推荐Brene Brown关于vulnerability的书和talks。承认自己有不足，ask for help，让expert解决他们擅长的问题，不要把所有的问题都背在自己身上。马工领域的技术更新太快了，没人能什么都涉猎还能成大牛。不断学习固然必要，但是没必要认为“我在XX方面不精通就会怎么样怎么样”。在意别人的看法是一件很累的事，很多时候都是自己瞎琢磨，“live inside your head”。相信你做到manager，肯定是有你的长处和value，好好使用你的长处，不知道的时候就大方承认并虚心学习做research，你会发现很多人会愿意出手帮助和合作。承认自己不完美，承认自己需要其他人，不仅不会让别人鄙视你，相反，你会更加坦然，更加自如，在别人眼里显得更自信。当然，以上是assume你周围的环境是正常的有integrity的码农，toxic environment不在讨论范围内。
感觉只有不停的学东西才能让自己消除焦虑感。可是这种焦虑感一天比一天重...上会儿华人都觉得guilty, 怎么化解
多少钱算足够？
我一直是那种想要什么，就一定要努力去实现的那种人。但忽然意识到自己已经不再是
年青时了，所以就算再努力，可能这次也实现不了了
40 出头应该还有点机会？
你把顺序调整一下, 就会安静下来.
放不下的都是我执与妄念。
世界上没什么大不了的事，不过是一时一事。当下的执着烦恼，过几天你都不记得，不过是些鸡毛蒜皮。
楼主可以学学佛教，禅定。再练练正念冥想。
幸亏我没什么梦想
总的来讲，首先要吃饭睡觉运动好，保证体力。
然后要把大目标划分成小目标，每一天，每一周都要看到自己完成了哪些小任务，增加自己的成就感和自信心。就算完不成最后的大任务，也能完成很多小任务了。
然后压力这个东西，是和远古人类的生存条件有关，就是fight-or-flight条件反射，刺激肾上腺激素分泌，让人类可以在远古的那种打猎环境更好地生存下来。但是现在如果不存在生命危险，这种不停分泌各种激素对人类是有危害的。
为了应付这种条件反射，一个方法是把心中的事情写下来，慢慢分析，分析到后来，有可能发现并不是什么大事，或者是做到哪些步骤就可以解决问题。
还有一个就是调整呼吸，可以yoga冥想。因为本身不是危害生命的事情，但是身体有这种反应，就要靠一些针对身体的方法来调节，减压。
总的来讲，就是从身体上，精神上双重调节。
自己一直很在意别人的看法，最近一直在suffer impostor syndrome,更加重了焦Lv 感
这世上的事和一切的欲望都是要过去的，你每天孜孜以求的目标，不过是你在用一份工作定义自己，认为这份工作代表你的全部，如果有一天你失业了，那你岂不是把自己丢了？
人生在世不过是寄居的客旅。
认识耶和华是智慧的开端。
不要在意别人，其实别人根本就没有真的在意你的。
敬畏耶和华才是智慧的开端。一切都是他的安排，我就从了吧，不再挣扎。
推荐Brene Brown关于vulnerability的书和talks。承认自己有不足，ask for help，让expert解决他们擅长的问题，不要把所有的问题都背在自己身上。马工领域的技术更新太快了，没人能什么都涉猎还能成大牛。不断学习固然必要，但是没必要认为“我在XX方面不精通就会怎么样怎么样”。在意别人的看法是一件很累的事，很多时候都是自己瞎琢磨，“live inside your head”。相信你做到manager，肯定是有你的长处和value，好好使用你的长处，不知道的时候就大方承认并虚心学习做research，你会发现很多人会愿意出手帮助和合作。承认自己不完美，承认自己需要其他人，不仅不会让别人鄙视你，相反，你会更加坦然，更加自如，在别人眼里显得更自信。当然，以上是assume你周围的环境是正常的有integrity的码农，toxic environment不在讨论范围内。
https://impostorsyndrome.com/10-steps-overcome-impostor/
10 STEPS YOU CAN USE TO OVERCOME IMPOSTOR SYNDROME
1Break the silence. Shame keeps a lot of people from “fessing up” about their fraudulent feelings. Knowing there’s a name for these feelings and that you are not alone can be tremendously freeing.
2Separate feelings from fact. There are times you’ll feel stupid. It happens to everyone from time to time. Realize that just because you may feel stupid, doesn’t mean you are.
3Recognize when you should feel fraudulent. If you’re one of the first or the few women or a minority in your field or work place, it’s only natural you’d sometimes feel like you don’t totally fit in. Instead of taking your self-doubt as a sign of your ineptness, recognize that it might be a normal response to being an outsider.
4Accentuate the positive. Perfectionism can indicate a healthy drive to excel. The trick is to not obsess over everything being just so. Do a great job when it matters most, without persevering over routine tasks. Forgive yourself when the inevitable mistake happens.
5Develop a new response to failure and mistake making. Henry Ford once said, “Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.” Instead of beating yourself up for being human and blowing the big project, do what professional athletes do and glean the learning value from the mistake and move on.
6Right the rules. If you’ve been operating under misguided rules like, “I should always know the answer,” or “Never ask for help” start asserting your rights. Recognize that you have just as much right as the next person to be wrong, have an off-day, or ask for assistance.
7Develop a new script. Your script is that automatic mental tapes that starts playing in situations that trigger your Impostor feelings. When you start a new job or project instead of thinking for example, “Wait till they find out I have no idea what I’m doing,” try thinking, “Everyone who starts something new feels off-base in the beginning. I may not know all the answers but I’m smart enough to find them out.”
8Visualize success. Do what professional athletes do. Spend time beforehand picturing yourself making a successful presentation or calmly posing your question in class. It sure beats picturing impending disaster and will help with performance-related stress.
9Reward yourself. Break the cycle of continually seeking °© and then dismissing °© validation outside of yourself by learning to pat yourself on the back.
10Fake it ‘til you make it. Now and then we all have to fly by the seat of our pants. Instead of considering “winging it” as proof of your ineptness, learn to do what many high achievers do and view it as a skill. The point of the worn out phrase, fake it til you make it, still stands: Don’t wait until you feel confident to start putting yourself out there. Courage comes from taking risks. Change your behavior first and allow your confidence to build.
我最近经常在看怎么克服impostor syndrome, 看完结论是别人都是suffer from impostor syndrome, 而我就是lucky.
说得好，我几乎就是这样摆脱焦虑的