can't type Chinese. 1, you can apply for divorce in America, no matter where you got married. 2, if an US court grant you divorce, this is as good as anywhere in the world. that means, the marriage is officially over. 3. US courts have no jurisdictionary over assets in China. So if you want to split assets in China, it's better to get a divorce in Chinese court. Alternatively, you can request to split assets in US instead (such as his 401k)
I believe according to Chinese marriage law, if you are the only one on the title of the house, this house is NOT marital property. It is YOURS ONLY. double check the law.
搭车问一下象这种男方在国内工作定居，女方带孩子在美国工作定居的情况拿到sole custody的胜算有多大？sole physical应该没问题，sole legal呢？如果男方就是要share sole legal其实他根本不会管孩子这该怎么办？另外如果男方还要求女方在美国这边带孩子无论短途长途vacation都要提前给他通知，他不管孩子，女方还得跟他汇报行踪，简直就是给女方添乱嘛！这种情况又怎么办？
mydream2017 发表于 12/23/2019 1:46:15 PM
I am not a lawyer, this is just my understanding: Usually it is very hard to get sole custody. You need to make a strong case, prove to the court that IT IS TO THE BEST INTEREST OF THE KID that you have the sole custody. not for your own convience, but for the kid. For example, I would argue, based on the father's past behavior (根本不管孩子) and the fact that he is in China, what if the kid is ill and needs major operation, and you have shared legal custody and the father is not signing the paper or not responding in time to save the kid's life?
even with shared legal custody, you don't need to 无论短途长途vacation都要提前给他通知, you do need his signature when you apply for passport for the kid though.
I am not a lawyer, this is just my understanding: Usually it is very hard to get sole custody. You need to make a strong case, prove to the court that IT IS TO THE BEST INTEREST OF THE KID that you have the sole custody. not for your own convience, but for the kid. For example, I would argue, based on the father's past behavior (根本不管孩子) and the fact that he is in China, what if the kid is ill and needs major operation, and you have shared legal custody and the father is not signing the paper or not responding in time to save the kid's life?
even with shared legal custody, you don't need to 无论短途长途vacation都要提前给他通知, you do need his signature when you apply for passport for the kid though.
believe according to Chinese marriage law, if you are the only one on the title of the house, this house is NOT marital property. It is YOURS ONLY. double check the law. morningcoffee 发表于 12/23/2019 2:03:54 PM
离婚原因在这不多说了， 对我来说已经不重要，我这目前没有任何内心的纠结应不应该离婚，离婚决定三年前就已下，不会改变。现在就是想尽量平和的、快速的把离婚手续办完，尽量让孩子少受影响以后能够既有母爱也有和父爱，为了这个最终目标具体离婚条件和方式我可以妥协。
事实上，这个离婚手续这么长时间也没有办完就是因为我的妥协吧。分居的最初没有立即办理离婚手续有多种原因吧。 1当时485申请，我是主申请人， 如果我选择当时立即离婚，孩子爸爸得不到绿卡，2. 刚分居的时候儿子还小，想想儿子长大后完全没有爸爸妈妈同时陪伴的一点点记忆有点残忍，毕竟爸爸还是个非常好的爸爸（虽然做老公差劲）3 当时对方事业正处于低谷也在关键期，我这觉得反正也不准备再找，没必要非得在对方低谷的时候离婚，等绿卡下来他也走过了低谷再说吧。
1. 这种在国内结婚的是不是必须要在国内办完手续才彻底完成离婚？
2. 我如果在美国单方面申请离婚是不是只可以在美国境内解除婚姻关系，但是最终似乎还是要去国内办理手续才能最终完全终结婚姻关系？
3. 国内的财产分割是不是要中国的法院判了或者有离婚协议才作数？
虽然美国中国各办一次有点折腾，但我这次不准备再等对方ready， 计划直接在美国file离婚，这样在文件上明确两个人的婚姻关系已经结束，同时因为儿子是美国籍，我自己的认识是儿子的抚养权问题其实是要有美国的离婚文件来确定的。 等把婚姻关系和儿子抚养权的事情高清楚， 回国再办离婚主要就是财产分割了， 要只是财产分割我到是可以慢慢办着
版上有妹妹知道这种国内结婚，主要财产在国内的怎么在美国file离婚吗？在美国file了离婚是不是还需要再回中国再办一次呢？
虽然美国中国各办一次有点折腾，但我这次不准备再等对方ready， 计划直接在美国file离婚，这样在文件上明确两个人的婚姻关系已经结束，同时因为儿子是美国籍，我自己的认识是儿子的抚养权问题其实是要有美国的离婚文件来确定的。 等把婚姻关系和儿子抚养权的事情高清楚， 回国再办离婚主要就是财产分割了， 要只是财产分割我到是可以慢慢办着
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还是最好找律师准备文件经过法院法院判一下比较好？
目前协议是我拿主抚养权，假期孩子和爸爸在中国。
我有点担心协议完后期爸爸再反悔还得再重新经历一次法庭去判决抚养权。两个人目前都是基于孩子的Best interest来考虑孩子的安排， 但是我也能理解爸爸对孩子有难舍之情，保不齐办着办着手续孩子爸觉得要永久失去孩子抚养权会后悔。
这是真闺蜜 真心为你考虑
能一次付清真是最理想的，要是爸爸对孩子有感情可一定要争取。孩子爸爸在国内，抚养费最终只能凭良心，根本没有强制方法。所以一定要长远考虑。
你可以和爸爸沟通一下，失去抚养权并不意味着失去孩子，而是在一些事情上（教育，医疗，办护照）不用他参与决定。他不用费心费力，还能继续enjoy fun，有些男人还巴不得呢。
只要在美国离婚了，然后拿着离婚文件，到国内法院做一个公正，就可以了。在国内法院做公正，不需要双方都去，只需要你一方拿着美国的离婚文件就可以了，你需要找一个离婚律师给你操作，不要自己瞎搞。
然后法院会出判决书，来认定你美国的离婚文件生效且合法，离婚日期以美国离婚文件为准。至于美国法院如何判国内共有的财产，你需要咨询美国律师。
找律师，找律师，找律师。不要自己瞎操作。
他这不是舍不得你，舍不得你的钱而已。
1, you can apply for divorce in America, no matter where you got married.
2, if an US court grant you divorce, this is as good as anywhere in the world. that means, the marriage is officially over.
3. US courts have no jurisdictionary over assets in China. So if you want to split assets in China, it's better to get a divorce in Chinese court. Alternatively, you can request to split assets in US instead (such as his 401k)
Even his income is lower than yours, he still needs to pay child support (whether you will actually get it is another story. )
It is important for you to get your son's sole legal and physical custody--saves lot of hassle down the road.
People change. Statics shows a majority of father stop seeing their kids a few years after divorce.
目前就剩下一点还不清楚怎么办：国内的房产是出国前我单位分的公房（因而房本上只有我的名字，但还是婚内财产），这个房子可以自住但不能上市交易（房本上有限制交易标识），所以这个房子目前难以做财产切割。
不知道我的如下理解对不对， 美国的法庭对国内房产的分割没有管辖权， 就是美国法院判了房子如何分割我们任何一方后期不同意还是要回国内经中国法院判决。 要是这个理解对的话，我就考虑美国离婚文件中不提及这个房产了，主要是真要卖了分割的话在离婚文件中提了又涉及到后期税务问题。
请勿引用这段，谢谢。
这样可不行，万一男的哪天另找一个要离婚，要分她财产，她不亏死了。何况虽然不打算再婚，可是谁能预料未来，给自己留个可能不是很好
搭车问一下象这种男方在国内工作定居，女方带孩子在美国工作定居的情况拿到sole custody的胜算有多大？sole physical应该没问题，sole legal呢？如果男方就是要share sole legal其实他根本不会管孩子这该怎么办？另外如果男方还要求女方在美国这边带孩子无论短途长途vacation都要提前给他通知，他不管孩子，女方还得跟他汇报行踪，简直就是给女方添乱嘛！这种情况又怎么办？
对方拖延大半都是在转移财产上做文章
你这种情况最怕的就是对方资产运作你不知道他的实际资产
孩子也得得到保障 国内房子过户给孩子是最好的 或者加个名字 万一以后对方再有个孩子呢
I am not a lawyer, this is just my understanding:
Usually it is very hard to get sole custody. You need to make a strong case, prove to the court that IT IS TO THE BEST INTEREST OF THE KID that you have the sole custody. not for your own convience, but for the kid. For example, I would argue, based on the father's past behavior (根本不管孩子) and the fact that he is in China, what if the kid is ill and needs major operation, and you have shared legal custody and the father is not signing the paper or not responding in time to save the kid's life?
even with shared legal custody, you don't need to 无论短途长途vacation都要提前给他通知, you do need his signature when you apply for passport for the kid though.
谢谢回复，非常有用！
你特么人都在国内了，怎么个余情未了？你不想离婚你回美国定居啊？两个国家分居的还算什么婚姻？
我觉得现代人对婚姻都魔怔了。所谓的“两地婚姻”，这已经不算婚姻了好吧？结婚之后，两个人先选定一个大家都想住的地方安置爱巢，然后就在这附近找工作，找到啥是啥。难道不应该是这样吗？都结婚有娃了，还满世界找工作想去哪儿就去哪儿，就凭这一点离你没商量，还有脸说什么余情未了？
男人嘛就是一旦决定跟你离婚了，他们就已经什么都不顾了，哪怕是自己的骨肉，而且还会给自己的荒唐行为找理由找借口并巧立名目。人性是不能直视的。