另外分享Dr. Jose Hamilton的建议 1. Fight fear with facts. Stay informed by trusted sources. There are two main sources: The World Health Organization and the other is your national authority. 2. Avoid media intoxication. The sudden and near-constant stream of news reports about an outbreak can cause anyone to feel anxious. Try to avoid watching, reading or listening to news that causes you to feel distressed, particularly several times a day. Seek information mainly to take practical steps to prepare your plans and protect yourself and your loved ones. To do that, you don’t need 24/7 updates. Seek information updates at specific times during the day once or twice. 3. Protect yourself and support others. Assisting others in their time of need can benefit the person receiving support as well as yourself. 4. Honor caretakers and healthcare workers supporting people affected with COVID-19 in your community. Acknowledge the role they play to save lives and keep your loved ones safe. 5. Find opportunities to amplify positive stories and voices of people, cities, and countries who have experienced the COVID-19 and have recovered or are making progress in that direction.
其实我过去几年的经历也一言难尽。曾经难过的问为什么这个世界这么难,而我的心如此软弱?最终一个想法让我沉淀下来:把生活当作一场修行。而修行中最重要的一课,就是修心。各种困难,逆境,挑战,都是修行中要解的问题。绝大部分人当人生顺意时,几乎不可能安静下来思考和成长,满脑子想的是对当下的沾沾自喜或者是对未来的繁忙计划。再德高望重的老师也不愿谦虚的去倾听追随,再著名的经典也没有办法体会深意。人的双眼兴奋的向外部四下张望或者看向遥远的天边。而只有遇到逆境挑战时候才能够静下心来审视自己,调整自己,坚持过去,甚至找到机缘修炼出更强大的内心。
那么可不可以更积极的看待这段特殊的百年不遇的时间,学会如何与不确定性,焦虑甚至恐惧共生,学会在困难的情况下更理性更有效率的处理问题呢?换个方法来问,面对不确定的未来,越来越强烈的焦虑和恐惧,越来越大的社会和家庭责任,除了变的更强大,难道我们还有别的选择吗?
修心的方法很多很多。纵观心理学,哲学,宗教,灵修,其实人们想要理解心灵的需求一直无比强烈,只不过诠释的方法有所不同,而且跟你一起走上每一条路的同路人也不同。在我看来,不论选择哪条路,都要让你信服,让你平静,有力量且快乐,让你能够坚持,并且更多理解包容他人,对这世界有更多善意。Love,Joy and Peace 是人类最重要的高级需求。它们却是无法被给予的,只能自己在反复的求索甚至失败中得到。
最后,说说最前面微信上的联系人,她最近终于理清思路,意识到自己和家庭必须面对的很多责任,接受自己的正常感受,肯定自己的意义和价值。在此基础上她意识到需要多多爱护理解自己,开始阅读她喜欢的国学里面一些思想,每日自省并且练习静坐。她告诉我,心静下来,自己才能更强大,也更好的照顾自己和家人。她激发了我想写下这样的文字。这个人就是我的姑姑,一个普通的中学教师。当我还小时,我们曾经非常亲密,后来我外地求学生活十几年,联系越来越少,这次突如其来的精神上交流实属意料之外。但同时也让我认识到思想的重要性。一个积极的好的想法观念,是一种生命的能量,能给人以平静以力量,能让人爆发出任何潜力。
决心把最近的一系列心得写下来,作为这一段日子的见证。希望在满屏新闻和讨论中,让读过的人有片刻的宁静。