还有一个相关的例子就是Online Dating经常出现的一个场面, 其中一方觉得omg we had such a good connection，特别希望继续, 而另一方却觉得只是一次还算愉快的date, 并不想second date。当然如果出现这种情况，有很多可能的解释，但其中一种就是，一方的社交技巧比较高，能让对方（不只是约会对象，其他任何交际对象都适用）感到如沐春风。两者实力根本就不对等。
回复 13楼haUSA123的帖子 谢谢你的问候。我们的发展，算是「守得了云开见到了月明」。 刚开始时有人会用「相逢恨晚」来形容。但我先生用一个positive的观点带我来看我们的相爱旅程，他说：「We have the rest of our life to be together.」 MeekSarah 发表于 2020-12-20 17:27
回复 13楼haUSA123的帖子 谢谢你的问候。我们的发展，算是「守得了云开见到了月明」。 刚开始时有人会用「相逢恨晚」来形容。但我先生用一个positive的观点带我来看我们的相爱旅程，他说：「We have the rest of our life to be together.」 MeekSarah 发表于 2020-12-20 17:27
回复 8楼haUSA123的帖子 期待你分享你所认识的两位有这种能力的男人与你的互动经历故事。 「不在乎天長地久，只在乎曾經擁有！」 以下是我先生的 Flashback： Falling (希望能带给你同感，勾起你想起有这种能力的男人如何与你心心相连) I knew at this point Sarah was special. I needed to be on my guard to avoid any romantic entanglements. But my heart wanted her. So my head told me what I wanted to hear, "You can be just friends." Ha! It sounded so reasonable, so plausible at the time. In hindsight it was neither. But I didn't know that yet, so I was blissfully unaware of what was about to happen. Things are a bit of a blur at this point. I am running down a hill that was too steep. I do not dare stop because I will start to tumble and get hurt. All I can do is control my fall and hope I land somewhere safe. I recall going to a group lunch with her and we talked a lot. I tried to spread my attention around the table so I did not appear too focused on Sarah. I don't know how obvious I was being at the time. I recall going to another lunch with just Sarah. She was a little surprised that it was just the two of us. She had assumed it was another group lunch. But she was kind and did not break her commitment. We sat and talked and had a wonderful time. She is so amazing. I started looking for ways to spend time with her. She usually arrives at the office before me, so I started coming in earlier so we could sit in the kitchen and talk. We met at a Starbucks one morning. We sat and talked like we always do. That was when I began to realize what was happening to me. To us. I could not stop myself if I wanted to. I did not want to. My memory is still a little blurry at this point. I am falling. I would reserve conference rooms in the morning so we could be alone and talk. We spent a lot of time together. In the mornings. At lunch. After work. She took me out for Tapas one evening after work. I sat across the table from her in this empty restaurant. I had unfettered access to look into her eyes. Watch her lips as she talked. She was mesmerizing. Somewhere along the way. Sometime during all these discussions we were having. She managed to slip by every defense around my heart. Defenses I have spent decades building and fortifying. She just walked in to my heart the way you walk into your own house. Confident, warm, comfortable, unthinking, because she belongs there. Sarah belongs in my heart. I am happier than I have been in a long time.
回复 18楼MeekSarah的帖子 "She just walked in to my heart the way you walk into your own house. Confident, warm, comfortable, unthinking, because she belongs there." 太甜了
回复 8楼haUSA123的帖子 期待你分享你所认识的两位有这种能力的男人与你的互动经历故事。 「不在乎天長地久，只在乎曾經擁有！」 以下是我先生的 Flashback： Falling (希望能带给你同感，勾起你想起有这种能力的男人如何与你心心相连) I knew at this point Sarah was special. I needed to be on my guard to avoid any romantic entanglements. But my heart wanted her. So my head told me what I wanted to hear, "You can be just friends." Ha! It sounded so reasonable, so plausible at the time. In hindsight it was neither. But I didn't know that yet, so I was blissfully unaware of what was about to happen. Things are a bit of a blur at this point. I am running down a hill that was too steep. I do not dare stop because I will start to tumble and get hurt. All I can do is control my fall and hope I land somewhere safe. I recall going to a group lunch with her and we talked a lot. I tried to spread my attention around the table so I did not appear too focused on Sarah. I don't know how obvious I was being at the time. I recall going to another lunch with just Sarah. She was a little surprised that it was just the two of us. She had assumed it was another group lunch. But she was kind and did not break her commitment. We sat and talked and had a wonderful time. She is so amazing. I started looking for ways to spend time with her. She usually arrives at the office before me, so I started coming in earlier so we could sit in the kitchen and talk. We met at a Starbucks one morning. We sat and talked like we always do. That was when I began to realize what was happening to me. To us. I could not stop myself if I wanted to. I did not want to. My memory is still a little blurry at this point. I am falling. I would reserve conference rooms in the morning so we could be alone and talk. We spent a lot of time together. In the mornings. At lunch. After work. She took me out for Tapas one evening after work. I sat across the table from her in this empty restaurant. I had unfettered access to look into her eyes. Watch her lips as she talked. She was mesmerizing. Somewhere along the way. Sometime during all these discussions we were having. She managed to slip by every defense around my heart. Defenses I have spent decades building and fortifying. She just walked in to my heart the way you walk into your own house. Confident, warm, comfortable, unthinking, because she belongs there. Sarah belongs in my heart. I am happier than I have been in a long time. MeekSarah 发表于 2020-12-20 21:40
身无彩凤双飞翼，心有灵犀一点通
大家是否经历过这个心灵相通的情况。
我想我经历过，而且不止一次。。 但我发现周围知道的人不多。。所以稀有吧。。
知道的几个例子 比较初步的，能感觉对方对自己的思念，关注，等等 中级的能让对方也呼应，想你 高级的双方可以心意相通。。 read each other's mind..
1. 曾经有过吗？ Yes
2. 现在还有吗？ Yes
3. 如果第二个问题答案是yes, 是和现在的先生、妻子吗？ No.
从没有过的，白活了。要不就是迟钝。
如果53一族，三个都是 Yes, 真 * 人生赢家！
如果小年轻，没经历过的话，女生别急着挣钱了。男生要好好挣钱。
如果现在在谈朋友，不知道我说什么的，应该检讨一下是不是谈了 个假恋爱，还是有点迟钝。。
如果知道我说什么，双方未婚，也许应该考虑给这段感情一个机会。
但是，非常讨厌这种“你没经历过我经历过的事情就是白活了”“谈了个假恋爱”的说法 还有，心意相通跟男女赚钱有什么关系？
男的多赚钱，有机会追到所爱吧。。
女的，应该认识，开发一下自己的潜能
Of course, there are something not for everyone..
还是只是说高情商的善解人意
不是情商，而是一种定向的 Telepathy..
如果他也属于非常稀有的敏感型，他也许会知道怎么回事。
所以这位作者应该有经历。。所以才能写出如此绝美的故事。。
我生活中认识的确定应该有这种能力的。。一个已经中年，是国内一家非常有名集团的 董事级别
年轻的一个在美国，刚开始，也还可以。
先回应楼主你在第一楼的三个问： 「 1. 曾经有过吗？ Yes
2. 现在还有吗？ Yes
3. 如果第二个问题答案是yes, 是和现在的先生、妻子吗？ Yes. （和我現任先生。）
、、、
如果53一族，三个都是 Yes, 真 * 人生赢家！ 」 我邂逅我先生那时，我还没过40岁，他也没到50岁。 我是被动型，我先生是hunter型。 他选择要追到的人，没有落空的。 我观察评估：他这种本领除了天生和原生家庭培育出来的性格之外，还有后天（照你话说的）「赚钱」中磨练出来的。 原生家庭：他排行中间，最容易被疏忽遗忘的一个孩子，在这种环境成长，他应该自幼就有许多让他学习掌握好看人眉头眼额说话行事的机会。
长得漂亮的，会撩的女的都能做到这一点 但是这个跟telepathy不是一回事
要用telepathy这个词就得按照我说的那样测试，告诉一个人某个信息，看他是否能传递给partner
首先是佩服。其次有点好奇你们这样多久了？好像开始得偏晚，一切都好吗？
谢谢你的问候。我们的发展，算是「守得了云开见到了月明」。
刚开始时有人会用「相逢恨晚」来形容。但我先生用一个positive的观点带我来看我们的相爱旅程，他说：「We have the rest of our life to be together.」
求讲故事 =)
说得真好。。 他挺能忽悠：D
能理解你「忽悠」的意思。用广东方言来形容，我先生是用上等的油来漱口的。
期待你分享你所认识的两位有这种能力的男人与你的互动经历故事。
哇 你这个太太太太甜了！
"She just walked in to my heart the way you walk into your own house. Confident, warm, comfortable, unthinking, because she belongs there." 太甜了
我取的观点分析与你的相同。赚钱的能力不只在办事能力上，还要懂運用人缘，處理人際关系，有阅读人到细微的能力，听到话的表面也会意出话裏隐藏的多重意思；所謂「知己知彼，百战百胜」。两性关系，也属于人缘关系的一种。我先生就是一位能以德，以才干服人，以厚道待人接物的领导者。许多当过他下属的朋友都义无返顾地对他说：如果某日他再创业，做老板，他们都会辞掉工作来幫我先生打江山。从来只有他解雇人，没有人解雇他的。两性关系中也同样，从来没有她主动提出分手的，都是我先生提分手的。有两位提出分手的女士，不出一两年也纷纷主动要求复合关系。我先生不愁没人爱，两次都已经有现任在了，我先生很会用带有尊重的方式來婉拒「想吃回头草的马」。
能降伏高手，你也一定很特别。。
这两个人我都是没发展成功。。<= 第二次握手的那种。。
算失之交臂吧。。即使写出来也太纯了点。。在这里
有人这么向我形容我先生： 「他观人于微，掌握人的心理，并顺着对方的心理，运用相应的方法，令人乐于跟他相处，这是他厉害的地方。」