还有一个是eharmony上的华裔。他之前给我写了信，我简短回了下，然后就没消息了。然后快一周之后，他来了个邮件说：sorry for late reply。然后说以为自己当时已经回复的，但是现在才发现当时没发送成功。然后又问长问短了下。这个邮件是在我update我的profile picture和其他profile detail之后发的。这个感觉听上去也不真诚吧？
你既然没啥经验，为了安全起见，如果不自己开车的话，第一次还是选择白天在public见吧。吃吃lunch/brunch or just coffee.. evening还喝咖啡的真是够cheap的。不过想evening见的，一般都是白天忙工作，周末安排不过来的吧？你果断时间能自己再comfy些，可以有选择的去晚上见见。第一个case, 这男的的确是有点being disrespectful. 不过也得看他给你邮件的口气吧。。是不是认识到了问题而显得很客气很抱歉是last notice呢？如果是的话，如果你晚上正好想出去，那就去见呗。第二个case, 你想多了吧。。。现阶段就给他个机会。。如果表现不好，再踢出局也不迟。没必要一开始就有色眼镜看人家;)
以下是引用cute-wheat在3/16/2013 5:27:00 PM的发言： 然后他朋友说了个，我很“知趣”的上来就问，how much does he make? 他朋友回，around $600,000 per yr.. 我说，oh, thats good. 然后他俩一致惊讶状的回我，really? 600,000 is good? 瞬间被鄙视了。。。 啊。。贴子里有段你说bf看不上MD, 那会还想问是managing director还是doctor来着。现在看来统统秒杀啊。那Q麦很快就是贵妇啦，各种名牌挥之即来啊。
有人看oxygen的the face吗？正在看今晚的最新一集。看到现在我终于明白，为什么这三个mentors里Naomi最红最有名。就像她对自己的mentee说的，nobody is your friend here. its a competition. I dont believe in playing fair. play smart. Naomi在里面就是一个典型的B!tch. 一点也不sweet, 说话很张扬，和另外俩mentors 都有正面冲突。她知道什么是对自己的girls最好最有利的，才不管这么做是不是fair, 是不是心狠手辣。而另一个mentor, Karolina K 则主张"i want someone who deserves to be here". oh well，这个就像Naomi回复的，you put your girls in danger. 我想她的成名和她这些personality, "traits"是很有关系的吧。再次证明俺男人和俺说的，nice ppl rarely make big. look back at the history. 嗯。
我第一次和那个有Jet的男人坐下聊天时，没说几句，他就笑着和我说，you look nervous. relax. 哈，现在想起来好**。什么都是练出来的，见的多了自然把持的住。我觉得他们赚的多，除了天资聪明，最主要的还是大量时间devote to the work. 而且还要love what you do. 缺一不可。不过薪水和压力时间投入完全是成正比的，其实也没啥好羡慕的。一人一追求。有人就喜欢冒风险敢挑战，有人就喜欢be laid back. 我男人带我出去觉得我话多哦，哈哈。好处嘛就是不会沉闷的坐在那不知道说啥，坏处嘛。。不知道，嘻嘻
有人看oxygen的the face吗？正在看今晚的最新一集。看到现在我终于明白，为什么这三个mentors里Naomi最红最有名。就像她对自己的mentee说的，nobody is your friend here. its a competition. I dont believe in playing fair. play smart. Naomi在里面就是一个典型的B!tch. 一点也不sweet, 说话很张扬，和另外俩mentors 都有正面冲突。她知道什么是对自己的girls最好最有利的，才不管这么做是不是fair, 是不是心狠手辣。而另一个mentor, Karolina K 则主张"i want someone who deserves to be here". oh well，这个就像Naomi回复的，you put your girls in danger. 我想她的成名和她这些personality, "traits"是很有关系的吧。再次证明俺男人和俺说的，nice ppl rarely make big. look back at the history. 嗯。
Hi, I am glad you liked my post, and I hope you can really benefit from reading it. I feel obliged to correct some of your thoughts on here. I mean, yes, dating is a game. It's about how you play. BUT I don't believe in playing fake. You should remain warm and genuine. It's about what to say and when to say to the person you are involved. You certainly dont wanna reveal yourself (i.e. your deep thoughts) to the one you just met or you barely know. It's risky. WHY? becuz in the very beginning of getting to know each other, ppl tend to judge you from what you say as they tend to believe it's one of the most reliable resources that they can count on..although somebody would never admit it, it's true. If you dont want to lie, just don't answer the question or steer the conversation in another direction. plus, there is a thin line between lie and white lie. Sometimes you might want to consider giving that person a white lie if it doesnt hurt in the long run. Well, as for you, don't be too hard on yourself. We all make mistakes, stupid naive mistakes. As long as you dont indulge yourself in the wrong place, you are good to go. Learn from your mistakes, and stay positive. Love will come your way. Blessings. I cant type Chinese these days... Too lazy to install the software on this laptop.. [此贴子已经被作者于2013/4/28 3:07:48编辑过]
oh BTW, I am wondering if anyone can recommend a good French dictionary software that I can install on the computer? Doing my best learning this language. Hopefully sometime in the near future I can speak French as fluently as English.
以下是引用cute-wheat在4/28/2013 3:05:00 AM的发言： Hi, I am glad you liked my post, and I hope you can really benefit from reading it. I feel obliged to correct some of your thoughts on here. I mean, yes, dating is a game. It's about how you play. BUT I don't believe in playing fake. You should remain warm and genuine. It's about what to say and when to say to the person you are involved. You certainly dont wanna reveal yourself (i.e. your deep thoughts) to the one you just met or you barely know. It's risky. WHY? becuz in the very beginning of getting to know each other, ppl tend to judge you from what you say as they tend to believe it's one of the most reliable resources that they can count on..although somebody would never admit it, it's true. If you dont want to lie, just don't answer the question or steer the conversation in another direction. plus, there is a thin line between lie and white lie. Sometimes you might want to consider giving that person a white lie if it doesnt hurt in the long run. Well, as for you, don't be too hard on yourself. We all make mistakes, stupid naive mistakes. As long as you dont indulge yourself in the wrong place, you are good to go. Learn from your mistakes, and stay positive. Love will come your way. Blessings. I cant type Chinese these days... Too lazy to install the software on this laptop.. [此贴子已经被作者于2013/4/28 3:07:48编辑过] 俏麦MM，你真的好nice， 谁说你不耐斯的呵呵 希望你不介意我用中文回复你的英文，因为这样更能够表达我的真实情感些 我想说你真的不管在智慧上，还是level上都确实比我要高很多很多， 我结婚快三年，一直比较闭塞，头脑上没有这么发展，已经快变成air head了，读你的话语，我真的学到很多， 做出离婚这个决定之后，我相信我会越来越好的 因为我也深信 I deserve the best!
oh BTW, I am wondering if anyone can recommend a good French dictionary software that I can install on the computer? Doing my best learning this language. Hopefully sometime in the near future I can speak French as fluently as English.
Oxford-hachette French dictionary with real speak 这个超好用的，可以英法互换，调整语速和音量， 还可以念句子，发音很真人
thanks for ur compliment. i hope your having a great weekend also. i just wanted to say - everything happens for a reason. that you suffered for a few years doesnt meas you will have to deal with the sorrow forever. It, in fact, will better prepare you to embrace the endless possibilities...IF you allow them to happen. If you cant forgive, try at least to forget. Your ex, to some extent, helps you to grow up and see the world with new eyes. Again, I wanted to repeat - stay positive. Life will unfold as the way you have always dreamed. trust me ;)
Oxford-hachette French dictionary with real speak 这个超好用的，可以英法互换，调整语速和音量， 还可以念句子，发音很真人
hey, i was googling it but only found the book on amazon.. where can i get the audio file? is there any way i can just download it online? if not, i dont mind paying... pls let me know. thanks
hey, i was googling it but only found the book on amazon.. where can i get the audio file? is there any way i can just download it online? if not, i dont mind paying... pls let me know. thanks
lol. i know i know. but the thing is im not there yet! i tried and i always had to switch to english after one sentence or two. he will be useful later... the more i speak this lanuage, the stronger desire to relocate to France! will make it happen! [此贴子已经被作者于2013/5/1 17:34:43编辑过]
昨天刚刚见面一个，楼主MM给看下什么情况，见面结束的时候说“I will talk to you later”,回家又发了条消息说，谢谢我今天带他转，我回了句"Thank you I too I have a great time today"，然后就没消息了，这种是什么情况。
stay calm -_- u talked as if he hasnt talked to u like forever. in fact, u just met him yesterday, and he DID send u a message afterwards... just wait it out. see if he would ask u out again... good luck! [此贴子已经被作者于2013/5/5 23:33:59编辑过]
i also find equipment blouses too big for me... i only have one blouse from equipment.. size xs, perfect for me.. my fav is Tucker slim fit silk shirt, the sizing is awesome.
among all the "junk" shows that i watch on Bravo and Oxygen, My fav "million dollar listing NY" season 2 is backkkk tonight! learned so much from watching season 1.. mainly abt how to negotiate. the art of talk. if ur interested and have cable access, check it out! i personally find it more fun to watch than million dollar listing LA..
to be fair, i donno... if i had better options, i would probably stop seeing this guy.. do u feel if he likes u A LOT? is he pursuing u HARD? if not, maybe you should stop right here.. be optimistic - the next is always better...
to be fair, i donno... if i had better options, i would probably stop seeing this guy.. do u feel if he likes u A LOT? is he pursuing u HARD? if not, maybe you should stop right here.. be optimistic - the next is always better... 我可以感觉到他很喜欢和我在一起。肤浅一点的说，虽然出去的次数还不算多，但从吃饭看出来，作为一个对自己还比较节省的工薪男，他还是很肯在我身上花钱的，钱虽然不表一切，不过至少显示了一些诚意吧。 只是这个男人上次说了一句话让我有点red flag。 聊天嘛难免会有各种性格阿家庭的对话，忘了怎么开始的但他居然来了一句to be honest I feel like you already know me so well that you could easily hurt me emotionally, I'm a bit scared。我当时就觉得，首先，两个人还没怎么开始呢你怎么就有这种别人会Hurt你的victim心态？难道最开始不是要enjoy最开心的时候么？这种心态总觉得他已经有想逃避的状态了。其次，我不过跟他见面一个多月，哪里有know him so well。 不过我也不知道是不是我自己有问题，因为我总是不太习惯别人夸我，他一夸我我就不自在没反应甚至不让他夸 （感觉这里可以自pia了），所以上次大家cuddle, 他突然来了句, you're so pretty , why don't you want me to say you're pretty, if you fall for someone, don't you 然后就自己停止了一片沉默，我也懒得问他想说什么，因为心里在想我们才约了几次呢怎么可能fall for you。 大概是他自己感觉到这一点所以有点intimidating？？？ [此贴子已经被作者于2013/5/9 9:36:47编辑过]
他昨天给我发邮件留了自己的电话号码 And what are your thoughts about talking on the phone? I am assuming that you would not be talking with me unless you are curious to see if you and I have any sort of future....if that's not the case please tell me so I can be thoroughly embarrassed:) So, I'm just hoping to hear your thoughts is all....to take the first step I will simply give you my number just so you have it. If you don't want to talk or just want to wait a bit then I understand! XXXXXXXXXX.
among all the "junk" shows that i watch on Bravo and Oxygen, My fav "million dollar listing NY" season 2 is backkkk tonight! learned so much from watching season 1.. mainly abt how to negotiate. the art of talk. if ur interested and have cable access, check it out! i personally find it more fun to watch than million dollar listing LA..
我可以感觉到他很喜欢和我在一起。肤浅一点的说，虽然出去的次数还不算多，但从吃饭看出来，作为一个对自己还比较节省的工薪男，他还是很肯在我身上花钱的，钱虽然不表一切，不过至少显示了一些诚意吧。 只是这个男人上次说了一句话让我有点red flag。 聊天嘛难免会有各种性格阿家庭的对话，忘了怎么开始的但他居然来了一句to be honest I feel like you already know me so well that you could easily hurt me emotionally, I'm a bit scared。我当时就觉得，首先，两个人还没怎么开始呢你怎么就有这种别人会Hurt你的victim心态？难道最开始不是要enjoy最开心的时候么？这种心态总觉得他已经有想逃避的状态了。其次，我不过跟他见面一个多月，哪里有know him so well。 不过我也不知道是不是我自己有问题，因为我总是不太习惯别人夸我，他一夸我我就不自在没反应甚至不让他夸 （感觉这里可以自pia了），所以上次大家cuddle, 他突然来了句, you're so pretty , why don't you want me to say you're pretty, if you fall for someone, don't you 然后就自己停止了一片沉默，我也懒得问他想说什么，因为心里在想我们才约了几次呢怎么可能fall for you。 大概是他自己感觉到这一点所以有点intimidating？？？ [此贴子已经被作者于2013/5/9 9:36:47编辑过]
from ur words, i can sense hes a nice guy, but hes definitely carrying a lot of baggage from the past and he feels like he's insecure.. more or less. if u dont have enough strength and wisdom/experience to deal with this kind of guy, its better to leave him alone. im not saying he will hurt u for sure, but its very possible. he will probably do this one step in, one step out kind of thing.. hot and cold.. pulling back and coming around.. he needs to man up.. which i dont think its ur job to "train" him. the truth is... dating him several times should make you fall for him... if u dont find this kind of chemistry between u two, maybe he's not the right guy. move on. ALSO, you need to be confident. each time when a guy compliments you, smile back and thank him for saying sweet things. no need to feel uncomfortable (most of chinese girls have this problems).. we are all beautiful. a confident woman is very very very very attractive. its more powerful than precise makeup and fancy outfit. good luck, sweetie. i wish u the best. oxox
from ur words, i can sense hes a nice guy, but hes definitely carrying a lot of baggage from the past and he feels like he's insecure.. more or less. if u dont have enough strength and wisdom/experience to deal with this kind of guy, its better to leave him alone. im not saying he will hurt u for sure, but its very possible. he will probably do this one step in, one step out kind of thing.. hot and cold.. pulling back and coming around.. he needs to man up.. which i dont think its ur job to "train" him. the truth is... dating him several times should make you fall for him... if u dont find this kind of chemistry between u two, maybe he's not the right guy. move on. ALSO, you need to be confident. each time when a guy compliments you, smile back and thank him for saying sweet things. no need to feel uncomfortable (most of chinese girls have this problems).. we are all beautiful. a confident woman is very very very very attractive. its more powerful than precise makeup and fancy outfit. good luck, sweetie. i wish u the best. oxox
I'm reading why men love b... And u are one for sure. Sweet as Georgia peach!
I agree with sherrycous mm. First off, you guys are separated. That the divorce paper is not ready yet doesnt mean you cant date or have a bf. It's not cheating, and certainly has nothing to do with being morally wrong.. Don't feel guilty please.. In fact, you should be doing what you are doing. Put yourself out there and explore what other men have to offer. I dont believe its a good idea to tell this guy about your marriage problem. TOO EARLY! You guys are still in the email exchange stage. I dont know what you have told him - does he know you are separated? As long as he knows about this, you should be okay. NEVER say anything about your ex-husband in front of another man. A guy likes his woman to focus on himself, and has absolute no interest in listening to her talking about other men. Dont try to figure out a man with your "woman sense". It doesnt work that way. Okay, back to your new man - If you like him, you guys should have a talk over the phone (whats the big deal?!).. to see if you still have the strong feeling for him. As time goes by, once you guys are getting more serious, you can say, "my divorce should be settled soon".. something like that.. to ease his mind and/or assure him that nothing is getting in between of you two. As for now, do nothing. Just enjoy the dating process.
from ur words, i can sense hes a nice guy, but hes definitely carrying a lot of baggage from the past and he feels like he's insecure.. more or less. if u dont have enough strength and wisdom/experience to deal with this kind of guy, its better to leave him alone. im not saying he will hurt u for sure, but its very possible. he will probably do this one step in, one step out kind of thing.. hot and cold.. pulling back and coming around.. he needs to man up.. which i dont think its ur job to "train" him. the truth is... dating him several times should make you fall for him... if u dont find this kind of chemistry between u two, maybe he's not the right guy. move on. ALSO, you need to be confident. each time when a guy compliments you, smile back and thank him for saying sweet things. no need to feel uncomfortable (most of chinese girls have this problems).. we are all beautiful. a confident woman is very very very very attractive. its more powerful than precise makeup and fancy outfit. good luck, sweetie. i wish u the best. oxox 小麦mm你真的是太sweet了。我看得很唏嘘。
this guy is an idiot. i definitely dont appreciate the way he talked to u. he can express how frustrated he is becuz u never initiated a conv. BUT how dare he was that he told u there are lots of girls in his town, blabla. He talked as if he was in high demand. give me a break. AND its ur fault also - seriously, two months already? but no meet? ru kidding me? i dont care how far we are, if i like the person i met online, i need to see him in person within the first month. face the reality please.. be responsible for both parties.
以下是引用cute-wheat在5/12/2013 5:18:00 PM的发言： this guy is an idiot. i definitely dont appreciate the way he talked to u. he canexpresshow frustrated he is becuz u never initiated a conv. BUT how dare he was that he told u there are lots of girls in his town, blabla. He talked as if he was in high demand. give me a break. AND its ur fault also - seriously, two months already? but no meet? ru kidding me? i dont care how far we are, if i like the person i met online, i need to see him in person within the first month. face the reality please.. be responsible for both parties.
你说的对。尽快跟他约见面吧。多谢啦。其实之前他都老觉得远，不愿意过来。我是不会主动过去找他的。 以下是引用cute-wheat在5/12/2013 7:41:00 PM的发言： this guy is an idiot. i definitely dont appreciate the way he talked to u. he canexpresshow frustrated he is becuz u never initiated a conv. BUT how dare he was that he told u there are lots of girls in his town, blabla. He talked as if he was in high demand. give me a break. AND its ur fault also - seriously, two months already? but no meet? ru kidding me? i dont care how far we are, if i like the person i met online, i need to see him in person within the first month. face the reality please.. be responsible for both parties.
Do you like him at all? Or you're just trying to follow this rule called "女生不该主动"? Would you have such patience for a man for two months if he never showed any encouraging signals?
为什么总是回复不上呢。谢谢小麦MM。我这周就跟他约。最近朋友出了事，他也知道，也一直在等我考试完，见了再说。 以下是引用cute-wheat在5/13/2013 8:36:00 AM的发言： this guy is an idiot. i definitely dont appreciate the way he talked to u. he canexpresshow frustrated he is becuz u never initiated a conv. BUT how dare he was that he told u there are lots of girls in his town, blabla. He talked as if he was in high demand. give me a break. AND its ur fault also - seriously, two months already? but no meet? ru kidding me? i dont care how far we are, if i like the person i met online, i need to see him in person within the first month. face the reality please.. be responsible for both parties.
为什么总是回复不上呢。谢谢小麦MM。我这周就跟他约。最近朋友出了事，他也知道，也一直在等我考试完，见了再说。 以下是引用cute-wheat在5/13/2013 8:36:00 AM的发言： this guy is an idiot. i definitely dont appreciate the way he talked to u. he canexpresshow frustrated he is becuz u never initiated a conv. BUT how dare he was that he told u there are lots of girls in his town, blabla. He talked as if he was in high demand. give me a break. AND its ur fault also - seriously, two months already? but no meet? ru kidding me? i dont care how far we are, if i like the person i met online, i need to see him in person within the first month. face the reality please.. be responsible for both parties.
have u asked urself a question - why am i not attracting decent guys on here? whats the problem? DO I REALLY SUCK? maybe its time for u to reevaluate your profile and your pics. not everyone is looking to fall in love at first sight, but you cant deny one truth - we all appreciate "eye candies". As far as this abc is concerned, oh well, I would move on from this coward if i were you.... and hmm, i dont think he's that into you anyways. I cant address this more - Nobody can fix your problem or create a shortcut for you. You have to make effort into this. What kind of efforts? get a good job and work hard and smart, have a group of good decent friends that you can share your everyday life experience with. shopping, look pretty, hit gym regularly, READING, have some hobby whatever you enjoy doing..etc.. as for the dating, dont be afraid of getting hurt or meeting wrong ppl. Its a process. You cant be a GOOD CATCH simply by just reading what others say online, in person or in the books. You have to explore on your own. Finally, your hard work will soon come to fruition... Maybe I am too positive, but dont you think u should send the positive vibe your way instead of sitting there wondering if u have to settle for the second best? Absolutely NOT. I am sure you are one fine lady, and you deserve the best. I really dont like what you said in the post. NEVER settle for less or the second best. Dont get discouraged so quickly. Good luck!
Hi Liangping1984, Thanks for ur compliment. Much appreciated. Well, if you were born in 1984, you would only be a few months older than me LOL. Maybe I am wrong? Back to your post - I would have given you my "two cents" right now, but somehow I was struggling with trying to understand what you said.. I am sorry, but am quite confused abt this part - "Try to be hard to get is definitely something very subtle in my relationship or my ex-relationship. I had many conversation with my boyfriend about relationship. A girl try to hard is definitely not the right way to go. I guess he met decent amount of girls who want to impress him, guess not really worked."... Oh well, below is how I interpret ur words... hmm your bf had girls pursue him before, and they didnt really succeed according to HIS WORDS (which, to me, sounds like horseshit).. becuz of that, you SURMISED your man have experienced ENOUGH decent women that you dont think you will win him over if you play the role of "hard to get".. Correct me if im wrong.
and i forgot to say - if your looking for a job now, and if you find urself have a hard time doing good both in the job hunt and man hunt, you should then focus on the job hunt first. I personally believe the financial security is the fundamental point. Without it, everything else looks pale. bread or love? of course bread! Dont mean to be rude, but I think the woman who is all about love is an idiot... always associated with low EQ.. Its interesting some ppl tend to overlook what a great job can potentially bring to you...
kk. just so u know, u dont have to write in english if u find it hard to address ur issue. im using my man's laptop these days, and dont wanna install a chinese software on it. BTW, i really like ur pic.. i wanna ROU LIN those white fluffy little paws so bad
周末可以自己出去遛遛，顺便见见别人啥的。。。这不还没exclusive么。
这头像是谁？没事和俺update下你的近况。hope all is well with u. oxox
再讲几个case:
有一个白人好几天以前说要arrangment 见面，然后一直没消息。今天(周末）下午三点多了发短信过来说自己晚上有空，想问下我今晚有时间见面么。说虽然是short notice，但是他只是下check下我有空么。
不知道是不是我敏感了，感觉他这样有点不尊重人。这个是eharmony上的。然后我没回短信，并且close了match。
还有一个是eharmony上的华裔。他之前给我写了信，我简短回了下，然后就没消息了。然后快一周之后，他来了个邮件说：sorry for late reply。然后说以为自己当时已经回复的，但是现在才发现当时没发送成功。然后又问长问短了下。这个邮件是在我update我的profile picture和其他profile detail之后发的。这个感觉听上去也不真诚吧？
然后他朋友说了个，我很“知趣”的上来就问，how much does he make? 他朋友回，around $600,000 per yr.. 我说，oh, thats good. 然后他俩一致惊讶状的回我，really? 600,000 is good? 瞬间被鄙视了。。。
啊。。贴子里有段你说bf看不上MD, 那会还想问是managing director还是doctor来着。现在看来统统秒杀啊。那Q麦很快就是贵妇啦，各种名牌挥之即来啊。
啊。。贴子里有段你说bf看不上MD, 那会还想问是managing director还是doctor来着。现在看来统统秒杀啊。那Q麦很快就是贵妇啦，各种名牌挥之即来啊。
他一个职位的title的确是managing director ;) 贵妇不敢当。除了老爹，靠其他男人都不靠谱，就算结婚后也不行。女人一定要经济独立。俺爹说了，以后要是敢做家庭主妇，他就和我断绝父女关系。。我要“踩着男人的肩膀”，靠着他的教导他的关系，开拓自己的business world, 多多赚自己的钱。
啊。。贴子里有段你说bf看不上MD, 那会还想问是managing director还是doctor来着。现在看来统统秒杀啊。那Q麦很快就是贵妇啦，各种名牌挥之即来啊。
哎，其实也别小瞧医生律师神马的，我知道不少都年薪百万+，一般是拿手术刀的，律师都是international law firm partner.. senior等级的，知道一个还有自己的jet的。认识一个四大tax partner, 具体的title忘了，反正整天全世界飞的，年薪也是70万+了。。
哎，其实也别小瞧医生律师神马的，我知道不少都年薪百万+，一般是拿手术刀的，律师都是international law firm partner.. senior等级的，知道一个还有自己的jet的。认识一个四大tax partner, 具体的title忘了，反正整天全世界飞的，年薪也是70万+了。。
MM是PR吗？business consultant?
哎，其实也别小瞧医生律师神马的，我知道不少都年薪百万+，一般是拿手术刀的，律师都是international law firm partner.. senior等级的，知道一个还有自己的jet的。认识一个四大tax partner, 具体的title忘了，反正整天全世界飞的，年薪也是70万+了。。
越想越觉得妹纸你好强大啊，偶不是拜金物质，但是真心觉得，不是官二代富二代，靠自己实力赚这么多的人都是天赋超群，神一样的人物啊。妹纸你能和那么牛的人谈笑风生，让其拜倒在石榴裙下，神魂颠倒，真的不简单啊。有空多给讲讲你和你bf的朋友们都怎么聊天的吧，我觉得他们肯定都特别喜欢你，你bf也觉得带你出去特有面子
越想越觉得妹纸你好强大啊，偶不是拜金物质，但是真心觉得，不是官二代富二代，靠自己实力赚这么多的人都是天赋超群，神一样的人物啊。妹纸你能和那么牛的人谈笑风生，让其拜倒在石榴裙下，神魂颠倒，真的不简单啊。有空多给讲讲你和你bf的朋友们都怎么聊天的吧，我觉得他们肯定都特别喜欢你，你bf也觉得带你出去特有面子
对啊，我要听这个
他一个职位的title的确是managing director ;) 贵妇不敢当。除了老爹，靠其他男人都不靠谱，就算结婚后也不行。女人一定要经济独立。俺爹说了，以后要是敢做家庭主妇，他就和我断绝父女关系。。我要“踩着男人的肩膀”，靠着他的教导他的关系，开拓自己的business world, 多多赚自己的钱。
“踩着男人的肩膀”，靠着他的教导他的关系，开拓自己的business world, 多多赚自己的钱。 哈哈哈哈。 赞！！
大家都好都好？周末过的开心么？意大利都灵这里下了一天雨一天雪，今天一天灿烂阳光。
我这里进展就是 exclusive了，可是紧接着我们出门碰到他朋友，a couple，他木有向我介绍他们，也木有向他们介绍我，嗯，正常么?是不是他还不是很确定啊？
说个不怕让大家笑话的，见面几次，一次都没出去吃过，都是他做饭的，饭后也是他洗碗的...这也不知道是不是纯cheap 呢还是别的。这个周末我的生日，说实话，我很好奇他送我什么哎。
周末可以自己出去遛遛，顺便见见别人啥的。。。这不还没exclusive么。
这个周末exclusive了，不过紧接着碰到他的朋友，他木有互相介绍，可以说 这是我的一个朋友 吧。
越想越觉得妹纸你好强大啊，偶不是拜金物质，但是真心觉得，不是官二代富二代，靠自己实力赚这么多的人都是天赋超群，神一样的人物啊。妹纸你能和那么牛的人谈笑风生，让其拜倒在石榴裙下，神魂颠倒，真的不简单啊。有空多给讲讲你和你bf的朋友们都怎么聊天的吧，我觉得他们肯定都特别喜欢你，你bf也觉得带你出去特有面子
是啊是啊，小麦，有没有时间写两段关于这个的？
越想越觉得妹纸你好强大啊，偶不是拜金物质，但是真心觉得，不是官二代富二代，靠自己实力赚这么多的人都是天赋超群，神一样的人物啊。妹纸你能和那么牛的人谈笑风生，让其拜倒在石榴裙下，神魂颠倒，真的不简单啊。有空多给讲讲你和你bf的朋友们都怎么聊天的吧，我觉得他们肯定都特别喜欢你，你bf也觉得带你出去特有面子
越想越觉得妹纸你好强大啊，偶不是拜金物质，但是真心觉得，不是官二代富二代，靠自己实力赚这么多的人都是天赋超群，神一样的人物啊。妹纸你能和那么牛的人谈笑风生，让其拜倒在石榴裙下，神魂颠倒，真的不简单啊。有空多给讲讲你和你bf的朋友们都怎么聊天的吧，我觉得他们肯定都特别喜欢你，你bf也觉得带你出去特有面子
我第一次和那个有Jet的男人坐下聊天时，没说几句，他就笑着和我说，you look nervous. relax. 哈，现在想起来好**。什么都是练出来的，见的多了自然把持的住。我觉得他们赚的多，除了天资聪明，最主要的还是大量时间devote to the work. 而且还要love what you do. 缺一不可。不过薪水和压力时间投入完全是成正比的，其实也没啥好羡慕的。一人一追求。有人就喜欢冒风险敢挑战，有人就喜欢be laid back. 我男人带我出去觉得我话多哦，哈哈。好处嘛就是不会沉闷的坐在那不知道说啥，坏处嘛。。不知道，嘻嘻
推荐首歌， when i was your man - Bruno Mars. 听的俺想哭。珍惜眼前人。任何一个珍贵的时刻都有可能成为不可复制不可回头的记忆
我也听这首歌啦，要是每个男人都能好好体会， 并且好好珍惜眼前人就好了
上周他给我看照片，然后说，哎呀我需要10天的假期跟我这个朋友摩托车出去转一圈，好好放松一下；你不要生气啊。
我当时愣了一下，都不知道怎么接下去.......................
这个话题肯定还会再说的，唉，同事说，就算你不太介意，也要表现的介意一点，让他不要太轻松的出发。
大家有木有什么建议呢？
好几天没来了，大家都在么？
上周他给我看照片，然后说，哎呀我需要10天的假期跟我这个朋友摩托车出去转一圈，好好放松一下；你不要生气啊。
我当时愣了一下，都不知道怎么接下去.......................
这个话题肯定还会再说的，唉，同事说，就算你不太介意，也要表现的介意一点，让他不要太轻松的出发。
大家有木有什么建议呢？
认真你就输了。
有人看oxygen的the face吗？正在看今晚的最新一集。看到现在我终于明白，为什么这三个mentors里Naomi最红最有名。就像她对自己的mentee说的，nobody is your friend here. its a competition. I dont believe in playing fair. play smart. Naomi在里面就是一个典型的B!tch. 一点也不sweet, 说话很张扬，和另外俩mentors 都有正面冲突。她知道什么是对自己的girls最好最有利的，才不管这么做是不是fair, 是不是心狠手辣。而另一个mentor, Karolina K 则主张"i want someone who deserves to be here". oh well，这个就像Naomi回复的，you put your girls in danger. 我想她的成名和她这些personality, "traits"是很有关系的吧。再次证明俺男人和俺说的，nice ppl rarely make big. look back at the history. 嗯。
Karoline 真是好脾气 COCO是老天爷赏饭吃 naomi 174的身高，自己拼出来的
好几天没来了，大家都在么？
上周他给我看照片，然后说，哎呀我需要10天的假期跟我这个朋友摩托车出去转一圈，好好放松一下；你不要生气啊。
我当时愣了一下，都不知道怎么接下去.......................
这个话题肯定还会再说的，唉，同事说，就算你不太介意，也要表现的介意一点，让他不要太轻松的出发。
大家有木有什么建议呢？
你同事有没有搞错？！出的什么馊主意？！擦。狗屁的要表现出介意。要我，男人想出去玩一个月，我也会轻松地说，好好玩那，我不送了。他出去那段日子，我也不会每天狗急跳墙的电话追着。不打我也不会多搭理，他打我也会表现的在这活的很精彩的样子。你这才没恋爱几周呢，人家出去玩几天不带你，你就表现的患得患失。男人一看就知道他把你给吃定了。这么早就给出结论，你以后的日子小心吃苦在后。抓住男人不是你这样玩的。这和手中的流沙一个道理。
Karoline 真是好脾气 COCO是老天爷赏饭吃 naomi 174的身高，自己拼出来的
现在太喜欢naomi了。。。不得不说，她的猫步走的太有气场了，整一个bi!tch有木有！现在有名的models有几个有她这种气场的。。真心觉得，她那个谈了好几年的billionaire fiance能缠的住这样的女人，不得不说，牛啊！这绝对不是钱能搞定她的。。
认真你就输了。
你同事有没有搞错？！出的什么馊主意？！擦。狗屁的要表现出介意。要我，男人想出去玩一个月，我也会轻松地说，好好玩那，我不送了。他出去那段日子，我也不会每天狗急跳墙的电话追着。不打我也不会多搭理，他打我也会表现的在这活的很精彩的样子。你这才没恋爱几周呢，人家出去玩几天不带你，你就表现的患得患失。男人一看就知道他把你给吃定了。这么早就给出结论，你以后的日子小心吃苦在后。抓住男人不是你这样玩的。这和手中的流沙一个道理。
说实话，我是对他出去玩没什么的，毕竟我自己跟朋友啊聚会什么的也很happy的，^_^。我这个同事是意大利人，他说意大利女的，如果这个情况早就跳起来说不行了。他还说我太好说话了...... 我当时真是 orz...
以下是引用cute-wheat在12/1/2012 9:09:00 PM的发言：
给在LA的推荐个tailor, 价格非常非常公道，可以加急，给老板说下就行，不会多收钱。有多便宜呢？裤腿改边6刀，原边10刀。我已经去过无数次推荐给无数人了http://www.yelp.com/biz/rancho-tailor-and-cleaners-los-angeles。。。。。。。。。。。。。修鞋的地儿，我男银去的一家，yelp reviews不会很高哎，我看了下不少抱怨价格贵的。个人感觉，加底，修鞋真心不错。你若有很贵的designer shoes送去那不会出错。这家是洛杉矶内公认的红底鞋加底有保障的三家鞋店之一，其余2家在brentwood和santa monica. 现在我的鞋子都是直接扔给男人，他送去给我修，没过问过价钱 http://www.yelp.com/biz/eddies-shoe-repair-sherman-oaks-2。。。。。。顺路推荐dry cleaner. 这家我只推荐给有米烧在干洗上的或是很贵的衣服担心一般店处理不好的。我家那位一个月在这地儿至少贡献500刀，他基本上是啥都干洗而且全部vip，烧包。他家干洗服务分一般和VIP. VIP的价格是一般的double, extra care. 顶级牌子的衣服用VIP干洗服务，应该不会错。他家有免费的咖啡，甜甜的很creamy, 我每次去喝的都很欢喜。http://www.yelp.com/biz/steamer-cleaners-and-laundry-sherman-oaks#query:dry cleaners
[此贴子已经被作者于2012/12/1 21:53:01编辑过]
他是你bf你老公么？不是的话，别人送的花为啥不能收？！不想扔就不扔。他要是问起来你就大大方方的说实话呗。又不是啥见不得人的勾当。又不是你cheating on him. 让他知道你desirable没啥不好。
好几天没来了，上班忙得一低头一抬头 就中饭了，再一低头一抬头，7点了。。。。
我记得你是在bay area的。当时还以为你是故意不想和俺勾搭的捏。我之前5个星期的weekdays都在你们那旮旯
啊~误会大了去了！！match前一段过期后就暂时没续，而且那阵我看你也忙着工作上的事情来的少了，我就混回粉版去了。短你了 ：）
在这里吆喝几句，小麦是货真价实的水嫩美女~ 而且比照片美
开贴我就跟着呢，这么久以来，奔脸的照片我一次都没赶上过，奔那么多次衣服我就赶上1，2次，勾搭也错过了。我要严肃思考一下自己的rp。
[此贴子已经被作者于2013/4/14 3:41:22编辑过]
一次都没赶上小麦奔. 小麦奔一次ba!
我倒是基本都赶上了，嘿嘿嘿。。。。当年一ex有点像宋，还有一个象裴勇俊。。。。惆怅旧欢如梦。。。。
梦似烟烟似p，放了就没了。
只看过两件衬衫。
什么时候奔一个，提前说一声啊。欧洲时差党可以计算时间。
以下是引用windysnow在4/26/2013 7:42:00 AM的发言：
豆丁网强大，有free download
以下是引用cute-wheat在6/27/2012 2:26:00 PM的发言：
mm, 我看过的觉得不错的是这本http://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Conversations-Discuss-What-Matters/dp/0143118447/ref=pd_sim_b_2
以下内容只有回复后才可以浏览
以下是引用windysnow在4/27/2013 1:46:00 PM的发言：
这是Katie网站的一段录像，课程中几个case consultation, 从愁肠百结到放声大笑，很欢乐
http://downloads.thework.com/products/turn-it-around-download-high-resolution-video-download
24分钟开始那段儿，非常witty and wise, 笑死我了。大家说说怎么培养幽默感吧
以下是引用cute-wheat在4/27/2013 2:1:00 PM的发言：
http://www.amazon.com/What-Every-BODY-Saying-Speed-Reading/dp/0061438294/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top这本书有听说过的不？很有兴趣买来读读。前段时间华人灌水太多，真是浪费生命。最近又开始狂看书。把之前beauty板上一个帖子里推荐的三本都读完了，那个dont take the last donut有点小失望，信息量并不大。我2个晚上就呼啦啦的读完了。。
以下是引用theblingblings在4/27/2013 2:4:00 PM的发言：
前几天买了Tao, 捡着最感兴趣的几章看了看.我觉得Tao重战略,why men...重战术， 再结合match实战一下就所向披靡了LOL。
你们看书好快，又冒出来几本。Think and grow rich，amazon上kindle 版本$0.99。First impression的那个看名字就吸引人。
我找到其他两本的免费下载：
What everybody is saying:http://ishare.iask.sina.com.cn/f/12875674.html
Getting to Yes:http://ishare.iask.sina.com.cn/f/21633570.html
以下是引用theblingblings在4/27/2013 2:4:00 PM的发言：
前几天买了Tao, 捡着最感兴趣的几章看了看.我觉得Tao重战略,why men...重战术， 再结合match实战一下就所向披靡了LOL。
你们看书好快，又冒出来几本。Think and grow rich，amazon上kindle 版本$0.99。First impression的那个看名字就吸引人。
我找到其他两本的免费下载：
What everybody is saying:http://ishare.iask.sina.com.cn/f/12875674.html
Getting to Yes:http://ishare.iask.sina.com.cn/f/21633570.html
以下是引用cute-wheat在4/27/2013 2:8:00 PM的发言：
结婚的恋爱的我推荐看the five love languages... 里面很多例子都很实用，很长见识。。我会再看第二遍第三遍滴。。。早10年。。。那是刚高中早恋完哈哈，小毛孩一个，啥都不懂
之前发过两个贴，大家搜一搜就能发现我的故事了。
这里想要大大的感谢小麦MM，你的文字如果早点读到，也许我就不会摔的那么悲催了。
读完之后，受教很多，并且赞同你的每一个字。
前两天有人在EH 上问我最大的愿望是什么
我就说希望我前夫的bipolar 能好
那个人直接把我block掉了
不是说我有多么的在乎那个人，但是我觉得自己真的是猪头到底了
sophisticated man love sophisticated woman， 我把自己搞的那么真诚，自pia，kill the game
恋爱真的是一场游戏，看谁会玩，我以前想着真诚单纯的感情最美好了
NND 我本将心向明月，奈何明月照沟渠
翻译过来就是，这个游戏任何时候都说真话就傻透了
最近准备把帖子里推荐的书挨着挨着看，
祝福帖子里所有的姐妹们
[此贴子已经被作者于2013/4/28 3:07:48编辑过]
Hi, I am glad you liked my post, and I hope you can really benefit from reading it. I feel obliged to correct some of your thoughts on here. I mean, yes, dating is a game. It's about how you play. BUT I don't believe in playing fake. You should remain warm and genuine. It's about what to say and when to say to the person you are involved. You certainly dont wanna reveal yourself (i.e. your deep thoughts) to the one you just met or you barely know. It's risky. WHY? becuz in the very beginning of getting to know each other, ppl tend to judge you from what you say as they tend to believe it's one of the most reliable resources that they can count on..although somebody would never admit it, it's true. If you dont want to lie, just don't answer the question or steer the conversation in another direction. plus, there is a thin line between lie and white lie. Sometimes you might want to consider giving that person a white lie if it doesnt hurt in the long run. Well, as for you, don't be too hard on yourself. We all make mistakes, stupid naive mistakes. As long as you dont indulge yourself in the wrong place, you are good to go. Learn from your mistakes, and stay positive. Love will come your way. Blessings. I cant type Chinese these days... Too lazy to install the software on this laptop..
[此贴子已经被作者于2013/4/28 3:07:48编辑过]
俏麦MM，你真的好nice， 谁说你不耐斯的呵呵
希望你不介意我用中文回复你的英文，因为这样更能够表达我的真实情感些
我想说你真的不管在智慧上，还是level上都确实比我要高很多很多，
我结婚快三年，一直比较闭塞，头脑上没有这么发展，已经快变成air head了，读你的话语，我真的学到很多，
做出离婚这个决定之后，我相信我会越来越好的
因为我也深信 I deserve the best!
没有办法说出你那样的话但是你说的每一句话都帮到我很多，我都深以为然，
最近非常的痛苦，因为在这个婚姻里，很多感情和精力都被耗尽
俏麦MM如果不介意可否把私人邮箱私信给我
好怕你有一天突然不来这个帖子，就联系不到你了
能和你这样聪明智慧的女生做朋友，也许我就不会摔的那么惨了
无比的感谢你这么细致的回答，突然鼻子有点酸酸的
白羊座的女生都是敢爱敢恨的好MM! :)
我希望你有一个愉快的周末！
oh BTW, I am wondering if anyone can recommend a good French dictionary software that I can install on the computer? Doing my best learning this language. Hopefully sometime in the near future I can speak French as fluently as English.
Oxford-hachette French dictionary with real speak 这个超好用的，可以英法互换，调整语速和音量， 还可以念句子，发音很真人
not really what you asked for, but this plug-in for chrome is kinda fun https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/language-immersion-for-ch/bedbecnakfcpmkpddjfnfihogkaggkhl?hl=en
thx for sharing. if u know any other good tools to learn french, pls let me know. thx!
俏麦MM，你真的好nice， 谁说你不耐斯的呵呵
希望你不介意我用中文回复你的英文，因为这样更能够表达我的真实情感些
我想说你真的不管在智慧上，还是level上都确实比我要高很多很多，
我结婚快三年，一直比较闭塞，头脑上没有这么发展，已经快变成air head了，读你的话语，我真的学到很多，
做出离婚这个决定之后，我相信我会越来越好的
因为我也深信 I deserve the best!
没有办法说出你那样的话但是你说的每一句话都帮到我很多，我都深以为然，
最近非常的痛苦，因为在这个婚姻里，很多感情和精力都被耗尽
俏麦MM如果不介意可否把私人邮箱私信给我
好怕你有一天突然不来这个帖子，就联系不到你了
能和你这样聪明智慧的女生做朋友，也许我就不会摔的那么惨了
无比的感谢你这么细致的回答，突然鼻子有点酸酸的
白羊座的女生都是敢爱敢恨的好MM! :)
我希望你有一个愉快的周末！
thanks for ur compliment. i hope your having a great weekend also. i just wanted to say - everything happens for a reason. that you suffered for a few years doesnt meas you will have to deal with the sorrow forever. It, in fact, will better prepare you to embrace the endless possibilities...IF you allow them to happen. If you cant forgive, try at least to forget. Your ex, to some extent, helps you to grow up and see the world with new eyes. Again, I wanted to repeat - stay positive. Life will unfold as the way you have always dreamed. trust me ;)
Oxford-hachette French dictionary with real speak 这个超好用的，可以英法互换，调整语速和音量， 还可以念句子，发音很真人
hey, i was googling it but only found the book on amazon.. where can i get the audio file? is there any way i can just download it online? if not, i dont mind paying... pls let me know. thanks
hey, i was googling it but only found the book on amazon.. where can i get the audio file? is there any way i can just download it online? if not, i dont mind paying... pls let me know. thanks
我学习西班牙语和德语的时候，ipad上有那种特别好的app，大概是二十刀以内，可以很快的互相翻译，帮忙很多。相信法语也有类似的。嫩搜搜看呢：）
我学习西班牙语和德语的时候，ipad上有那种特别好的app，大概是二十刀以内，可以很快的互相翻译，帮忙很多。相信法语也有类似的。嫩搜搜看呢：）
Do u know the name of the app?
最好的工具应该就是你家的那个啦，每天和他练习法语，尽量不要讲英文，度假尽量泡在巴黎，一两年就会有语感上身
lol. i know i know. but the thing is im not there yet! i tried and i always had to switch to english after one sentence or two. he will be useful later... the more i speak this lanuage, the stronger desire to relocate to France! will make it happen!
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i got an app a while back and it cost me 15 bucks. i still want a good one on the computer. bluecloudysky- which language are u learning?
Just start learning Spanish
昨天刚刚见面一个，楼主MM给看下什么情况，见面结束的时候说“I will talk to you later”,回家又发了条消息说，谢谢我今天带他转，我回了句"Thank you I too I have a great time today"，然后就没消息了，这种是什么情况。
stay calm -_- u talked as if he hasnt talked to u like forever. in fact, u just met him yesterday, and he DID send u a message afterwards... just wait it out. see if he would ask u out again... good luck!
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前几天路过south coast plaza, 去捞面看到好些equipment 真丝衬衣，不过对我都大啦。。。。。。
i also find equipment blouses too big for me... i only have one blouse from equipment.. size xs, perfect for me.. my fav is Tucker slim fit silk shirt, the sizing is awesome.
小麦mm求指点。。。 date几次之后觉得对方有点鸡肋的感觉了是不是就可以直接move on了？ 说鸡肋是因为觉得大方向上好像还可以，形象和背景能过关，实在是要想象跟他生活在一起也不会有太抗拒的感觉，但整体就是少了那么点火候让我觉得被吸引。这种是不是早点抽身就好，还是多给几次机会再聊聊？
to be fair, i donno... if i had better options, i would probably stop seeing this guy.. do u feel if he likes u A LOT? is he pursuing u HARD? if not, maybe you should stop right here.. be optimistic - the next is always better...
to be fair, i donno... if i had better options, i would probably stop seeing this guy.. do u feel if he likes u A LOT? is he pursuing u HARD? if not, maybe you should stop right here.. be optimistic - the next is always better...
我可以感觉到他很喜欢和我在一起。肤浅一点的说，虽然出去的次数还不算多，但从吃饭看出来，作为一个对自己还比较节省的工薪男，他还是很肯在我身上花钱的，钱虽然不表一切，不过至少显示了一些诚意吧。 只是这个男人上次说了一句话让我有点red flag。 聊天嘛难免会有各种性格阿家庭的对话，忘了怎么开始的但他居然来了一句to be honest I feel like you already know me so well that you could easily hurt me emotionally, I'm a bit scared。我当时就觉得，首先，两个人还没怎么开始呢你怎么就有这种别人会Hurt你的victim心态？难道最开始不是要enjoy最开心的时候么？这种心态总觉得他已经有想逃避的状态了。其次，我不过跟他见面一个多月，哪里有know him so well。 不过我也不知道是不是我自己有问题，因为我总是不太习惯别人夸我，他一夸我我就不自在没反应甚至不让他夸 （感觉这里可以自pia了
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楼上的MM ，先bless个，要习惯别人的夸奖哦，一般别人夸，就微笑说谢谢就好了。大大方方，我们本来就值得被赞美。
再有个问题请教小麦MM， 顺便confess一下
我的婚姻已经完全走到尽头，但是还没有完全结束，现在就是等上庭等离婚证书，实在是can‘t wait 结束这段abusive 的关系，
我们州从提交离婚诉讼到上庭，等待时间挺长的， 哎，南部保守州伤不起。
但是我三个星期之前注册了Eharmony， 没有想到很多人跟我互动，而且都是些条件不错的，嗯我外貌还行，照片选的也不错
我和几个有一搭没一搭的聊，一般最后就是我没心情了，不理他们了，然后他们偶尔来我的profile看看，我也不怎么理，据了好几个
但是前两天出现了一个我很中意的男生，真的很喜欢，我喜欢那种动手能力很强，然后又很热爱公益的男生，对有钱人无感，
最大的梦想是和我的老公过平静的生活，住在一个不大不小的城市，工作要清闲，钱不用太多，好好的养我们的孩子。
anyway， 这个男人也非常喜欢我，每次给我写email都非常的长，并且很真诚，我回了几次之后，现在觉得非常gilty，
因为感觉这个男人非常正直，我觉得我现在还没有离婚，就跟他这样email 来回，非常不道德……
所以我现在就是他发一封邮件，我一般过三五天再回。 他发一大篇，我相应的回几小段
然后他一定会在当天再回我一大篇。
所幸就是我们住的很远，所以我有理由暂时不和他见面，真的不想在离婚证书拿到之前和别的男的有实质性的关系，想要对得起自己，问心无愧吧
他昨天给我发邮件留了自己的电话号码
And what are your thoughts about talking on the phone? I am assuming that you would not be talking with me unless you are curious to see if you and I have any sort of future....if that's not the case please tell me so I can be thoroughly embarrassed:) So, I'm just hoping to hear your thoughts is all....to take the first step I will simply give you my number just so you have it. If you don't want to talk or just want to wait a bit then I understand! XXXXXXXXXX.
我现在是相当的纠结，因为一切发展的都很好，感觉也很对，我真心想给，但是出于现实情况，我真的不想发展的太快，因为毕竟离婚还没有下来
虽然我朋友鼓励我说，我现在和离婚没有区别，我们也分居很久了
anyway， 小麦MM ， 如果是你，你会怎么办呢？当然我相信你肯定不会像我这么笨， 遇到这种局面at the first place，
我现在很需要您的智慧建议啊， 谢谢谢谢
如果觉得我不道德的MM也尽管拍吧，无数次被我老公赶出家门，无数次被他恶语相向， 我扪心自问我没有做错过任何事情，每天在家里做无数的家务事，还要被挑剔，我自从结婚后一直在尽自己最大的努力维护，现在心早已死了。 只能说，bipolar太强大了，光有爱真的不够。
非常非常的感谢小麦MM！！！
认识一个bipolar，感觉很恐怖，MM和他结婚前不知道吗
认识一个bipolar，感觉很恐怖，MM和他结婚前不知道吗
哎哎哎，说到这个肠子都悔青了，结婚前他一切正常啊……
有点点depression但是很快就积极起来了
我又天真，觉得depression 不算什么病，结果结婚后他擅自停药，越来越严重，到最后根本不吃药
离婚也是一拖再拖，他知道我是个很好的女生，打死不愿意离婚，他妈妈也支持他
结果昨天我忍无可忍了，说，如果你不离婚，我就把你之前对我骚扰的信息全部交给律师，
他给我发了无数条很脏无比的短信，各种下流的图片，各种侵犯的话，是用英文发的，他是中国人
结果他昨天怕了，才答应和我一起上庭。
现在我就是准备净身出户，和平离婚，但是如果他一定要和我闹，我之前有保留很多他骚扰我的证据，也保存在一个安全的地方
前段时间积极联系了很多律师，大概知道我的底牌是什么，他和我打官司，只有他吃亏的，
而且他之前已经被别人举报送到警察局一次了
anyway， 祝福这个帖子里所有的MM
among all the "junk" shows that i watch on Bravo and Oxygen, My fav "million dollar listing NY" season 2 is backkkk tonight! learned so much from watching season 1.. mainly abt how to negotiate. the art of talk. if ur interested and have cable access, check it out! i personally find it more fun to watch than million dollar listing LA..
Thank u for recommending the show.
我觉得还是不要直接说情况比较好，一来就跟还没见过面的人说自己有个bipolar disease的老公/前夫有点太沉重了。
我觉得打个电话而已，不算什么不道德把。你觉得准备好了就打，暂时不要见面不要确定关系不行么。
如果打过几次电话以后，你觉得发展太快了。你可以说自己离婚还没定下来之前，不想发展太快。
但是细节最好等到后来再说。不是说别人不能接受，我只是觉得这种分享需要再等一等。因为别人可能会觉得你包袱很重，在没非常了解你个性之前，说沉重的过去会让人退缩的，如果一个人很了解你了，接受起来也比较容易
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我可以感觉到他很喜欢和我在一起。肤浅一点的说，虽然出去的次数还不算多，但从吃饭看出来，作为一个对自己还比较节省的工薪男，他还是很肯在我身上花钱的，钱虽然不表一切，不过至少显示了一些诚意吧。 只是这个男人上次说了一句话让我有点red flag。 聊天嘛难免会有各种性格阿家庭的对话，忘了怎么开始的但他居然来了一句to be honest I feel like you already know me so well that you could easily hurt me emotionally, I'm a bit scared。我当时就觉得，首先，两个人还没怎么开始呢你怎么就有这种别人会Hurt你的victim心态？难道最开始不是要enjoy最开心的时候么？这种心态总觉得他已经有想逃避的状态了。其次，我不过跟他见面一个多月，哪里有know him so well。 不过我也不知道是不是我自己有问题，因为我总是不太习惯别人夸我，他一夸我我就不自在没反应甚至不让他夸 （感觉这里可以自pia了
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from ur words, i can sense hes a nice guy, but hes definitely carrying a lot of baggage from the past and he feels like he's insecure.. more or less. if u dont have enough strength and wisdom/experience to deal with this kind of guy, its better to leave him alone. im not saying he will hurt u for sure, but its very possible. he will probably do this one step in, one step out kind of thing.. hot and cold.. pulling back and coming around.. he needs to man up.. which i dont think its ur job to "train" him. the truth is... dating him several times should make you fall for him... if u dont find this kind of chemistry between u two, maybe he's not the right guy. move on. ALSO, you need to be confident. each time when a guy compliments you, smile back and thank him for saying sweet things. no need to feel uncomfortable (most of chinese girls have this problems).. we are all beautiful. a confident woman is very very very very attractive. its more powerful than precise makeup and fancy outfit. good luck, sweetie. i wish u the best. oxox
from ur words, i can sense hes a nice guy, but hes definitely carrying a lot of baggage from the past and he feels like he's insecure.. more or less. if u dont have enough strength and wisdom/experience to deal with this kind of guy, its better to leave him alone. im not saying he will hurt u for sure, but its very possible. he will probably do this one step in, one step out kind of thing.. hot and cold.. pulling back and coming around.. he needs to man up.. which i dont think its ur job to "train" him. the truth is... dating him several times should make you fall for him... if u dont find this kind of chemistry between u two, maybe he's not the right guy. move on. ALSO, you need to be confident. each time when a guy compliments you, smile back and thank him for saying sweet things. no need to feel uncomfortable (most of chinese girls have this problems).. we are all beautiful. a confident woman is very very very very attractive. its more powerful than precise makeup and fancy outfit. good luck, sweetie. i wish u the best. oxox
I'm reading why men love b... And u are one for sure. Sweet as Georgia peach!
from ur words, i can sense hes a nice guy, but hes definitely carrying a lot of baggage from the past and he feels like he's insecure.. more or less. if u dont have enough strength and wisdom/experience to deal with this kind of guy, its better to leave him alone. im not saying he will hurt u for sure, but its very possible. he will probably do this one step in, one step out kind of thing.. hot and cold.. pulling back and coming around.. he needs to man up.. which i dont think its ur job to "train" him. the truth is... dating him several times should make you fall for him... if u dont find this kind of chemistry between u two, maybe he's not the right guy. move on. ALSO, you need to be confident. each time when a guy compliments you, smile back and thank him for saying sweet things. no need to feel uncomfortable (most of chinese girls have this problems).. we are all beautiful. a confident woman is very very very very attractive. its more powerful than precise makeup and fancy outfit. good luck, sweetie. i wish u the best. oxox
小麦mm你真的是太sweet了。我看得很唏嘘。
更新一下，早晨看着还觉得很唏嘘，晚上又见了一面突然觉得先前对他的那种母爱爆棚心态完全没必要。现在清楚地意识到我还是没能喜欢他，因为听到他讲话声音大的时候会有想让他安静的冲动，听到他笑的时候居然会嫌他笑声不classy，而且不知道是不是潜意识想逃避，今天的谈话也出现了尴尬和冷场，下了车立刻就有懒得再联系的情绪。更冷静的想了想，觉得他也没追求的多热烈，有个有趣的妹子每周陪他吃饭聊天他当然enjoy，现在一个多月也没什么实质的表示，花钱又算什么。总之写下这些就又意识到，他那些“我跟你open up这么多你可能会伤害我”的言论也许是他一时vulnerable的真心话，但也许只是play victim。 看来必须move forward了。
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哎哎哎，说到这个肠子都悔青了，结婚前他一切正常啊……
有点点depression但是很快就积极起来了
我又天真，觉得depression 不算什么病，结果结婚后他擅自停药，越来越严重，到最后根本不吃药
离婚也是一拖再拖，他知道我是个很好的女生，打死不愿意离婚，他妈妈也支持他
结果昨天我忍无可忍了，说，如果你不离婚，我就把你之前对我骚扰的信息全部交给律师，
他给我发了无数条很脏无比的短信，各种下流的图片，各种侵犯的话，是用英文发的，他是中国人
结果他昨天怕了，才答应和我一起上庭。
现在我就是准备净身出户，和平离婚，但是如果他一定要和我闹，我之前有保留很多他骚扰我的证据，也保存在一个安全的地方
前段时间积极联系了很多律师，大概知道我的底牌是什么，他和我打官司，只有他吃亏的，
而且他之前已经被别人举报送到警察局一次了
anyway， 祝福这个帖子里所有的MM
bless MM 以后一切顺利，摊上这种事情够倒霉的
前两周的时候吧，他有点儿不高兴了，说我从来不给他发短信，说觉得不够喜欢他。。这种情况下，我是该主动找他么？因为我最近final，他也说等我final完了他过来见我之类之类的话。我看了你的帖子，我非常同意女生不该主动。我们认识快两个月了，就是断断续续的发短信，一直没有拖着。他还跟我说，他自己的城市也很多女生，如果我不喜欢他，他就不过来看我了，说没必要浪费时间之类之类的话。
小麦MM，我也来说说我的经历，看看你的建议呢。我之前网上认识的一个男生，不过他距离我两个小时，我们一直也没有见过。他跟我说了好多次，我是他的type。他说了好几次过来看我，中间又有一次快成行了，后来我有emergency，他也没有来成。
前两周的时候吧，他有点儿不高兴了，说我从来不给他发短信，说觉得不够喜欢他。。这种情况下，我是该主动找他么？因为我最近final，他也说等我final完了他过来见我之类之类的话。我看了你的帖子，我非常同意女生不该主动。我们认识快两个月了，就是断断续续的发短信，一直没有拖着。他还跟我说，他自己的城市也很多女生，如果我不喜欢他，他就不过来看我了，说没必要浪费时间之类之类的话。
this guy is an idiot. i definitely dont appreciate the way he talked to u. he can express how frustrated he is becuz u never initiated a conv. BUT how dare he was that he told u there are lots of girls in his town, blabla. He talked as if he was in high demand. give me a break. AND its ur fault also - seriously, two months already? but no meet? ru kidding me? i dont care how far we are, if i like the person i met online, i need to see him in person within the first month. face the reality please.. be responsible for both parties.
以下是引用cute-wheat在5/12/2013 5:18:00 PM的发言：
this guy is an idiot. i definitely dont appreciate the way he talked to u. he canexpresshow frustrated he is becuz u never initiated a conv. BUT how dare he was that he told u there are lots of girls in his town, blabla. He talked as if he was in high demand. give me a break. AND its ur fault also - seriously, two months already? but no meet? ru kidding me? i dont care how far we are, if i like the person i met online, i need to see him in person within the first month. face the reality please.. be responsible for both parties.
以下是引用cute-wheat在5/12/2013 7:41:00 PM的发言：
this guy is an idiot. i definitely dont appreciate the way he talked to u. he canexpresshow frustrated he is becuz u never initiated a conv. BUT how dare he was that he told u there are lots of girls in his town, blabla. He talked as if he was in high demand. give me a break. AND its ur fault also - seriously, two months already? but no meet? ru kidding me? i dont care how far we are, if i like the person i met online, i need to see him in person within the first month. face the reality please.. be responsible for both parties.
以下是引用销在5/12/2013 3:46:00 PM的发言：
小麦MM，我也来说说我的经历，看看你的建议呢。我之前网上认识的一个男生，不过他距离我两个小时，我们一直也没有见过。他跟我说了好多次，我是他的type。他说了好几次过来看我，中间又有一次快成行了，后来我有emergency，他也没有来成。
前两周的时候吧，他有点儿不高兴了，说我从来不给他发短信，说觉得不够喜欢他。。这种情况下，我是该主动找他么？因为我最近final，他也说等我final完了他过来见我之类之类的话。我看了你的帖子，我非常同意女生不该主动。我们认识快两个月了，就是断断续续的发短信，一直没有拖着。他还跟我说，他自己的城市也很多女生，如果我不喜欢他，他就不过来看我了，说没必要浪费时间之类之类的话。
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学习中啊
以下是引用cute-wheat在5/13/2013 8:36:00 AM的发言：
this guy is an idiot. i definitely dont appreciate the way he talked to u. he canexpresshow frustrated he is becuz u never initiated a conv. BUT how dare he was that he told u there are lots of girls in his town, blabla. He talked as if he was in high demand. give me a break. AND its ur fault also - seriously, two months already? but no meet? ru kidding me? i dont care how far we are, if i like the person i met online, i need to see him in person within the first month. face the reality please.. be responsible for both parties.
以下是引用cute-wheat在5/13/2013 8:36:00 AM的发言：
this guy is an idiot. i definitely dont appreciate the way he talked to u. he canexpresshow frustrated he is becuz u never initiated a conv. BUT how dare he was that he told u there are lots of girls in his town, blabla. He talked as if he was in high demand. give me a break. AND its ur fault also - seriously, two months already? but no meet? ru kidding me? i dont care how far we are, if i like the person i met online, i need to see him in person within the first month. face the reality please.. be responsible for both parties.
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借师妹的马甲问个情况
LZ30了，年底PHD毕业，最近被家里催的厉害在Match上挂牌，认识一个ABC。ABC主动联系的我，31了，看照片就觉得可内向的那种人。LZ性格很外向很阳光，但是前几年都浪费在一个挫人身上了，29才分手.ABC已经和我写邮件有3周了，总共7，8封吧。他也不说来看我，我们相距140miles，就不停地说自己在干啥，今天干了啥之类的，我如果不会他邮件，他也不主动写。回我的邮件里MS也很关心我，问我毕业的事情顺利不顺利还有家里的一些情况之类的。我感觉的ABC的家里情况不是很好，他学历和能力各方面也没我强。他竟然没去过NYC，我们这里也是东部离这些城市也不远啊。我是不是不应该回他邮件了。我主要觉得纠结的是，目前楼主挂牌3周，只要这个挫人给我写邮件。我看上的其余人都没给我写邮件。我还WINK过几个我们学校的PHD都失败啦。人家不回我。
继续找工作，继续等？
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借师妹的马甲问个情况
LZ30了，年底PHD毕业，最近被家里催的厉害在Match上挂牌，认识一个ABC。ABC主动联系的我，31了，看照片就觉得可内向的那种人。LZ性格很外向很阳光，但是前几年都浪费在一个挫人身上了，29才分手.ABC已经和我写邮件有3周了，总共7，8封吧。他也不说来看我，我们相距140miles，就不停地说自己在干啥，今天干了啥之类的，我如果不会他邮件，他也不主动写。回我的邮件里MS也很关心我，问我毕业的事情顺利不顺利还有家里的一些情况之类的。我感觉的ABC的家里情况不是很好，他学历和能力各方面也没我强。他竟然没去过NYC，我们这里也是东部离这些城市也不远啊。我是不是不应该回他邮件了。我主要觉得纠结的是，目前楼主挂牌3周，只要这个挫人给我写邮件。我看上的其余人都没给我写邮件。我还WINK过几个我们学校的PHD都失败啦。人家不回我。
继续找工作，继续等？
have u asked urself a question - why am i not attracting decent guys on here? whats the problem? DO I REALLY SUCK? maybe its time for u to reevaluate your profile and your pics. not everyone is looking to fall in love at first sight, but you cant deny one truth - we all appreciate "eye candies". As far as this abc is concerned, oh well, I would move on from this coward if i were you.... and hmm, i dont think he's that into you anyways. I cant address this more - Nobody can fix your problem or create a shortcut for you. You have to make effort into this. What kind of efforts? get a good job and work hard and smart, have a group of good decent friends that you can share your everyday life experience with. shopping, look pretty, hit gym regularly, READING, have some hobby whatever you enjoy doing..etc.. as for the dating, dont be afraid of getting hurt or meeting wrong ppl. Its a process. You cant be a GOOD CATCH simply by just reading what others say online, in person or in the books. You have to explore on your own. Finally, your hard work will soon come to fruition... Maybe I am too positive, but dont you think u should send the positive vibe your way instead of sitting there wondering if u have to settle for the second best? Absolutely NOT. I am sure you are one fine lady, and you deserve the best. I really dont like what you said in the post. NEVER settle for less or the second best. Dont get discouraged so quickly. Good luck!
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Hi Liangping1984, Thanks for ur compliment. Much appreciated. Well, if you were born in 1984, you would only be a few months older than me LOL. Maybe I am wrong? Back to your post - I would have given you my "two cents" right now, but somehow I was struggling with trying to understand what you said.. I am sorry, but am quite confused abt this part - "Try to be hard to get is definitely something very subtle in my relationship or my ex-relationship. I had many conversation with my boyfriend about relationship. A girl try to hard is definitely not the right way to go. I guess he met decent amount of girls who want to impress him, guess not really worked."... Oh well, below is how I interpret ur words... hmm your bf had girls pursue him before, and they didnt really succeed according to HIS WORDS (which, to me, sounds like horseshit).. becuz of that, you SURMISED your man have experienced ENOUGH decent women that you dont think you will win him over if you play the role of "hard to get".. Correct me if im wrong.
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LZ30了，年底PHD毕业，最近被家里催的厉害在Match上挂牌，认识一个ABC。ABC主动联系的我，31了，看照片就觉得可内向的那种人。LZ性格很外向很阳光，但是前几年都浪费在一个挫人身上了，29才分手.ABC已经和我写邮件有3周了，总共7，8封吧。他也不说来看我，我们相距140miles，就不停地说自己在干啥，今天干了啥之类的，我如果不会他邮件，他也不主动写。回我的邮件里MS也很关心我，问我毕业的事情顺利不顺利还有家里的一些情况之类的。我感觉的ABC的家里情况不是很好，他学历和能力各方面也没我强。他竟然没去过NYC，我们这里也是东部离这些城市也不远啊。我是不是不应该回他邮件了。我主要觉得纠结的是，目前楼主挂牌3周，只要这个挫人给我写邮件。我看上的其余人都没给我写邮件。我还WINK过几个我们学校的PHD都失败啦。人家不回我。
继续找工作，继续等？
and i forgot to say - if your looking for a job now, and if you find urself have a hard time doing good both in the job hunt and man hunt, you should then focus on the job hunt first. I personally believe the financial security is the fundamental point. Without it, everything else looks pale. bread or love? of course bread! Dont mean to be rude, but I think the woman who is all about love is an idiot... always associated with low EQ.. Its interesting some ppl tend to overlook what a great job can potentially bring to you...
我感觉我也要move on了
那个ABC我是接受不了的
我给他回复的邮件里说暑假在NYC实习，他表现出了各种羡慕
我要好好做简历和放照片
小麦MM同意里面的看法吗？
这个女的出书了。我也是学过一些数据分析的，我觉得这个女人很强大。而且MS看起来她的结果也有一些普遍性。亚马逊有卖她的书，好像评价还可以
今年30岁的我刚刚结束一段漫长的恋情，不想再玩爱情这个游戏了。现在是时候安顿下来，找一个合适的人结婚生子了。在几位好友（还有我那位焦虑的老妈）的催促下，一套行动方案就这样开始执行了：我加入了交友网站Match.com以及专门为单身的犹太人开设的JDate。
这之后，我便有了一连串糟糕的约会经历，我所经历的这些都足够拍一部浪漫喜剧了：性方面的愚蠢言论、饮酒过度（我指的是对方）。很多男性喜欢与我举手击掌，数量之多让人意外，这其中的缘由我至今都想不明白。
显然，我的自我介绍所吸引的男性不是我想要的那一类。在一次特别失败的约会之后（对方在不经意间告诉我，他实际上已经结婚了），我决定调整我的行动策略。利用我在数据分析方面的专长，我开始通过逆向工程的操作方式来修改我的简介。我创建了10个男性模型，然后在JDate上给他们每个人建立了一份简介。他们中有JewishDoc1000，一位在私人诊所工作、不喜欢乘坐邮轮旅行的心脏病专家；还有LawMan2346，一位与自己家人关系十分亲密、过去曾拿过全美辩论赛冠军的律师。
我用了整整一个月的时间在JData上假扮这些男性。我与96位女性交流过，对她们的行为以及她们在互联网上呈现自己的方式加以分类，然后从她们的自我介绍中搜取信息（比如说她们所使用的语言或是她们会等多长时间才回复我的某一位虚拟男士的邮件）。为了尽可能了解所有关于我这些竞争对手的信息，我创建了一个内容详尽的数据库，还记录下来了哪些女性的简介最受欢迎。虽然JDate不会公布网站所使用的算法，但从那段时间我自己的切身体会和观察结果来看，我发现越受欢迎的简介，出现在搜索结果中的几率就越大，这让人们可以就哪些人最热门（或者最不受欢迎）这个问题得到一个大致的排名。我很快便意识到，那些受欢迎的女性似乎明白一些我所不知道的事情；她们显然让那类既聪明又有魅力的职业男性更感兴趣，而这类男性对我的简介一直是不屑一顾。我要让自己充满超级竞争力，我可不能让那些身材惹火的金发女郎偷走我老妈梦寐以求的当神经科医师的犹太女婿。
我发现了些什么？那些最受欢迎女性的简介中都喜欢用表达志向的语言（比如“我想去旅行”或是“我的一个很大的抱负是……”），描述要简短、要普通，写到各种身体特征时不用那么诚实（我所说的身体特征不是你脑子里所想的那些）。她们的风格很随和、洋溢着青春气息而且没有刻意做作的痕迹。我从来没有在自己的简介中用过“有趣”或是“女孩儿”这样的字眼。不过不难看出，我过去在介绍自己时都一直太过古板、职业气太重了（我那时为了偷懒，直接从我的职业简历中抄了些内容下来）。
我明白了：那些简短而且所提供信息刚刚足够引起他人兴趣的自我介绍往往能够达到最好的效果。简介的最佳篇幅在500字左右。超出500字的简介往往要么是出自一位受过很多教育、有一份值得炫耀职业（比如说医生或是律师）的成功女性之手，要么就是来自一位看起来极度孤独、迫不及待想要找个男朋友的不那么具有吸引力的女士。而我呢，我当初的简介用了近900字──够得上一篇专题论文了。结果我被排在了我所看到的所有自我介绍中的倒数8%之列。谁的面都还没见到呢，我已经喋喋不休成这副模样，那么初次约会见到我本人时我得罗嗦成什么样子？
我猜测，网上交友的人们都会对自己的体重撒点小谎。我当然是少说了点儿。不过让我惊讶的是，好多女性似乎对她们的身高也没说实话。与我交流过的所有96位女性在网上留下的身高都在5英尺1英寸到5英尺3英寸之间，然而美国女性的平均身高是5英尺4英寸。当然，这些女性恰好都低于平均水平这件事也不是完全没有可能，只不过这在统计学上有点讲不通。（而且，从照片上你能看出来，大多数女性都比她们所声称的身高要高。）这些女性做出了这样一个假设，即男性都希望约会对象比自己矮、身材比较娇小，而这种假设似乎没有错。为什么呢？因为男性在身高方面也没说实话。
另一个让我意外的发现：我父母和朋友们总是告诫我，要让男性主动与我接触，否则我会让自己看起来很迫切。然而，那些网上牵手成功的人都很主动、很友善。那些最受欢迎的女性在主动与我虚拟的那些男性接触时一点都不迟疑。她们会发一条很随意的短信过来，也就一两行字。她们会用“嘿”或是“嗨，你好”做开场白（而不是说“你好，谁谁谁”），紧接着她们会说“我喜欢你[简介中的某个细节]。我对[这一细节]也感兴趣。”
我还发现了其他一些有趣的细节：
1.相册中的照片最好在三到五张之间。多放些照片或许会有好处，不过如果超过五张，我的分析显示，你的简介就到了边际效用递减的临界点。
2.开头先写自己的兴趣爱好，除非这些内容需要费笔墨去解释或是描述。按照这个原则，你的简介一开始可以就从网球写起──假若网球是你的业余爱好的话，不过万一你的爱好是合气道，或者更糟糕，“我是合气道黑带选手”，这些就不必写上去了。（实际上我就犯了这样的错，我一度在简介中写上了这条，结果有男性初次见面就要约我较量一番，这听上去够糟糕够尴尬吧，实际情况也的确如此。）
3.在网上的文字中想要表现出幽默感真的很难──特别是如果你生来就爱讽刺别人的话。我发现，那些自以为简介写得很幽默的人，实际上一点都不有趣。相反，这些简介让这些人看起来很愤怒，或是很冷漠。
4.女同胞们：别提工作，特别是在你的工作很难解释清楚的情况下。你或许拥有一份在整个星球上最了不起的职业，但这份工作没准儿会不小心吓退看你简介的人。我知道这听上去很糟糕，简直像是旧社会才会发生的事，但就我这次的经验而言，我发现，女性会被那些拥有良好职业的男性所吸引，而大多数男性会在强大的女性面前扭头走开。
5.长有一头卷发的女性在网上征友时劣势明显。我不知道男性是否更喜欢金发，不过我可以明确地告诉你，大多数男性更偏爱拥有一头长长的健康直发的女性。如果你头上有自来卷，而你又不介意把头发拉直（而且拉直头发看起来也不错）的话，那么去试试看吧。
6.当你在线时，如果有人给你发短信，只要你愿意，那就别迟疑，马上给他回短信──我在网上交流过的那些受欢迎的女性毫无疑问都是如此。如果是电邮的方式，联系人之间在交换最初的信息时，她们平均会等上20到23个小时再回电子邮件。
在分析工作结束时，我已经汇集了足够多的信息来创建一份超级简介──其中将我所见到的那些最受欢迎女性的做法融合到一起，再加上我自己的个人信息。不再是逐条列举、也没有职业简历式的语言，我写道“如果要我的朋友对我做一番描述，他们会说我是个开朗、好交际、喜欢周游世界的人，无论是身着蓝色牛仔裤还是黑色小礼服裙，我都同样自在。”
在我的这份超级新简介发出去后不久，便吸引了60多份回应，其中许多人显然与早先对我感兴趣的那些男性不同。
其中一份回复来自一位网名为Thevenin的男士，他是一个有魅力的犹太男士，看起来既聪明又幽默。他的真名叫布莱恩(Brian)，他成了我最后一个约会对象。
本文节选自《Data, A Love Story: How I Gamed Online Dating to Meet My Match》，本书将于1月31日由Dutton出版社出版。
http://cn.wsj.com/gb/20130118/opn073804.asp?source=forward
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Wheat mm, let me explain a little bit tonight. :)
kk. just so u know, u dont have to write in english if u find it hard to address ur issue. im using my man's laptop these days, and dont wanna install a chinese software on it. BTW, i really like ur pic.. i wanna ROU LIN those white fluffy little paws so bad