说实话，detention也没什么大不了的：）） 1. 首先，的确动口和动手是两个level的问题，抓住某人顶在locker上5 seconds虽然没打人，但是算“physical”这个category，给个detention是校长该做的 2. BUT，如果是我的孩子我会坚定的stand behind him， he did the right thing， although he broke the rules 3. 作为家长，我会去找校长，As much as I understand that it's your job to make such decision, I don't agree with your decision. Not only i don't agree with you, I strongly support what he did, he did what he's supposed to do when someone else feels it's ok to insult others and the school thinks it's ok to make others "uncomfortable"by using such offensive language; he also did the right thing to protect his friends' dignity, so kudos to him! And to the other kid, even if the school doesn't teach him a lesson, his family chooses not to teach him a lesson either, he learns it anyways and he really deserves it! We are sorry that we have nothing to apologize for. Please let me know when the detention would be and we will be here.
说实话，detention也没什么大不了的：）） 1. 首先，的确动口和动手是两个level的问题，抓住某人顶在locker上5 seconds虽然没打人，但是算“physical”这个category，给个detention是校长该做的 2. BUT，如果是我的孩子我会坚定的stand behind him， he did the right thing， although he broke the rules 3. 作为家长，我会去找校长，As much as I understand that it's your job to make such decision, I don't agree with your decision. Not only i don't agree with you, I strongly support what he did, he did what he's supposed to do when someone else feels it's ok to insult others and the school thinks it's ok to make others "uncomfortable"by using such offensive language; he also did the right thing to protect his friends' dignity, so kudos to him! And to the other kid, even if the school doesn't teach him a lesson, his family chooses not to teach him a lesson either, he learns it anyways and he really deserves it! We are sorry that we have nothing to apologize for. Please let me know when the detention would be and we will be here. bellamia 发表于 2/19/2020 4:11:55 PM
2. BUT，如果是我的孩子我会坚定的stand behind him， he did the right thing， although he broke the rules
3. 作为家长，我会去找校长，As much as I understand that it's your job to make such decision, I don't agree with your decision. Not only i don't agree with you, I strongly support what he did, he did what he's supposed to do when someone else feels it's ok to insult others and the school thinks it's ok to make others "uncomfortable"by using such offensive language; he also did the right thing to protect his friends' dignity, so kudos to him! And to the other kid, even if the school doesn't teach him a lesson, his family chooses not to teach him a lesson either, he learns it anyways and he really deserves it! We are sorry that we have nothing to apologize for. Please let me know when the detention would be and we will be here. bellamia 发表于 2/19/2020 4:11:55 PM
2. BUT，如果是我的孩子我会坚定的stand behind him， he did the right thing， although he broke the rules
3. 作为家长，我会去找校长，As much as I understand that it's your job to make such decision, I don't agree with your decision. Not only i don't agree with you, I strongly support what he did, he did what he's supposed to do when someone else feels it's ok to insult others and the school thinks it's ok to make others "uncomfortable"by using such offensive language; he also did the right thing to protect his friends' dignity, so kudos to him! And to the other kid, even if the school doesn't teach him a lesson, his family chooses not to teach him a lesson either, he learns it anyways and he really deserves it! We are sorry that we have nothing to apologize for. Please let me know when the detention would be and we will be here. bellamia 发表于 2/19/2020 4:11:55 PM
如果是我会选择接受detention，但是要求verbal abuse的孩子也受到处罚。If verbal abuse and racist comments are not taken seriously, the school is essentially encouraging verbal violence and racism on campus. Who knows what will happen next time? Currently, the parents have a legitimate concern about their kids safety at school, especially the minority families. The school must address this event promptly and publicly. Every parent and potential parent has a right to know exactly where this school stands on bullying and racism issues.
2. BUT，如果是我的孩子我会坚定的stand behind him， he did the right thing， although he broke the rules
3. 作为家长，我会去找校长，As much as I understand that it's your job to make such decision, I don't agree with your decision. Not only i don't agree with you, I strongly support what he did, he did what he's supposed to do when someone else feels it's ok to insult others and the school thinks it's ok to make others "uncomfortable"by using such offensive language; he also did the right thing to protect his friends' dignity, so kudos to him! And to the other kid, even if the school doesn't teach him a lesson, his family chooses not to teach him a lesson either, he learns it anyways and he really deserves it! We are sorry that we have nothing to apologize for. Please let me know when the detention would be and we will be here. bellamia 发表于 2/19/2020 4:11:55 PM
2. BUT，如果是我的孩子我会坚定的stand behind him， he did the right thing， although he broke the rules
3. 作为家长，我会去找校长，As much as I understand that it's your job to make such decision, I don't agree with your decision. Not only i don't agree with you, I strongly support what he did, he did what he's supposed to do when someone else feels it's ok to insult others and the school thinks it's ok to make others "uncomfortable"by using such offensive language; he also did the right thing to protect his friends' dignity, so kudos to him! And to the other kid, even if the school doesn't teach him a lesson, his family chooses not to teach him a lesson either, he learns it anyways and he really deserves it! We are sorry that we have nothing to apologize for. Please let me know when the detention would be and we will be here. bellamia 发表于 2/19/2020 4:11:55 PM
回复 1楼usshe的帖子 Get the other 3 kids parents and get a lawyer or put the video on social media. The principal is wrong to miscategorizing “racial discrimination” as verbal discomfort. Especially you have it on camera.
2. BUT，如果是我的孩子我会坚定的stand behind him， he did the right thing， although he broke the rules
3. 作为家长，我会去找校长，As much as I understand that it's your job to make such decision, I don't agree with your decision. Not only i don't agree with you, I strongly support what he did, he did what he's supposed to do when someone else feels it's ok to insult others and the school thinks it's ok to make others "uncomfortable"by using such offensive language; he also did the right thing to protect his friends' dignity, so kudos to him! And to the other kid, even if the school doesn't teach him a lesson, his family chooses not to teach him a lesson either, he learns it anyways and he really deserves it! We are sorry that we have nothing to apologize for. Please let me know when the detention would be and we will be here. bellamia 发表于 2/19/2020 4:11:55 PM
这是bully and discrimination based on race and nation of origin. 这个校长应该被educated. 他不能好好处理这件事的话，你要上报到Board of Education. 这个校长应该看看别的学区是怎么处理同样的情况: https://www.nbcnews.com/news/asian-america/asian-american-teen-l-assaulted-over-coronavirus-n1138376?from=groupmessage&isappinstalled=0 Asian American teen in L.A. assaulted over coronavirus A Los Angeles County middle school student was allegedly assaulted last week amid fears over the new coronavirus. The teen was reportedly bullied and assaulted because he is of Asian descent, L.A. County Supervisor Hilda Solis said at a press conference last Thursday. “I am concerned because as someone who is also of immigrant background, I know what it means to face discrimination and racial profiling,” Solis said. “And when I heard of the recent incident of a young child being bullied and actually was assaulted because he was pointed out as being of Asian background — and children unfortunately repeat things that are said by other people, including their own parents, so we need to put a stop to that. ......
2. BUT，如果是我的孩子我会坚定的stand behind him， he did the right thing， although he broke the rules
3. 作为家长，我会去找校长，As much as I understand that it's your job to make such decision, I don't agree with your decision. Not only i don't agree with you, I strongly support what he did, he did what he's supposed to do when someone else feels it's ok to insult others and the school thinks it's ok to make others "uncomfortable"by using such offensive language; he also did the right thing to protect his friends' dignity, so kudos to him! And to the other kid, even if the school doesn't teach him a lesson, his family chooses not to teach him a lesson either, he learns it anyways and he really deserves it! We are sorry that we have nothing to apologize for. Please let me know when the detention would be and we will be here. bellamia 发表于 2/19/2020 4:11:55 PM
这学校简直令人发指的言行。朋友马上会转走娃。同时继续求助大家帮忙想想办法。
update 2/21: 首先谢谢楼大部分妈妈的支持，理解和出谋划策。真是来着不善善者不来。本来当事人还想孩子间互相道歉也容忍了。可惜。。。 朋友和校长email来回后，被校长警告我朋友没有任何凭证说那个白娃侮辱了朋友娃 （这跟2天前校长电话里承认‘你家娃只是被喊了CoronaKid uncomfortable’ 大相径庭),而video camera是实实在在证据朋友娃对那个白娃的威胁。所以结论是学校只会处理我朋友娃。 其次，那个白娃在游戏群里这几天又反复type有侮辱性词语，CoronaKid, 纳粹，金正恩儿子，被孩子在chat被冲刷掉之前截屏保留。朋友发给校长作为evidence。校长回复说已经联系过了白娃家长，人家说了，那孩子那天一直在打hockey，没有时间上网，那账号估计被盗用了。校长强调相信人家父母绝对不会撒谎。
校长空口说白话，颠倒是非，漏洞百出。我们已经出离愤怒了，这么乖的孩子被人整。有法律知识的mm请帮忙。朋友已经打算鱼死网破，要是这个校长不能下台，只能准备summer搬家了。唉 另外，她已经发信给学区，还在等回复。
original post: 我们是白区，亚裔很少。事情经过是这样的。朋友家上初中的男娃(成绩超级优秀乖巧的孩子)在Hallway被一个白娃叫住让他看Coronavirus的录像,追着他嘲笑他是 coronaKid. 当时在场的还有另外2个个头比较小的男孩是我朋友娃的friends,其中一个韩国娃也被那个白娃喊金正恩儿子，另一个德国娃被喊是纳粹。于是朋友孩子气不过反击，把那个白娃顶在looker上面5秒钟。 校长打电话说，喊CoronaKid这个只是让你娃不comfortable，但是我朋友娃那是威胁到了白娃安全。下周要对他detention。朋友看了学校视频(多亏有camera)，孩子真的就是把那熊娃顶在墙上跟他说了stop，完全没有动手，5秒后就走开了。 我们听了觉得太过分了，摆明了厚此薄彼, 有点忍不下这口气。看看版上大家有什么意见和建议。下一步怎么做才能正确保护孩子.
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可是娃没有实际动手啊
动胳膊动身体都算吧 还是赶紧找到剩下俩家长把bully 歧视都一起告到校长那里去吧
确实是智商情商超高的孩子.
NEW YORK TIME（中文版） 目前正在就这个病毒的影响征文， 新冠病毒给你带来什么影响？我们希望听到居住在海外、计划去海外学习或出国旅行的中国学生、他们的家人及朋友的声音，了解你的生活受到了怎样的影响，以及你为应对疫情做了些什么。
虽然是针对中国留学生的，但是我觉得这个事情比较典型，也可以去投稿。link 在这里
https://www.nytimes.com/zh-hans/2020/02/11/world/asia/corona-virus-student-stories-chinese.html?_ga=2.16472502.1897327225.1581230988-6907083.1559936512
赞👍超厉害的回复
写的好棒！学习了
re...我光是看着都觉得生气，初中的小男孩在那个环境下，当面被这样挑衅能处理的这么好真的很棒！
找校长估计没用的，这种一开始就拉偏架的大概率套词一堆一堆的。可以同时找学区跟在Facebook上发。让儿子知道在美国这个社会speak for yourself很重要。
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妹子一看就是好妈妈！记得您回过几次关于娃在学校发生的事的应对贴，每次都写得有理有据不卑不亢！大赞！请问一下，您平时都看哪些育儿书？好想借鉴一下！谢谢！
写的真好！
你不知道不是全白的学校的后果么？ 我家班上唯一个黑人是一个黑一点的印度男孩，唯一一个白人是一个白一点的印度女孩。剩下都是小黄人。
P.S. 是天才班。
还不是加州国呢。
谢谢分享，学习了。
我们中部小town。学区2%亚裔，90%白人
不是自己娃. 我娃还小.
难道你身边没有朋友愿意跟你share事情么？这摊上谁家都不好受,会尽量告诉周围朋友细节,大家一起想想办法. 我朋友不上华人,但我有给她link. 本来就是很愤怒憋屈的事情,你这还来阴阳怪气踩一脚.服了. 家小什么时候变是非之地了？今天周五,上班闲着了....
如果你朋友发twitter或者facebook的话把链接发到家小来，我们一定把它顶到热搜。
我没有踩你，就是觉得一般人不会和朋友share那么多细节，楼上很多人不也觉得就是你自己娃。我是不会和朋友说那么多细节的，特别是如果人家娃比你家娃大很多，反过来还有可能。anyway，我就是吃瓜而已