孩子上三年级，最近一次跟他聊天聊到喜不喜欢学校，她说mix feeling，我们追问下去，才了解到原来种族歧视在这么小的孩子身上也会发生！ 几件事： 1. 二年级的时候，跟另外一同级小男孩一起等车，老师随口问一句你们俩是一起carpool吗，此男孩马上回答 ”no, because I don't have eyes like this", 同时作出眼角上拉的样子。当时被老师立刻制止。 2.最近发生的事情，食堂里吃饭，一同班小女孩Z想跟孩子换座位，可是她已经把午饭都拿出来了，不想换，拒绝后被此女孩怒骂“ You are such a chink！” 。 除此之外，Z多次嘲笑我们孩子的午饭，说disgusting，按我们孩子说法，她有anger control的问题，爆发起来各种F* word，B* word，还会扔东西，老师都怕她。
stand up and speak up, 不接受道歉 ，如果下次有小孩说，就反问，and you? How do yo define people just like you. Huh? Low? ....(you name it). None of these, just your parents know nothing about raising a decent kid. 小孩就是父母的镜子，别告诉我什么祸不及父母！告诉你的孩子，他跟这些trash kids不一样的地方，就是他的父母不懂得教育它，而它更不如你！
个人觉得捅到学校不如教会孩子怎样defend 自己；学校都是官僚，虽然我赞同lz的做法，的确是应该make some noise，让他们知道我们不是好欺负的。但是同时也不要忘记教会孩子怎么保护自己。比如如果被打当时就要还手，如果被骂当时就骂回去，不吃眼前亏，在家跟孩子演练多次让孩子能熟练掌握。好汉不吃眼前亏，以后孩子就算被欺负了也能自己handle。毕竟不会一辈子都呆在学校，也不是总有人能主持公道。就算孩子打不过骂不过对方，也不会后悔自己当时没有反抗 而感到心里憋屈。反抗了没有用，是社会的问题。而自己根本不反抗而希望别人都是圣人，只能是给自己找过不去。
这不是一般的孩子之间的纷争，三年级也不是5岁不懂，这是很严重的问题，LZ的孩子朋友多，也许没当回事，但是这并不能说明这件事不严重；Z脾气不好，霸道，更不能justify她这么做，这么说是ok的。 针对LZ的first attempt老师的处理方式，基本可以说明她没能力/意愿处理这个问题，如果是我就会escalate给校长，copy老师既是礼貌也是程序 Dear Mrs. XX, This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time. However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues: 1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize. 2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them. 3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side. Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps. Regards, XX
这不是一般的孩子之间的纷争，三年级也不是5岁不懂，这是很严重的问题，LZ的孩子朋友多，也许没当回事，但是这并不能说明这件事不严重；Z脾气不好，霸道，更不能justify她这么做，这么说是ok的。 针对LZ的first attempt老师的处理方式，基本可以说明她没能力/意愿处理这个问题，如果是我就会escalate给校长，copy老师既是礼貌也是程序 Dear Mrs. XX, This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time. However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues: 1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize. 2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them. 3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side. Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps. Regards, XX bellamia 发表于 2/11/2020 2:58:15 PM
这不是一般的孩子之间的纷争，三年级也不是5岁不懂，这是很严重的问题，LZ的孩子朋友多，也许没当回事，但是这并不能说明这件事不严重；Z脾气不好，霸道，更不能justify她这么做，这么说是ok的。 针对LZ的first attempt老师的处理方式，基本可以说明她没能力/意愿处理这个问题，如果是我就会escalate给校长，copy老师既是礼貌也是程序 Dear Mrs. XX, This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time. However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues: 1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize. 2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them. 3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side. Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps. Regards, XX bellamia 发表于 2/11/2020 2:58:00 PM
This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time.
However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues:
1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize.
2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them.
3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side.
Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps.
This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time.
However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues:
1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize.
2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them.
3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side.
Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps.
This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time.
However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues:
1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize.
2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them.
3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side.
Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps.
这不是一般的孩子之间的纷争，三年级也不是5岁不懂，这是很严重的问题，LZ的孩子朋友多，也许没当回事，但是这并不能说明这件事不严重；Z脾气不好，霸道，更不能justify她这么做，这么说是ok的。 针对LZ的first attempt老师的处理方式，基本可以说明她没能力/意愿处理这个问题，如果是我就会escalate给校长，copy老师既是礼貌也是程序 Dear Mrs. XX, This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time. However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues: 1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize. 2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them. 3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side. Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps. Regards, XX bellamia 发表于 2/11/2020 2:58:15 PM
This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time.
However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues:
1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize.
2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them.
3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side.
Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps.
This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time.
However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues:
1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize.
2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them.
3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side.
Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps.
This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time.
However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues:
1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize.
2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them.
3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side.
Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps.
This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time.
However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues:
1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize.
2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them.
3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side.
Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps.
这不是一般的孩子之间的纷争，三年级也不是5岁不懂，这是很严重的问题，LZ的孩子朋友多，也许没当回事，但是这并不能说明这件事不严重；Z脾气不好，霸道，更不能justify她这么做，这么说是ok的。 针对LZ的first attempt老师的处理方式，基本可以说明她没能力/意愿处理这个问题，如果是我就会escalate给校长，copy老师既是礼貌也是程序 Dear Mrs. XX, This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time. However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues: 1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize. 2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them. 3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side. Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps. Regards, XX bellamia 发表于 2/11/2020 14:58:00
This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time.
However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues:
1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize.
2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them.
3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side.
Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps.
This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time.
However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues:
1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize.
2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them.
3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side.
Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps.
1. 我们girl scout的一个孩子被bully,对方对她说:you Americans are lazy and eat junk food,然后不让别人和她玩...我听到就建议这个妈妈周一直接找校长, 据我对校长的了解,她绝对不会不管的,果然她直接就把那个孩子的家长请到学校了,问他们是否了解这个情况,孩子这样的话是从哪里听来的(那家不是美国人),要求他们让孩子当面道歉,自己不玩没关系,不做朋友也正常,但是让所有的人都不和XX玩就是bully.
2. 二年级的一个孩子对五年级的一个女生说: Your breast is so big...10岁的孩子正是对自己的身体非常不自信的时候,听了非常难过.其他孩子就告诉老师校长了,校长立刻把所有2年纪女生组织起来给她们讲身体的变化,要尊重别人,不能因为别人和自己长得不一样就body shaming,同理胖,瘦,肤色,头发颜色....
3. 我女儿告诉我playground上几个女生组织了个"girls club", 要求只有XXXX 样的,符合什么什么条件的女生才能加入玩.我说那你加入她们吗? 她说,who cares, i don't wanna play with them anyways. We started our own club, everybody can play,even boys. 其实这些事对我也不是什么新闻,我小时候都经历过,做过,也是孩子的成长必修课吧.
但是回到LZ说的Z的事情,Chink 这个词的严重性是和Negro一样的, 是属于在公司会被立刻fire掉的最严重的discrimination级别,尤其是Z还说Fword,B word,什么样的家庭可想而知,这种事情我会get to the bottom of it,校长不作为, 我找School board, media, 直到解决为止. good luck!
This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time.
However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues:
1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize.
2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them.
3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side.
Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps.
这不是一般的孩子之间的纷争，三年级也不是5岁不懂，这是很严重的问题，LZ的孩子朋友多，也许没当回事，但是这并不能说明这件事不严重；Z脾气不好，霸道，更不能justify她这么做，这么说是ok的。 针对LZ的first attempt老师的处理方式，基本可以说明她没能力/意愿处理这个问题，如果是我就会escalate给校长，copy老师既是礼貌也是程序 Dear Mrs. XX, This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time. However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues: 1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize. 2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them. 3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side. Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps. Regards, XX bellamia 发表于 2/11/2020 2:58:00 PM
This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time.
However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues:
1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize.
2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them.
3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side.
Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps.
This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time.
However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues:
1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize.
2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them.
3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side.
Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps.
This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time.
However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues:
1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize.
2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them.
3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side.
Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps.
This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time.
However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues:
1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize.
2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them.
3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side.
Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps.
1. 我们girl scout的一个孩子被bully,对方对她说:you Americans are lazy and eat junk food,然后不让别人和她玩...我听到就建议这个妈妈周一直接找校长, 据我对校长的了解,她绝对不会不管的,果然她直接就把那个孩子的家长请到学校了,问他们是否了解这个情况,孩子这样的话是从哪里听来的(那家不是美国人),要求他们让孩子当面道歉,自己不玩没关系,不做朋友也正常,但是让所有的人都不和XX玩就是bully.
2. 二年级的一个孩子对五年级的一个女生说: Your breast is so big...10岁的孩子正是对自己的身体非常不自信的时候,听了非常难过.其他孩子就告诉老师校长了,校长立刻把所有2年纪女生组织起来给她们讲身体的变化,要尊重别人,不能因为别人和自己长得不一样就body shaming,同理胖,瘦,肤色,头发颜色....
3. 我女儿告诉我playground上几个女生组织了个"girls club", 要求只有XXXX 样的,符合什么什么条件的女生才能加入玩.我说那你加入她们吗? 她说,who cares, i don't wanna play with them anyways. We started our own club, everybody can play,even boys. 其实这些事对我也不是什么新闻,我小时候都经历过,做过,也是孩子的成长必修课吧.
但是回到LZ说的Z的事情,Chink 这个词的严重性是和Negro一样的, 是属于在公司会被立刻fire掉的最严重的discrimination级别,尤其是Z还说Fword,B word,什么样的家庭可想而知,这种事情我会get to the bottom of it,校长不作为, 我找School board, media, 直到解决为止. good luck!
This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time.
However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues:
1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize.
2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them.
3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side.
Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps.
这不是一般的孩子之间的纷争，三年级也不是5岁不懂，这是很严重的问题，LZ的孩子朋友多，也许没当回事，但是这并不能说明这件事不严重；Z脾气不好，霸道，更不能justify她这么做，这么说是ok的。 针对LZ的first attempt老师的处理方式，基本可以说明她没能力/意愿处理这个问题，如果是我就会escalate给校长，copy老师既是礼貌也是程序 Dear Mrs. XX, This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time. However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues: 1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize. 2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them. 3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side. Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps. Regards, XX bellamia 发表于 2/11/2020 2:58:00 PM
这不是一般的孩子之间的纷争，三年级也不是5岁不懂，这是很严重的问题，LZ的孩子朋友多，也许没当回事，但是这并不能说明这件事不严重；Z脾气不好，霸道，更不能justify她这么做，这么说是ok的。 针对LZ的first attempt老师的处理方式，基本可以说明她没能力/意愿处理这个问题，如果是我就会escalate给校长，copy老师既是礼貌也是程序 Dear Mrs. XX, This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time. However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues: 1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize. 2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them. 3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side. Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps. Regards, XX bellamia 发表于 2/11/2020 2:58:15 PM
这不是一般的孩子之间的纷争，三年级也不是5岁不懂，这是很严重的问题，LZ的孩子朋友多，也许没当回事，但是这并不能说明这件事不严重；Z脾气不好，霸道，更不能justify她这么做，这么说是ok的。 针对LZ的first attempt老师的处理方式，基本可以说明她没能力/意愿处理这个问题，如果是我就会escalate给校长，copy老师既是礼貌也是程序 Dear Mrs. XX, This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time. However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues: 1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize. 2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them. 3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side. Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps. Regards, XX
This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time.
However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues:
1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize.
2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them.
3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side.
Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps.
这不是一般的孩子之间的纷争，三年级也不是5岁不懂，这是很严重的问题，LZ的孩子朋友多，也许没当回事，但是这并不能说明这件事不严重；Z脾气不好，霸道，更不能justify她这么做，这么说是ok的。 针对LZ的first attempt老师的处理方式，基本可以说明她没能力/意愿处理这个问题，如果是我就会escalate给校长，copy老师既是礼貌也是程序 Dear Mrs. XX, This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time. However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues: 1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize. 2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them. 3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side. Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps. Regards, XX
这不是一般的孩子之间的纷争，三年级也不是5岁不懂，这是很严重的问题，LZ的孩子朋友多，也许没当回事，但是这并不能说明这件事不严重；Z脾气不好，霸道，更不能justify她这么做，这么说是ok的。 针对LZ的first attempt老师的处理方式，基本可以说明她没能力/意愿处理这个问题，如果是我就会escalate给校长，copy老师既是礼貌也是程序 Dear Mrs. XX, This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time. However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues: 1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize. 2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them. 3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side. Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps. Regards, XX
这不是一般的孩子之间的纷争，三年级也不是5岁不懂，这是很严重的问题，LZ的孩子朋友多，也许没当回事，但是这并不能说明这件事不严重；Z脾气不好，霸道，更不能justify她这么做，这么说是ok的。 针对LZ的first attempt老师的处理方式，基本可以说明她没能力/意愿处理这个问题，如果是我就会escalate给校长，copy老师既是礼貌也是程序 Dear Mrs. XX, This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time. However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues: 1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize. 2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them. 3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side. Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps. Regards, XX
This is a follow up on the issue i raised two days ago regarding the discriminating language used against my daughter during lunch time.
However, I have grown even more concerned after I was made aware that XX and Z were asked to apologize to each other as a seemingly peace making solution to the issue. If I may, I would like to request a meeting with you tomorrow morning first thing to align on a few issues:
1. I'd really like to comprehend the basis on which XX was asked to apologize to Z, the fact that she wouldn't concede her seat to Z during lunch? or she wouldn't tolerate such hostile language towards her? In my honest opinion, XX has nothing to apologize.
2. I also would like to understand our school's disciplinary policy in the event when such behaviors occur, if no proper action is taken, then we are allowing them to reoccur; if we allow them, then we are encouraging them.
3. I'd also appreciate it if you could walk me through our curriculum about inclusion and non-discrimination. In today's real world, no company in our country would tolerate such non-inclusive attitude and discriminating language. Are we, as a community, preparing our children to face the real world? Are we teaching them the fundamental values that would help them to succeed? Not recognizing the issue is not right, and not fair for the children and families, both on the receiving side and the giving side.
Please let me know what time works the best for you and I'd be happy to accommodate your schedule. I greatly appreciate you and Mrs YY (the teacher) 's efforts to find a solution and I look forward to working with both of you on the next steps.
Regards,
XX bellamia 发表于 2/11/2020 2:58:15 PM
抓住智慧的@bellamia MM 问一下， 我娃今年在collaborative teaching class 1st gd. 回家对我说被special ed 小孩打了。不重。老师是一个50岁左右的白人regular ed teacher. 我有和老师说，结果是medication is not right, school is working with the child and family.... 之后我经常问娃，那个小孩子有没有打他。我娃说it’s ok, he doesn’t know what he’s doing. 但是他不说打了还是没打。我的理解是没打我娃但是干了别的事？这句话肯定是老师对学生们说的。我和娃说 it’s not ok for xyz to hit other kids in the class even if he doesn’t know what he’s doing/ he can’t help control himself. If he hit you, you tell the teacher right the way and hit him back. You won’t get in trouble for defending yourself and mommy will back you up. 事情让我觉得非常的wrong, 但是还没有想出怎么approach老师in a politically correct way. 我下星期和老师谈其它事时想casually bring up 我的concern。我娃在学校是那种打不还手骂不还口的内向的娃。
抓住智慧的@bellamia MM 问一下， 我娃今年在collaborative teaching class 1st gd. 回家对我说被special ed 小孩打了。不重。老师是一个50岁左右的白人regular ed teacher. 我有和老师说，结果是medication is not right, school is working with the child and family.... 之后我经常问娃，那个小孩子有没有打他。我娃说it’s ok, he doesn’t know what he’s doing. 但是他不说打了还是没打。我的理解是没打我娃但是干了别的事？这句话肯定是老师对学生们说的。我和娃说 it’s not ok for xyz to hit other kids in the class even if he doesn’t know what he’s doing/ he can’t help control himself. If he hit you, you tell the teacher right the way and hit him back. You won’t get in trouble for defending yourself and mommy will back you up. 事情让我觉得非常的wrong, 但是还没有想出怎么approach老师in a politically correct way. 我下星期和老师谈其它事时想casually bring up 我的concern。我娃在学校是那种打不还手骂不还口的内向的娃。
2wawa 发表于 2/19/2020 10:03:51 AM
具体哪种special ed？不同的程度可以不同方法应对，另外学校/学区没有给他安排special ed assistant吗？我们学校是每个这样的孩子有专人负责的
回复 85楼bellamia的帖子 不知道diagnosis. 设及privacy。感觉medication works 早上，下午那孩子就out of control. 学校正在评估中吧。那个小朋友没有one on one aide. special ed 老师是part time，班上也有一个part time class aide.
几件事：
1. 二年级的时候，跟另外一同级小男孩一起等车，老师随口问一句你们俩是一起carpool吗，此男孩马上回答 ”no, because I don't have eyes like this", 同时作出眼角上拉的样子。当时被老师立刻制止。
2.最近发生的事情，食堂里吃饭，一同班小女孩Z想跟孩子换座位，可是她已经把午饭都拿出来了，不想换，拒绝后被此女孩怒骂“ You are such a chink！” 。 除此之外，Z多次嘲笑我们孩子的午饭，说disgusting，按我们孩子说法，她有anger control的问题，爆发起来各种F* word，B* word，还会扔东西，老师都怕她。
孩子在学校朋友很多，各个族裔都有，所以这件事在她看来，就是有一点wired，有一点unconfortable。但是我们觉得绝不能姑息！
这个学校 50%白人， 30%亚裔，6%黑人，6% hispanic，剩下的是各种其他国家的少数族裔。总体感觉还是比较diverse的，真没想到居然还能发生这种事，还不止一次！
我们已经给老师和校长发了信。冷静陈述事实，表达震惊和担心，请老师和学校建议如何处理这件事，必要的话我们愿意面谈。
老师回信说她们会调查并给我们回复。
给老师发完信后，第二天孩子回家，我们问她老师有没有找她谈话。孩子说老师找了，找了她和Z了解了情况， 然后让她们互相道歉？！我当时听到就怒了，凭什么叫我们孩子道歉！这样的message是不是说以后惹别人生气了就活该被骂？当时就担心老师会和稀泥糊弄过去。
第一次遇到这种事儿，我觉得必须认真处理，也是给孩子树立个榜样，自己的事情一定要自己维护，自己抗争。
所以我想请问版上有经验的妈妈，学校offer什么样的处理结果是可以接受的？ 如果老师学校想要息事宁人如何继续抗争？老师这样处理明显不当，应该如何跟学校和老师继续交涉？
华人上聪明厉害的妈妈很多，请大家帮我看看，怎样才能最好的处理这件事？多谢大家了！
道歉了呀。老师就轻描淡写的让Z say sorry。 然后跟我女儿说，can you do the same？
回来我问她，你没做错事情为什么要道歉，孩子说，不想要让老师下不来台。
我愤怒了，必须得教会孩子维护自己，这个事情绝不能随便就过去了。
嗯，受教了，现在看来写的email语气还是太轻，显然老师没当回事儿想要和稀泥
我确实需要立刻要求面谈！
还真让你说着了，女孩Z是小黑，之前二年级那个男孩子名字听上去就是Mexican。
留备份，学习！
楼上是个热心的mm，每次都贡献一长篇有理有据的EMAIL. 谢谢，收藏了！
Mm真是太棒了！学习学习！
bellamia 同学一出手就是大招!
收藏，学习！多谢🙏
感谢bellamia mm，以前就看过mm热心的回帖，每一次都是一篇有理有据的email。 这次果然也来帮我了，学习了！再次谢谢！
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不客气!同时也想提醒下LZ,学校里会发生各种各样的事情,并不仅仅是针对种族,举几个我们学校最近发生的事情的例子,都是通过孩子,或是朋友,校长得知的:
1. 我们girl scout的一个孩子被bully,对方对她说:you Americans are lazy and eat junk food,然后不让别人和她玩...我听到就建议这个妈妈周一直接找校长, 据我对校长的了解,她绝对不会不管的,果然她直接就把那个孩子的家长请到学校了,问他们是否了解这个情况,孩子这样的话是从哪里听来的(那家不是美国人),要求他们让孩子当面道歉,自己不玩没关系,不做朋友也正常,但是让所有的人都不和XX玩就是bully.
2. 二年级的一个孩子对五年级的一个女生说: Your breast is so big...10岁的孩子正是对自己的身体非常不自信的时候,听了非常难过.其他孩子就告诉老师校长了,校长立刻把所有2年纪女生组织起来给她们讲身体的变化,要尊重别人,不能因为别人和自己长得不一样就body shaming,同理胖,瘦,肤色,头发颜色....
3. 我女儿告诉我playground上几个女生组织了个"girls club", 要求只有XXXX 样的,符合什么什么条件的女生才能加入玩.我说那你加入她们吗? 她说,who cares, i don't wanna play with them anyways. We started our own club, everybody can play,even boys. 其实这些事对我也不是什么新闻,我小时候都经历过,做过,也是孩子的成长必修课吧.
但是回到LZ说的Z的事情,Chink 这个词的严重性是和Negro一样的, 是属于在公司会被立刻fire掉的最严重的discrimination级别,尤其是Z还说Fword,B word,什么样的家庭可想而知,这种事情我会get to the bottom of it,校长不作为, 我找School board, media, 直到解决为止. good luck!
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写的太好了，以后留着备用
这英语太溜了， 膜拜！！
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Mark! 字数字数！！
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写得真好，我存下来，多读几遍。
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写的太好了！感谢！学习了
写得真好！Mark了
抓住智慧的@bellamia MM 问一下， 我娃今年在collaborative teaching class 1st gd. 回家对我说被special ed 小孩打了。不重。老师是一个50岁左右的白人regular ed teacher. 我有和老师说，结果是medication is not right, school is working with the child and family.... 之后我经常问娃，那个小孩子有没有打他。我娃说it’s ok, he doesn’t know what he’s doing. 但是他不说打了还是没打。我的理解是没打我娃但是干了别的事？这句话肯定是老师对学生们说的。我和娃说 it’s not ok for xyz to hit other kids in the class even if he doesn’t know what he’s doing/ he can’t help control himself. If he hit you, you tell the teacher right the way and hit him back. You won’t get in trouble for defending yourself and mommy will back you up. 事情让我觉得非常的wrong, 但是还没有想出怎么approach老师in a politically correct way. 我下星期和老师谈其它事时想casually bring up 我的concern。我娃在学校是那种打不还手骂不还口的内向的娃。
具体哪种special ed？不同的程度可以不同方法应对，另外学校/学区没有给他安排special ed assistant吗？我们学校是每个这样的孩子有专人负责的