To future parents of Eurasian children, from your Eurasian daughter (2014)
About a year and a half ago I came across the blog “Stuffeurasianmaleslike” . For the first time in my life I felt that there was somebody else out there who felt the way I did about being eurasian. I felt, as an eurasian person that I was supposed to live up to this mythified life of being extremely attractive, smart and accepted by both Asians and Caucasians. That I was supposed to live up to the” eurasian beauty” and the “best of both worlds” myths. Instead, when I look in the mirror I see a jumble of asian and caucasian features that don’t synchronize with eachother….something is wrong with my face, my body, my soul…… I am a slow thinker, I have been asked if I suffer from a learning disability before and I have wondered it myself many times.I never had a date in highschool and I lost my virginity to a taxi driver who took advantage of me.Despite my mother’s best efforts to turn me into a piano virtuoso, I suck at it. and it’s not as if I was lazy and didn’t practice. I’m just simply stupid and talentless.
I feel rejected from both my Asian and Caucasian cultures. I am also female. I feel many people, though shocked by the idea that a eurasian may lead less than a charmed life are able to swallow the fact that a male might feel that way a little easier. But they can’t possibly conceive that a female eurasian may feel this way. Afterall, we’re all supposed to be hot, exotic import models aren’t we?! Men are supposed to lust after our petite Asian bodies with just the right amount of non-asian curves and we all are supposed to have beautiful silky asian hair and exotic almond shaped but not “chinky” eyes right?! I feel I was groomed from birth, had it written from birth to be a prostitute to white and other non asian men. The eurasian son of asian female/white male couplings feels emasculated by his parents union. He feels emasculated at birth, he feels doomed to live stripped of his masculinity . The eurasian female is doomed from birth to be a prostitute to white and other non Asian men as a result of her mother’s poor choice. I feel I was doomed to be a semen receptacle. I do not belong to any “in group” I am forever doomed to be a woman without brethren to back her. Forever doomed to be an “othered” slut.I prefer asian men. I steer clear of White and other non asian men in my dating choices. but that doesn’t insulate me from the perceptions others have of me that I’ m a little half Asian prostitute.
It all became so clear to me at age 11. when my goofy white father decided to sit me down and have a chat with me about “what a beautiful young woman I was turning into” . He went on to tell me that I was only to date white men. When I asked him why, he told me that white men were “more civilized” and would be the only men capable of taking care of me, his little future semen receptacle princess. I asked him if Asian men were okay since I was half asian. He simply answered “no”. His racism became even more clear to me when my younger brother became of dating age and my father started pushing him towards asian girls and setting him up with young asian women (who I have no clue how the heck he met, nor do I want to know) who he would often assign descriptors such as “silky raven hair” and “petite” to. So it was written, my brother was supposed to end up with an asian woman, and I was supposed to end up with a white dood.
Hate me or disagree with me all you want but I know that asian female/white male couples don’t exist in spite of racism but instead occur because of racism. They are not indicators of how “love is colourblind” or triumphant displays against racism. The future children are not “bridges” nor are we for the most part particularily beautiful or intelligent. I am proud to proclaim I am genetic garbage. I hope one day to proclaim this to the next smug faced asian female/white male couple I see. But I’m a coward so…..
To future parents of Eurasian children, from your Eurasian daughter (2014)
About a year and a half ago I came across the blog “Stuffeurasianmaleslike” . For the first time in my life I felt that there was somebody else out there who felt the way I did about being eurasian. I felt, as an eurasian person that I was supposed to live up to this mythified life of being extremely attractive, smart and accepted by both Asians and Caucasians. That I was supposed to live up to the” eurasian beauty” and the “best of both worlds” myths. Instead, when I look in the mirror I see a jumble of asian and caucasian features that don’t synchronize with eachother….something is wrong with my face, my body, my soul…… I am a slow thinker, I have been asked if I suffer from a learning disability before and I have wondered it myself many times.I never had a date in highschool and I lost my virginity to a taxi driver who took advantage of me.Despite my mother’s best efforts to turn me into a piano virtuoso, I suck at it. and it’s not as if I was lazy and didn’t practice. I’m just simply stupid and talentless.
I feel rejected from both my Asian and Caucasian cultures. I am also female. I feel many people, though shocked by the idea that a eurasian may lead less than a charmed life are able to swallow the fact that a male might feel that way a little easier. But they can’t possibly conceive that a female eurasian may feel this way. Afterall, we’re all supposed to be hot, exotic import models aren’t we?! Men are supposed to lust after our petite Asian bodies with just the right amount of non-asian curves and we all are supposed to have beautiful silky asian hair and exotic almond shaped but not “chinky” eyes right?! I feel I was groomed from birth, had it written from birth to be a prostitute to white and other non asian men. The eurasian son of asian female/white male couplings feels emasculated by his parents union. He feels emasculated at birth, he feels doomed to live stripped of his masculinity . The eurasian female is doomed from birth to be a prostitute to white and other non Asian men as a result of her mother’s poor choice. I feel I was doomed to be a semen receptacle. I do not belong to any “in group” I am forever doomed to be a woman without brethren to back her. Forever doomed to be an “othered” slut.I prefer asian men. I steer clear of White and other non asian men in my dating choices. but that doesn’t insulate me from the perceptions others have of me that I’ m a little half Asian prostitute.
It all became so clear to me at age 11. when my goofy white father decided to sit me down and have a chat with me about “what a beautiful young woman I was turning into” . He went on to tell me that I was only to date white men. When I asked him why, he told me that white men were “more civilized” and would be the only men capable of taking care of me, his little future semen receptacle princess. I asked him if Asian men were okay since I was half asian. He simply answered “no”. His racism became even more clear to me when my younger brother became of dating age and my father started pushing him towards asian girls and setting him up with young asian women (who I have no clue how the heck he met, nor do I want to know) who he would often assign descriptors such as “silky raven hair” and “petite” to. So it was written, my brother was supposed to end up with an asian woman, and I was supposed to end up with a white dood.
Hate me or disagree with me all you want but I know that asian female/white male couples don’t exist in spite of racism but instead occur because of racism. They are not indicators of how “love is colourblind” or triumphant displays against racism. The future children are not “bridges” nor are we for the most part particularily beautiful or intelligent. I am proud to proclaim I am genetic garbage. I hope one day to proclaim this to the next smug faced asian female/white male couple I see. But I’m a coward so…..
petra_moreirasWF mom AM dad • 5d • Wow that's disgusting.
I know a lot of hapa women with self-hate issues including me from before. Pains me to say it but before I wanted to have kids with a white person so I could "erase" my Asian bloodline.
Now I'm childfree and don't date white people for this reason.
The future children are not “bridges” nor are we for the most part particularily beautiful or intelligent.
This is too real.
10 botoxshotshalf asian • 5d • i really hate feeling like my eurasian features are jumbled up and and sometimes straight up feeling like an ethnic abomination. it really sucks.
10 petra_moreirasWF mom AM dad • 5d • shit yeah I wish I was just full Asian.
1 Lyly87Quapa;Filipino/Euro/Hispanic • 5d • Can this be pinned u/workinghapa ?
6 pigsarecuterhalf-white half-hispanic, look hapa • 3d • I'm not Eurasian, but I'm female and mixed from a WMLF couple. I sympathize greatly with everything you've said.
I was a lovely child, but i'm nothing special looking as an adult. I'm flat as a pancake, too skinny and don't have blonde hair or light coloured eyes like my dad. My mom's attempt to "whiten" her blood did nothing to improve either my siblings or I's appearances or personality. it has been more of a detriment than a bonus in many ways. I think my full Hispanic cousins are both better looking, smarter and mentally healthier.
Similarly, I don't have any culture that accepts me fully. Latina females look at me like an awkward gringa that isn't really Hispanic. Ditto with white girls: i'm an other. maybe Italian or middle eastern. but not them
最惨的应该是那些去精子银行借白人精子生出来的娃了，有些中国女人专门飞来美国这样做。这些娃成长会很痛苦，所以不要在吹捧混血娃了！“The future children are not “bridges” nor are we for the most part particularily beautiful or intelligent.”
About a year and a half ago I came across the blog “Stuffeurasianmaleslike” . For the first time in my life I felt that there was somebody else out there who felt the way I did about being eurasian. I felt, as an eurasian person that I was supposed to live up to this mythified life of being extremely attractive, smart and accepted by both Asians and Caucasians. That I was supposed to live up to the” eurasian beauty” and the “best of both worlds” myths. Instead, when I look in the mirror I see a jumble of asian and caucasian features that don’t synchronize with eachother….something is wrong with my face, my body, my soul…… I am a slow thinker, I have been asked if I suffer from a learning disability before and I have wondered it myself many times.I never had a date in highschool and I lost my virginity to a taxi driver who took advantage of me.Despite my mother’s best efforts to turn me into a piano virtuoso, I suck at it. and it’s not as if I was lazy and didn’t practice. I’m just simply stupid and talentless.
I feel rejected from both my Asian and Caucasian cultures. I am also female. I feel many people, though shocked by the idea that a eurasian may lead less than a charmed life are able to swallow the fact that a male might feel that way a little easier. But they can’t possibly conceive that a female eurasian may feel this way. Afterall, we’re all supposed to be hot, exotic import models aren’t we?! Men are supposed to lust after our petite Asian bodies with just the right amount of non-asian curves and we all are supposed to have beautiful silky asian hair and exotic almond shaped but not “chinky” eyes right?! I feel I was groomed from birth, had it written from birth to be a prostitute to white and other non asian men. The eurasian son of asian female/white male couplings feels emasculated by his parents union. He feels emasculated at birth, he feels doomed to live stripped of his masculinity . The eurasian female is doomed from birth to be a prostitute to white and other non Asian men as a result of her mother’s poor choice. I feel I was doomed to be a semen receptacle. I do not belong to any “in group” I am forever doomed to be a woman without brethren to back her. Forever doomed to be an “othered” slut.I prefer asian men. I steer clear of White and other non asian men in my dating choices. but that doesn’t insulate me from the perceptions others have of me that I’ m a little half Asian prostitute.
It all became so clear to me at age 11. when my goofy white father decided to sit me down and have a chat with me about “what a beautiful young woman I was turning into” . He went on to tell me that I was only to date white men. When I asked him why, he told me that white men were “more civilized” and would be the only men capable of taking care of me, his little future semen receptacle princess. I asked him if Asian men were okay since I was half asian. He simply answered “no”. His racism became even more clear to me when my younger brother became of dating age and my father started pushing him towards asian girls and setting him up with young asian women (who I have no clue how the heck he met, nor do I want to know) who he would often assign descriptors such as “silky raven hair” and “petite” to. So it was written, my brother was supposed to end up with an asian woman, and I was supposed to end up with a white dood.
Hate me or disagree with me all you want but I know that asian female/white male couples don’t exist in spite of racism but instead occur because of racism. They are not indicators of how “love is colourblind” or triumphant displays against racism. The future children are not “bridges” nor are we for the most part particularily beautiful or intelligent. I am proud to proclaim I am genetic garbage. I hope one day to proclaim this to the next smug faced asian female/white male couple I see. But I’m a coward so…..
一般好一点的是比较像白人，或者比较亚裔有一点点白那种
另外就是爸爸亚裔妈妈白人家庭出来的子女更自信一点，不知道是不是因为她说的少了那种妓女帖白男的压力 ---发自Huaren 官方 iOS APP
亚裔男外娶子女自信
亚裔女外嫁就就是妓女
这逻辑够恶心
是作者自己说的你长眼睛看看
我观察到的小样本确实是亚裔爸白妈的孩子更自信 ---发自Huaren 官方 iOS APP
而且一般在成长到上大学期间开始造成困扰。
奥巴马是个例子，也是比较幸运的。
亚裔爸白马很少吧，大部分是反过来
请注明出处！别成天拿混血说事，一个样本能代表什么？
华人是最种族歧视的民族。亚男白女歧视亚女白男，亚女白男歧视亚女黑男，台湾香港歧视大陆的，北京上海歧视外地的，大陆本地有钱的歧视外地来打工的。这就是人性的丑恶！
人从出生就是平等的，死了也是一样归入尘土。别成天把一些没法改变的事情说事。
难道不知道你祖宗也是混出来的吗？ ---发自Huaren 官方 iOS APP
但是我感觉是猥琐男写的这个。
一个样本？你问问菲律宾泰国那些怎么想。
Wow that's disgusting.
I know a lot of hapa women with self-hate issues including me from before. Pains me to say it but before I wanted to have kids with a white person so I could "erase" my Asian bloodline.
Now I'm childfree and don't date white people for this reason.
The future children are not “bridges” nor are we for the most part particularily beautiful or intelligent.
This is too real.
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botoxshotshalf asian • 5d •
i really hate feeling like my eurasian features are jumbled up and and sometimes straight up feeling like an ethnic abomination. it really sucks.
10
petra_moreirasWF mom AM dad • 5d •
shit yeah I wish I was just full Asian.
1
Lyly87Quapa;Filipino/Euro/Hispanic • 5d •
Can this be pinned u/workinghapa ?
6
pigsarecuterhalf-white half-hispanic, look hapa • 3d •
I'm not Eurasian, but I'm female and mixed from a WMLF couple. I sympathize greatly with everything you've said.
I was a lovely child, but i'm nothing special looking as an adult. I'm flat as a pancake, too skinny and don't have blonde hair or light coloured eyes like my dad. My mom's attempt to "whiten" her blood did nothing to improve either my siblings or I's appearances or personality. it has been more of a detriment than a bonus in many ways. I think my full Hispanic cousins are both better looking, smarter and mentally healthier.
Similarly, I don't have any culture that accepts me fully. Latina females look at me like an awkward gringa that isn't really Hispanic. Ditto with white girls: i'm an other. maybe Italian or middle eastern. but not them
黑男白女的，肯定自信啊。
O8小时候还在亚洲长大，自信心膨胀着那。
你自己没有仔细读。她的问题来源于她父亲，仔细读她父亲对她说的话，只能date白人，推她弟弟只date亚裔女孩。这种种族歧视家长大的，自己行为又古怪的，既然不喜欢亚裔，为啥和亚裔结婚？
小孩能好才怪？
是啊，感觉这个爹绝对有病！
麦克隋
她爹的意思是白男文明够强大能保护女儿。儿子就该找亚女，漂亮可爱依附男方。算不算种族歧视我也不知道，性别歧视肯定算的。
同意 呵呵 猥琐男写的
依附强者是幼崽天性, 不然不容易生存, 要小孩对弱的那一方更有认同感属于强人所难. 所以据我观察, 只要亚裔一方:
1.认同自己的民族
2.在婚姻中地位相对强势
不管是父是母, 孩子都更自信.
只不过眼下外娶男符合上面两条的比例远大于外嫁女, 所以造成了外娶的孩子更自信这种表象. 很多人对外嫁女的偏见也是由于经常见到自轻自贱的个体导致的, 顺带连累了很多自尊自强的外嫁妹子.
那是他走出困境之后了，很多人走不出来。应该网上查得到他对那段时期的描述，我原以为他
那样的人不会有问题的。
奥巴马这样强的人都会这样。我觉得混血孩子心理健康需要一对相当平等的父母，对孩子有
一定的敏感，及时疏导，才能健康成长。
比例上比外嫁女高很多. 目前亚女外嫁的门槛不高, 但亚男(包括abc)不优秀是很难娶到白女的, 个体优秀程度和家庭地位呈正相关, 要承认事实.
有色眼镜的存在和群体的behavior有很大关系, 就是因为外嫁女中充斥着太多卑微的存在, 才难以得到别人的尊重, 包括她们自己的孩子, 顺带还连累了正常外嫁的mm.
如果有一天大多数外嫁女能够自尊自爱和自己老公平起平坐甚至略微强势, 你看WF这个词会不会自动消失.
The description of WF will only disappear when WSN stops using it. But I do not know how to change WSN, because I am not one of them.
只是想单纯的说好多中国家长只要孩子date中国人/亚裔怎么说？那么多中国人一提到印黑墨就发抖，害怕自己孩子找一个回来怎么说？
你这也太种族主义了吧 合着白的就好看？真这样委内瑞拉怎么出得来那么多世界级选美冠军？？好不好看主要还是看父母的
我同事爸爸原籍日本妈妈白人 高中时被家里新来的莫莫保姆当成同伴 说实话她长得实在有点粗 而且在公司也是底层 还找了个秃头没工作loser白男
Again 没必要归类的 每个人都不一样
你有病吧长不长眼啊
要抽疯找别的地方抽去，整个一疯狗 ---发自Huaren 官方 iOS APP
来自中国，中国不歧视
內嫁大妈心里乐开了花，又把外嫁姐妹比下去了。
美国人躁郁抑郁双向人格的人很多，平时都靠吃药，看不出来。
其实满同情的。其实她的妈妈日子也过得不好。即使如蔡美儿和赵小兰
最惨的应该是那些去精子银行借白人精子生出来的娃了，有些中国女人专门飞来美国这样做。这些娃成长会很痛苦，所以不要在吹捧混血娃了！“The future children are not “bridges” nor are we for the most part particularily beautiful or intelligent.”
这样的家庭如果生出Hapa儿子，那真是惨上加惨，基本心理变态没跑了
之前纽约客发表过一个韩美混血男痛斥自己老妈的文章，就因为老妈极端鄙视自己的亚洲血统，连带孩子的自我认同也撕裂了
用exotic这词就知道她是美国人