现在要选择了，我和娃爸觉得多学门语言有好处，但怕到时学得鸡飞狗跳，得不偿失。娃挺聪明的，如果不学中文，我想可能可以把精力更好的集中在发掘其它的potential上？另外，娃的social communication skills有些欠缺，在做各种therapies，我有点担心进了他不熟悉的中文环境，social方面会不会倒退？
请有经验的美妈们指点一下。
Edit to add: 学校的after school也有中文可以选，但娃的fluency level 跟 Immersion比，不会是一个级别的。
Immersion has more motivated parents and often better teachers.我们当地的都是教授老师上窜下跳给娃排队。我看各个学校我看到的都是这样的。immersion performance 都比 English only 的强。 我觉得根本不必考虑。肯定是 immersion。我都觉得哪种语言都可以。有中文肯定好，没有什么西语法语都可以
Immersion has more motivated parents and often better teachers.我们当地的都是教授老师上窜下跳给娃排队。我看各个学校我看到的都是这样的。immersion performance 都比 English only 的强。 我觉得根本不必考虑。肯定是 immersion。我都觉得哪种语言都可以。有中文肯定好，没有什么西语法语都可以
Immersion has more motivated parents and often better teachers.我们当地的都是教授老师上窜下跳给娃排队。我看各个学校我看到的都是这样的。immersion performance 都比 English only 的强。 我觉得根本不必考虑。肯定是 immersion。我都觉得哪种语言都可以。有中文肯定好，没有什么西语法语都可以
Being in an immersion program doesn't affect this aspect at all. Our local immersion school are lottery only and the line is out of the door. My neighbors who are university professors, researchers, physicians, visual artists, pianists, biotech start up CEO all lottery for the immersion program first before looking at other schools. I have a MD, and my husband has a math PhD. All of his friends try to get their kids into immersion programs. All of my friends do as well if there is a program in their community. Not every kid succeeds in the program, and some withdraw after awhile, but the demand is very high. The immersion programs I had seen have highly motivated parents, and many schools with low enrollment will have an immediate turn around after 2-3 years.
Near my mom's house in Los Angeles county (I live in norcal), I had spoken to a number of immersion programs in Mandarin. I have found the Mandarin teachers to be from Taiwan and China, they are often excellent students in China/Taiwan and attended good universities in China/Taiwan, but they had all also obtained masters degree in the US in elementary education. Some of them have other masters degrees like journalism prior to pivoting to teaching. I came to the US as a teenager, many of the people I attended high school with became elementary school teachers. I can't say which group makes better teachers, but at least academically, I feel the Mandarin teachers certainly has a little bit more prestige.
My cousin lives in Canada, and her daughter attends a French immersion class, with 90% French in second grade. She reads in English incredibly well, and is decent in Mandarin, and obivously is fluent in French. I had spent time in Europe as well, where the kids are often multilingual. The idea that learning two languages will hamper one of them and this will somehow breaking your child's brain is patently false.
娃明年上K，打算去的小学，有full time Chinese Immersion program，也有full time English program。上的人数大概各一半吧，不管选哪种语言，学校要求从K开始，坚持到Grade 5。
我娃一直拒绝学中文，从小就不让我说，一说就melt down，也不让我唱中文歌。3岁多做speech评估时，被建议不要逼他学中文，按他自己的喜好来发展。所以我也一直没教过，娃爸也不会说中文，家里没有那个语境。娃爸平时会教一点他上学时学的Spanish，娃倒是没意见。
现在要选择了，我和娃爸觉得多学门语言有好处，但怕到时学得鸡飞狗跳，得不偿失。娃挺聪明的，如果不学中文，我想可能可以把精力更好的集中在发掘其它的potential上？另外，娃的social communication skills有些欠缺，在做各种therapies，我有点担心进了他不熟悉的中文环境，social方面会不会倒退？
请有经验的美妈们指点一下。
Edit to add:
学校的after school也有中文可以选，但娃的fluency level 跟 Immersion比，不会是一个级别的。
再加一点：
学校有个Grade 2-5的天才班，IQ要145+才能进去，这个是全英文教学。如果现在去Chinese Immersion，到时娃qualify这个天才班，就得转回英文，感觉又会是个大的转变。
我妈年轻时学过英语，但是很多年没用过了。我爸完全不会。他俩希望娃和娃爸能把中文学起来。
学校的after school也有中文可以选，但娃的fluency level 跟 Immersion比，不会是一个级别的。
可以送一个学期，然后看娃反应再决定
你爸妈如果不是在美国也不打算来长住，就不要折腾你娃和你老公学中文去讨好他们了
一天时间精力很有限，如果你娃其他方面也需要上课，再学中文做中文功课对小朋友脑力体力是很辛苦的，不如集中精力做好最重要的一两件。童年短暂，不要用来讨好老人的心理需要。
即使说同一种语言，也会因为思想不同而难以沟通。看开点儿吧。
长大了有兴趣的话自己学也行啊。遇过白人，大学才开始学中文的，学了没几年，也讲非常好。
我觉得根本不必考虑。肯定是 immersion。我都觉得哪种语言都可以。有中文肯定好，没有什么西语法语都可以
而且你觉得美国小学什么东西都？
还不如学一个语言。
我这里教Chinese immersion的似乎都是中国来的老师，你那里也是这样的吗？
English program！
想学中文，去中文学校 + 家里必须用中文交流
小学的作用是社交和培养习惯
去学校tour的时候，说中文班和英文班用的同一个大纲，考试也是同一套考卷（英文的），这样的进度不知道是快还是慢？学校里亚洲小孩挺少的。
去旁边另一个学校tour的时候，倒是看到几个亚洲面孔在Spanish Immersion班上。这个学校只有大概40%的小孩在full time English program，另外60%在full time Spanish Immersion。
这俩学校都是白人占多数，将近90%。
还有一个考虑是，学校有个Grade 2-5的天才班，IQ要145+才能进去，这个是全英文教学。如果现在去Chinese Immersion，到时娃qualify这个天才班，就得转回英文，感觉又会是个大的转变。
Being in an immersion program doesn't affect this aspect at all.
Our local immersion school are lottery only and the line is out of the door.
My neighbors who are university professors, researchers, physicians, visual artists, pianists, biotech start up CEO all lottery for the immersion program first before looking at other schools. I have a MD, and my husband has a math PhD. All of his friends try to get their kids into immersion programs. All of my friends do as well if there is a program in their community. Not every kid succeeds in the program, and some withdraw after awhile, but the demand is very high. The immersion programs I had seen have highly motivated parents, and many schools with low enrollment will have an immediate turn around after 2-3 years.
Near my mom's house in Los Angeles county (I live in norcal), I had spoken to a number of immersion programs in Mandarin. I have found the Mandarin teachers to be from Taiwan and China, they are often excellent students in China/Taiwan and attended good universities in China/Taiwan, but they had all also obtained masters degree in the US in elementary education. Some of them have other masters degrees like journalism prior to pivoting to teaching. I came to the US as a teenager, many of the people I attended high school with became elementary school teachers. I can't say which group makes better teachers, but at least academically, I feel the Mandarin teachers certainly has a little bit more prestige.
My cousin lives in Canada, and her daughter attends a French immersion class, with 90% French in second grade. She reads in English incredibly well, and is decent in Mandarin, and obivously is fluent in French. I had spent time in Europe as well, where the kids are often multilingual. The idea that learning two languages will hamper one of them and this will somehow breaking your child's brain is patently false.