你有没有这种时刻,不是100%的想要,但是也不是想拒绝?分享一ge视频,how to have HELL YES sex

xinchina
楼主 (北美华人网)
不知道dating的人会不会有这样的场景,就是不确定是否该在某个亲密的当下,和对方发生性行为。可能很喜欢对方,但是还没完全100%的想要上床。 今天分享一个叫ACHE的工具:
A: Appreciation 表达感谢,比如我好喜欢你什么 C:Call it out 说出自己脑中的想法,比如我还想更了解你 H:History 比如告知对自己方过去的经历让我觉得这次take it slow会更好 E:Exactly what you what 说出自己确切想要的是什么,比如今晚我们就沙发上亲吻拥抱,不发生sex

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tidewater
对对对,成龙大哥说了:不主动、不拒绝、不负责。
是男生都知道这种感觉哈哈哈!
MeekSarah
I am listening, the first 3:20 minutes is totally NOT me. 我不能对号入座。但我需要继续听,因为我要知道如何辅导,引导我女儿。谢谢分享。
MeekSarah
@5:52 time mark "If you are not a hell yes, it is a conversation. " lol.... 那时候,几乎每天下午放工,我先生都越我在工作附近我父母家里休息。
我是真的休息,他是「休息」。
我发现自己可能几乎没有遇上 “hell yes” 的时候。怪不得那时我就告诉我先生,「不先跟他聊聊天,我不投入sex.」他很会做,通常我两趟在床上,我先生第一件安排我两做的事 是 脱光衣服 cuddle,然后他选择时机问我:「you can talk to me now.」That was when I have the power to get the conversation started. 那我开始滔滔不绝的「口袋里有豆数豆的」一一不漏地把自上次以后,他不知道我的事情 通通告诉他,然后自自然然地越讲越性兴奋。像一个小女孩放学后在校门见到家长,一边被家长握着手,一边蹦蹦跳跳的在回家的路上述说学校裏发生的事情。现在回头看,为什么 我会越来越性兴奋呢?因为当时我先生总是用手漫游在我裸体上。又用大腿有节奏,有意识,有设计的,顶着我阴唇,阴蒂。我全身恍惚都给他环抱这,包围着像是我的避风港,我的山寨,我的磐石!
MeekSarah
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@6:00 time mark: "A: Appreciation 表达感谢,比如我好喜欢你什么"
噢!怪不得我先生那么成功的性爱我,原来我一早就做到了。想起我和先生刚刚开始的那段时期,有一天晚上,我们工作忙,放工时间比较晚,没有时间到父母家。他把车开到公司转角位 停在街道旁边。天已黑。他安排我移到后座。我做一边,他躺着,把头枕在我的大腿上。当他手缓缓地往我的后颈伸过来,紧握我后劲,眼睛富有dominate的眼神望着我。我马上感到一股暖流如电从我后劲沿着骨椎发放到我全身。使我柔软飘香、、、、从来没有人如此碰我,这是我第一次. 我立刻低头看这他,像讲员那样的告诉他:“I am so happy to be here in the car with you. Your hand on my neck like that feels so..... dominating me in a positive way. ”
MeekSarah
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My A.C.H.E with my Sir. 個人biased 经历分享:
在他追我的时候,关系还未定局的阶段,我已经 和 他进行了 A.C.H.E 的思想工作。 例子: @8:00 time mark: "If you know what you want share it..... " Yes, I knew what I wanted back then. (I still know what I want now. ) I started the conversation. I shared the power. I opened the door for me and him to talk about what I desired.
我的 Appreciation:
孔子说:「听其言,观其行,知其底,方认其人。」 我是如此当面赞他的: 据我经过这些方面来审核 他,根据他在前段婚姻 担当的家庭岗位,他是一位非常达到我要求的丈夫,孩子父亲,父母的女婿....
我的 Call it out:
我开宗明义的告诉他:
我有性冷感,是床上死鱼,I am sexually frigid.
我只相親,不谈恋爱。不婚前性行为。
我的History:
但我以我前段婚姻裏担当了的妻子责任来做凭据,我是一个很称职的妻子。丈夫有求我必应,尽管痛,我还是哑忍着给。不离不弃,爱不止息,是我对所有人际关系的原则。
我的 Exactly what I desire:
想娶我为妻子的人 要有70万 先过我手,我一分不留的全给那些经济上依靠我过活的亲人。我赤身跟从这位丈夫为性奴死也无悔无怨。
结局:我先生实在是情场高手中的 hunter. 我渐渐地被他「水煮青蛙」式煮熟了,吞了。幸好他对我而言够 君子,够义气,还够生计能力 给我和那些 经济上依靠我过活的亲人过眼前的每一天,纵然他年 一万 也没有。
他想得到的女人,从来不需要花钱去换取她们甘心乐意以身相许的性爱。
在下面的楼层裏,我会分享一下 我先生 对我 的 一些 A.C.H.E 的例子。 我兩的 A.C.H.E 是雙向的。
MeekSarah
我先生對我 的 A: Appreciation 表达感谢,比如他好喜欢我什么 例子一,他公開的在 網上 post 他第一次邂逅我的感覺: Title: Flashback - Seeing Sarah for the First Time I had been at my job for a little over one week when I first saw her. I was in a team meeting. The room was large with a conference table almost as large. People surrounded the table sitting in chair, standing along the walls and hanging in the doorway. I was sitting at the head of the table listening to my manager drone on on and about something. He started asking people questions. One of the questions was directed as Sarah. I had not seen her before. She was sitting at the opposite side of the table off to the left. Her position left her hidden from my view by other co-workers. When it was her turn to speak the man sitting to her right rolled his chair back a little and I was able to see her for the first time.
I was immediately struck by her poise. She was sitting in her chair with perfect posture and her hands folded gracefully in her lap. Her dark hair was up in a very professional bun. Her blouse was shear but she was wearing a tight white shirt underneath. Her skirt was an ankle length, flowing summer skirt. All in all a proper lady. Pretty and attractive with hardly any skin visible. Graceful. My interest piqued immediately.
Sarah, with her slow grace, turned to face our manager and began to answer his question. I cannot recall the topic or what she said. I do strongly remember the sound of her voice. It was smooth, demur with an endearing accent. She was obviously not raised with English as her first language. As I listened to her voice, I studied her face. She has a lovely round face with high cheekbones, beautiful brown eyes and perfect pink lips. She is beautiful.
jadesky
回复 1楼xinchina的帖子
谢谢版主分享,真希望我早两个礼拜看到。
xinchina
回复 5楼MeekSarah的帖子
你简直就是无师自通哈,非常美好的画面啊,每个留言都好精彩。
xinchina
回复 4楼MeekSarah的帖子
嗯,我也是需要conversation哈。 我记得有个书里说女人出去gathering一天了,要把”篮子”(脑子)里的果子都倒出来,才能对别的事情感兴趣。
xinchina
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也不迟啊,你现在有history可以讲了,可以说last time 如何如何的,now I wish 如何如何的。咱们永远都可以跟着自己的心走。