昨天在Publix买菜,排队check out的时候后边一个黑人女子,与我还隔着两个人,用很大的声音说:fuck you, Chinese virus. 我转身走过去,直视着她的眼睛,用尽量平静的语气说:I know you are very upset about the virus, me too. A lot of people's lives have been changed. I know it started from China. I wish it never happened, and I agree that the Chinese government should have done a better job to control it from the beginning. But I have nothing to do with it. It's unfair to treat me like a virus. In the United States, nobody should be judged by his or her skin color. I thought you knew that better than me. 然后那个人就转过头去不说话了。旁边有一个老头说我讲得很好。然后我飞快地付了钱出门走了。从来没和人吵过架,心里还是有点慌的。
之所以没用“You came out of your mother's vigina, but we call you Jolie” 之类的狠话怼回去,是因为最近看了一些心理学的书说肯定一个人的情绪是消除敌意和对抗的好办法,你肯定了她的感受,她的气就消了,如果硬怼回去下次她可能就是直接掏枪的一个。另外,我是真心没底气硬怼。因为我真心认为这次的全球灾难就是那个政府造了孽,对不起全世界那么多无辜的人。虽然我和那个政府没有任何关系,已经来美国20年了,但是作为一个从中国长大的人,真是替那个政府感到羞愧,对那么多生病的失业的人感到愧疚。
The virus doesn't care your color, passport and your country's political system, we're all victim! Blaming people is useless, we're all suffering !她能有耐心听你说这么多已经不是恶意袭击者了,真的会歧视并袭击亚裔的人才不会听你解释。
说得好!学习 昨天在Publix买菜,排队check out的时候后边一个黑人女子,与我还隔着两个人,用很大的声音说:fuck you, Chinese virus. 我转身走过去,直视着她的眼睛,用尽量平静的语气说:I know you are very upset about the virus, me too. A lot of people's lives have been changed. I know it started from China. I wish it never happened, and I agree that the Chinese government should have done a better job to control it from the beginning. But I have nothing to do with it. It's unfair to treat me like a virus. In the United States, nobody should be judged by his or her skin color. I thought you knew that better than me. 然后那个人就转过头去不说话了。旁边有一个老头说我讲得很好。然后我飞快地付了钱出门走了。从来没和人吵过架,心里还是有点慌的。 之所以没用“You came out of your mother's vigina, but we call you Jolie” 之类的狠话怼回去,是因为最近看了一些心理学的书说肯定一个人的情绪是消除敌意和对抗的好办法,你肯定了她的感受,她的气就消了,如果硬怼回去下次她可能就是直接掏枪的一个。另外,我是真心没底气硬怼。因为我真心认为这次的全球灾难就是那个政府造了孽,对不起全世界那么多无辜的人。虽然我和那个政府没有任何关系,已经来美国20年了,但是作为一个从中国长大的人,真是替那个政府感到羞愧,对那么多生病的失业的人感到愧疚。 (用马甲发帖,因为我知道我的话肯定不对某些人的胃口)。
昨天在Publix买菜,排队check out的时候后边一个黑人女子,与我还隔着两个人,用很大的声音说:fuck you, Chinese virus. 我转身走过去,直视着她的眼睛,用尽量平静的语气说:I know you are very upset about the virus, me too. A lot of people's lives have been changed. I know it started from China. I wish it never happened, and I agree that the Chinese government should have done a better job to control it from the beginning. But I have nothing to do with it. It's unfair to treat me like a virus. In the United States, nobody should be judged by his or her skin color. I thought you knew that better than me. 然后那个人就转过头去不说话了。旁边有一个老头说我讲得很好。然后我飞快地付了钱出门走了。从来没和人吵过架,心里还是有点慌的。
之所以没用“You came out of your mother's vigina, but we call you Jolie” 之类的狠话怼回去,是因为最近看了一些心理学的书说肯定一个人的情绪是消除敌意和对抗的好办法,你肯定了她的感受,她的气就消了,如果硬怼回去下次她可能就是直接掏枪的一个。另外,我是真心没底气硬怼。因为我真心认为这次的全球灾难就是那个政府造了孽,对不起全世界那么多无辜的人。虽然我和那个政府没有任何关系,已经来美国20年了,但是作为一个从中国长大的人,真是替那个政府感到羞愧,对那么多生病的失业的人感到愧疚。
昨天在Publix买菜,排队check out的时候后边一个黑人女子,与我还隔着两个人,用很大的声音说:fuck you, Chinese virus. 我转身走过去,直视着她的眼睛,用尽量平静的语气说:I know you are very upset about the virus, me too. A lot of people's lives have been changed. I know it started from China. I wish it never happened, and I agree that the Chinese government should have done a better job to control it from the beginning. But I have nothing to do with it. It's unfair to treat me like a virus. In the United States, nobody should be judged by his or her skin color. I thought you knew that better than me. 然后那个人就转过头去不说话了。旁边有一个老头说我讲得很好。然后我飞快地付了钱出门走了。从来没和人吵过架,心里还是有点慌的。 之所以没用“You came out of your mother's vigina, but we call you Jolie” 之类的狠话怼回去,是因为最近看了一些心理学的书说肯定一个人的情绪是消除敌意和对抗的好办法,你肯定了她的感受,她的气就消了,如果硬怼回去下次她可能就是直接掏枪的一个。另外,我是真心没底气硬怼。因为我真心认为这次的全球灾难就是那个政府造了孽,对不起全世界那么多无辜的人。虽然我和那个政府没有任何关系,已经来美国20年了,但是作为一个从中国长大的人,真是替那个政府感到羞愧,对那么多生病的失业的人感到愧疚。 (用马甲发帖,因为我知道我的话肯定不对某些人的胃口)。 马甲9999 发表于 3/25/2020 11:39:00 AM
说得不错,如果想说简短版本 We Chinese Americans have nothing to do with the pandemic, we are victims too. We should unite together to fight the virus. In United States, nobody should be judged by his or her skin color. I thought you knew that Seeking668 发表于 3/25/2020 12:05:10 PM
学习来了。
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楼主 第一句 就肯定对方的情绪,所以,能让对方听下去,也是楼主 自己争取来的。
第二句,把自己和周围人 都拉了进去,这样大家其实在同一条船上了,争取到了对方和周围人的支持。
所以,有了发自内心的 尊重、理解、同理心,然后表达出来,就会很好地解决问题。
发自内心、内在的表达,同理心、尊重、就事论事。
楼主说的很好👍🏼 we are all victims
同感谢。
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你这么羞愧,直接下跪道歉不得了,怼什么怼
那些要武汉人民感恩的人才应该下跪道歉!
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中国先发生,情况不明,处理不完美可以理解!如果这话在12月底,或一月初说一点问题都没有!但是使劲捂着,欺骗人民不人传人,直到1月20号实在捂不住了,才承认!这种做法可以理解???
同意!