LZ you should watch this short video and have a better understanding of the history of marriage.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DCGyLjBjuGI
From the time we’re kids, we’re bombarded with fairy tales about finding our one true love. Love songs, rom-coms, and stories across cultures and continents all preach a very similar message: Finding your match, your soul mate, is the key to a fulfilled and happy life.
But here’s the thing: Love and monogamy aren’t the same. And humans are terrible at the latter.
In 2016, more than 2.2 million couples got married in America, but more than 800,000 got divorced. Cheating and breakups cause grief and heartache every day. Yet some historians and evolutionary biologists say monogamy is a relatively new, self-imposed system. Their evidence suggests humans lived without it for more than 250,000 years. And we only started marrying for love in the 1700s.
So if monogamy is so hard, why do most of us, all around the world, make it a central goal of our lives?
Vox tackled this question in the first episode of our new show with Netflix, Explained. We’ll have new episodes every Wednesday, on topics ranging from monogamy to gene editing to the racial wealth gap and more. If you like our videos, then you’ll love this show; it’s our most ambitious video project to date.
To watch, search “Explained” on Netflix or go to Netflix.com/explained. Click the “My List” button to make sure you don’t miss an episode!
If you find the right person, you will be happier and live a better life, then why not get married? If not, then do not get married. So my answer is it depends. But I would prefer to be a man instead of a women if I could choose.
If you find the right person, you will be happier and live a better life, then why not get married? If not, then do not get married. So my answer is it depends. But I would prefer to be a man instead of a women if I could choose. dannyjer 发表于 7/17/2018 3:49:35 PM
It occurs to me that men seem still more instrumental in marriage in terms of financial resources and stability,so that they have to shoulder more despite of what that "more" contain.
情随心动，如果婚姻消失，也就没了为分产而有的陷在不幸婚姻里的可悲？也就始终能真实地和真爱在一起，因为不爱了，就能方便走开，不需身体和一个人在一起，心里还揣着另一个？
下辈子，你还会选择结婚吗？
真爱什么的，都是为了更好维系婚姻，制造的门槛。有了真爱再结婚，双方更能互相容忍，付出，婚姻质量高，孩子受益多
惊了。难道大家都为生孩子而婚？初恋和真爱只留在婚姻外？
啥先决条件？
我的人生目标是遇到真爱
刚好我的真爱很想结婚 盛情难却而已
永远做不完的家务、操不完的心、每天都在吃喝拉撒学上战斗…
责任这个词太重
不知道有孩子以后会不会后悔生。
我一对朋友真爱结婚 有了娃以后感觉亲密程度达到了新高度 多生出一层家庭的纽带感
但是绝大多数人这辈子都遇不到真爱 and/or不值得被爱 所以有了孩子状况更糟
虽然很多人可能身处其中而不觉
真爱才是最可遇而不可求的奢侈品
我对生孩子没兴趣，不过意外生了，还是很爱。再生一个我都不知道会不会一样爱了，所以不要老二。都是运气和缘分。
一个人的话辞职回去上学简直不可能
有老公感觉明天就可以去
我带孩子在早教中心上课，去图书馆，其实workday的时候有至少一半是爷爷奶奶辈带过去的，各族裔都有。除了自己身体不好这样的客观原因，完全不帮忙带孙子的一个没见过。我老板祖上英国人，跟老婆也是退休之后天天帮着俩女儿带外孙。他说他孩子小时候也送去爷爷奶奶家呆过。
Re. 不生孩子。
有家有自我。
人和人一起是因为开心，不是一纸条款的规定
From the time we’re kids, we’re bombarded with fairy tales about finding our one true love. Love songs, rom-coms, and stories across cultures and continents all preach a very similar message: Finding your match, your soul mate, is the key to a fulfilled and happy life.
But here’s the thing: Love and monogamy aren’t the same. And humans are terrible at the latter.
In 2016, more than 2.2 million couples got married in America, but more than 800,000 got divorced. Cheating and breakups cause grief and heartache every day. Yet some historians and evolutionary biologists say monogamy is a relatively new, self-imposed system. Their evidence suggests humans lived without it for more than 250,000 years. And we only started marrying for love in the 1700s.
So if monogamy is so hard, why do most of us, all around the world, make it a central goal of our lives?
Vox tackled this question in the first episode of our new show with Netflix, Explained. We’ll have new episodes every Wednesday, on topics ranging from monogamy to gene editing to the racial wealth gap and more. If you like our videos, then you’ll love this show; it’s our most ambitious video project to date.
To watch, search “Explained” on Netflix or go to Netflix.com/explained. Click the “My List” button to make sure you don’t miss an episode!
那就离婚，把孩子丢给男方，根本不用等来生
羡慕嫉妒中
就事论事，在中国，妇女相对最有地位，相对平等的时代，倒是1949到改革开放的30多年时间。
我肯定会选择婚姻，grow together的幸福，看到自己在婚姻里成长，以及给予别人快乐，这个不是孩子可以替代的
还是那句话，不要在垃圾堆里找男人
其实被束缚住的人总在说是婚姻困住他们，那张纸哪里有那么大的能量，困住他们的无非是一些不想放弃的利益，不管是真实存在的还是自己设想出来的。
为什么非得永恒？感情在就维持婚姻，不在了可以选择离开。
一夫一妻制不是指一辈子就一个妻子或者一个丈夫，而是法律在任何时候，只能保障一个妻子或者一个丈夫的利益。可以离了A，然后跟B结婚，这还是一夫一妻制。
近几十年不婚比例也逐渐增加，谁知道以后的世界会是什么样子？但十有八九就是和现状不一样
不结婚一样可以跟真爱生活在一起，但不必有公婆，生育自由，孩子可以随自己姓，没人要求你牺牲，分手再找不会因为结过婚而贬值，哪里不好了。
和楼上提到的差不多，没细看
从过去几百年的道德标准来看，婚姻关系对主流社会有一定的稳定作用。但在一些特定的地区，宗教，社会环境下也未必完全适用
自己找到平衡点就好，没有必要对他人的想法过渡议论
同意
完全同意
我其实和老公不结婚也可以，之前我们也同居了很久，没觉得结婚改变了什么。
只是为了让公婆和爸妈不要再来烦我们，所以结婚了而已
这年代，不一定要结婚才能养小孩了
剥削女性？看这里的离婚冷战贴，我觉得似乎是双方都受到剥削吧？女的好歹能上网吐槽，男的呢？他们咋消化不愉快与悲情的？
不结婚和一个人是两回事
孩子的确是受益者
有了孩子，就是完全不同的生活方式了。
所以，要尽情享受两人世界。
It occurs to me that men seem still more instrumental in marriage in terms of financial resources and stability,so that they have to shoulder more despite of what that "more" contain.
还会选择结婚，自己和老公都不是perfect的人但是很互补，都不是懒惰的人，三观一致，各有各的专长，可以互相学习。虽然生活中难免有吵闹，但是老公已经学会谦让对待，能把理工男改变成这样很有成就感，老公也知道体谅我为家庭付出的辛劳。两个人在一起虽然不算富足，但是感到幸福。觉得很幸运得到这样一位知己和朋友，可以一起牵手走到老，希望上苍让我们携手走的更长，不要让我们太早分开。