大家分享下拍马屁的技巧吧

nonexistance
楼主 (北美华人网)
不会拍马屁。我爹妈就不会拍。我爹还经常和他的领导杠,所以单位又啥好事都轮不到他。我妈还好,从来不站边,所以政治斗争也没被波及到,但也没靠山。
因为从小没有言传身教,我工作这几年一直也不会拍马屁。身边倒是有个中国同事,经常到处拍同事和领导的马屁。但是我觉得技巧可能差了些,有些年长的同事还挺反感被他拍的。不过他的方式我也学不来。身边印度人呢,明面上拍的很隐蔽啊。我想学都学不到。背地里估计没少拍。

隔壁帖子有人提到了拍马屁,我就想请教下让大家分享下比较好的拍马屁技巧
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lishifu
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高级拍估计学不会。低级拍就是衣服漂亮啊,人好,大家喜欢你....
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cactus_mei
多聊天,多social,最好多听别人讲。可惜俺也做不到,觉得浪费时间。其实social技巧就是话多nice。
coalpilerd
马屁重要的是要能拍到点子上。你要先观察对方的优点,然后努力吹这个优点,别人就听得入耳。我发现小学老师跟家长开会时就很擅长这个。譬如老师夸我家娃乐于助人,原话是,你家娃总是帮助同学,也在课后帮我收拾东西,而且我能看得出来她是真心帮别人,不管身边有没有人看她都会做,这不是为了表现给大人看、讨表扬的。哇,于是听得老怀大畅。
asdf0
是的是的 感觉跟家庭环境很有关系
aiyamayayongle
开始拍马屁,就意味着已经选边站队了,考虑到这个,先提高选边的能力再说,站错队了的话后果不堪设想。
cathayet
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我从不拍马屁,但我觉得自己有这个天赋。晕
就是你在夸人家的时候,真的是认为他这点是好的,再烂的人也有好的地方,就看你愿不愿意去找。
记住,一定要夸细节,细节,细节,重要的事情说三遍。
好的文章都是细节写的好。同理。
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lvk
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我从不拍马屁,但我觉得自己有这个天赋。晕
就是你在夸人家的时候,真的是认为他这点是好的,再烂的人也有好的地方,就看你愿不愿意去找。
记住,一定要夸细节,细节,细节,重要的事情说三遍。
好的文章都是细节写的好。同理。
cathayet 发表于 10/9/2019 8:32:28 PM

赞这么自信!
artdong
Genuine praises, 真实的出自真心的赞美,可以短时间让别人对你忠心。多发掘一些别人的优点,看人正面积极, 自然可以说出 genuine praises。

最差劲的马屁就是假马屁,比放屁还不值钱。
joseph_y
参考莫迪怎么拍川普就可以了:
https://youtu.be/YtoRe0cSoWs?t=540
joseph_y
PRIME MINISTER MODI: Good morning, Houston. (Applause.) Good morning, Texas. (Applause.) Good morning, America. (Applause.) Greetings to my fellow Indians in India and around the world. (Applause.) Friends, this morning we have a very special person with us. (Applause.) He needs no introduction. (Applause.) His name is familiar to every person on the planet. (Applause.) His name comes up in almost every conversation in the world on global politics. (Applause.) His every word is followed by tens of millions. He was a household name and very popular even before he went on to occupy the highest office in this great country. (Applause.) From CEO to Commander-in-Chief — (applause) — from ballrooms to the Oval Office — (applause) — from studios to global stage — (applause) — from politics to the economy and to security, he has left a deep and lasting impact everywhere. (Applause.) Today, he is here with us. It is my honor and privilege to welcome here, in the magnificent stadium and magnificent gathering — (applause) — and I can say I had a chance to meet him often, and every time I found the friendliness, warmth, energy — the President of the United States of America, Mr. Donald Trump. (Applause.) This is extraordinary. This is unprecedented. (Applause.) Friends, as I told you, we have met a few times. And every time, he has been the same warm, friendly, accessible, energetic, and full of wit. (Applause.) I admire him for something more: his sense of leadership, a passion for America, a concern for every American, a belief in American future, and a strong resolve to make America great again. (Applause.) And he has already made the American economy strong again. (Applause.) He has achieved much for the United States and for the world. Friends, we in India have connected well with President Trump. The words — the words of candidate Trump, “Abki baar Trump sarkar” — (applause) — rang loud and clear. And his celebration of Diwali in the house — White House lit up millions of faces with joy and appreciation. When I met him for the first time, he said to me, “India has a true friend in White House.” (Applause.) Your presence here today is great testimony to that. (Applause.) In these years, our two nations have taken that relationship to new heights. Mr. President, this morning, in Houston, you can hear the heartbeat of this great partnership in this celebration of the world’s two largest democracies. (Applause.) You can feel the strength and depth of human bonds between our two great nations. (Applause.) People are at the heart of all relationships, from Houston to Hyderabad — (applause); from Boston to Bengaluru — (applause); from Chicago to Shimla — (applause); from Los Angeles to Ludhiana — (applause); from New Jersey to New Delhi — (applause), hundreds of millions are glued to their TV, even though it is rather late on a Sunday night in India. Millions around the world in different time zones are with us today. They are witnessing history in the making. (Applause.) Mr. President, you had introduced me to your family in 2017. And today, I have the honor to introduce you to my family — (applause) — over a billion Indians and people of Indian heritage around the globe. Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you my friend, a friend of India, a great American President, Mr. Donald Trump. (Applause.) AUDIENCE: USA! USA! USA!
rainysunny
对,真诚的赞美。

How to make friends and influence people 里面说到,对别人真诚的感兴趣,记住别人的名字。
CK
对,真诚的赞美。

How to make friends and influence people 里面说到,对别人真诚的感兴趣,记住别人的名字。
rainysunny 发表于 10/9/2019 8:45:37 PM

这本书的确是如何高明的不着痕迹拍马屁的教科书。
我看完用到新工作 一个老板身上,一个同事身上,立竿见影他们俩都晕乎乎的了。
我本来只是试试灵不灵。
Mia8
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我也看过这本书,真的很有用。
awang20546
PRIME MINISTER MODI: Good morning, Houston. (Applause.) Good morning, Texas. (Applause.) Good morning, America. (Applause.) Greetings to my fellow Indians in India and around the world. (Applause.) Friends, this morning we have a very special person with us. (Applause.) He needs no introduction. (Applause.) His name is familiar to every person on the planet. (Applause.) His name comes up in almost every conversation in the world on global politics. (Applause.) His every word is followed by tens of millions. He was a household name and very popular even before he went on to occupy the highest office in this great country. (Applause.) From CEO to Commander-in-Chief — (applause) — from ballrooms to the Oval Office — (applause) — from studios to global stage — (applause) — from politics to the economy and to security, he has left a deep and lasting impact everywhere. (Applause.) Today, he is here with us. It is my honor and privilege to welcome here, in the magnificent stadium and magnificent gathering — (applause) — and I can say I had a chance to meet him often, and every time I found the friendliness, warmth, energy — the President of the United States of America, Mr. Donald Trump. (Applause.) This is extraordinary. This is unprecedented. (Applause.) Friends, as I told you, we have met a few times. And every time, he has been the same warm, friendly, accessible, energetic, and full of wit. (Applause.) I admire him for something more: his sense of leadership, a passion for America, a concern for every American, a belief in American future, and a strong resolve to make America great again. (Applause.) And he has already made the American economy strong again. (Applause.) He has achieved much for the United States and for the world. Friends, we in India have connected well with President Trump. The words — the words of candidate Trump, “Abki baar Trump sarkar” — (applause) — rang loud and clear. And his celebration of Diwali in the house — White House lit up millions of faces with joy and appreciation. When I met him for the first time, he said to me, “India has a true friend in White House.” (Applause.) Your presence here today is great testimony to that. (Applause.) In these years, our two nations have taken that relationship to new heights. Mr. President, this morning, in Houston, you can hear the heartbeat of this great partnership in this celebration of the world’s two largest democracies. (Applause.) You can feel the strength and depth of human bonds between our two great nations. (Applause.) People are at the heart of all relationships, from Houston to Hyderabad — (applause); from Boston to Bengaluru — (applause); from Chicago to Shimla — (applause); from Los Angeles to Ludhiana — (applause); from New Jersey to New Delhi — (applause), hundreds of millions are glued to their TV, even though it is rather late on a Sunday night in India. Millions around the world in different time zones are with us today. They are witnessing history in the making. (Applause.) Mr. President, you had introduced me to your family in 2017. And today, I have the honor to introduce you to my family — (applause) — over a billion Indians and people of Indian heritage around the globe. Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you my friend, a friend of India, a great American President, Mr. Donald Trump. (Applause.) AUDIENCE: USA! USA! USA!

joseph_y 发表于 10/9/2019 8:45:28 PM

太牛了,太有才了。
silverblade

不会拍马屁。我爹妈就不会拍。我爹还经常和他的领导杠,所以单位又啥好事都轮不到他。我妈还好,从来不站边,所以政治斗争也没被波及到,但也没靠山。
因为从小没有言传身教,我工作这几年一直也不会拍马屁。身边倒是有个中国同事,经常到处拍同事和领导的马屁。但是我觉得技巧可能差了些,有些年长的同事还挺反感被他拍的。不过他的方式我也学不来。身边印度人呢,明面上拍的很隐蔽啊。我想学都学不到。背地里估计没少拍。

隔壁帖子有人提到了拍马屁,我就想请教下让大家分享下比较好的拍马屁技巧

nonexistance 发表于 10/9/2019 2:04:22 PM

拍马屁很简单,就是你要喜欢你周围的人。当你真心的喜欢周围的人,你说出来的话,他们自然就会爱听。如果你不喜欢对方,只是出于功利的目的去恭维对方,你绞尽脑汁效果也不会好,别当别人是傻子,你的领导更是比你精明。
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shoppingisfun
思想要转变过来,不是拍马屁,是真的欣赏人的长处,容忍人的短处。
比如老板,人家也是一步一个脚印走上来的,
技术好的,会交际的,抱对大腿的,苦干996的。总不能技术好的老板你专挑人家不会交际,抱大腿的你挑人家不996。
要是那个老板实在是舔跪上来的,那就不拍马屁又如何。