New research has shown that ignoring someone you're with in a social setting to concentrate on your mobile phone -- called 'phubbing' -- can have a negative effect on relationships by threatening our basic human need to belong. Psychologists from the University of Kent studied the effect on individuals of being phubbed in a one-to-one social situation. They found that increased phubbing significantly and negatively affected the way the person being phubbed felt about their interaction with the other person. Researchers Varoth Chotpitayasunondh and Professor Karen Douglas, of Kent's School of Psychology, considered phubbing a specific form of social exclusion that threatens people's fundamental human needs: belonging, self-esteem, meaningful existence and control. Their study involved 153 participants who were asked to view an animation of two people having a conversation and imagine themselves as one of them. Each participant was assigned to one of three different situations: no phubbing, partial phubbing or extensive phubbing. The results showed that, as the level of phubbing increased, people experienced greater threats to their fundamental needs. They also perceived the communication quality to be poorer, and the relationship to be less satisfying. The results also showed that phubbing affected the need to belong in particular, which explained the overall negative effects on social interaction. Unlike other, more well-studied forms of social exclusion, phubbing can take place anywhere and at any time as someone reaches for their phone and ignores their conversation partner, the researchers point out.
如果没有娃，倒是也能忍，两个人各自看各自的就罢了；但是娃都十岁了，娃爹美其名曰看工作邮件，但是大部分时间都是在看wechat或者新闻。看新闻也就罢了，连娃主动和他说话的时候，他都没听见，还要我提醒才能反应过来。。。娃都看出我生气了，还劝我chill，一个大活人都完全不care家人的情绪和孩子渴望交流的眼神。。。
每次吃饭的时候，当爹的在那里看手机，我都是要挖空心思的独自和娃交流，但是娃大了，肯定能感受到，好像手机对爸爸更重要，每次娃看他的时候的眼神，都是在等这爸爸回应，但是当爹就眼神就focus在手机上，每次我都不舒服。。。
虽然也理解娃爹工作累，吃饭时不想说话，但是真的不能理解，如果连和孩子的交流都当作负担的话，那还生养孩子干嘛呢，自己一个人单身不挺好嘛。尤其是上班的时间忙一天，好不容易吃饭的时候是family time，是和孩子亲近的机会，都懒的敷衍，还要看手机，特别不能理解。。。
现在都是我一个人吃饭时候尽量多问娃白天的时间和学校的新闻，娃爹偶尔回两句。娃自己早点吃完了，我也开始看手机。。。最近开始wfh，可能加上疫情，大家都烦躁，但是看手机不是短时间的问题了。。。不知道是否有相同情况的亲，怎么处理比较好，能减少对孩子的影响。。。谢谢！！！
还有，要说是他完全不care这个，永远都是这个习惯，倒也不是，去朋友家的时候，饭桌上从来不看手机，说明他也有意识，这个是不礼貌的行为；反而是在对自己家人，最重要的人的时候，每顿都要看。。。我就奇了怪了，连克林顿总统都能挤出时间参加孩子家长会，每天半个小时的吃饭时间都坚持不了，除了不重视，貌似没有什么其他原因吧。
不知道亲们都是怎么处理这个问题的？？？！！！
https://www.zhihu.com/question/27301485
I do not believe that you can change an adult fundamentally. But it is just my personal opinion...