之外的东西
估计有竞赛大奖,或者文章
人家显然有top竞赛金牌在手。
就是因为父母情商低工作中周围牛人多遇到不少困难所以相让娃少走弯路
不适合,知道好几个抑郁症退学的。上个州立更合适。现在小孩心理健康是个大问题。很多小学中学拿大奖的,最后两个自食其力的工作都没有,听说过太多了。
我们州竞争不激烈,学校里每年都有若干小中男去藤校的,我家孩子package和他们差不多
+1
社交差就更应该去nerd扎堆的学校。
楼主说的这种孩子,见到过,能上大藤一定要上。越是这样的孩子,越需要去牛校,才有机会遇到真正的志同道合的朋友,才会对自己信心更足。
刚刚听说朋友女儿的同学自杀了。
我lg大一的室友当年也自杀了。这事一直是他不可提的话题。 他是非常反对推孩子的。
这个朋友女儿的同学是学什么专业的?也是女孩吗?
lz去小红书搜有个恶评卡梅的视频,是个沈阳留学中介。他的视频好好笑。
不过我生活🀄️认识不少卡梅的,都是心灵手巧,开朗活泼,兴趣爱好广泛。 恶评这个不太像。
恶评nyu就是nyu没缺点 康奈尔如果你其他比它好的都申请不上,它就是在月球上也值得去
我倒是觉得周围的人和自己类似,够舒服就可以了。又不是要竞选总统,不需要让很多人喜欢自己。每个人都会有适合自己的环境和伙伴。
男孩子,大四了。专业不是非常清楚是不是和朋友女儿一样。
我们也是这个想法,不知道哪些学校算nerd扎堆
楼主并没有说孩子学习上有压力,情商低的人沉浸在自己的世界里,世俗攀比心并不重。去party school不合群甚至被骚扰压力更大。推情商低的娃去社交,和推学习不好的娃去名校学习,其实是一样的。
不就MIT,Caltech么
压力不一定是学习上的。 当然能够排除peer pressure活成完全的自我并且非常快乐,对我而言这是情商极高的表现。
以前看过心理医生,一开始孩子还和心理医生交流,说多了孩子觉得医生帮不了他,就不再交流。另外孩子敏感,有抗拒心理。
人家是12年级。mm
今年可以加个C,估计
12年级
不一定,那些高功能自闭的人也能排除peer pressure活成完全的自己并且非常快乐,有些事业还相当成功。
Nerdy的孩子才应该去MIT, 斯坦福。
这种情况真的别让孩子离开身边。
知道好几个这种情况了,有个大疼上到第二年休学了,math特别好,什么AIME,A这个M那个的都是大奖。到现在可能24,5一直呆家里不愿意出去见人。他们家就是推推推,就知道推数学,说家里一个房间都是数学书。不是老钟。真是走歪了路了。说真的有几个人能成为数学家啊,最后的结果,连个正常人都做不了。
还有一个也是类似情况,好多大奖,music,也有science,但是后来从州立大学退学,转到社区,社区都读不下去。现在也是25左右在家待着不愿意见人也不工作。父母愁死了。
以上只是众多认识的人的例子中的两个。
太多太多了。心里和生理健康一样重要,没有健康,成绩再好有什么用呢。一个学习成绩,一个考学,和日后的发展几乎没有关系。做个中上学生,diversify一些,一切随缘,培养好个性,在美国这个地方机会太多了。
我同意啊。
学习没压力,的确沉浸在自己的世界里,自己感兴趣的东西做了不少,和别的孩子格格不入。另外计划性很差
个性很难改变,学cs 不用和人打交道,group project 少,是孩子的comfort zone. 到底要不要上名校,你看孩子是不是学那些数理化非常easy,不用花时间就学到高分或满分。如果有那么聪明就去上。否则就上普通院校。主要是名校都是聪明孩子,靠死用功上去容易心理受影响。 当然如果孩子录取,又非要上。你不让他上,是不是又是一个心理打击。
看你孩子这样,有没有留在身边上大学的可能?
活的自我但并不快乐,希望交朋友但不知道怎么交
交朋友,也是可以锻炼的,可以训练出来的。就看孩子改变的意愿大不大了。
不知道你们搞不搞体育,不搞的话,可以建议孩子开始体育锻炼。track field, 适合体育不太好的孩子。可以从track field begin. 搞体育,可以交到朋友
Dear MIT Parent Community: We mourn the passing of Mason Weinstock, Class of 2025. Support is available at: DoingWell.mit.edu ———————————————————————— To the members of the MIT community,
With great sadness, I write to let you know that Mason Weinstock, a first-year undergraduate, died suddenly this weekend. He was not on campus at the time. As Mason’s family and friends absorb this extremely painful news, I hope we can offer them the loving support of our community.
Following the rhythms of his father’s military career, Mason spent his early years in Japan, Hawaii and California before his family settled in McLean, Virginia, just outside Washington, DC. In high school, he was an outstanding swimmer who excelled at the breaststroke. His family tells us he also had a huge heart. “Coach Mason” spent his summers joyfully teaching little kids to swim, and throughout the pandemic, he took extra time to help his younger brother manage the challenges of attending school remotely.
When Mason wasn’t in the pool, he loved collecting baseball statistics, playing soccer and passionately following the premier league. Quietly brilliant, curious, analytical and introspective, he was eager to explore mechanical engineering at MIT.
Mason lived in MacGregor. Chancellor Melissa Nobles and Vice Chancellor and Dean for Student Life Suzy Nelson and their teams are reaching out directly to support anyone on campus who knew him. If you are hurting in any way and could use guidance or a consoling conversation, please know that you are not alone, and you do not have to struggle alone. All of us need help from time to time – and there is no shame in asking.
Our new doingwell.mit.edu website makes it easy for undergraduates and graduate students to find the right support. As always, staff, postdocs and faculty can seek support through MyLife Services, and we also offer special resources to help faculty and staff help their students.
Coming at the start of a new school year, and after so many months of pandemic uncertainty and separation, this news is unsettling and difficult for us all. Sometimes the greatest comfort we can find is in comforting each other: May we honor Mason’s huge heart by taking special care to check in with and listen to those around us, old friends and new.
With deepest sympathy,
L. Rafael Reif
每个学校一般9月都会有新生的welcome video 然后现在很多学生会在社交平台晒自己的ad/offer 你可以让你孩子看看之前录取人的兴趣和情况,让他选择看看 很多孩子不是主动放弃社交的,而是没有让他能comfortable社交的环境(周围人都不喜欢和他共同的爱好),所以事前考察一下让他对之后的学习生活有个心理准备也很好。
多谢有用信息
这个孩子不是因为学习压力吧?开学才没几天,期中考试都没开始呢。
申请MIT吧,成绩好+竞赛成绩有戏,学校不太考虑情商(personality),周围不少nerds被MIT录取。
这娃是游泳健将哟
太惋惜了。
到了mit曾经的天之骄子发现身边是个人都比他厉害。我觉得没做好到哈佛垫底的心理准备或者没有那个脸皮,最好不要去。我以前认识一个 大藤的学生,的后来读博的学校更差,做的不如普通学校的学生,不能接受这个现实。后来节节败退,精神出了问题。
医学院面试很重要的,不管哪个学校都不会收nerd,毕竟是个服务行业,要求积极开朗心理强大,nerd只能做病理。
有的选的话,提醒一下太nerdy的性格在大公立更不好混没朋友根本玩不起走。
如果是特别聪明的孩子,不如早点儿认清人生目标自己单干。大学学业能完成毕业就好了。
MIT新生9月初才开始上课,刚上一个星期的课就感受到压力了?太吓人了
申请大学,当然要让孩子自己做决定。前面网友说得不错,参观校园,旁听课,跟在校生和毕业生多谈谈,甚至有的大学访校时还可以提前申请在宿舍里过夜的。
除了著名大学,像是专业性非常强的小学校,Harvey Mudd这种的也可以考虑,好处是人少,attention 多,不会发生在大学校里那种万一落后,没人管的情形。
祝福楼主的孩子,进入心仪的大学。
正是因为同学都是阳光开朗活泼大方的,才会给nerdy的孩子巨大的压力。
这也太惨了
我刚才说的那个大藤的例子,他现在精神已经正常了。但是花了十五年才接受自己。
小孩最重要的是身体好脸皮厚,才能适应社会。我对自己和孩子没有别的要求就是这两条。
多谢有用信息。我们也有类似想法,就是不知道哪里去找这种教交友技巧的therapist
這個除了逝去的學生本人誰能說清? 學生上課第一天就能聽到老師講什麼,要求如何,一週之內就能看到作業的難易程度,這跟是否到了期中考試有什麼關系?大學課程有多少僅僅止于期中期末考試?
這位小朋友僅僅是高中時候學校游泳隊的,在College Swimming Power Index排六千多位, 不是MIT游泳特招生的,RIP
对,楼主可以加上harvey mudd
真的是这样。。。身体好、脸皮厚,resilient to adversity
还能做什么呢。他很敏感,小时候因为找心理医生他叛逆了一段时间。后来答应他不找医生反而好了一些。 前几天聊起他还说起当年找医生对他的伤害。
多谢建议。
他说离我们越远越好
也是。
这个在我们的list 里
可以详细些,大家也好判断,你得到的信息更准确些
目标学校都不生藤啊...
从来没听说S 学生nerdy。S 的学生出了名的多才多艺,体育好,创造力强。性格阳光开朗。
学术界想生存必须长袖善舞。楼主小孩这性格不行
+1 内向心人对社交的质量要求很高,有灵魂的碰撞,才会enjoy,泛社交对内向心人来说是巨大的负担。
真自杀的这些孩子,基本都不是NERD